Have you ever wondered why a man who once claimed to love you moved on so quickly after the relationship ended? The truth is, if he fell out of love fast, he was never really in love with you. He was in love with the benefits.
It’s a tough pill to swallow, but recognizing this truth could save you from years of heartbreak and confusion. Many women look back and say their ex loved them simply because they were together for a long time. But what if I told you that time isn’t the best measure of love? Especially when you’re the one bringing all the value to the table.
The reality is, you were together that long because you were a boss chick. Your ex didn’t have to pay for anything, and those luxury trips and fancy dinners? You footed the bill. It wasn’t love that kept him around…it was the vacation of being with a high-value woman who handled all the responsibilities.
And now? He’s suddenly providing for his new woman. He’s being the King he never was with you. Why? Because while he was with you, he saw what it looked like to be successful. He was in a relationship with his mentor – you. Now, post-breakup, he’s stepping into the role of provider, but just not with you.
You’re not alone. Your father may not have taught you what real love from a man looks like. And while you’re smart, maybe even brilliant, you’ve been unequipped to attract the kind of relationship you truly desire. That’s not your fault. But you are responsible for getting yourself out of this cycle.
Don’t fall into the trap of thinking, “He loved me because we were together for years.” Time doesn’t equal love, especially if during that time he wasn’t financially providing for you.
And here’s the kicker: many of you are repeating this pattern. You’re still providing for a man, hoping this time will be different. Your ego wants to be right, but deep down, you know the truth.
The Clarity You’ve Been Searching For
This is the moment of clarity you’ve been waiting for. The reason why many men haven’t worked out in your life is that they weren’t ready for what you brought to the table. They needed to mature and grow – many of them only bossed up after seeing how you handled your life and success.
But it’s time to take a step back and look ahead. Avoid the traps you’ve fallen into before. Stop providing for men who aren’t willing to step up and do the same for you. You deserve a relationship where you’re valued, respected, and provided for.
Remember: Men don’t fall out of love quickly if they were ever truly in love. They fall out when they were never in it to begin with.
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