In the day and age of social media, everyone has something negative to say about anyone who actually did the work to do something amazing with their lives.
But when it comes to rapper Lil Kim, nobody doubts her legendary music career. People love her for the HARDCORE music she put out, her colored wigs, crazy lace outfits, and her sweet, sultry voice.
Lil Kim was the sh*t in her prime and if you don’t agree, exit the building now.
Recently, I posted a meme photo of Lil Kim on social media which went viral with over 25,000 shares within hours of the post. (Remember, when I offered to teach ya’ll how to operate your social medias in order to build a powerful brand? Well my prices are SUPER HIGH NOW, you can join me over on the masterpiece tribe.)
Anyway, as I was saying the post…. The post made me aware of people’s thoughts on Lil Kim.
What tripped me out is that one woman said that she thought Kim changed her face and body to TRY AND BE LIKE NICKI MINAJ.
Nicki Minaj’s branding was so tight, that many of the younger crowd doesn’t realize that Nicki Minaj’s appearance, minus the booty is basically a Lil Kim knock off. Kim was the first and did the colored wigs and racy clothes the best.
And that’s no diss to Nicki. Nicki’s music is all of her own style. But the wigs and clothes were swiped from Lil Kim without honor. I absolutely love them both. I’m simply being honest for historical sake.
But back to this story. I blamed Biggie, because we’ve heard Kim say before that she had self-esteem issues because men, including Biggie picked lighter complected women over her.
Biggie strung Kim along for years, but married Faith Evans just 2 1/2 months after meeting her.
Mandatory Credit: Photo by Hugh Edwards/Shutterstock (10532779a)
1996 – New York City ‘Lil’ Kim and ‘Biggie’ Smalls (notorious B i G ) at Sean ‘Puffy’ Combs Birthday Party at the Club N V
Lil Kim and Biggie Smalls 1996
Years later, Kim had bleached her skin light enough to have the same complexion as Faith. Meanwhile Faith threw her whole history away and just married any ole body named Stevie J. 🤦🏼♀️
Lil Kim was abused used and abused by men before and after Biggie, starting with her father who talked down on her.
In 2000, Kim told Newsweek:
“All my life men have told me I wasn’t pretty enough—even the men I was dating… It’s always been men putting me down just like my dad. To this day when someone says I’m cute, I can’t see it. I don’t see it no matter what anybody says.”
As a black woman I know that we as black women are often told by black men that we are not good enough as is. Many men tell us that we need to hit cartwheels in order to please them. No matter what we do, or how awesome we are, there is always a black man to tell us that we aren’t good enough.
People love to discount the affect this has on many black women. They act like they don’t know how hard it is to love yourself when the men you love constantly down talk you and rarely ever celebrate you. They real life expect you to just keep on trucking and being strong.
After all, I wrote an entire book about this. It’s called “You Can’t Force A Man To Value You – Becoming A High Value Woman & Attracting Your Dream Man.” Because Lord knows that many of us black women are now powerful, prosperous boss chicks, because men told us we weren’t good enough. So we set out in the world to be good enough by starting our own business, or rising to the top of corporate america and making tons of money. Now no one can tell us NOTHING.
Which is also why so many women are masculine and don’t know how to get along with masculine men who require feminine women…. Also another reason why I wrote the book.
Do you have this book? It’s like changing, and will help you manifest the men of your dreams. Even MEN love the book and have left amazing reviews on Amazon.
But back to Kim. I’ve decided to simply honor her amazingness from now on. Let’s stop acting like we don’t understand what she’s gone through in her personal life. Let’s not act like she didn’t inspire millions of women to have more fun with their appearance and honor their sexuality and femininity, even BEFORE she started getting surgery to fix her face, after an abusive ex broke her nose.
At the end of the day Lil Kim is AMAZING, and paved the way for all of these new saucy female rappers.
And yeah, Biggie did break her heart and abuse her too. But he also loved her, believed in her, and put her on the map.
