When it comes to relationships there has to be a limit on your unconditional love.
In the past I noticed that I loved men unconditionally. So much so that I can’t say that they ever actually valued my love or what I was doing for them. You can even love someone unconditionally without being attached to the outcome and going with the flow. Unconditional love totally works when you’re dealing with someone who values you and appreciates you.
But rarely do people actually appreciate being loved unconditionally, as God would love them. In fact a majority of people’s self-worth program is so high that they believe themselves to be worthy of everyone’s love.
Which is a good way to be. Yet what many lack is the art of appreciation for other souls.
This past week, I let go of a lot of energy that was weighing me down. Anything in my life who didn’t operate at the highest heights of love, I released from me. I realize many men actually TRY to be a good man. They believe themselves to be a good man. But they simply aren’t there yet. You can’t date a man based upon his potential. You gotta date a man based upon who he is right now and how he’s treating you.
When I was in Miami my friend was so smooth and cool. He was like “Whatever Kissy likes.” The first day there I told him that I wanted to go to “CJ’s Crab Shack. ” He was like “That’s not high quality. Let me take you some place nicer.” For me it wasn’t necessarily about the quality. The food is good and it’s on Ocean Drive which allows you to eat while taking in the scenery and people watch. But I simply said “Okay.” Then I was taken to a place with a new experience and the food was good. Another day he was like “Have I ever taken to you Prime 112?” I was like “Yes, you have.” Then his mind immediately reroutes and he says “I’m going to take you some place really cool where the presentation is entertaining.”
He took me to Barton G’s that night where the popcorn shrimp was brought out with a real popcorn machine. The place was expensive af, but he didn’t care. He simply likes to make me happy. The entire trip he took me wherever I wanted to go. When I didn’t like the way my bikini fit, he asked me where I could get one that fit at. I said Victoria’s Secret. The next day when we headed out walking and I asked him where we were going, he said “It’s a surprise.” Then we round the corner and we’re in front of Victoria’s Secret. But they didn’t have swimsuits. He immediately says “It’s okay. There is a luxury swimsuit store across the street.” I go in and find what I like and he happily pays for a very expensive swimsuit that costed several hundred dollars. When I said “Thank You.” He replied ” I aim to please.”
When I first met him 7 years ago, he literally had to beg me to go to dinner with him. I went and we had the best time ever. We had so much fun that immediately after dinner he booked me a flight to Belize and a flight to Miami. It was on. It was clear that a fast relationship was about to take off. When we got to Belize we took a water taxi to the resort. The water was clear blue. You could see the fish swimming down at the bottom. The clouds were so beautiful. As we pulled up to the boat dock at the resort, they literally had staff standing there with tropical drinks on a tray to greet us. Even crazier, there was only 1 other couple on the entire resort the 2 days we were there. It was like some stuff straight out of a romance movie. I felt like I’d met the best guy ever! After the trip, my life went crazy and that kept us apart. Later when I got it together we tried again, but by this time he was super balling, living in a luxury high rise condo in Manhattan and loving to date multiple women. He specifically told me he just wanted to do his thing and date multiple women. I accepted it, and I did my thing and he did his, and oftentimes he would fly me places to hang, and take me everywhere.
It was cool. Then one day I decided it was time to make the friendship strictly friendship. I realized how I was wasting my time. I decided that I was going to get a boyfriend. I got one. While I knew how to keep a healthy relationship, the guy I fell in love with unfortunately did not. He pretty much made it a disaster from the jump. But I tried to work through it. It was a soulmate relationship that was destined. So no matter what, it was going to happen. I got my heart broke, which everyone around me knew that I would, and I learned the lessons. Funny I used to tell him “Why do you prove what everyone else says right about you to be right? Why don’t you prove me right, since I think so highly of you?”
Anyway, once it ended, New York flew in town several times and said he wanted to marry me. But I noted that New York didn’t want to be with me in the past, so I know that I’m not the girl for him.” I don’t believe in being friends first. I believe such relationships are always missing the deepest, strongest chemistry that make true love connections. Love is insatiable. Friendship simply won’t do most times.
So when it’s meet and be “friends”, when you’re both single, one person in the relationship simply doesn’t have it. People change and see people differently in shifts, and I’ve definitely gotten more attractive over the years. But my heart has always been the same. Men have never been loved at the level I love at. For many men I am their first experience of real love.
Anyway, as you can see, New York is pretty much like a Dream Guy. But we have differences. I like nice, fancy things. He doesn’t. He only liked his expensive condo cause it gave him easy access to women. He doesn’t care about dressing nice. He doesn’t care about etiquette. He barely cares about his appearance and thinks attractive people try hard. He doesn’t even understand why my nails have to be done before I get on an airplane. Yet, he loves beautiful women…
The fact that he can’t understand my world seems so minute, but it’s not. It causes friction between us. It’s a mental thing. He doesn’t even understand why I want to keep my pink bag clean. Therefore I’ve turned his marriage proposal down a few times. But after the Miami trip I finally took notice of how he actually does try to be a good man to me. He even offered to buy me a Bentley if I married him. I thought that was cute. Yet, I know that what he feels for me isn’t necessarily love. He simply has a desire to settle down and I’m the closet thing to love that he knows.
I had another guy this week who was also a friend ask to marry me. This one doesn’t have the slightest clue of what love is. He just knows that I AM LOVE and he wants to experience that. He tries and he buys me a few things, but he has no idea how to talk to women. He actually believes he can get women that he actually can’t get. There is this huge veil over his eyes, and a lot of darkness covering him. Yet, I can see the light in his heart that he so desperately wants to bring out. His thing is that he thought I would be easy to get. He also crazily told me that I wasn’t all of that, and that he doesn’t know why people are so crazy about me. He also has a shrine of my photos in frames on his office desk. What’s really crazy is that he really wants to marry me. And this is a platonic friend. I realize that even platonic friends fail to realize that women have standards. Being her friend doesn’t qualify you to date her. But many men actually think friendship is an easy in. It’s not. Most times, it’s a coffin with perimeters. I require that a man be a lion and go after what he wants. Me becoming a nicer woman, doesn’t mean that I’m now easily obtainable. Me falling in love with another man doesn’t mean it’s for other guys to get me. After all, I fell in love with a lion who saw what he wanted, went after me, and did not take no for answer. He kept going until he got me. I can respect that. To me, that’s a man.
This other guy that I actually liked who was also a friend, that relationship was getting blurry lines too, moving outside of friendship, and I had to let it go because I noticed that my romantic standards and expectations would not be met. That person had no appreciation or value for me, because it started as “friendship.” “Friendship” has obviously blinded these men to who I am. They all see me as the Michelle of the group, when I’m clearly the Beyonce. To be with such a man would be devastating to my soul. I could never be proud to be with a man who doesn’t appreciate me and treat me like a Queen. What I also know is that they will all change when the right woman comes along. I’ve been extremely nice to all of these men, but they all think I’m full of ego. Which basically tells you that none of them look like a supermodel. Most times people who don’t take care of their physical appearance think people who do, are full of ego.
You’re not going to get brownie points for looking over their looks. Instead they now see you as just like them, because you deal with them. I try to see people past their physical, into their soul, and I do. I fall in love with souls. Physical bodies are cool, and I love nice looking people, but I also understand soul is way more important. Fancy clothes don’t necessarily make people better or worse. The soul is the soul.
But that’s not how other people see things. So now I’ve finally learned how to operate in the 3D realm and why I operate in such a way. I have to hang around highly attractive people who like nice things, simply because those are the people who value me and can see me.
If I tell a 600 pound, one legged man that he’s fine as hell, he’s going to believe it. Then he’s going to mistreat me and tell me that I do nothing for him. But if another woman looks at him with disgust, he’s going to hop around doing things to win her approval and be inspired by her. This is literally the way some people’s minds are set up. 🤷🏼♀️
I have another male friend who is nice looking, well dressed and guess what? He thinks I’m amazing. He always tells me how proud of me he is. But when I tell people about my other 3 male friends they ask “Why do you deal with these people? They tell me that they are a reflection of my energy. Minus New York, the way the other two treat me and talk to me are a bad look for me, nor does it feel good to my soul. It doesn’t matter that I viewed them as friends. Other people view them as the men I’m dating. ( I wasn’t dating. I was focused on my business.) It’s crazy how much pain I put myself through, or the things I put myself through before I finally leaned these lessons about being too nice.
I’ve finally learned the lesson and the cost of the unconditional love that I sometimes give. In order for a person to value you and appreciate you, they must be a reflection of your own heart. My heart is 10 times greater than most, so I have great appreciation for people. Yet kindness, unconditional love, acceptance, and saying nice words to people, doesn’t mean they are going to value you.
In my 5D world we value people for who they are. We value them before they even do a thing for us. We value them for their will to triumph. We value their contributions to the world. We value how they walk in their purpose to serve others. We value their hearts. We value their minds.
But here in the 3D realm, people mostly value what they don’t have access to. Which is why people love celebrities and instagram models. If you want to be valued, don’t give people easy access to you. Don’t allow in people who are not on your level. Never allow your platonic friendships to cross boundaries. Shut them down right away. Politeness and letting it slide, in hopes of not hurting someone’s feelings will only backfire on you. Being too nice and too loving is self-sacrifice, unless you want to be Ghandi and looked at as a spiritual guru.
I don’t want to be a spiritual guru. I just want to be my spiritual self and surround myself with love, because I am love and don’t want to be anything less than that. But to keep my love vibe high, I can only allow in those who see my light, and appreciate my light.
When I don’t, I have to take self-accountability for it. You can love people unconditionally, but sometimes you have to give them that love from a distance. When you don’t always look at people as others would, you self-sacrifice your self-worth. If you hang out with the trash, you too will be viewed as trash, by the trash people. If you hang out with pigs, you too become a pigs. If you wallow in the mud with pigs in all white, you’re going to get dirty. You dirty yourself up by being around people who don’t value you. It’s not about being better. It’s really simply about being valued. It’s a hard concept to catch onto, because we all go back to no one is perfect, and who am I to look at people with such bold truths? Especially me. I have in no way led a perfect life. But I realize ultimately that’s why those people don’t value me. In the back of my mind, I’ve been in realization that I’m not perfect and haven’t led a perfect life. That storyline has to go in the trash, with the old identity. It’s all about the right now and who you are being right now, and how people are treating you right now. Acceptance of people is not of their past, but who they are TODAY.
I don’t think a lot of women understand what it means to have a man who honors you.
A man who honors you would never leave you high and dry. He doesn’t ignore you or look for fault in you. He finds you adorable and loves you just the way you are. You’re not perfect, but trust me he’ll find create ways to grow you when he really wants to be with you.
I was just reading a post about a woman whose husband left her, because she got pregnant against his wishes, and he wanted to travel with her before fully settling down. He told her to get an abortion and she said no, so he left her with all of the bills.
“An old friend reached out to me and told me Her husband of 3 years filed for divorce and Left her because her birth control failed and She ended up pregnant. He told her to have an Abortion because he still wanted to travel & have Fun and wasn’t ready to settle down yet. She refused of course so he left her with a Mortgage she couldn’t afford on her own & bills. She is about to lose everything, house, car, etc.”
The SINLE girl who told the story was explaining how her married friend was going through the same thing as her. That makes no sense for a married woman to struggle like a single woman.
Getting married doesn’t mean you have a good man. Anyone can get married. So many women make marriage the end all and be all, and I get it, cause I want to get married too. But no, I’m not desperate and I won’t just marry any ole man just to say I’m married. It’s only worth it to me if there is going to be an expansion of my soul by experiencing the deepest love. I’m okay with being single until I find that.
Marriage isn’t about the wedding day or the idea of marriage. It’s about the commitment of growth together, supporting one another, loving one another, working through problems, taking the journey of life together, the trinity with God, and creating an unbreakable bond.
Many women forego a great deal of their own wants, needs and desires, only to be replaced by what the man desires. But it doesn’t work if you both aren’t happy. A man has to want to feed into you and love you, just as much as you want to love him and cater to him.
You’re going to be in the kitchen cooking, birthing & raising babies, your brain is brilliant, and you’re a boss, so you already know you’re going to help his business prosper. You’re going to be a freak in the bedroom and doing all types of things to please him. You’re going to nurture him, support him and see him through it all. But what is HE going to do for you?
Women simply don’t have enough faith. You settle too fast. If he doesn’t treat you like a Queen before he marries you, that doesn’t automatically change during the marriage. You have to be so important to a man that he would do damn there anything not to lose you. You can’t marry a man who thinks it’s all about him. Good men know that his woman must be happy because she is the center of his universe. That’s just how powerful a woman is and that’s just how much power she has over a man’s heart.
When a man is in love with you, you are his kryptonite. He looks at you with so much love in his eyes. You can literally see it. Women must stop ignoring early signs of him not being fully into you.
You know what else? You don’t have to go into a cave of isolation to heal yourself. You don’t have to wait till you feel you’re perfect. The right man will heal you and make you grateful it didn’t work out with former men. Not only will his sex heal you, but his love, the things he does for you and how he treats you will heal you. But he’ll only do that for a woman he truly loves.
Men aren’t necessarily different from women in the aspect that many of them also don’t know what they want, nor do most know what real love is. People don’t know what real love is because they’ve never felt it. When a man isn’t in love it’s so easy for him to let go of you. He’s able to be logic over emotions. Light & Love will also tell you not to love people too much. The world is taught to not get too deeply caught up into anyone.
Women are so in a rush to get married that they are taking vows with men you’re not even compatible with as far as values and goals. You will look past his weight, his balding hair, his teeth, his height, his lack of intelligence, his bummy clothes, his big belly, his lack of purpose, his limited income, his cheating infractions and ALL of his other faults, in hopes of finally getting a good relationship. But the minute you simply SAY or do something he doesn’t like, he’s quick to cut you short. What happened to the vows of till death do us apart? Those are merely words to most people.
WHY would a man cut his woman short for the slightest infraction? Because you didn’t put yourself first, so why should he? You put him first so he picked him. He didn’t pick WE, or Us, or You. Just himself and what makes him happy. The crazy thing about women is that the same man in this story could’ve walked in confessing to a sidebaby and the woman would’ve stayed and probably accepted the kid too. Because she values him and their relationship.
A woman should never get into a full on relationship with a man who doesn’t value you. You’ll only break your own heart. I listen closely to see how much a man values me. At this point my heart won’t even fully connect to a man who doesn’t fully value me. But that’s only after years of lessons from multiple relationships gone wrong.
There are many good men out here. I get inboxes all day from men who simply want to do something for me, and I’m not even having sex.
Most times I haven’t even met the man in person. It’s always been this way. I’ve always had Queen energy and attract men who adore me.
A man is supposed to feel like his woman lights up his soul. He’s supposed to find ways he can feed into her. THAT is what ultimately makes a woman submit to a man. Good men make a woman feel safe enough to do so. You can walk around being super feminine and submitted to source, but deep down in your soul, a smart woman simply isn’t going to submit to a man who doesn’t fully love you.
Regardless once a woman gets heavily invested in a relationship that’s not paying her Queen dividends, she’s now of do now embarrassed that she’s in a relationship that she feels she can’t walk away from. Because you’ve fully invested in him without noticing he wasn’t fully invested in you. More time wasted. When you could’ve just chilled and called in a divine King. Many men are Kings, but divine Kings love their woman. They’d go to war for her.
When you attempt to explain your relationship desires to most people, they are simply going to say “Perhaps you should settle.”
They won’t come out and say those exact words, but chances are their instructions will direct you on how to settle, by desiring LESS. They believe your soul will be happy with less.
Then you listen, cause what they say seems to be good info, and it may even be good info. It’s just not good info for you.
You see the majority of people came here to settle. They settled for the first mate who said YES to them, or whoever was in agreement with wanting to be with them. They don’t necessarily have a dream mate.
But you’re different. Nothing less than the best will do for you. Every time you try to settle, even a little, what happens? That sh*t doesn’t work! And it’s not going to work. It’s not meant to. It won’t work until you get what you want. So, instead of secretly hating on yourself and wishing you were different, claim your holy, divine power. There is nothing wrong with you.
The truth of it all, is that your soul is filled with light and opulence, while your heart is filled with gold. Surely you are deserving of the same love, you’re so willing to give. Everyone can’t give you that same love, because it’s not in them to give. Most people pour from a cup half filled. You are pouring from a cup that is already overflowing with abundance, love and greatness. You have it all. Plus you’re cute.
The love you seek can only be found in THE ONE. You’ve been getting closer and closer with each relationship. This time you’re going to get it. WHY IS THAT KISS? Because this time you are not going to settle for less. You’re not going to listen to anyone who tells you to. Instead you’ll only listen to the people who tell you HOW TO. You’ll listen to the people who think you deserve to have the best.
If you want the best, you gotta continue being the best and continue standing your ground in full expectation that your divine King or Queen will come. Just think about it. Is it really that hard for someone to match you, if they are really putting in effort? Nope. Not at all. No more than it’s hard for you to be such an expansion of love. EFFORT is the easiest tool each human being has available to them at any given time. Why should you take pity on souls who barely try?
You wouldn’t expect anyone to appreciate your half-hearted effort, which is why you go hard. You wouldn’t even expect anyone to care much if you don’t care much either. You know how this goes. Your divine mate knows how it goes to.
People who put in effort are simply more attractive and rise to the top. The rest stay at the bottom or get stuck in the land of mediocrity. Don’t ever get it twisted about who you are and what you came here for.
P.S. What you want is seeking you. It could be near, it could be far away, it could be right before your eyes and a block is preventing you from seeing it. Just know that amazing mate you want, wants you too.
There is something special about Gods & Goddesses. People in the dark can not see them. God does not allow just anyone to see his chosen people.
I first noticed this phenomenon with myself. I noticed that a lot of men can’t see me. Meanwhile, many others can. Those others are always spiritual. Like the Facebook friend I showed my first published book to. I told him it wasn’t ready for purchase and that I had to edit it to change the 1st page. He bought it and said. “It doesn’t matter. I know who you are.” I talked to him on a video call once to discuss business. Afterwards he said “You are definitely a Goddess.” He’s spiritual and can clearly see me just as bright as day.
The other day I was on the page of one of my favorite life coaches, and I read a comment on one of the posts that kind of hurt my feelings. I’m used to seeing people say mean things to me and bully me online. I’m even accustomed to people being blind to my light, but for the first time I saw it at work in another light workers life.
The comment was from a girl who also followed me. She was upset that the coach charged for her services. However, this is a special coach. She drops nuggets upon nuggets of gold, for free, on a daily basis. I’ve learned lots from working with her and reading her content. Even if you don’t work with her, just following her will change your life. She feeds life and love into her followers. She is so sweet, kind, beautiful, giving and full of light. On top of being absolutely brilliant and super spiritual 7 Figure coach.
I’m speaking of Katrina Ruth. I realized the hater couldn’t see Katrina’s light and wasn’t able to soak up the knowledge that Katrina freely gives out. Because the girl’s heart isn’t in the right place. She was looking to see wrong in a beautiful soul. Therefore she remains blind to the light and the gift of the knowledge it gives. Yet the same girl was in my friend’s list. I immediately removed her. That was too much for me. Katrina is a Goddess. A real one. A God appointed one. Besides that it’s never wise to get caught up in the messenger. It’s the MESSAGE the messenger delivers that is most important.
Then I talk to this one guy and there is a person who was once in his life, and couldn’t see him. To me, this man is powerful, brilliant AF, gifted, amazing, emotionally intelligent, super successful, walking in his purpose and so many other things. He’s a God. While I can see that plain as day, the other person can’t.
I realize the people who can’t see our light, can’t see because they don’t want to see. They choose to see things their way. They choose to not question their own thoughts and go in search of the truth.
In the bible it says “I am the way, the truth and the life.” ~ John 14:6
What I noticed about the Gods & Goddesses that I know is that they all seek the truth and are spiritual. It’s encoded into their hearts to follow God. They are also encoded with an unquenchable thirst for knowledge. They are courageous, seek to continuously transform and become better people. All so that they may help others. They are very selfless people. Yet, only certain people can truly see them.
I’m so happy to be in this new realm with my tribe. It’s so beautiful the experiences that I have and the new things that I learn. This dimension feels freeing. Like you can just be yourself. There’s not a bunch of judging one another, but more or so learning about one another. As you learn about one another, you learn more about yourself. The consciousness of everyone involved, increases. You’re able to go more into your heart chakra.
My heart space is my safe place. It’s where I feel home. Vibrating with love is a very natural thing for me. I won’t share my deepest love with everyone, but I’ll definitely be love.
So here is the lesson:
If people can’t see you and don’t appreciate you, simpy climb higher. Go higher. Raise your standards. That’s what the Universe is telling you. Even though your self-esteem may be high, you don’t quite value yourself enough. There’s more out there for you. Get around people who are reflection of your heart. People will try to make you feel like you ain’t sh*t and the whole time you’ve been the bomb.com and just weren’t around people who were able to see, value and appreciate you.
When people aren’t dynamic themselves, they can’t see or recognize it in another. A person will never be what they can’t see. So when people recognize you it’s only a reflection of their own heart.
If we understood this early on we would be quick to escape those who don’t love us. We wouldn’t try to sit around convincing them they deserve us or that they should want to be with us. We definitely wouldn’t waste time thinking they are going to wake up and see the light, while they are with us.
Half the time we aren’t even aware that the world is filled with amazing people with beautiful hearts and minds; just like us. We don’t even expect people to feed our minds… But it’s a soul requirement to be equally yoked in mind and spirit.
We waste way too much time trying to be anything less than great, trying to humble ourselves, trying to fit in, and trying to be less. All so that we’ll be liked by people who can’t see us in the first place.
The insanity of it all.
Find your tribe. They will love you for you. You’re special to them simply because you are. That is where you’re going to find the endless, unconditional love, that you seek.
Stay away from peasants who aren’t connected to soul. If God be with us, who can be against us?
Sidenote: You are not 100% off the hook. People not seeing you is also a reflection of you not fully seeing yourself. As in the greatness of who you were called to be.
When someone says the word “love,” you tend to think of romantic love. One tends to think of what they can “get” from another person when that person falls in love with them.
Women tend to think of love one-sidedly. This one sided love hopes that by getting a man to fall in love with you, you can get him to take whatever you give. You can get him to accept or tolerate your time and your attention. You can get them to revel in your adoration, affection, physical pleasure. You can get them to enjoy the ego-boost you have created for them. You can get them to display your adoration of them, your affection for them, your devotion to them in public. This thought process creates an egoic or narcissistic “love” where you give adoration and devotion to the other, while he simply enjoys it, and displays it for others to see as proof of his validity.
Way too many women wind up in narcissistic relationships, simply by ignoring her intuition. Not only that, but women tend to chase after acceptance and approval from men.
What stops a woman from doing such a thing, is practicing the art of unconditional love, without being attached to the outcome.
The truth is that authentic, fully reciprocated love is not about trading affection for love, relationship, or commitment. There is no earning of one’s approval, by creating so much love that the other will magically fall in love in equal measure.
Such a thought process can be deeply cloaked in delusion. It doesn’t work like that. A person doesn’t fall in love with you, just because you’re in love with them. They have to truly want you and reciprocate.
Not to mention a woman is going all wrong in the first place when she leads in the love department. A man has to want you more than you want him. If not the relationship is bound to not last.
It’s really easy for a woman to fall in love with a man, but most times he’s simply chilling in the LIKE stage. ~ Kissy Denise
Men have a huge choice in mates they choose to date. But a smart woman doesn’t necessarily wait for a man to pick her. She picks the man she wants. Then lets him do the work to capture her heart. You can’t be the woman doing the work to capture his heart. For the right one, his heart is nearly yours from the very first sight of you. You see first a man must DECIDE that he is ready to find a wife. If he’s not looking for a wife, he may not see any woman as a wife. If he’s looking for entertainment he’ll see just about every woman as entertainment, and just maybe he’ll accidentally fall in love with one of the women he’s having sex with.
The better man is the man who has decided he’s ready. Once he decides he’s ready, he pretty much knows exactly what he’s looking for, so when he finds her he knows. He then goes into full pursuit. The work is already done for her. All she has to do from there is hold her standards and values, create boundaries, and delight him with her magnetic, feminine charm.
Most women don’t know this, so they are actually out in the dating world attempting to convince a man to pick her. Pick Me’s tend to be women who can’t command a high dollar salary. They want a man to pick them for the sake of survival and being taken care of. They tend to come off as helpless. It’s all about getting something.
However there is another way to love that is healthy for a conscious, emotionally healthy, Goddess. That is to love people unconditionally without attachment to the outcome.
Can you imagine loving a man and just being yourself, and expressing yourself with him, not necessarily hoping that you are wooing him or running him off, but instead not caring of the outcome and simply being your authentic self while allowing things to flow as they may?
When you do this there is no getting.
There is no “getting “ anything. When love is authentic and pure, there is absolutely nothing to be gotten. We love for the feeling of love. Not many people can accept that. They are overly-focused on getting something, earning something, and qualifying for something. Later when that object of their affection does not feel the same, they realize that they have poured themselves into the other person, while the other simply drank from their full cup.
When you create such a dynamic, you hurt yourself. When a person believes their one-sided interest is enough, they too are demonstrating ego-based love, and narcissism. The ego and what it wants, always gets in the way if you let it. Why would you assume that your self-interest alone is enough to qualify for the other person?
Not to mention, one-sided interest is the shallowest level of love a human could offer. In fact, that narcissistic love is a social perversion causing a lot of social problems and a huge rift in gender relations. Too many people are seeking to satisfy the desire of self. In return people push people away for fear that the other loves too much, which is fear due to feeling like they’ll go too far, and get mad when the love is not returned. Which like I said, happens a lot.
The entire romance and relationship industry is built on “getting” people who don’t want you to want you. That’s not the way things should go. Relating to others based on what you can get, or on feeding your ego is such a low vibration of love.
This is why you should definitely love people unconditionally, and as a woman, wait on a man who wants you back. But maybe you don’t want anything from each other, other than to explore the union. Yet even then at some point, someone in the union has to decide the direction of the relationship and if it’s headed to a romantic soul union or a friendly soul union. Many people fail in relationships simply because they never decided where they wanted the relationship to go. One is often thinking it’s going one way, while the other is two years in, still exploring, or dating and having sex even though they know that woman is not “The One.”
When someone wants you just as much as you want them, it closes the gap and allows the fun in. Then it comes down to helping someone feel how it feels to be enough for one another and experience diving love as a sacred union. Many women don’t have a clock ticking on how long they will wait for a decision. Usually because she’s not exploring her options with other men.
Either way, as a woman, it’s not your job to make a man want you. He wants what he wants. Either you’re it or you’re not. Your job is to stand in your power and allow him to keep you.
Loving unconditionally without an attachment to the outcome can help you learn to do this a lot faster.
A God King, is a divine human being. He’s a man like no other. He is going to perfect every part of his life. Therefore he is encoded to love his woman as God loves her. He’s going to protect, profess and provide exactly the way he was meant to. It may take him some time to get on this journey, and to actually learn the traits of a God King, before he inherits his crown, but he’s always on the path from day one.
He’s the guy who is super smart, treats women well and is on his path to getting money early in the game. Chances are, he’s a Christian. You’ll notice he keeps a book in his hand. When it comes to women, he’s real chill.
He may have his moments, phases or stages, but overall he’s a good dude. At some point he wants a wife and decides to get a serious girlfriend. Here is how that goes.
Just about every time I meet a super smart, super dope man whose had his heart broken, 9/10 he had his heart broken by a basic b*tch. The basic b*tch represents his former environment. He has no idea of his growth and where he’s at in life.
While he definitely understands he’s successfully grown way past his childhood upbringing, he still identifies with it due to humility in not truly seeing himself as the highest version of himself.
So when he meets basic b*tch, she is pretty simple to capture, but once inside the relationship she has no value for him. He’s square AF to her, but cool and sweet. To him she’s fun, she gives him a chase, she’s not goo goo, ga ga over him, so he has to continue to chase her during the relationship. This makes it fun for him and makes him feel like he’s really captured a prize. Because he connects with her and sees her as a prize, he’s willing to overlook her antics, indiscretions, disrespect, and everything else. This bish will get a million and one chances to please this man.
His smart, logical, brain, makes him feel like she’s just a sweet girl who needs a little help growing her mindset. That poor little thing he says. He wants to save the princess from herself. So he sets out to snatch her brain the right way. He starts giving her knowledge, telling her which way to go, taking her nice places, trying to help her start a business, and attempting to rapidly retweak her mindset. He challenges her. She does change a bit.
But she’s so d*mn basic she can’t absorb the knowledge he’s giving her. She has no appreciation for the game he’s lacing her with. Even more, she becomes offended by the man “trying to change her.”
Meanwhile he continues to grow and level up. Because she’s so basic, and doesn’t want much out of life, she can’t even identify with or appreciate his level of growth, intelligence, and success. She thinks he’s missing out on life. She can’t even appreciate the light and love in his heart. None of those things are a reflection of her. Which is why she can’t see him. Just like spiritual women go bouncing themselves into relationships with 3D men who still live in darkness, 5D men do the same thing.
These men who deeply invest their hearts into basic b*tches are also healers. Their healing soul, often stops to help out miss basic b*tch, as a means of procrastination from their soul work.
After all, in his mind, he can fix anything. He could totally make her into what he wants her to be. He’ll even accept that she’s not the most beautiful woman in the world to him. He doesn’t even find her super sexy. Then other times he will be talking about how badd of a chick she is, and when an elite person sees a pic of her, she’s super basic. Love is more important to him than looks. He’s mostly overly turned on by her cause she keeps his mind challenged on some b.s. and trying to fix her.
This slows him down from his purpose of mission. This also starts to decrease his self-esteem, because truth be told, the “b*tch is a losing cause.” She’s too damn sleep, to see what’s in front of her. She has a man right there bending over backwards for her, helping her, financing her, pouring all of his love into her, and she just sees him as an annoying, silly, lame. She doesn’t want for much in life, so she’s not interested in growth.
He keeps trying to alter her. Meanwhile her eyes and heart are around the corner on another man. The man is always, always, always a lesser man than him. The other man is never as successful as him. She clearly displays she’s happy with LESS, but he doesn’t get the message. Still he believes she just doesn’t know any better, and that all he has to do is show her the way.
Next thing you know he’s hit the brick wall of heartbreak. During the process he even forgot much of who he is. She rocked him to sleep, instead speaking life and love into him. She was supposed to speak to the King in him, but she didn’t see a King. She saw a court jester or a baby prince to pet on the head, and treated him as such.
After this he has to let go, heal up, look back and laugh at himself for wasting his time with team basic. Later he must also thank her. She’s the agitator of greatness who came to help him release his old trauma wounds that were hidden deep in the recesses of his mind. She was sent to force him to raise his confidence, self-esteem and self-worth.
Nothing propels a human being to make necessary changes like, emotional pain. It will make you move fast to get some act right.
You see his mind even before he met her was looking for excuses to slow down, and unconsciously looking for ways to slow down and procrastinate. So in pops the best one who will slap him awake.
Had he not been subconsciously attempting to procrastinate, he would’ve got the badd azz chick who wants a whole lot out of life, and is on the path of success, herself. For God Kings that’s the only type of woman who will truly appreciate him.
People who grow are at the top. People at the top understand how hard it was to make that climb. Wealth- conscious, spiritual men’s rise to the top takes even more than normal. Their rise took mindset growth at deeper levels. Like attracts like, so only a woman whose on the same path can understand, appreciate and value his remarkable growth.
Such a woman will also challenge him and help him consciously evolve, and awaken, by triggering a more peaceful, surrendered form of soul love. In fact she’ll help his soul ascend faster. His soul knows this, but his mind doesn’t. His mind at a certain point would’ve had no appreciation of such a woman. For human value is often only understood after the pain of parting ways with someone you loved and experiencing what you don’t like. Nothing helps us learn what we don’t want, like periods of experiencing and learning what we don’t like. Sometimes we don’t know what’s good for us, until after we realize what’s bad for us. It’s a process of learning lessons on the journey. That’s what he came here to do. Before we come to earth, we pick our mission and the lessons we want to learn. We come to learn these lessons, in order to teach and help other souls.
High trajectory souls leave their heavenly home on assignment to the earth realm, strictly for purpose. They come to help other souls figure out their way to heaven. Other souls aren’t as smart as us or fast as us for whatever reason, so we come back to help them stop their patterns that are causing them to come back lifetime after lifetime, continuing to live the same storyline.
You came to move people past their old storyline. But to help others, we first have to help ourselves remember, because part of the agreement of coming into the earth realm is that your memory of who you are will be hidden deep in your subconscious. Only life events will trigger your remembrance. You even decide how long you’ll take before you awaken. You even decide on what parents you’ll be born to.
I however don’t believe you choose exactly what events will happen to you. Sometimes you don’t. Sometimes you do. When you have chosen the exact event, it comes to you like dejavu. You trigger all events by your thoughts and desires. You’re never too later. You’re always on perfect time, yet procrastinating will delay you.
It would appear that a beautiful woman is only an object or vanity or something to be objectified. But what I have noticed is that even the most unattractive woman can often make herself emanate beauty by ramping up her efforts and the love she puts into her appearance. Her face doesn’t have to be model-eque. But if she dresses herself in the finest fabrics, spiritually evolves, walks in divine feminine energy, and goes after success, she’ll start looking attractive to most people. When I look at Michelle Obama, she’s not a beauty queen type of beauty. I can’t even say she’s win a beauty contest type, if she was unknown. But, when you look at her, would you call her anything other than beautiful? Probably not. It’s simply her essence. Women who put effort into their appearance and upkeep, want to live a good life. Smart men go after such women, because it’s the perfect match. They are both stair climbers who aim for the best. Beauty and brains is a dope combination. It’s a dynamic team.
Chances are basic bish has this quote on her profile, cause she’s always keeping up drama. But chances are she don’t look nothing like Marilyn…
My attitude, behavior and mindset can somewhat be contributed to the men in my life. If I fall, they pick me up. If I slack they tell me to get it together. I didn’t grow up with a father, and I also experienced abusive relationships and men who tried to take from me. But after my last abusive relationship I vowed to never let another man mistreat me. I don’t touch doors when I’m in the presence of a man. I will not allow any man to stay around me who doesn’t treat me like a Queen. I only attract men who see me as a Queen or a Goddess. A man spending $300 on dinner to see me is chump change. I attract men who want to take care of me and provide for me. I attract men who give me mad game. I attract men who lift me higher and want to see me shine. I attract very abundant, prosperous men. I attract Kings and Gods. Men don’t believe that I should spend my own money when I’m in their presence. There is no other option other than treating me well. A man has to step up or step off. I don’t have to force them. They do this by CHOICE. They choose to be amazing men. Men literally delight in doing for me. If you see me talking good about a man, trust me that man is the bomb, plus some. They are divine.
Also my male friends are providers and go getters. They have millionaire mindsets and most are millionaires already. I believed that I AM the bomb well before I met these men. I’ve been Kissy Denise – The Masterpiece since 2003. The men in my life are only reflections of the way I feel about myself. A lot of you women you have no glow and no shine, because your man treats you like a basic b*tch. That’s what you signed up for. You sit online and you watch all of these other women getting gifts from men, getting taken on exotic vacations and there you go with your man at home, going 50/50, cutting out coupons, telling you what you can’t have cause his azz feels like he can only save to buy a house, with half of your money, but he can’t figure out a profitable business to dress you in the finest clothes and have you living your best life. You gotta wait for him to upgrade you to a respectable ring. Ya’ll on the I can only have 1 thing plan. Abundance isn’t either of your mindsets.
As long as you have a vagina, you run the world. Just know you settled for what you thought you were worth. Personally I refuse to settle for a man that I can’t brag about. It’s too easy to get a basic man. Run me a man who runs circles around these other dudes.
When men start getting rich money, sometimes they start getting big. You can see it in their chin. 💰
Ladies, take your husband to the gym, start cooking healthier meals for him. Fix him some salads and smoothies. 🥗 Pack his lunch. Hire a chef to save him time. Sexercise with him or do something creative. Don’t wait till he gets fat and out of control to say something. Nip it in the bud before it happens. He wants you to see him as sexy. 🏃♂️
If that’s your husband and you’re not helping him maintain his weight, it’s your fault too. He can’t see the slow weight gain, the way you can. The same way you wouldn’t be able to see your own.
It’s a team effort. Dope women are always 10 steps ahead… Chess not checkers. ♟ Have vision. 👁
You’re supposed to be your husband’s muse. 💄This is why you need a man who provides. You gotta feel good enough about your husband, and care about him enough to speak life & love into him, prophesize over him, and speak the word over your family. 🎤
You gotta care about his body and health, the same way you care about yours. ❤️ That’s love. Provider men are often busy building empires and sometimes they forget to tend to themselves. As a wife, it’s your job to keep your household balanced and on point. 💯
P.S. If he hasn’t married you, feed that ninja some Popeyes with a side of fries, extra salt.
