The 57-year-old actress bae Vivica A. Fox is is going viral on TikTok for her candid response after a fan asked if she ever thought about adopting a child.
When the fan asked if she thought about adopting a child in order to leave behind a legacy, 50 Cent’s ex was a little taken back, yet kindly responded.
“Girl, I’m 57,” Vivica can be heard saying during a live Q&A session. “I’ve got six god-babies. Don’t think that because I didn’t birth children that I don’t have children. I have six god-children. I do not feel less fulfilled as a woman—period.”
The multi-hyphenate entertainer continued, “I love children. Please do not get me wrong, I absolutely love children! In my life, it was career or children and I never met the man I could have children with. I didn’t.”
Vivica went on to share that her family stopped her from tying the knot to someone that she wouldn’t be able to deal with for 18 years. “I trust my family,” she shared with the crowd.
@iamkirajThis woman asked Vivica Fox if she thought about adopting a child so she could be a mother and “leave her legacy”. #motherhood#vivicafox
She concluded, “When God took away my opportunity to bear children, he sent my god-babies. So, I’ve got kids!”
It is indeed a blessing to have children, rather you gave birth to them or not. Simply being able to nurture children and see them grow is very fulfilling.
However, the part about God taking away her opportunity to bear children, is something I must clear up.
Vivica’s position of not finding a man she could have kids with, truly reflects on the position of many black women in America. It’s a reflection of the decades of dating culture where it’s cool to not be in a committed relationship and the agenda that men need to have more than one woman is being pushed.
Such an agenda doesn’t allow space for a business woman to feel comfortable or safe enough with the average man to connect herself to him for 18-years, by bearing a child with him.
This pattern will continue to rum rampant in the black community. God gives most of women the ability to have children. He also gives women the ability to be intentional. Not only do a high proportion of black women not feel safe enough to have children with men, but also some women have one kid, have such a bad experience with the father, then wisen up and avoid making that mistake again. The child isn’t a mistake. But connecting yourself to someone who would try to ruin your life for 18-years, simply because they can’t keep you, is a no no. Some people truly learn from wisdom.
But men aren’t the whole problem. Instead of a woman swearing off having another child, or simply being okay with not having another child, She could simply set the intention to have another child with a better man.
What most black women do is instead is intend to make money, while HOPING for a good man.
It’s all so simple. We blame God for things that aren’t his fault. Could he assure that our first choice is a great guy? Yes God could surely intervene. But that would take away our freedom of CHOICE to live this life as we wish and learn the lessons that we learn.
For if no one learns any lessons, who will teach? Many life lessons can’t be read in a book or regurgitated. They must be experienced and understood, in order to pass the message on.
I was on Instagram minding my business when the IG algorithm universe decided to put this pretty blonde girl in my face. She was very attractive so I stopped to pay attention to her hand movements.
This woman was showing off a huge diamond ring on her fingers. When I say HUGE. I mean HUGE.
Then I look at the caption and it says “Mrs. Rose.” Immediately my mind says “Noooooooo. Not Derrick Rose.”
And then, Yes, DERRICK mthfkn ROSE.
I’m only writing this post so ya’ll can see this ring and this pretty girl.
NBA Star Derrick Rose Engaged to Girlfriend Alaina Anderson — See Her Massive Diamond Ring!
As I write this post and derrive so much joy from seeing this woman live her best life, I wonder why many other men don’t want to make their woman look as good as Alaina looks right now?
Anyway, back to the story.
On Tuesday, 33-year-old New York Knicks guard Derrick Rose proposed to his girlfriend Alaina Anderson during a romantic dinner at Madison Square Garden.
The NBA player shared the news on Instagram with photos of Anderson’s stunning engagement ring, their private dinner and wine setup on the Knicks court and shared a touching message to “my ace.”
“I didn’t know how you were going to perceive me. But this entire time I was hoping that you would believe me. Believe the words that I will have your back and love u forever,” Rose wrote of his fiancée.
“When I FIRST saw you I told Ryan that we were gon be together. It took both of us a while to let down our guards. That’s only becuz both of our hearts were scarred. We are two peas in a pod becuz we are truly MISUNDERSTOOD,” he said.
Rose tricked his woman into believing they were going to a Knicks game, then surprised her with a proposal. A day prior he even bought her a different diamond ring, saying maybe one day he could get her the real thing.
Alaina is stunting in her instagram photos using hashtags #getyouaring and wondering what she should name her ring, because it’s so darn big.
Derrick even takes her photos for her to be posted to the gram.
Rose continued, “We got our heart and swag from this place called ENGLEWOOD. I will always love you becuz you go above and beyond. We built a beautiful family and an unbreakable bond. Thank you Queen.”
The 26-year-old model and influencer quickly commented under the post writing, “A WIFE!!!!! I love you!!!!!😍😍😍 MRS ROSE TO YALL LOL.” She also re-shared his message on her Instagram Story, calling him her “hood poet” alongside several blushing and kissing emojis.
This totally isn’t a good look for 50/50 men.
Anyway gentlemen, feel free to go back to your daily schedule of saying how your woman isn’t deserving of much and how she’d better accept a pebble as a symbol of your love, cause money, rings, and the finer things in life don’t mean a thing in your world. Plus rich men suck and beat their wife. Did I miss any of your sentiments?
Real Housewives of Beverly Hills star, Erika Jayne, 49, has announced that she’s ending her marriage to high-profile attorney Tom Girardi, 81, after 21-years of marriage.
The Bravo star released a statement to E! News confirming the news saying;
“After much consideration, I have decided to end my marriage to Tom Girardi. This is not a step taken lightly or easily. I have great love and respect for Tom and for our years and the lives we built together.”
“It is my absolute wish to proceed through this process with respect and with the privacy that both Tom and I deserved,” she adds. “I request others give us that privacy as well.”
Erika was often seen on #RHOBH discussing her seemingly happy marriage and said that while they don’t “f*** like 20-year-olds” they have a healthy sex life.
Recently when a fan asked about very her husband, Erika said that he was “Currently snoring next to me.”
The couple met 21 years ago at Chasen’s in West Hollywood, where Erika was working as a cocktail waitress. Tom, a repeat customer of the establishment was smitten by the waitresses beauty, customer service and personality. After a year of him frequenting the restaurant Erika boldly slipped him her number. Six months later they were engaged.
Erika previously told Andy Cohen on “Watch What Happens Live” that they do NOT have a prenup and since her husband’s an attorney there’s no need for since he’d destroy it anyway.
“Let me tell you something, let me be very clear. I’m married to a very powerful lawyer,” said Erika. “A prenup wouldn’t stand in his way anyway…It’s gonna be all Tom’s way, I assure you. He’ll rip that piece of paper to shreds in two seconds!”
Stunning, smart woman woman. She’s about to live her BEST life. Believe that. It’s nice to hear that a marriage is ending amicably on good terms. My intuition tells me he decided to let her go, so that she can live her life and experience more fun. As to telling E that she’s getting divorced, while asking for privacy, it’s the same ole Hollywood line repeated time and time again…..
What good about Erika’s story is that she avoided players, no good men, broke men and all of the pitfalls of men that other women fall victim to in the name of love. Erika has secured the brand, the bag, was successfully married, and now the world is hers on a silver platter.
In July, Princess Love filed a request for dismissal of her divorce from Ray J, just two months after she initially filed the claim to dissolve their marriage of four years.
On Monday Ray J announced that he was now divorcing Princess.
He told ET, that he didn’t even think about it, and just filed the paperwork.
When asked about how he came to the decision to file for divorce this week, Ray J confessed, “It was just how I felt at the time. I didn’t really talk to nobody about it.”
“I just went to God.”
Princess Love learned about husband Ray J’s divorce filing through social media.
The fashion designer was never told directly that her singer-songwriter spouse filed to legally ditch her on Monday, according to The Shade Room.
Additionally, Love claims the Love & Hip Hop: Hollywood star ‘won’t return any of her phone calls or text messages’ in the wake of the filing.
Ray J said he only wants the best for his family. Even if that means the mother of his two children — daughter Melody, two, and 8-month-old son Epik — moves on with someone new.
“I just want to make sure that my babies and my Princess is in a great place mentally and that they can enjoy life,” he explained. “My wife — if there’s somebody better out there that she wants to be with, then I have to respect that as well. But hey, I don’t know. I can’t say too much, but I love you, Princess. That’s what I can say.”
According to B. Scott, Ray J & Princess been having marital problems forever.
“Back in November of 2019, a pregnant Princess accused Ray of abandoning her and their daughter in Las Vegas, which prompted an epic social media war as Princess took to Instagram to say the marriage was over.
“I don’t have time for this. This is not love. And I’m done,” she posted.
Ray J denied leaving his pregnant wife in Las Vegas.”
Even after filing for divorce, Ray J seems to really be pulling a chess move on Princess, cause he somehow still has hopes of a reconciliation.
“Even if we don’t make it, we still have to be with each other a lot, because we have a baby, so we’re together for life. Happiness is important. I think. I’ll sacrifice all my happiness for my kids,” he told ET.
This Princess Love & Ray J situation really goes to show what happens when a woman doesn’t stick to her guns and put herself first.
It’s highly embarrassing as a woman to have a man file for divorce on you. But I guess at least he’s being polite and saying he’s doing it for her well-being.
Situations like this are why it’s often pointless to stay with a cheating man. After a while he realizes he messes up and he lets go to go be with another woman. For a man, it’s easier to start all over again with a new woman, than to do the DIFFICULT work of healing the woman he broke. Most times I swear, they always bring God into it, and say God told them to let go.
Now she has to go out into the world broken, meeting new men, and probably not even realizing she is broken. Sure, another man will hop on it. But before Ray J she was with Floyd Mayweather who also has an abusive history. Princess has a victim pattern.
What’s even more true is that quite often I hear black men saying how black women are constantly choosing the flashy guys, instead of the nice guys who would do right by them. It’s true. Black women want to live a luxury lifestyle. Beautiful women need men who will invest in them and appreciate their beauty. But oftentimes a celebrity man is the last man who is going to give her the true love she desires.
As to Princess, any normal adult could see how she fell in love with Ray J. He’s attractive with a beautiful voice, and seemingly has everything a woman could want. But the thing about any man is that he MUST have a desire to treat a woman like a Queen, keep her happy, keep his family together, handle his business and maintain a healthy relationship. The minute a man cheats, he has to know that all of that is in jeopardy. Cheating people cause their own relationship problems and seem highly surprised by the repercussions of their decisions to be unable to control themselves. And many women THINK that they will get with a man and not care if he cheats, until they get abandoned in Vegas, and realize the man truly gives no phucks.
People are getting married and entering into relationships without any form of counseling or knowing how to maintain a healthy relationship, let alone a MARRIAGE that means we’re supposed to be together forever.
If a couple wants to stay together, each person has to know that the other’s happiness is just as important as their own. And a man has to realize that it is he who LEADS the relationship and a woman maintains the balance by setting high standards and not putting up with no sh*t.
Often times the minute you taking a cheating man back, it’s a set-up for failure. People don’t view forgiveness as forgiveness sometimes. They view it as having a sucker willing to put up with their crap.
Toxic relationships, cheating and abuse are so normalized in the black community.
As I always say, all of Hollywood needs a spiritual life coach. In this world we mostly all have to heal from patterns. But very few people are putting in the effort to do so.
Andrew Gillum Says ‘I Identify as Bisexual’ in First Interview Since Hotel Scandal with Another Man
Back in March, democratic politician Andrew Gillum, 41, who lost the race to become governor of Florida was found unresponsive and drunk in a hotel room with a male escort, Tyson Dyson, 30, and another man, who may have overdosed on drugs. Authorities also said that a substance suspected to be meth was found in the room, though Gillum said he had only had alcohol.
The other man identified himself as an escort through the website Rent Men, according to a local TV news article. He told the Miami New Times in March that he and Gillum had been “friends for a while.”
This caused Gillum to retreat from his once-promising political career and check into rehab.
On Monday, in the first sit-down interview since the scandal, Gillum told Tamron Hall that he is bisexual. His WIFE, R. Jai Gillum was next to him during the interview.
On Monday Gillum, said: “The truth is, is that, Tamron, everyone believes the absolute worst about that day. At this stage, I don’t have anything else to have to conceal. … What was most hurtful was this belief that I was somehow living a lie in my marriage and in my family,” he said.
“To be very honest with you, when you didn’t ask the question, you put it out there, is whether or not I identify as gay. And the answer is, I don’t identify as gay, but I do identify as bisexual,” he continued. “And that is something that I have never shared publicly before.”
Gillum met his beard wife in college. He and R. Jai Howard worked on her husband’s campaign hosting a “Women for Andrew Gillum” event.
(Remember when I told ya’ll that smart men have smart women behind them directing traffic, telling them what they need to say in order to get WOMEN to follow and support them.)
What did she say about her husband’s sexuality?
R. Jai Gillum said her husband told her before they were married 11 years ago that he was bisexual and she is upset that it is now public knowledge, telling Tamron Hall, “I don’t think it is anyone’s business.”
“I don’t think it is fair for people who are not heterosexual, who are not assumed heterosexual that they should ever have to say or disclose what they are because of how judgmental people are,” she told Hall.
“So many people just don’t understand bisexuality.
“They think they can wrap their heads around gay, but bisexuality is just something different.”
Andrew Gillum was found in a Miami Beach hotel room in March of 2020 by paramedics responding to a drug overdose.
R. Jai is one year older than her husband and it is claimed that when he proposed, he asked her to be his “life partner” rather than his “wife”.
Speaking to Tallahassee Magazine, Andrew Gillum revealed that he first flirted with his wife by penalising her for wearing a “short skirt” to student government, but she wasn’t pleased by that.
They reportedly met again in 2003, and Gillum gave her his home phone number, which R. Jai Gillum promptly ignored.
She said: “I didn’t think he was serious. He was wearing both of his cell phones, and then he gave me his home phone number.
“I said, ‘Anyone with two cell phones is never at home’.”
I don’t know what my thoughts are concerning this. Well I actually do know what my thoughts are, but I’m trying to deliver the news, state my opinions and not be judgmental at the same time. (working on shifting)
As a single woman who people often tease about being single, I find it interesting what many women are willing to put up with in order to receive some form of love. Jai was cool with being with her husband as long as no one knew he was bisexual. But she’s embarrassed that the world now knows he’s bisexual.. So that reminds me of the bible verse.
That goes to show she settle for less early in the game. Otherwise she still wouldn’t care that people know her husband prefers sex with men and utilizes her as a beard to maintain his public image.
Speaking of image, it is pretty terrible how much pressure the public puts on people to maintain an image. But in reality, people put those pressures on themselves. It’s the belief that he wouldn’t be able to be elected for office if people knew that he was gay or bisexual, that kept him hiding it.
Which goes to show how badly people WANT to be themselves, but fear of public opinion or missing out on accomplishing their dreams and goals makes people pretend to be LESS than who they truly are. Not to mention that people often are told that God hates gays.
The truth is God hates all sexual sins. He hates when we don’t realize that sex is a spiritual thing and shouldn’t just be done with any and everyone. Sex is about connection. Each human has their own problem to solve. Most men battle through their desire to to be with multiple women. They battle lust. Most get tired of the battle and just believe that they are meant to be with more than one woman. The truth is men are given that DESIRE, but they are supposed to put away their little boy emotions, and learn to control their sexual desires, so that it does not ruin them. A man who pretends to be straight in public, but gets caught in a hotel room with gay men, thereby ruins his life and his wife’s life. This story will blow over now that he’s confessed to being bisexual. But regardless his wife will never be able to hold her head up high. Her husband wasn’t being smart enough to keep his private business private.
This story came across my desk when I saw a post by a FEAR expert, Demecos Chambers, who specializes helping black men get over their fears of marriage and taking the next step in their career. Demecos is also a big advocate for gay men.
#BlackWives Don't be R. Jai Gillum. If your husband risk it all to be butt fucking in a cheap motel, then blames it on being a stressed black man. Leave that coward ✊🏾💯
One of my followers sent me this post and asked me my opinion of it. So here we go.
I love the post and totally agree with her. Yet I’m about to sling it to you from a Boss B*tch perspective.
But what the world needs to understand is the there is a new breed of women on the planet. I don’t like when people try to downtalk or compare themselves against GREATNESS. But if we are to compare, I’m going to be perfectly honest.
I don’t like the WAP video. The visuals were just too thirsty for me, and I know they send women down the wrong path.
But also city girls and Cardi B’s lyrics actually are VERY empowering. They wake women up to their PUSSY POWER.
But also babycakes, you report to a 9-5. Your life has been created by a MAN. Cardi got out here and got it on her own.
Cardi impacts MILLIONS of people. Cardi has POWER.
Cardi is such a boss that her man’s fame increases BECAUSE OF HER.
People love to congratulate a woman when she says she’s had a husband for a lot of years and they are financially doing OKAY.
Baby, Cardi B. lives in a MANSION. Babygirl, people pull out the red carpet for CARDI. Cardi is living HER dream, and not the basic AMERICAN DREAM.
Cardi is POWER. You have women, and then you have Goddesses. And let me tell you something. The world better get ready for us, because we are HERE.
We are self-created. Self-motivated. We don’t choose men just because they can PROVIDE. We choose million dollar KINGS. Yes Cardi is indeed half sleep. But trust me, one day babygirl is going to wake up and she’s going to give Offset the Flux.
So regardless of me not liking one VIDEO Cardi made, I still salute that woman’s come-up. Cause chicks be having a whole HUSBAND as a safety net, and still don’t impact women and people the way us TRAUMATIZED, GET IT OUT THE MUD women do.
But I also have no disses to women who were smart enough to get married and take the easy route. That’s SMART.
BUT UNDERSTAND, TRUE GREATNESS, means you gotta go through some pain.
A 9-5 woman simply doesn’t have sh*t on a BOSS CHICK! B*tch we command sh*t that you CAN’T. You gave away your power and got tamed. We kept ours. WE came to change the game! We get the man, the bag, and the fame too.
So babygirl, please stop trying to compare yourself to that FORCE called Cardi B.
Sidenote: I wouldn’t cook for a cheating azz negro either. But I’ll definitely cook for a King with some sense. All Cardi was saying is that she isn’t domesticated, but she still got the ring. She’s telling women that they don’t have to be perfect housemaids. When you’re too busy trying to diss a woman, you’ll miss the beauty of her message.
No more than the writer is telling women that she finds JOY in SERVING her husband.
I know boss chicks who cook, clean and handle BUSINESS too. A woman doesn’t have to fit into a nice cookie cutter box.
Sometimes celebrity gossip seems so unreal. More we learn what a disappointing character Tory Lanez is, if we choose to judge him for being an idiot. However if we choose to judge him as being an ignorant soul, he appears to have apologized for his violent, gun-toting injuries that he perpetuated against Megan Thee Stallion.
In today’s Trending Gossip inside the world of Celebrity News, TMZ is reporting:
“TMZ has seen the text Megan got on the evening of July 12 … roughly 15 hours after she claims Tory shot her in her feet, and in it, he’s begging for forgiveness. He wrote, “I know u prolly never gone talk to me again, but I genuinely want u to know I’m sorry from the bottom of my heart.”
His only explanation for the violence … “I was just too drunk.”
In the text, Tory never references “shooting” or a gun, but it is clear he did something he regrets. In his words, “None the less s**t should have never happened and I can’t change what did. I just feel horrible.”
And, he repeats … “Cuz I genuinely just got too drunk.”
TMZ broke the story … Tory, Megan and another friend had been party hopping in the Hollywood Hills early on July 12. Police responded to reports of shots fired from or around an SUV.
Okay. So he apologized via text…. Did he pick up the phone? Has he tried to contact Megan since? What is going on in Tory Lanez’s mind?
How does a person work so hard in their career to make it to where Tory is, get the girl he probably dreamed of, and then turn around and shoot the woman, and risk throwing away his ENTIRE life?
Do rappers need to attend violence counseling along with their rap careers? Oh wait, Lanez isn’t a rapper. He’s a singer. Another great black performer who perpetuates violence against black women. If you as a man can’t handle a woman’s mouthpiece, don’t deal with her.
Anyway, I just don’t think a woman should expect to be treated well by a male with an diamond stud earring in his nose…
Call it shade if you want to. I’m just spitting the truth.
Lanez needs to go in the booth, write a whole song dedicated to how amazing Megan is, and send a $1,000,000 stack her way.
Cause truth be told, Megan still isn’t body slamming him the way she could.
