by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Oct 21, 2019 |
Black men want reparations for the women who did them wrong.
But they want reparations from healed, high value women, who remind him of his mother, and wanting to climb back into her womb, to be taken care of and provided for, with a titty with a big nipple for dessert.
They wanna cry without fillng his role as divine masculine.
He wants to get with a high value woman or a badd chick and take out his frustrations on her. The frustrations he developed from dealing with a basic chick who said nice words, but showed continuous actions of not caring about him. He wants reparations for missing obvious signs.
On the other hand you have somewhat good men who feel that women are now seeking reparations from dealing with crappy men.
That’s true. Most of those women become gold diggers and receiver. But the reparations spiritual women wanted, they had to go within themselves to get. No man was going to fix that wound. She knows she has to fix herself. She knows her problems emanate from within. After so many times, a person must look at themselves as the common denominator.
So she learned her lessons, healed herself, and learned how to treat a good man, and the actual definition of what one is. She deemed she is worthy and that her cup now overfloweth in love. She knows good men actually are in abundance, now that she’s worked on her inner issues. She knows her place in divine feminine, and now only has room for a King.
But not every potential good man wants to be a King, because some are okay with being 50/50 and wounded masculine. They don’t want to get in position. Therefore a good woman actually can not choose him. She can’t work with a man who has no room to provide her with. When a woman enters a relationship she’s about to multiply everything that man gives her. A spiritual woman can’t give non spiritual man much. Mostly cause he doesn’t realize she is guided by source, so he won’t listen. A spiritual men understands that a woman is a gift to him, and that even if she submits to him, SHE is still his greatest connection to source and rapid flow.
The woman is God. So if you marry God of course you’re going to be favored. If she actually loves you, she actually does become a part of your rib. New favor comes upon you simply by being with her. Tis why she doesn’t have to work if she doesn’t have to. Her ideas are prosperous. Besides that the only woman who will work when her man gladly provides for her is a woman who enjoys her work. Which would mean she’s walking in her purpose. PURPOSE rarely ever feels like work, even though it’s work.
The big dissonance between black men and women is pretty simple. Everyone wants to be treated a certain kind of way. The answer is simply to love and be kind to one another. To have compassion and understanding. You gotta look at people with love, and not for what you can get from them.
The key is for men to step up and be the King God called you to be. Cause at some point you are going to get tired of settling for less, pushing against the grain all by yourself, having sex with basic Betty trying to turn her into a baddie, not understanding, it has to be in her, not on her. You’ll tire of random women in and out of your bed. You’ll tire of chasing chicks just because they’re hot and don’t intellectually and sexually stimulate you. Sex without love will never fill the the gaping hole in your soul.
No Sir, only oneness will heal that. Wholeness comes from within. You will never fix your inner issues by trying to take it out on a badd chick.
But hey, you most certainly don’t have to listen to me. Men can keep settling and not stepping up to the King throne, only to continue the cycle over and over again.
Some of us have opted out. Men often think they are high value and so do women. But no one is high value if they are not going hard for love. On top of that, you gots to be doing something with your life, with your progression on point. Just like everything else it’s something you must work towards. Just because a man can provide doesn’t make him high value. If a man has no spiritual connection chances are he’ll get off path, or stay near the bottom too long, being enchanted by the birds.
At other times I see women who randomly inbox me about their relationship problems. I wrote an entire book to help you. It’s common sense to buy it. My clients in my inbox, bought the book, and hired me to help them work through their stuff. They really want it.
They already have their whole life together and are working on making it even better, daily.
In life you will always get what you focus on.
Help yourself. No one else is going to do the work for you. They can’t.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Oct 21, 2019 |
It kind of seems silly for a man to not get a wife.
I mean all he has to do is be a man, be consistent for a few months, marry her, then she’s going to cook, clean, provide him with kindness, love, affection and sex. BIRTH KIDS FROM THE BOSOM OF HER WOMB. Oh the agony.
She’s going to give him backrubs, perform for him, cheer for him, listen to his pain, wipe his tears, motivate him, inspire him, delight him, adore him, respect him, submit to him, wear sexy outfits, keep herself up, give him beautiful surprises, be loyal, pray for him, speak life into him and guard him against all ill will.
It seems really smart for a man to get married. It seems pretty smart for a woman to marry a man who provides. Cause that’s the only way you’re going to be doing all of that. 😂
FOH with not providing.
Ya’ll like my poem?
Anyway Sis. I’m about to show you something, and it’s time to peep game. Those men who came into your life and broke your heart, were lames. Imposters of the great one.
Now I’m not calling you Silly SiS. I’m not saying you are silly or that you were silly, cause you didn’t know what you know now. But now you know.
The right King for you has true God power. You can feel it flowing off of him. You feel it in your senses. It hits you off guard. It’s different from love, lust, or any of that other stuff. You feel it in your head. Then it comes down and surrounds you.
Here is the thing though. Unless you mind your spiritual business, then you won’t vibrate high enough to attract him. Or if you’re busy in a relationship with a man who isn’t a true God King, then yes, that will be another delay.
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by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Oct 21, 2019 |
The real reason why some people end up heartbroken, or in toxic relationships, is humility. They know what level they vibrate on, but society tells them to be humble, so they look down, instead of above, in order to stay “grounded.”
The relationships with humble people don’t work. Because they are not truly being themselves. One person is in the relationship, trying to pretend to be more than they are, hoping to step their game up. Meanwhile the humble person is hunkering down, helping them up, thinking they’ll catch up. But they never catch on, because they aren’t really in it for the heart.
It takes heart to ascend into light. Transformation takes the heart to be dedicated.
Dedicated (If this were a movie, I would have this text slide across the screen. Cause this is about to be enlightening. )
If a person isn’t dedicated to improving themselves and their life, how do you expect them to be dedicated to a relationship with you? (yes laugh)
Cause chances are, you only finally, ended the relationship, when that person just did too much. They did too much cause they weren’t in it for the heart. It was whatever.
It was whatever with them, yet there you were being humble, giving chances, hoping sense in them, would kick in one day. I mean a person can’t possibly not figure it out you said. You had such positive thoughts. You held onto them for as long as you could. Boundaries were mainly created for people like you, so that you preprogram yourself to know what you will and won’t accept, and the response system to a boundary being broken is automatic. You need things like boundaries, to stop you from being so damn humble. You can’t be you, if you don’t maintain some sense of standards and directions as to becoming your highest self. When you enter into a relationship with someone who’s not in it for the heart, that tends to drain you, and slow you down.
So Let’s check out the definition of humility
“Humility is the quality of being humble. If you meet one of your heroes and feel nervous and in awe for her, you are experiencing humility.
Humility comes from the Latin word humilis, which literally means low. If you feel humility in front of someone, you feel small in the scheme of things — that you are just a simple, insignificant person. Someone who spends his life taking care of others shows humility. Although it’s related to humiliation (which makes you feel low in a bad way), humility is usually used to talk about a lack of ego.”
The real definition of humility is spiritual. It’s knowing that you don’t always know how you do the things you do sometimes, nor do you necessarily like REALLY know where you’re going at all times, you’re just aligned and going with the flow; that you have really tried to wait to get proof of things, before you start, then one day it just clicked, and it just happens, some way, and it’s just normal, and not all you… I think admitting that is humble.
Humility is in knowing that the world is bigger than you. Humility is in building a business that serves, enlightens the world and knowing you’re going to make a whole lotto money. When you have a vision to change a culture that’s bigger than you, that’s humility. When you admit to having a dream that one day, and you don’t know how it’s going to happen, but you know it will and it has to, because you have a vision; that’s humble.
Telling people to be humble is doing nothing but keeping them low, slowing people down from walking in their purpose.
Cause when your heart is love, I mean yeah, you need to check yourself quite often, but overall your heart is love. You’re not going to do too much, because you have a great sense of ethics and morality. Even though some of your motivation is EGO, you know that’s only like a small part, you know the rest comes from obsessive purpose.
I think it’s best to have focused compassion. Be compassionate, check yourself, but stay focused on the path. When you’re on your purpose, and focused on the bigger mission, human humility would only slow you down. Yet you still need a little of it. Everything is all about balance.
Now let me push this one level deeper. HUMILITY is in not only thinking of yourself, your sh*t, your excuses, your fears, your limited beliefs, and all of the other tools you use to procrastinate. You gotta think of those people who need you. They need you to sell. They need you to charge. They need you to change their lives. They need you to put the right energy out that they can invest in, in order to get the blessings of buying into you, and the knowledge you’re providing, which is all really great and super dope, but nothing compares to the value of your energy field. Just think of how much people’s lives improves from being connected to you. You see in a way, it’s not really about you, and source pays you really well for remembering that.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Oct 20, 2019 |
“True Wealth doesn’t scream” is such a silly statement. Forbes magazine screams with the Networth of the world’s richest billionaires and millionaires.
They scream it out at the top of the mountains. Back in the bible days Kings wore purple robes, were given land, riches and lots of women. When you saw a King and his entourage coming you knew.
When Cleopatra showed up on the Nile river, she would come in a boat with a mast. Music would be playing. Gorgeous women in sultry outfits would be on the boat. If you didn’t know who she was upon arrival. You would definitely know after.
True Wealth has always screamed in one way or another. What it screams is FREEDOM to make choices and do what you want. It’s freedom to express how fabulous you feel about yourself. It’s freedom to do what you want. It’s freedom to take you perfectionist eyes and collect even prettier, well made, nicely crafted, high quality things.
Therefore when I see someone screaming about how true wealth doesn’t scream, and how proud they are to shop at Target, perfectly posed in front of the store sign, in order to illicit likes from the commoners who feel they will never be as rich or successful or whatever people feel; I end up screaming.
WHY? It triggers me because I know how much it confuses opulent souls. Souls who are called to live their best life. It rocks them to sleep. They get confused and get off of their mission. They start trying to talk themselves out of their greatest desires. They start trying to be happy with whatever they have, instead of being grateful for whatever they have while setting out to manifest what their soul seeks.
#1 You know what else? When you see that Phantom pull up, your eyes are going. It’s loud, it’s bold, it’s sleek. It’s beautiful. It smells like success when you sit inside. You see the eyes when you pull up. Can’t nobody tell you nothing. You arrive and your presence now screams loudly. People validated you upon exiting the car. Psychology.
#2. If there is anything to be measured in terms of wealth, it is of spiritual souls who understand this is all an illusion, and that abundance is simply a mindset that has to be tapped into. The pursuit of wealth and abundance is good for the soul. You learn so many lessons in becoming your best self. Wealthy people actually help others. By transmuting your own shadows, getting better habits and clearing your limited beliefs, you are better able to assist others on the journey. That’s what makes some of us such great life coaches. We actually did that!
#3. Everybody was not born to be basic AF. Lack of progress is nothing to brag about. When a wealthy person goes and shops at Dollar Tree, that doesn’t make them down to earth. That makes them like everyone else who goes into stores to buy.
#4 Not everyone grew up wanting to shop at the goodwill. If being less, and doing less is your thing, stop trying to down others who like nice things. Money only makes you more of who you are. If you were basic AF before the money of course you’ll be pretty basic after. Same with women who are good looking and coming up short. She’ll be even more good looking after she has unlimited access to Chanel. And you know what? You’re going to respect her when she walks in the door. Because success is loud. It’s high. It’s a frequency.
#5 Stop saying rich people are humble and drive Toyotas. They live in mansions, take private jets, get picked up in limos, get invited to the head of the table at Elite events and have the FREEDOM to buy whatever they want. Sometimes they also want to blend in, so less flashy cars do well for them.
Wealthy people do things basic people don’t do. There are the basics who will brag about the basics and there are the opulent souls who want the best out of life. If you can choose between two things, an opulent soul is always going to choose the best one, not based upon price and think they are better simply because it’s cheap. An opulent soul is definitely going for marble or granite over basic countertops. They are going to put a pool out back because they can. They are going to get the high quality product and be happy they can get what they want.
P.S. Celebrities don’t post that they are at The Dollar Tree to be down to earth. They do it for ATTENTION and likes. Because you’re going to say “Awwwwe. They are so nice and so humble.” WHY? Because now you believe them to be LIKE YOU.
Get over the you can only have or BE one thing syndrome. By now you should now that you can truly have it all. But only if you believe it.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Oct 20, 2019 |
What is love and how does it impact our lives? How do we know if we are in love?
Love is a feeling. Unconditional love is a decision. The feelings usually come from what a person DOES for you. Unconditional love also gives you the feelings, but the feeling comes from being excited by a person simply being them. It’s outside of you, but obviously a reflection of you. Which is why self-love is so important.
Anyway, lets have some fun of examining what true love really is.
Here are 7 research-based indicators that can tell you what you are feeling is, in fact, love.
1) You Can’t Get Enough of Them
Every relationship has what is called a “honeymoon” phase. This is the phase in which the conversation is hot, sex is amazing, and even an afternoon nap feels super good. Everything is lit with passion and heat. You can’t get enough of them. When they’re not around, you stare at picture of them. You can feel the cute obsession mounting.
But is that love? According to Theresa DiDonato, Ph.D., you know you are in love if you continue to long for this person even after the honeymoon phase has passed.
A deep love endures many stages of a relationship and the changes that people go through as human beings.
Couples who successfully stay together continue to want to be in each other’s presence and talk to each other on a regular basis, even when times are tough.
They know that closeness helps strengthen the relationship.
2) You Want Everyone to Love Them
When you think you love someone, you are excited and nervous about introducing them to someone else.
You often view your loved one as a direct representation of who you are as a person and a physical representation of your life’s choices.
So, it’s understandable why we hesitate to take our partners home to our mother or our parents. We want everyone else to love them just as much, and see how amazing they are. For many relationships, this moment of truth is important because it helps an individual decide if the relationship is worth further pursuit.
While many people will say they don’t care what others think about the person they love, some people find it important to choose a partner that gets along with the rest of the family. Some on the other hand, know their family is a lil crazy, and yeah….
Meeting family and friends can play a big part in the success of a relationship. The opinions of their family and friends have swayed the relationship choices of many a soul. Sometimes your family is right. Sometimes they are wrong.
3) You Are Their Biggest Cheerleader
Regardless of how well you are doing in life, if you love someone, you cheer them on throughout their wins.
When your loved one wins, it lights you up. You’re happy for them. You feel only pride and triumph for this person. This is a sure sign that you are in love because you can put your own feelings aside and focus on another person’s victories.
If your relationship wasn’t as strong as you had hoped, you might find yourself being jealous of your partner’s new promotion. Some even experience an inferiority complex, which can tear a relationship apart before it ever has a chance to blossom. ( You play on the same team. A win is a win. It’s not separate from you, as long as you are doing you, and still playing to win. Besides someone else’s win is always a victory for you.)
4) You Like Them – Which is Important to Love
You can love someone and not like them. You probably experience this phenomenon with some of your family members.
You may have been told “I love you, but I don’t like you.” Not liked because your determination for success was misunderstood as being too “different” along with the attitude you displayed. But alas, life is good afterall. we can’t choose our families, but we can choose our partners.
When you have deep feelings for someone and you like them as a person, you could be in love.
If you love someone, but you are always fighting with them or feeling unhappy at the end of the day, it’s likely that you still love them, but don’t like them. Or you’re simply incompatible, because you’re not like them.
5) You Want to Tell Them Everything
When you love someone, you want to share everything with them. You don’t even dream of keeping secrets, and you want them to know how you are feeling.
While others find it difficult to talk to someone a lot. It happens quite naturally when fear isn’t leading the relationship. If you find yourself unable to get enough of someone, and wanting to talk to them more and more, then Yes, it could be love.
6) You’ve Become a Better Person
When you are in love, you show up differently than if you weren’t “feeling” a relationship. You want to do better and be better for this person.
People these days don’t want to be changed. They want people to love them as is. However when you’re truly in love, they change your life. They motivate you and inspire you to walk into the highest version of yourself. If you aren’t sure about how you feel about someone, pay attention to how your life has changed since you met them.
Are you striving for better things? It could be a sign that you are in love.
7) You Worry About Them
There is no need to worry about a mate. But of course, at times, you worry about them. When you are in love, it is like you a part of that person.
They are encoded into your soul. You carry a piece of them around with you, and they carry a piece of you.
It gets to the point where you can’t imagine life without them. You may worry about what life would be like without them, but you know it’s better to keep visualizing what life will be like with them. And that’s how you know for sure that you are in love.
True love is eternal, infinite, and always like itself. It is light, joy, equal and pure. ~ Kissy Denise
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Oct 20, 2019 |
A Facebook memory came up today, and I realize I no longer have that belief, so I deleted it.
Here is where I was going wrong.
1. If I knew that about average people, why did I keep dealing with average people, knowing I’m not average? I’ll tell you. It was all in the name of humility, trying to feel like I’m not special, while at the same trying to have compassion for other humans.
What I should’ve done is ask myself “Okay. So WHO are the people who value love?” At the time I wouldn’t have been able to answer the question, for I was the only person I’d met who valued love the way I do. With the people whom I was attracting, “doing people wrong,” in love, seemed to be “their” thing.
1. I have always needed someone who is a reflection of my own heart. Nothing else will do. My heart goes into both business and relationships.
2. People don’t always intentionally do you wrong. They are dealing with their own things, and most times doing things the best way they know how. If “doing people wrong” is actually a good thing in their mind, then they are just doing them. It had nothing to do with me. I would walk away stating how good of a mate that I AM. Yet I did not walk away knowing that maybe they didn’t mean to hurt me. I didn’t because I had told them several times that such behavior was not conducive towards a healthy relationship.
These are lessons that I only learned after raising my frequency and attracting people who are on my frequency or higher.
My mate has always been on a higher frequency. I would’ve never met him, had I not raised mine. In order for a person to not only come into your life, be attracted to you, and also able to see you, they need to be on your frequency. A frequency is made up of different layers. When they are not on your frequency their vision of you will be reflective of their own frequency. (Example: Eagles don’t hang with birds, because the birds will take the eagle for just being another bird, just like them. Yet we know the eagle is supreme. It’s supreme whether it thinks so or not. For the Eagle is the only bird that can reach certain altitudes. So it doesn’t need to think it’s better than the other birds, or consider itself separate. The eagle simply is what it is. It’s programmed to fly higher. As it goes higher, the other birds simply can’t keep up, and fall back. Yet, we as humans often stunt our own growth by trying to belong. We try to belong to groups, identities, organizations, classes, and companies, in order to fit in. When we release ourselves from trying to be like others, is when the light comes in, to pull us higher. )
You can attract someone by their old/past frequency, or yours, and there will be some sort of connection, but they won’t recognize you as a potential mate until you match their frequency.
As I was saying, lower frequencies only recognize you from their own frequency. And when you don’t quite know who you are, you may go for a mate who APPEARS to be on your frequency, because they are a reflection of the way you SEE yourself. Even though deep down, you eventually realize you vibrate higher, simply because your actions and intentions tend to be heart-centered and for the good of you both. You realize something is OFF.
It’s frequency that attracts people to one another. When you vibrate at your correct frequency, suddenly you’ll meet people who mirror your heart.
I am brilliant. Yet I attempted to hang out with people who decided not to be. I hung with people who weren’t interested in mastering their craft. Therefore my frequency didn’t change much and I stayed the smartest person in the room. Yet at the same time, I was and always have been surrounded by high frequency people. But they saw me in a new way, when I vibed up.
Upon awakening, I then shed my attachments to the non-brilliant people. People usually call those people, people with negative mindsets. But really it’s simply people with mindsets you no longer vibrate on, nor do you want to, cause you gotta be you. So, I Detached from who I once was. Called in the higher version of myself, and THEN I started to attract people who vibrated on my frequency. Many of them also have experienced heartbreak, because of the depth of the way we love. I attracted more heart-centered people like me who are called to bring light into the world.
I began to be pursued by men who vibrated on my frequency. Even at 6 Figures, I still vibrated on a 7 Figure frequency, but that’s not the way I went at that time, because most of those men were not a reflection of my heart. So I didn’t identify with them, because I didn’t SEE them as good people. I didn’t recognize them as a potential or future mate. I tossed them into the friend zone, where it seems so natural to place people who “like me.”
But you know what else I’ve learned? You really don’t know people’s heart, until you get into that kind of mind space with them. Connecting to someone’s heart has to be an intentional thing. You must set out to get to know their heart, and pay attention to them. That means you need to look past your visual of them and the things they have. Look into the heart to see who they truly are. Doing this makes true love, that much easier to find. Now if you match that up, with dating people who are physically what you want, and you get down to their heart core, My gosh! Love hits!
As you go through life, and gain new experiences, remember to shed your beliefs that no longer work.
True Love isn’t hard to find. What you’re seeking is yourself. ~ Kissy Denise
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Oct 17, 2019 |
The #1 Reason why 90% of relationships that don’t work out, didn’t work out, is because of one thing.
The breakup is usually said to have happened due to this, this, this, or that.
But after dealing with lots of high value, spiritual women, I’ve learned WHY these women are single or have a string of failed relationships.
They’ve never actually chose a man at the soul level. Choosing a man at the soul level seals a relationship. A man can not stay with a woman who does not choose him….
In order for a woman to choose a man at the soul level, he has to make her feel safe with him. In order for a spiritual woman to choose a man at the soul level, she has to love him, AND he has to meet her needs, before she will feel safe with him.
High value, spiritual women, would prefer to be alone, vs wasting time being in relationship with a man that she’s not in love with, or a man who won’t be able to keep her… A man can not keep her simply by paying bills. That’s just the basics of something she expects him to do. She seeks a man who loves her at the soul level. She will not waste time with a man who doesn’t have the throne codes to keep her around. Or so she thinks.
She’s all about her freedom of CHOICE. Yet she will choose a man in the earth realm, because she believes he has what it takes to keep and maintain her. But the minute he starts messing up, she starts to doubt if he’s the one. She’ll maintain HOPE, and HOPE he changes, but eventually she will slowly start to realize he can’t keep her. Most women will say “Oh No. I definitely can’t marry this man.” All the while, she’ll be waiting on him to propose, in order to change her mind…
Once married, many women will then choose a man at the soul level. Some still won’t. Gold diggers will choose a man on the earth realm, because her needs are simply to financially provide. Other times he’s simply good for now, and a come-up that she’ll trade in later, for a man she truly loves. Which is still smarter than the average woman who goes around giving her power and body away in the name of love. In return she provides something good to look at, sex, and kind words. But what she does not give him is her love. Many a man believes he has acquired the woman he wants, but later realizes she loves what he does for her, not him… That’s the basis of most relationships. Not much spiritual growth happens in these relationships. A good relationship can never be about THINGS.
Other women marry a man who doesn’t walk in his purpose. She’s watching his actions, slowly having to accept he’s never going to measure up to the level of providing her needs. Other unmarried women will date such a man for years, waiting on him to meet her needs. Hoping someday he’ll get it right and meet her needs. Like the need for a man to be honest and consistent. Which cheating shows that he is not honest, and consistently doesn’t put their relationship first. He’s CONSISTENT in not caring, but she’ll sweep that under the rug. She takes him back and has hope. Yet deep down, she knows, she can’t marry him. He’s going to embarrass her and break her heart. There will be no fairytale ending with him. Fights and arguments are happening. He’s wondering why he should marry her. She’s not cooking and cleaning as much, because “she’s not his wife.” She starts to talk to him like the “Boy” that he is. She loses respect for him…
He doesn’t realize the anxiety he’s causing, so he seeks nurturing and healing in another woman’s arms. Now she’s in pain, wants him to care and………. man, this story goes on, and on, and on, and on, until one person finally checks out of the relationship, and here comes trauma and heartbreak.
This is what happens when both parties in the relationship haven’t addressed their wounds, healed, set boundaries and discussed a plan to stay together or get money together.
If you start off a relationship going in two different directions, then it’s really no surprise that it didn’t last forever.
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by Site Admin | Oct 17, 2019 |
It’s not hard to be a valuable woman. All you really have to do, is be yourself.
Check out these Irresistible woman traits by RelRules.
Don’t get the wrong idea. It’s actually really easy to fall in love with a person. That’s why they use the term “fall”. It’s effortless. It’s something that you can’t control.
It’s something that just happens whether you exert effort into it or not. It’s really not all that difficult for people to fall in love. However, staying in love is going to be a completely different story.
It’s a whole other ball game. And it’s infinitely more difficult to keep a man’s love than to just earn it in the first place. When you’re just starting out as a couple, it can feel almost like you’re cheating at life with how easy and seamless everything is.
It’s always exciting to be around this new individual who has made a sudden profound effect on your life. You get to know one another. You learn about one another’s habits and tendencies. You really get deep into each other’s principles, virtues, and values.
But then, you hit a kind of ceiling in your relationship. And that’s when you know that your honeymoon phase is over and the real work has to begin. So, if you’re interested in actually preserving the integrity of your relationship, you need to start putting in the work for your relationship.
You can’t just be a woman who loves your partner anymore. Love isn’t going to be enough to sustain your relationship. You have to turn yourself into a woman he can’t afford to leave.
1. Stay cool, calm, and relaxed.
Just try to keep it cool. The one thing that men hate more than anything else in relationships is drama. That’s why you should always make it a point to keep your cool. Don’t let your emotions be getting the best of you.
2. Showcase your intelligence.
A man is always going to want to stay with the intelligent girl. Sure, you can be pretty and that can grab his attention for the first part.
But if you’re smart, it’s going to keep him coming back for more. He will know that you’re the kind of girl he can always learn from. You would be the kind of girl who would help him grow as a human being.
3. Always be open and honest with him.
You always want him to know that he can trust you. You always want him to feel like he can always rely on you to be telling him the truth at all times.
=That’s why you always want to be honest and transparent with him. You can’t be keeping him in the dark if you want him to trust you. You can’t be making him feel like you are keeping things from him if you want him to stay.
4. Never be withholding of your love and care.
You always want to be taking care of him. Yes, he is a strong man who can hold his own. He is perfectly capable of making it in this life by himself.
He knows that he doesn’t really need your help much but he is still going to want you to make that effort. He is still going to want to see you take care of him. He is going to want to feel cared for.
5. Respect his privacy.
Always make sure that you respect his privacy. Don’t push him to open up to you about something if he isn’t comfortable about it yet. Don’t pry into his messages and his emails without his permission.
If he happens to tell you a secret about himself, then keep it to yourself. Don’t be broadcasting the intimate aspects of your relationship to other people. Always try to stay discreet.
6. Support him in his passions and pursuits.
Always make sure that you are supportive of him. If you are genuinely interested in a long-term relationship, you have to make him feel like you are his number one cheerleader.
You have to show him that you are going to hold his hand if he ever feels intimidated or scared of the challenges in front of him. He needs to know that he can always rely on you to have his back.
7. Give him a reason to laugh.
Throughout the stretch of your relationship, you are going to encounter a lot of challenges and problems – both as a couple and as individuals.
And you’re going to be feeling a lot of stress and pressure as a result of these challenges. That’s why it’s important that the two of you are still able to laugh as much as possible. Maintain a good sense of humor and he’s always going to feel comfortable when he’s around you.
8. Be romantic with him.
Don’t shy away from being romantic with him. He’s going to love it if you are acting all sappy and in love with him. He might make it seem like he’s not really into that stuff.
But he’s going to love it whenever you are unapologetically showcasing your love and affection for him.
