Let’s talk about something I hear all the time: “Most men cheat” or “Good men don’t exist anymore.” This is a belief I see reflected in the conversations of many Black men and women, and while it feels rooted in personal experiences, it’s also part of a much larger cultural narrative that keeps us disconnected from the love we truly deserve.
Yes, we’ve all witnessed or experienced hurt, betrayal, and disappointment. But if you hold onto the belief that love isn’t real or that most men aren’t faithful, you’re unconsciously shaping your reality to reflect that belief. The truth is, there areconscious, high-value men out there who are capable of deep love and loyalty—but they’ll never be attracted into your life while you’re living in a story that says otherwise.
Why Shifting Into the Divine Feminine is the Key to Attracting Better Men
The problem with these beliefs isn’t just that they’re limiting—it’s that they keep women stuck in a constant state of distrust, hyper-independence, and emotional walls. When you’re operating primarily from masculine energy—overworking, pushing, and trying to “protect yourself” from hurt—you attract men who mirror that energy. These men often aren’t ready for deep commitment, intimacy, or loyalty, which only reinforces the belief that love isn’t possible.
To attract the conscious, loving men you desire, it’s essential to shift into your divine feminine energy. This doesn’t mean being passive or weak. It means tapping into your true power—your ability to be soft, magnetic, receptive, and deeply aligned with your soul’s purpose. When you lead with your feminine energy, you naturally attract men who are grounded in their divine masculine, men who cherish, protect, and honor you.
Here’s Why You Need To Work With Me
If you’re tired of the same toxic relationships or being let down by men who can’t commit, it’s time for a change. You don’t have to stay stuck in the belief that love isn’t real or that good men are gone. You deserve a man who sees your worth, and the way to attract him is by stepping fully into your feminine energy.
That’s what I teach. I help successful, high-value women remove the blocks that are keeping them from the love they deserve. We’ll work together to uncover the limiting beliefs and masculine energy that have kept you disconnected from the divine love you desire. Through our sessions, you’ll align with the energy of abundance, love, and ease—drawing in the kind of relationship you know deep down you deserve.
It’s time to stop settling for less. Let me help you manifest the love that’s waiting for you.
Why Your Relationships Keep Failing (And What You Can Do About It)
Unless you’re in a SOULMATE RELATIONSHIP where both partners appreciate the value of love, connection, chemistry, and the abundance that the relationship provides, it likely won’t last.
Now, you’ve spent 3 years in a 50/50 relationship and have to start all over again. Then, you go out and do it AGAIN and AGAIN, and each guy leaves you for another woman.
Think about it: you give your all for years in a relationship, only to find yourself back at square one, wondering why the cycle keeps repeating.
Women Want Love, But We Were Given the Wrong Instructions
From a young age, women are conditioned to believe that love is simple—get a boyfriend, give him everything, and live happily ever after. But that couldn’t be further from the truth.
The reality is, many women give their bodies, time, and hearts to men who aren’t ready for love. Especially young men, who are often more focused on discovering themselves and “sowing their wild oats” than building a committed, lasting relationship.
These men aren’t investing in you the way you invest in them. They’re still figuring themselves out, and you end up financially and emotionally drained while they move on to the next.
What You Really Want (And Deserve)
You want love that lasts—the kind where a man makes your life easier, provides for you, and shows up without hesitation. You don’t want to be stuck in relationships where you’re paying half the bills, giving daily sex, and calling it “monogamy.” That’s not love.
Women keep repeating the same mistake, giving everything to men who aren’t committed. They think being in a relationship means they’re winning, but true winning comes from being loved, respected, and provided for.
What High-Value Men Really Want
Quality men aren’t impressed by women who give everything for free. They want a high-value woman—someone who makes him earn access to her heart, mind, and body. A woman who knows her worth and makes him prove he’s worthy of her.
What Can You Do?
Stop settling for 50/50 relationships. Recognize your worth and demand more. The women winning in love are the ones who understand their feminine power and know how to vet men properly. They don’t give everything away to men who aren’t invested in them.
Change your mindset. Know that you deserve more—and demand it.
As women, the boundaries we set aren’t just for us. They’re for the people we love, the men in our lives, and even our children. When a woman lacks boundaries, she risks allowing others to overstep and violate her—whether it’s emotionally, physically, or energetically. And the ripple effect? It can endanger those around her.
Here’s what I mean:
💡 Without boundaries, a woman might allow harmful behavior into her life. Like an abusive man may abuse your kids, cause them to watch abuse or even put your kids at risk to find a weapon to protect you. Such a woman also puts men who care about her in a difficult position. Like her brother, or the new man she’s dating while still dealing with her toxic ex. They feel obligated to step in and protect you, sometimes even at their own risk. In essence, a woman without boundaries can unintentionally become a liability, inviting chaos into the lives of others.
Meanwhile she’s feeling prideful and joyful that someone is always running to her aide to protect her from the toxicity she allows into her life.
But here’s the good news: Boundaries are a form of love and protection. When a woman has strong boundaries:
She protects herself and her loved ones from toxic situations.
She creates a safe space for her relationships to grow in a healthy way.
She empowers men to respect her without feeling the need to “rescue” her.
Healthy boundaries are love. They create the foundation for balanced, respectful relationships, and they prevent unnecessary drama or danger from spilling over into the lives of others.
So, if you’re struggling with setting boundaries—or you’ve never thought about how important they are—I’m here to help you establish strong, healthy limits that protect both you and the people around you. 💖
If this resonates with you, and you’re ready to create empowered boundaries that elevate your life and your relationships, let’s talk! DM me or check out the link in my bio for more details on how we can work together.
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“We must know our worth, but lately empty women only ask and do not give. That is why they are old and single…”
Someone said this about Lisa Raye in response to a post about Lisa saying she will only date a man who can afford to pay all of her bills.
In a world where success is often measured by professional accomplishments and financial milestones, many accomplished, high-value women find themselves grappling with an unexpected and deeply personal challenge: remaining single. Despite their impressive achievements and deep inner qualities, they struggle to find lasting, fulfilling relationships. Here’s a closer look at why this may be the case and how these incredible women can shift their reality.
1. Misaligned Self-Worth and Relationship Expectations
High-achieving women often measure their worth through their professional accomplishments and financial success. While these are admirable, they can sometimes overshadow the importance of self-worth and emotional alignment in personal relationships. When we tie our value to external achievements, it’s easy to fall into the trap of feeling unworthy of genuine, nurturing love. This misalignment can lead to entering relationships where we either overcompensate or undervalue ourselves, leading to dissatisfaction.
Solution: Embrace and cultivate self-worth that is independent of external achievements. Focus on recognizing your inherent value and the love you deserve simply for being who you are, not just for what you’ve accomplished.
2. Operating in Masculine Energy
Many successful women operate predominantly in their masculine energy—driven, goal-oriented, and independent. While this energy is valuable in business, it can create a disconnect in romantic relationships where vulnerability, receptivity, and emotional openness are crucial. The imbalance can lead to attracting partners who either do not understand this energy or are unwilling to match it with their own.
Solution: Balance your masculine energy with nurturing, feminine qualities. Allow yourself to be vulnerable and receptive in your personal relationships. Embrace the qualities of softness, intuition, and emotional openness to create space for a partner who values and complements your essence.
3. Patterns of Over-Giving and Self-Sacrifice
For many successful women, giving their all in relationships has been a pattern—often to the detriment of their own needs and boundaries. This can result in relationships where they feel used, undervalued, or even abused. Over time, this pattern can create a significant emotional scar, making it harder to open up to new, healthy connections.
Solution: Set clear boundaries and prioritize your needs and desires. Learn to give from a place of abundance rather than scarcity, and ensure that your relationships are reciprocal and fulfilling. Embrace the idea that your needs are valid and should be honored.
4. Fear of Rejection and Vulnerability
Even the most successful women can harbor fears of rejection and vulnerability. These fears may stem from past experiences or societal conditioning. The fear of being judged or rejected can prevent them from fully engaging in new relationships or from expressing their true selves.
Solution: Work on embracing vulnerability as a strength rather than a weakness. Practice self-compassion and affirm your worthiness of love and connection. Remember, authentic connections are built on honesty and openness, which requires facing and overcoming fears.
5. Difficulty Finding Compatible Partners
Sometimes, the issue isn’t with the individual but with the lack of suitable partners. High-achieving women may struggle to find men who are equally successful, emotionally intelligent, and ready for a serious commitment. The disparity in relationship readiness or life goals can create obstacles in finding a compatible match. It gets even worse if a woman is introverted and doesn’t leave the house much.
Solution: Expand your social circles and engage in activities where you are likely to meet like-minded individuals. Consider working with a matchmaker or relationship coach who understands your unique needs and can help you navigate the dating world effectively.
6. Past Trauma and Emotional Baggage
Unresolved trauma and emotional baggage can significantly impact one’s ability to form healthy relationships. For many high-achieving women, past experiences of rejection, abandonment, or emotional hurt can create subconscious barriers to finding love.
Solution: Invest in personal healing and growth. Engage in therapeutic practices that address and release past traumas, and work on building a strong, positive self-image. Healing is a continuous journey, and addressing emotional baggage can pave the way for healthier and more fulfilling relationships.
Embrace Your True Self
Navigating the complexities of high achievement and personal fulfillment can be challenging, but it’s essential to recognize that love and relationships are a reflection of our inner state. By aligning with your true self, setting healthy boundaries, and embracing both your feminine and masculine energies, you create the space for meaningful connections to flourish.
Remember, your worth is intrinsic, and your desires are valid. With self-love, intentionality, and openness, you can manifest the love and partnership you dream of while continuing to thrive in every area of your life.
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The woman, Jailyn H., is now up 2,000 new Instagram followers and hasn’t said a word.
One commenter wrote, “Tamar tried to block her @ out, but we found it, and she is gorgeous. I see why she mad.”
Another person said, “I woulda cheated too.”
Someone else commented, “All Tamar did was bring traffic—and good positive traffic—to this young lady’s account 😂 we don’t give a damn what that man do, this young lady is playing it smart I’m sure 💪🏾❤️”
More responses:
Here is Tamar’s Youtube –
J.R.’S RESPONSE
J.R. responded saying he’s been single for 6-months and that he and Tamar are only friends. As to the 25-year old girl, J.R. says he only became “friends” with that girl 3 days ago and have never had a conversation with her at all.
Posting a video unpacking his side of events, Robinson first said:
“JR, just let it go – show some grace!”
Well, sometimes grace requires defending yourself. I’ve always been accountable for my failures and spoken out about why they impacted me and other people. I’m not going to let a false narrative attack me, my family and or the foundation I’ve worked so hard to protect. So, here is how I feel about the situation.”
In the video, JR says that Tamar is “making up stories that aren’t real” and reveals, “I’ve been single for 6 months.”
The latter appears at odds with the image the singer put forth about their union within the same frame.
“I can’t keep being thrown under the bus because someone can’t control their anxiety and can’t control the delusional thoughts about things that aren’t…real.
I’m tired of having to stay quiet and not defend myself. Mental health is real.”
Seemingly exasperated, JR stressed:
The madness started because J.R. says he used booking.com to book a hotel room at the 4 seasons and Tamar’s card that has the same last 4 numbers of his card was already in the account, which caused the booking to be charged to her card. He says he immediately called the hotel when he found out and they refunded Tay’s card and charged his card instead.
In the realm of relationships, finding a high-value man—someone who is successful, emotionally intelligent, and committed to mutual growth—can seem like a dream come true. Yet, it’s important to understand why certain women are especially well-suited for these remarkable men. It’s not just about finding the right partner; it’s about being the right partner who can truly thrive in a high-value relationship.
What Defines a High-Value Man?
Before delving into why some women are perfectly matched for high-value men, it’s essential to understand what makes a man high-value. Generally, a high-value man exhibits the following traits:
Success and Ambition: He is successful in his career or business, driven by a strong sense of purpose and ambition.
Emotional Intelligence: He possesses a deep understanding of his emotions and those of others, fostering meaningful and empathetic connections.
Integrity and Respect: He upholds high moral standards, treating others with respect and fairness.
Commitment to Growth: He is dedicated to personal development and mutual growth within the relationship.
Why Some Women Are Naturally Suited for a High-Value Man
They Embody High Self-Worth and Confidence
Women who are naturally drawn to high-value men often have a strong sense of self-worth and confidence. They recognize their own value and bring a sense of self-assuredness to the relationship. This confidence is magnetic to high-value men, who seek partners who are secure in themselves and their place in the world. Their self-assurance allows them to engage in a relationship with mutual respect and equality.
2. They Value Personal Growth and Success
High-value men appreciate partners who are committed to their own personal and professional growth. Women who actively pursue their goals, embrace personal development, and maintain a high level of ambition align well with high-value men. This shared commitment to growth fosters a dynamic relationship where both partners inspire and support each other’s aspirations.
3. They Possess Emotional Intelligence and Empathy
Emotional intelligence is a crucial trait for both partners in a high-value relationship. Women who can understand and manage their own emotions while empathizing with their partner’s feelings create a nurturing and supportive environment. High-value men value this emotional depth as it contributes to a strong, respectful, and emotionally fulfilling relationship.
4. They Are Aligned with Shared Values and Goals
Compatibility in values and long-term goals is vital for a successful relationship. Women who share similar values and visions for the future with high-value men are more likely to thrive together. This alignment ensures that both partners are working towards common objectives and supporting each other’s dreams, leading to a harmonious and fulfilling relationship.
5. They Demonstrate Independence and Balance
High-value men often seek partners who are independent and balanced, both emotionally and practically. Women who can maintain their own interests, friendships, and goals while nurturing a relationship bring a sense of balance and autonomy to the partnership. This independence allows for a healthier, more dynamic relationship where both partners contribute equally and maintain their personal identities.
6. They Embrace and Cultivate Feminine Qualities
Feminine qualities such as nurturing, compassion, and grace can complement the traits of a high-value man. Women who embrace their femininity and use it to enhance the relationship often find that their qualities align well with the high-value man’s attributes. This balance between masculine and feminine energies creates a harmonious and fulfilling dynamic.
Creating a High-Value Relationship
For women who naturally align with high-value men, the relationship becomes a source of mutual growth, support, and enrichment. These women often bring qualities that enhance and elevate the partnership, creating a space where both individuals can thrive. It’s important for both partners to actively nurture their connection, respect each other’s values, and support each other’s ambitions.
If you find yourself resonating with these traits and are drawn to a high-value man, embrace the qualities that make you a great match. Continue to cultivate your own growth, confidence, and emotional intelligence, and you’ll find that your relationship with a high-value man will be both fulfilling and transformative.
Dating these days is like survival of the fittest. A woman must be physically, emotionally and energetically fit in order to hold the capacity to receive the kind of man she wants.
There are be a variety of reasons why a rich, powerful, successful woman may find herself constantly getting rejected by men.
Some of those reasons could be:
Physical Attraction Preferences: While society’s standards of beauty are diverse and subjective, some men may have preferences that differ from your physical appearance. Weight can be a factor for some individuals, but it’s essential to remember that attraction is highly personal.
Intimidation Factor: Your success, power, and wealth might intimidate some men. They may feel insecure or believe he won’t measure up to your achievements, leading him to experience feelings of inadequacy.
Compatibility: Attraction goes beyond physical appearance and success. Compatibility in terms of personality, interests, values, and life goals plays a significant role in relationship dynamics. Men might be rejecting you if they feel a lack of compatibility in these areas.
Self-Perception vs. External Perception: For many successful women, there is indeed a disconnect between how you perceive yourself as feminine, attractive and a great catch, vs how men actually view you. This can happen if there are differences in understanding or expressing femininity, attractiveness and what one perceives as being a good mate.
Relationship Dynamics: Power dynamics in relationships can be tricky. Some men might prefer a more balanced power dynamic, and your level of success and power could disrupt what they envision for a partnership.
Past Experiences and Preferences: Men’s past relationships and their personal preferences influence their current choices. Some may have had negative experiences dating successful women, beautiful women, or might simply prefer different personality traits or lifestyles.
Social and Cultural Norms: Societal and cultural norms can impact dating preferences. In some cultures, traditional gender roles are more rigid, and a powerful, successful woman might challenge these roles, leading to discomfort or rejection from some men.
Emotional Availability: Sometimes, successful individuals may struggle with emotional availability due to demanding careers or other factors. Men might sense this and opt for partners who they perceive as more emotionally accessible. A majority of successful women have a habit of expressing opinions more than they do feelings that elicit emotional connection in a man.
Personal Insecurities: Everyone has insecurities, and her weight or age might be factors that contribute to how men perceive her. It’s also possible that her confidence and success highlight their own insecurities, making them less likely to pursue a relationship.
Chemistry and Connection: Ultimately, chemistry and connection are crucial in any relationship. It’s possible that the men she is dating simply don’t feel that spark, regardless of her many positive attributes.
It’s important to find someone who appreciates you for who you are, both inside and out. Understanding these factors can help you navigate the dating world more effectively, focusing on finding a partner who values your complete self.
Finding Love as a Successful Woman: A Journey to Authentic Connections
As a powerful, rich, and successful woman, navigating the dating world can sometimes feel like a daunting challenge. Despite your confidence, femininity, and attractiveness, finding the right partner who appreciates you for who you are might seem elusive. But don’t worry, you’re not alone in this journey, and there are ways to enhance your chances of finding that special someone who values every aspect of you.
Embrace Self-Reflection and Awareness
Identify Core Values and Goals: Start by clarifying what you truly want in a partner and a relationship. Understanding your own needs and desires helps in identifying compatible partners who share similar values and goals.
Embrace Authenticity: Always be true to yourself. Authenticity attracts people who are genuinely interested in you for who you are, not just your accomplishments.
Enhance Your Personal Confidence
Focus on Self-Care: Maintain a healthy lifestyle not only for physical appearance but for overall well-being. Feeling good about yourself boosts confidence and attractiveness.
Celebrate Your Achievements: Embrace and celebrate your success. Use your achievements as a point of pride and let them shine as part of your unique story.
Expand Your Social Circles
Join Interest-Based Groups: Engage in activities and join groups that align with your interests. This increases your chances of meeting like-minded individuals who share your passions.
Network in Varied Settings: Attend events, seminars, and social gatherings outside your usual circles. This helps in meeting diverse individuals and expanding your social network.
Consider Professional Help
Therapy or Coaching: Seeking guidance from a therapist or a relationship coach can help address any underlying issues and develop effective dating strategies.
Image Consulting: If you feel your appearance might be a factor, consider consulting with an image or style expert. They can provide tips to enhance your presentation and boost your confidence.
Refine Your Online Dating Approach
Profile Optimization: Create a dating profile that highlights your personality, interests, and values. Showcase more than just your success and wealth to attract genuine connections.
Targeted Platforms: Use dating platforms that cater to professionals or people with specific interests. This increases the likelihood of meeting compatible partners who value the same things you do.
Practice Patience and Resilience
Manage Expectations: Understand that finding the right partner takes time. Stay positive and patient throughout the process, knowing that the right person is out there.
Learn from Experiences: Reflect on past dating experiences to identify patterns and learn what works and what doesn’t. Each experience is a step closer to finding the right match.
Seek Mutual Respect and Compatibility
Balance Power Dynamics: Look for partners who are comfortable with your success and see it as a positive attribute rather than a threat. Mutual respect is key to a healthy relationship.
Prioritize Emotional Connection: Focus on building emotional intimacy and connection. These elements are crucial for long-term compatibility and a fulfilling relationship.
Be Open to Feedback
Listen to Trusted Friends: Get feedback from friends who know you well and can provide honest insights about your dating approach. They might help you see things from a different perspective.
Adjust Approaches: Be willing to make adjustments based on constructive feedback and new experiences. Flexibility can lead to better results in your dating journey.
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