A 36-year-old client came to me, exhausted from chasing her husband’s love.
The divorce papers were already filed.
He had moved on with another woman.
And there she was ….. crying, broken, and stuck on repeat:
“HE did this… HE said that… HE left me…” It was He, He, He…
I let her get it all out.
Then, I asked her one simple question:
👉 “What is it that you really wanted from him?”
She wiped her tears and said:
💔 “I wanted him to love me… the way I loved him.”
And that’s when everything changed.
I helped her see the truth…that she had chosen this relationship, shown up in a certain way, and that the real work wasn’t about him. It was about her. Our work begun.
Fast forward a few months…
She transformed.
She butterflied. 🦋
Her energy shifted.
And guess what?
Her husband came crawling back, asking to cancel the divorce.
Because the NEW version of her, the one overflowing with deep self-love, was the woman he had always been searching for.
Here’s the truth, ladies… Instead of begging a man to love you, pour that love into yourself.
The problem isn’t him. It’s the reflection of your inner world.
A man cannot give you something you don’t already have within you.
Because if you truly loved yourself, you would have never chosen a man you had to beg for love in the first place.
When you love yourself unconditionally, your soul radiates a magnetic energy that pulls in a love that’s deep, soulful, and fully conscious.
But Nakia’s story isn’t just about success. It’s a cautionary tale. It’s about love, loss, and how not properly vetting the man you choose to stand beside can derail even the strongest of women.
From Millions to Ruins: How It All Unraveled
Nakia’s rise to success wasn’t handed to her; she worked for it. Like many women, she built her empire by leaning heavily on her masculine energy: hustling, grinding, and chasing the bag. But behind the scenes, her marriage was eroding everything she had worked so hard to build.
Years after raking in millions of dollars, Nakia’s business is shuttered, and her marriage has ended in divorce.
I see women like Nakia all the time in my Intuitive Divine Feminine Embodiment & Leadership, Luxury Lifestyle, and High-Value Relationship Coaching Business. They are smart, ambitious, and deeply driven. They pour themselves into their businesses, climbing the mountain of success with incredible determination. But when it comes to their relationships, they skip the inner work; the vital work of understanding themselves and the men they choose to partner with.
And too often, the cost of skipping that work is everything they’ve worked so hard to achieve.
The Red Flags Women Overlook
Nakia thought she’d found a man who believed in her dreams. She thought he was the one who wanted to see her win. But the signs were there all along—red flags waving loudly, even before the Turkey Leg Hut opened its doors.
Months before the business launch, Nakia’s husband had just finished doing time for tax fraud. A major warning sign? Yes. But like so many women in love, Nakia chose to trust him. She handed him control of the finances and operations of the business, believing he would help lead them to even greater success.
Instead, he imposed his own set of rigid, unwelcoming rules on the restaurant’s patrons. No ripped jeans. No scarves. No booty shorts. Essentially, no to anything he deemed “hoodrat” attire. He even got into heated arguments with meat suppliers, causing friction behind the scenes.
The food was undeniably good, and the customers kept lining up. But Nakia’s personal values were missing from the operation of the business. She had relinquished control, not only of the business but also of her voice.
And behind the closed doors of her marriage, things were even worse. Her husband was emotionally abusive, narcissistic, and cheating on her. Worse still, he was using her hard-earned money to spoil other women.
Meanwhile, Nakia kept working. She kept pushing forward, trying to hold it all together as her self-esteem crumbled and her finances dwindled.
Reclaiming Herself and Starting Over
Now, Nakia is on a journey of rediscovery. She’s finding herself again. She’s healing. And she’s preparing to launch a new business—this time, armed with the lessons she’s learned the hard way.
Her story isn’t just about a failed marriage or a shuttered business. It’s a powerful reminder of the importance of balance—of stepping out of the hustle long enough to reconnect with your divine feminine energy.
The True Cost of Ignoring Your Divine Feminine Energy
Many women focus so intently on financial success that they lose sight of the bigger picture. They prioritize the grind and assume that love will simply fall into place once the money is flowing. But this way of thinking can come at a devastating cost.
Success isn’t just about making millions or building a thriving business. It’s about balance—about running a profitable business while maintaining healthy, fulfilling relationships with your partner, your family, and, most importantly, yourself.
When women skip the inner work of understanding their worth, setting boundaries, and embracing their divine feminine energy, they often find themselves in toxic relationships. They believe they’re the exception to the rule. They think, This won’t happen to me. My love is different.
Until it does.
Until the relationship ends in toxicity, heartbreak, and betrayal.
Until the success they worked so hard to build comes crashing down around them.
The Future of Female Leadership: A New Way Forward
Today’s female-owned businesses are about more than just financial success. They’re rooted in divine feminine leadership—the art of balancing work and home, ambition and self-care. A woman in divine feminine leadership knows how to create a profitable business while staying true to her values and maintaining harmony in her relationships.
This isn’t just about thriving. It’s about thriving while being happy.
Nakia’s story is a wake-up call to all successful women: You can have it all, but only if you make the time to prioritize yourself and do the inner work.
Success without balance is fleeting. And skipping the work to embrace your divine feminine energy is far more costly than most women realize — until they’re left picking up the pieces of a shattered relationship and a broken business.
A Lesson for Every Woman
Nakia Holmes is finding herself again. She’s rebuilding, smarter and stronger than before. But her story serves as a powerful reminder for all women chasing success:
You can have all the money in the world, but if you don’t take the time to understand yourself and the people you let into your life, you may find yourself climbing right back down the mountain you worked so hard to scale.
Real success isn’t just about the bag. It’s about building a life where your happiness, your money, and your peace can all thrive together.
The question is: Are you ready to do the FEMININE work?
Jada Pinkett Smith is revealing the truth about her marriage to blockbuster movie star Will Smith.
In a new interview about her memoir “Worthy” the Girls Trip star revealed that she has been separated from The Fresh Prince of Bel-Air for seven years.
In 2016 the couple decided that they would live completely separate lives, yet remain married.
Yet when gossipers disclosed that the two were separated or in an open relationship, both Will & Jada denied the rumors. Jada says she wasn’t ready to tell the world yet.
While fans are just learning the news now, Jada confirmed to Today that she and Will have been apart since 2016. As for the reason they kept things quiet?
“I think just not being ready yet, still trying to figure out between the two of us how to be in partnership and in regards to how do we present that to people,” Jada told Hoda Kotb in an interview released Oct. 11. “And we hadn’t figure that out.”
She also shed some light on what led them to part ways.
“Why it fractured, that’s a lot of things,” the actress added. “I think by the time we got to 2016, we were just exhausted with trying. I think we were both stuck in our fantasy of what we thought the other person should be.”
And while Jada said she considered divorce, she ultimately decided not to file.
“I made a promise that there will never be a reason for us to get a divorce,” she said in the interview, which is part of Jada’s Story – An NBC News Special that will air Oct. 13. “We will work through whatever, and I just haven’t been able to break that promise.”
What’s interesting here is that Jada and Will are experiencing the same problems many couples go through. The reality of who the person is versus who you want them to be. They’ve gone through all types of high profile counseling sessions and still no fix.
The advice I give couples who work with me is to stop focusing on the negative things about your mate. If you love your mate, amplify their good. As the problems you see in them are really just a reflection of your own mindset and beliefs about yourself.
For Jada, she never wanted to marry Will in the first place. For some reason Will refuses to divorce her and move on with his life.
Many couples stay married even though the relationship is fractured. Through Will & Jada it is obvious there is no point, other than for business purposes. But the LOVE won’t ever come back as long as the couple is in denial.
Real freedom comes from knowing what you want, getting it, and then appreciating it. Your partner can neither give you feelings of freedom or happiness, unless you first give those things to yourself. Jada doesn’t have it, because she doesn’t know what she wants.
This is something many of my clients discover in a soul alignment session. CLARITY is the answer.
And if a couple is not going to get divorced, then dating other people definitely isn’t helping. As long as someone in the relationship has outside sex to escape to they can’t fully commit to healing.
Marques Houston, 41, continues to get himself in hot water, with his fans and single mothers too.
The internet in generally is turned off by Houston, after he obtusely gave further details on his decision to marry a woman half his age.
According to Houston, his wife, Miya Houston, who is 19 years younger than him is everything the entertainer ever wanted in a “woman.”
Recently the actor sat down with Page Six and explained that dating women his age may come with too much “baggage.”
Marques Houston Revealed His “Red Flag” Regarding “Single Mothers”
According to Page Six, Houston explained that one of his “red flags” includes “single mothers with children.”
“A red flag to me [was] always with a woman that had a kid. Nothing against single women, but single mothers with children are a red flag for me.”
Houston explained that he tips his hat and respects women “raising children on their own.” However, growing up, he “never really wanted to have kids.”
Additionally, he explained his father advised him that if he was going to have kids, he should do so with a woman who also does not have children.
“I would talk to my dad a lot, and he would always tell me to have your own kids because you never know what the baby daddy‘s are about. So if you’re gonna have kids, make sure it is with a woman that never had kids. So that was always my red flag… and a woman with an attitude. I don’t like women with funky attitudes.”
Marques Houston Explains Why He Avoided Marrying A Woman His Age
Houston, who is 41, went on to acknowledge his marriage to 22-year-old Miya Houston. Additionally, he explained why he did no choose to marry a woman in his age range.
“Women that are my age… they kind of have a different outlook on life. Like a lot of women my age are very independent. They are very like, ‘I don’t need a man to do this for me ’cause I can do it for myself.’ I come from a generation that I love to provide for my wife.”
Furthermore, he explained why his wife was the perfect match for him.
“There’s a lot of women my age I’ve dated, they may have baggage. They may have kids, they may not. There’s so many different women I’ve been with throughout my life, and it just so happens to be that this one [Miya] caught my heart. Everything that I prayed for — and everything that I wanted in a woman — she came with…”
Houston admitted that even though his wife “was young,” he is “young in spirit.”
“Although she was young, I’m young in spirit.”
Marques Houston Explains That Receiving Criticism Is Normal In His World
During the interview, Houston explained that he’s used to “critics” weighing in on his dating preferences. He explained that the public’s opinions are something he’s had to deal with since he was a former singer in the group Immature.
“In the Immature days, we [would] have light-skinned girls in our music videos. Then people would question… ‘Why can’t you get a black girl?’ And then it’s like, ‘Oh yeah, I only like light-skinned girls.’ Then the plus-size girls will come and get me. I was like, ‘Man, I can’t catch a break.’”
Marques Houston married Miya Houston in August 2020. The actor was 38 years old, and Miya Houston was 19. The couple shares one child.
There are a lot of single mother’s will become offended by his opinion. But not offended by becoming a single mother.
While not all men think like Marques, some do. It’s totally okay for a man to desire to have a fresh family with a woman. Nevermind the fact that at some point they will probably break up and she will be a single mother, dating other men.
In addition, it’s quite obvious that Marques wanted a gullible woman he could easily mold and control. There is no other way around it. Men love to come up with all of these excuses as to why they are dating teenagers, but it is what it is.
I love to hear men say beautiful things about their woman.
Iman Shumpert, who won Dancing With the Stars in November 2021, is happily married to singer Teyana Taylor. Whose sultry dance moves you may be familiar with.
When asked to share his wife’s sexiest quality, Iman didn’t hesitate.
“She oozes sex appeal. She can’t turn it off,” he said. “It’s sickening because even when I’m super mad, she want to be mad and walk around and I got to stare.” Now that’s a winner!
Back in 2018, during an interview with “Big Boy’s Neighborhood” radio show with Angie Martinez (of “The Breakfast Club” fame) the sultry KTSE songstress told Martinez that her new song “3Way” is art imitating life.
“Okay, look … listen! … I ain’t finna sing about nothing that I ain’t been through. My album is what it is — I was like do you know how many “thank you’s” I’m gonna get for this?!” Taylor said to Martinez.
“The summer is lit, the summer of lit!” she added. “Once you break it down and the reason I say this—I’m not saying that this is what you have to do, but I’m what I’m saying is when you make a vow and you’re married, it ain’t no limits. Period!”
Taylor and Shumpert have been going strong since they met in 2014 and married in 2016. The We Got Love: Teyana & Iman stars share daughters Iman Jr. (nicknamed Junie), and Rue.
I get the feeling that these two lovebirds will actually be together forever.
Looks like we have another Fantasia Barrino situation again.
Years ago you will remember that Fantasia Barrino was sued by a North Carolina woman for stealing her husband. That was the first time many have heard of such a law.
Well it appears have Nene Leakes is now named in such a lawsuit, after getting with a married man and posting the situation on social media.
Just weeks after her husband Greg’s death, social media users were surprised to see NeNe Leakes had quickly moved on with a new boo.
Now Leakes is being hauled into court by her boyfriend’s wife for allegedly sleeping with her man, causing her marriage to collapse … this according to new legal documents.
Malomine Tehmeh-Sioh claims in the lawsuit, obtained by TMZ, NeNe and now-BF Nyonisela Sioh hooked up while he was still married to her.
Malomine says NeNe posted picture after picture of her and her new man … humiliating Malomine and cratering her relationship with her husband.
Malomine claims she suffered emotional distress, mental anguish, and a loss of affection. In case you’re wondering, North Carolina is one of 7 states where a person can sue a spouse’s extramarital partner for alienation of affection. Most states have disallowed such suits, because it’s really just the game of love. Malomine is gunning for more than $100K.
If all she wants is $100K NeNe is probably like ‘Girl you can have that. Having your husband is better.’ I’m over here like “$100K?Girl that’s all your husband is worth? Shouldn’t you sue for millions? Must be the law or something because that’s exactly what happened with Fantasia.
Anyway, before you rush to judgement too fast, Fantasia won the $100K lawsuit. It turns out the husband had separated from the wife a year earlier than she stated in the lawsuit.
Nene is a superstar who is forced to think all of her moves outs. She would’ve had to have believed that he was done with his wife. If the wife is she’s suing that does mean he is done.
What are your thoughts on how long it takes someone to get a divorce before they move on?
More and more we see married people who have moved on before the divorce is official… Take Kanye West & Kim Kardashian for example. They are marred, filed for divorce and publicly dating other people.
Love is so simple when you find it and just go with it.
A newly married couple is celebrating having matching degrees, and matching ring fingers too. They are manifesting their best life at the same time.
This newly married couple are celebrating two special milestones—becoming doctors and the beginning of a long-lasting future together.
On May 21, Dwight Johnson II and Taylor Brooks graduated from Meharry Medical College, an HBCU in Nashville. Six days before that, the pair expressed their love, promise, and commitment to one other at their wedding in Tomball, Texas. Now, they are reintroduced as not only Mr. and Mrs. Johnson but also Drs. Johnson and Johnson.
Dwight received his doctor of medicine degree in obstetrics and gynecology, while Taylor graduated a physician of psychiatry. The man takes care of the vagina and body, while his wife will cover the mind.
On May 22, Dwight posted two adorable side-by-side photos on Twitter of both his graduation and wedding day with his wife.
— Dwight Johnson II, MD (@DrDwight_MD) May 22, 2022
“So much to be thankful for in this past week,” Dwight wrote. “I was able to marry my best friend and then graduate as physicians together just 6 days later. God is so good. This is what #BlackLove mixed with #BlackExcellence looks like when you always keep God at the center of your life.”
According to the couple’s wedding registry, they were introduced to each other by a mutual friend. Dwight was instantly drawn to Taylor’s beauty and kindness. Their romance started with conversations in the school library to an official date of dinner and bowling,
Dwight falling madly in love, mustered up the courage to make her his girlfriend and ask her out to the med school prom. He won her over with the Love and Basketball approach with ping-pong to ask her to Cadaver Ball. Dwight also paid close attention to Taylor and knew what she liked. He didn’t just call her on the phone and randomly ask her to make it official. He had the DJ play “Differences” by Ginuwine to set the mood while he asked her to be his.
Their romance is now moving over to the next stage of their journey. The new graduates scored residencies at top colleges. Taylor is set to start hers at with the University of Maryland and Dwight will starts his at Howard University College of Medicine.
We wish the Johnson’s the best on their careers and beautiful Love story. This won’t be the last you hear of the outstanding outstanding couple. The man in this marriage is definitely equipped with a vision and leading his wife to victory.
More footage of Jada Pinkett speaking candidly on Red Table Talk about her relationship with husband Will Smith has surfaced.
Speaking with Stephen Curry’s wife Ayesha Curry Jada spoke about how concentrating only on the kids and husband Will Smith made her life worse.
Although Jada said she put herself in Will’s shoes, she simply does not seem to like Will. Yet, they are still sticking together in a lifetime partnership.
In one of the episodes of Red Table Talk, Jada Pinkett Smith, Willow Smith, and Gammy traveled to North Carolina to meet the Curry family. And they had some candid moments during the discussion.
During the talk show, Ayesha Curry was talking about how she didn’t just want to be a basketball wife. She said that Sonya perfectly balances her needs, her husband’s, and her children’s. But she said that this made her realize she needed something for herself.
Ayesha said that she wanted to build a career for herself so that she could work on that and said that it would make her happy and fulfilled. So Jada asked what was the most difficult part for Ayesha in her pursuit of a career.
Curry said that trying to figure out how to balance her career and family was the hardest. And said that she wanted to give up her career just to be around her family more. She said that she had to talk her out of quitting her career due to the family because, when she was a housewife, she was miserable.
Hearing this, Jada Pinkett confessed, “Oh, I am with you, I am with you that phase. Like, not working. Like, okay, ‘I am just gonna concentrate on my kids and I am gonna concentrate on my husband’, and I turned into a terror.”
Ayesha Curry said that the children would eventually grow up and leave to live their own lives, which would leave the mothers with an emptiness if they didn’t have a career.
You notice that Jada never has anything positive to say about Will?
