When I hear people talk about love and they are not my clients, I say nothing. But what I noticed is that even the kindest people don’t truly know what love is. For they’ve never experienced it.
But to my boss chicks. Let me tell you something. ANY man who is willing to standby, and watch you struggle DOES NOT love you the way a King would love you. We stand by these feminine men and feel sorry for them, that they can’t be the man God called them to be and provide. We look at them with sympathy, instead of empathy. So you build the business, become the mind, call in lots of money, and end up taking care of a man. Providing for him almost the same way you would your kids.
A King would get 5 jobs just to take care of you. But you as a boss chick are encoded to feel like you can do it on your own. You feel like you MUST do it on your own and that there are no other options. You operate in so much masculine energy that men don’t feel the need to take care of you. Men look at you like “You got this!” Instead of “Here babygirl. I believe in you. Let me help you get there.”
Therefore you’ve never felt what it actually feels like to be treated like a real Queen, who is pampered, adored, feels safe, has a man serving you on hand and foot, wanting to do everything for you, KNOWING that you are taken care of and that your needs will always be met by him. You don’t know how it feels to have a King who proudly pays ALL of the bills, while you do whatever it is that you please. You don’t know what it feels like to have a man who PROVIDES for you.
And he doesn’t know what it feels like to truly be served and worshipped as King, because you have no time to cater to him in such a way, cause he has never shown up as a divine King in your life. He’s been nothing more than a woman in a male body who has rooted you on with kinds words. You did all of the heavy lifting to build your 6-7 figure business.
So it’s no surprise that a lot of relationships are breaking up, because the woman is getting money and waking up. Her consciousness is increasing. She’s becoming tired of working in the masculine all the time. She looks at her man and realizes he operates mostly in feminine energy. It’s a backwards relationship. Totally not divine. She can not access her feminine royal templates in such a relationship.
People talk about how hard relationships are. But they are not. Yes, you may have some rough patches and some things to get through, but love with a soulmate continues to grow and grow. You actually do feel like you need that person because they fulfill your soul. When you feel you can do without your mate, when you feel “there has to be more” elsewhere, it’s time to reflect. It’s time to reset the relationship. It’s time to reconnect or move on. LOYALTY keeps so many people in the wrong karmic relationship.
It’s interesting how society beautifies “struggle love.” Meanwhile most good-hearted women wouldn’t even want a man to struggle and suffer with her. Which is why she gets up off her azz and makes things happen. So why can’t he?
That’s fine for some women. But other women are born to be King worshippers. You know you were born to be a King worshipper because you are so good at getting your own money. Your mind was equipped to help a King build his empire. But you believed that you had to use your hands, instead of your feminine essence. So now you find yourself married or in a relationship unsubmitted.
When a woman truly loves a man who is KING, she submits to him and serves him in a way that fulfills the very essence of his soul. He feels complete with you. You are one. You become his comfort. Not his PROVIDER. Do you realize you’re so damn strong that you make men feel safe, because he knows “You got this!” He knows bills will get paid, because of you. Struggle together love is a karmic relationship, to learn lessons. It has no permanence in this universe. When you get two people who are incomplete (not whole) because they don’t know who they are and what they truly want, you get in a karmic relationship that eventually has to end.
People really fall into these “Oh. Our relationship sucks, we’ve been through much. But we’ve stuck by each other’s side relationships.” Those relationships are 3D. 5D relationships are expansive. It’s like a smooth game of ping pong. Sometimes the ball won’t connect to the paddle and you gotta dig deep to find out why. Once you figure it out GROWTH happens, then you get rewarded with a deeper love.
Always remember that true, divine love is expansive. It gets deeper and better over time.
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There’s a whole world out there. Yet sometimes people get caught looking at the ant in from of theI’m such a Goddess that I don’t feel rejected by anyone. I’ve never been dumped. I’m just that phucking dope! I’m sure there was a time I was rejected. In fact there was. But I’ve learned to see things different since then.
People literally walk this earth and reject God. You’re just his child, so why would you be bothered by anyone rejecting you? After all, they rejected Jesus too.
Did you really want to be with a fool? The soul of a fool can’t grow and expand you. Only hinder you.
You gotta learn to love yourself and love who loves you, and pick from that bunch. Inside that bunch you’ll also find the one you love.
To control the bunch, you simply match the energy of what it is you seek, and you will then attract it. Then there you go with an entire field of succulent grapes. You can now make all kinds of fine wines anytime you want to. But guess what? You’re going to have a favorite. THAT is the one you want.
Do the work God sent you here to do. Then your options will be so plentiful, you’ll easily be able to pick out what it is you seek.
You never had to settle for less. You never had to chase those who reject you. They are not rejecting you at all. They are simply saying “Hello. I CAN NOT SEE YOU.”
Then you’re supposed to say “Okay. Thanks for letting me know. I really appreciate that. We could’ve had something beautiful. I wanted to be with you and build a life with you. I understand we are not aligned.” Then even though it hurts, you move on.
And you know what else. It always gets better. It always gets greater later. Eventually you’ll find the love you deserve. Eventually you’ll attract the one who wants you just as much as you want them.
We make these things so difficult as humans. But it’s really that simple. Everything else is just extra.
So again, you gotta do what’s in your heart with someone else. It will be okay. You’re going to experience a love deeper and greater than anything you’ve ever felt. And the former pain and rejection makes you appreciate it so much more.
For God is love, and his love for you will never leave you incomplete or unfinished. He always finishes what he starts on a good note.
So it is he that gave you the vision in your head. And it is he who has to do the work of deliverance on his promises. God can not lie. If you ask, you shall receive. Tell him to run you your mate, cause you’re tried of playing games with these lames.
Instead of moving on from people who obviously can’t see us. We focus on that little pinch of light, thinking we can change people. Thinking we can shift their perspective and help them see us. You want them to see because you think they deserve you. Which they don’t. For if THEY thought they deserved YOU. They would do the work to keep up with you. Or at the least they would be nice to you, and appreciate you for all that you do. Because you most certainly put your money where your mouth is and go above and beyond just kind words. Those same kind words that are music to their ears when it comes from someone else.
Narcissists live in their own fears. You try to pull them out. But that’s not what they want. They want to be SAFE. Safe doing things their way, which is usually the unrighteous way. Not that you’re super righteous yourself, but you do try and intend to do right by people. I mean you truly do, do the best you can.
So maybe it’s time for you to look in the mirror. Look deep into your soul. Take note of your heart. Factor in the kind of person you are, and just how awesome you are to your mate. Now tell me what do YOU deserve. Don’t you think that it is YOU who deserves an amazing mate?
Yes. I believe so. I believe you have arrived. #LevelUp
We give our hearts to people so easily, and allow them to break us. Why do we do such things, knowing that our heart is our living force? Perhaps we know the best way to strengthen your heart is to love.
Women who’ve suffered from abusive relationships need intense healing. I mean intense. Especially the more stronger ones who aren’t crying. Aren’t calling themselves a victim. We are the ones who don’t care to go to counseling to get help. We hate even talking about the abuse other than a small peep. We feel we are strong and have gotten over it and moved on.
We are fine, mostly. Yet we’re triggered by things we write off as no big deal. Like how when I was with a previous mate, and he would come home, I would hear the garage door sliding up. Everything was fine as long as he immediately came in the house. But every once in a while he would sit in the garage talking on the phone. That should be absolutely no big deal.
But each time, all of a sudden I would feel pain pursing through my veins. I’d feel panic and FEAR. I would suddenly feel a ping of rage. WHY? Because it would trigger my memory of a previous relationship where I was abused. Back then the sound of my garage door sliding up was oftentimes a period of “OMG. Here he comes.” It’s not all the time that he was abusive. But the times he was were deeply embedded into my pain body. There was a time that i remember locking the door that lead from the garage into the home. He kicked the door in. There was a time that I locked myself in my bedroom. He kicked that door in too. There was a time that the first time he hit me, I politely waited until he went to sleep. Slid my keys off his keychain, and hopped a flight back to Vegas. I left him in that city thinking I was free of him. But what did he do? He kicked my front door in. It was painful to be abused by someone who is supposed to be your best friend and claims to love you. Even worse, I remember wondering how could a man hit me, knowing how much I loved him? How do you intentionally and with full will hurt such a person? All of the drama that came with him was so embarrassing at the time. I only escaped that relationship by packing up my stuff, throwing it in storage and going homeless. I prayed to be free of the love I had for him. Once it let up a little, I left. I cried every day for probably a year after that.
I was broken, but fighting to survive. Fighting to find myself. Running away from men who wanted access to my body or my heart, whom I would never love. Eventually I figured it out and started making 6 figures from a blog. They say success is always the best revenge. It is for a little while….
A little while until you wake up one day and realize your trauma is stopping you from getting what you really want. Trauma is something I had become all too familiar with. I was born in the projects, fought the boys and the girls in the neighborhood. Got disciplined with belts and switches. When I was a pregnant teen girl my son’s father had me on the ground in front of his parent’s house. He hit me and took the shoes he bought me off my feet. Yup. That’s what a preacher’s son did to me. But I’m supposed to tell myself that I caused all of these things and all of these people to do the things they did to me. I’ve always had a heart of gold, but people did things to me. People who eventually I learned to escape and stay away from due to elevation of my frequency and laying it all down to follow God.
It’s so weird how easy abusive relationships happen. There is always a feeling or a sign, yet there is always synchronicities that make it feel like the person is the right one for you. The connections are intense. You would literally have to walk away without exploring “What If?”
I firmly believe that if God wanted me to have a better man at the time, he would’ve sent me one. Some things in our lives are destined to happen. Maybe we did choose BEFORE we came to earth. But I know for sure, for sure that I didn’t consciously choose such events. However I am aware that I did subconsciously choose them.
I wanted a certain type of man, and my abusive ex was that kind of man. I should’ve been more specific. But that’s also a learning lesson about the law of attraction and asking for exactly what you want. We always get what awe want.
Anyway, I don’t write some of my painful truths, because I didn’t want anyone to feel sorry for me. I found my strength and I’m protected by the armor of God. So I always believe that I will be okay. Rarely do I take time to cry or really accept what happened to me. I just get back up and keep right on going like the energizer bunny. I buried the pain deep inside of me.
But then it pops back up when a strong man shows up. You realize there’s a problem cause you know this particular man definitely isn’t trying to hurt you. So you know to go within. The pain was always there lingering underneath. And I did not feel safe with men. I felt so unsafe with men, that I only allowed my male friends around me, and even that was rare.
I spent 3 hours yesterday sitting in the silence healing myself of the past memories. Releasing them, and releasing the pain inside of me that went along with them. I’ll do more hours of healing today. To watch myself and see me shedding my pain…. I became proud of myself and my own will.
Despite it all, I still maintain my love for love. Because of my experiences, I know what women on all realms go through. I can’t be all light and love and pretend I don’t know or ignore the things I know, I often think. Or used to think. While I’ve spent my life searching high and low for answers, others are not like me.
People stay in the chaos. They don’t get ready for change until they are ready. When they are ready they awaken and seek out better relationships.
Therefore I’ve learned that YES. I should stay in love and light. They will find me, and because I too have experienced what they have, I can help them heal faster. I can help them attract the amazing kind of men I now attract.
My life is composed of miracle after miracle being delivered to me. My mind is strong. It always delivers me victory eventually. My heart is brave and beautiful. I always allow it to lead me. Even some of my most painful heartbreaks were some of my most beautiful experiences. I still experienced love deep than the average human has ever felt. 5D Love is in my soul. I’m a light that finally found her way into the light.
Now I seek sane, organic, sensual, intoxicating, deeply spiritual, orgasmic healing, mind blowing, soul transforming, enlightening, ascending, cosmic, eternal love.
I laugh because most people will take just anyone. People ask me why I’m single, when it’s obvious that I can get a man. I can get a man to marry me and take care of me at anytime.
But that’s never what any of this is all about. It’s about love, and finding your equal. Can you imagine being loved the same way you love? That would be so amazing right? That’s the kind of love you deserve. It requires you not settling for less than a royal soulmate. It requires sacred, divine union.
You can never get caught up in society, dating people merely cause they fit what you wrote on a piece of paper. 😂 I mean the paper list is cool to remind YOU of what you want. It’s awesome to have someone who is affluent or rich. It’s even good to have a super cute, super sexy mate. But deep down it’s not even about all of that. It’s about love. The materials and the other items are simply a reflection of your frequency. If you came here to get everything you came here for and they also came here to get everything they came here for, then of course you’ll both be rich. Like duh. If you’re obsessed with reading and learning, so are they…. How much tv do you watch? Probably not much. I rarely ever turn the tv on. My King probably doesn’t either. We’re focused. Becoming even more richer together it’s easily done. So see after you get the yoke out the way and see that it’s equal, cause like attracts like, you then only have the energetic connection to focus on. That’s where all of the true excitement lies. It’s in the connection to the heart. A place where you can both make space to drop in.
Imagine you and your mate being surrounded by this beautiful, brilliant pink and white energy field where you’re so connected you can hear them think. Imagine being so filled by this light permeating into your cells and filling you with absolute love and divine peace. Imagine your soul finally feeling the freedom that it seeks. Meanwhile another day you’re looking out the window at the neighbors cheating, sneaking around, causing drama in their life and there you are being open and honest, experiencing the most deepest love. You’re having sex so good it takes you to Heaven. Being in a room with them and suddenly the rest of the world no longer exists outside of the both of you. Real love is the greatest magic you’ve ever felt.
This type of love is worth every bit of healing. It’s worth you letting go of the past. It’s worth you letting the tears flow, and release the pain from you.
It’s time you lower your pain body, feel free to take up space, expand, and let go of the past. It no longer serves you. Let the old you go. They have to die.
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The only reason you’re still tripping over your ex, is because you haven’t found “The One.”
When you find “The One,” or even another soulmate who appears to be “The One,” mostly cause they treat you so well, everything begins to make sense to you. The connection is so strong you quickly begin to see why your last relationship had to end. You see that mate did not fit into the overall divined purpose for your life. It’s not always easy to understand, but you do see how they weren’t meant for you.
You now PREFER what’s in front of you or would like the equivalent of it or better. Because it’s faster, smarter, and better in many ways.
If you don’t feel this way, and you’re currently in a relationship, lets take a second to tell yourself the truth. You’re not truly in love. You settled AGAIN.
Yesterday I was talking to someone and they said “See, that is why you’re such and such years old and you’re still not married.” 🙄
I took the comment in. I said nothing. I simply noted how many women around the world feel that their worth and only validation in the world is to have a husband.
LOL. I guess I could also panic like other women like “OMG. I’m single!” But nope! Trust God. I trust God enough to be okay with the dating break that I took. I learned A LOT, healed lots, and attracted men who nourish me. The person who said it to me has no idea of the caliber of men in my circumference, or that I’ve had two men wanting to marry me for months.
Getting married is the easiest thing in the world to do. I could get married next week if I wanted to and have a man who will take care of me. It will secure another bag, but what about my heart? What about their heart? Yet many a woman finds herself married seeking social validation or rest from having to protect and provide for herself. LOVE is nowhere in the picture.
God equipped me something powerful and the ability to get my own bag. I will go for no less than love under any circumstances. The only thing I identify with is pure love.
So a few seconds later, I thought to myself “LOL. You will see. I will get my King. I will get my Dream Life. It’s already happening. I am getting everything I ever wanted.” I came to earth to be love and experience an expansion of love.
I also know my worth and my value. When I didn’t know my worth and value I wound up in an abusive relationship, that sent me down the wrong path, and so many other things, that only add to this story of mine that will someday play on the movie screen.
Anyway, here is where you come in. You’re a beautiful woman, a gifted soul, you’re warm, you’re loving, you’re kind, you’re giving, you’re super sexy, and you’re brilliant. You seek to be the best wife in the world. But when you finally meet “The Guy” you begin to question your own worth. Your start focusing more on him than you focus on yourself. You give into his every beck and whim because you want to please him and keep him. You want him to pick you.
This is the experience most men give to women while dating. They don’t give you with romance and fun. Sometimes they are playing games. Sometimes they are trying to get you to submit the best way they know how. He wants you to like him for him. So such men mostly focus on themselves, and fail to provide romance for a woman. Men lead… You want a man who leads you into a loving relationship where you’re actually important to him. Otherwise, at some point, after you’ve learned your lessons, faced your dark shadows, after being triggered over and over again, and came to an understanding, you may want to opt out of that. You focusing on a man who doesn’t honor and provide for you, takes up space that your King could have.
It’s important for a woman to know that your true King, your one true love, values you. You are a prize to him. So when a man tries to make you feel like he’s the prize and anything he does for you is a burden on him, you’re going to feel heavy. You’re going to feel pain. You are going to realize that you are not being honored. Most times it’s because you are not honoring yourself.
Regardless, you can’t do anything with a man who doesn’t honor you. If you’re not his dream woman, even though he’s sooooo close, and he seems like he really could be the one, his mind, eyes, heart and spirit must honor you. You’re going to be unable to fully submit until you meet such a man.
When a man isn’t fully honoring you, you gotta opt out. The dating stage is only for you to see if this man is going to protect, provide, nourish and honor you. I want you to think about you. You’re going to be an amazing wife and do what it takes to keep your relationship beautiful. That part is covered. What about you? What are your needs? What are your desires? How does a man treat you that makes you feel good inside? How much love are you pouring into yourself on a daily basis?
Anyway, watch the video below. I really like the first half of it. It says most of what I usually say.
Most men will treat you basic… But remember that he will be impressed with some woman. THAT is the woman for him. A man is NOT the one for you, unless he’s impressed with you. The process of him laying eyes on you to falling for you, takes 6 months or less.
After that he’s simply dating multiple women, getting bored and coming back to you, because you’re still there and you will do. Even if he suddenly says you will do, that isn’t the deep love connection you seek. It’s a basic relationship. What your soul seeks is a beautiful relationship with a divine King…. The one who was meant specifically for you.
So many men will literally take almost any woman. Especially when he’s not on his purpose. Such a man doesn’t hold a very high value of himself. He will take the “will do for now woman,” until he improves his life and starts to see himself in a better light. Then suddenly he will awaken and realize that he can do better. He is better and feels better, so now he has the confidence and finances to get a better woman.
One of the best things a woman can do for herself when she meets a man, is to listen to him, and analyze how he feels about himself. See where he plans on being 5-years from now. Look at what he’s doing right now. Will he fit into your life later? Will you fit into his? Is he including you in his FUTURE plans?
Everyone changes over the years, but there is no injustice like a man who can’t see himself, who is helped up by a boss chick, and suddenly sees the light. At times he almost can’t even deal with himself, seeing how he had to be dragged into prosperity, by a woman. He’ll be disgusted at his own lack of strength, and flee from her. You’ll find him over to the arms of another woman, who never saw the old, weak, dark version of him. She sees him as the man he is now. Chances are she’s not a boss chick, but she wants to be one.
When you look at a man’s future, really weigh out if he’s worth the investment of your mind, body and soul; in addition to the sacrifice of your time. Time that you’ll never get back.
Women sacrifice a lot for men. Take note of how you fit into his life. Even if he is worth it, or worth the wait, you’re a Queen, there really is no need to wait. A line full of men want you. Their energy is most certainly better than a confused man’s energy. Confused men drain you of your energy and will have you just as confused. Truthfully men are simple. They weren’t aren’t confused. If he wants to be with you he’ll commit to you. If not he’s out dating behind your back, waiting to meet the right one.
As women, It’s important that you put yourself and your needs first. When you are with your King, you are automatically going to please him. That’s not even a factor when you’re a dream woman. What you need is to factor in what is he doing for you.
No matter what you think, a man spends his time and money on a woman he’s into. He consistently communicates with her. He will always keep his eye on you, even if from a slight distance. A man who has found his Queen, DOES things to show her that he is worthy and deserving of her love. If you’re chasing him, and having to convince him, it’s time to back up a bit, and open space for a new man.
No matter what you think, a man vigorously pursues a woman when he’s found the one. WHY? Because he’s been searching already and grown tired. He’s relieved when he finally finds the one or happens to unexpectedly come across a woman who suddenly make his heart beat. Of course he’s not going to let her slip by. Of course he’s not going to leave you on the side idle, so other men can woo you. Men are competitive Sis. He is going to go for his! Trust that. 😂 No amount of intimidation will stop him. If he wants you, he’s going to send the other men you’re dating, packing.
As women we often create these fantasies in our heads with men, without taking into account how he’s treating you.
When we see a man we want, suddenly we’re like praying for a miracle.
I can just hear a comedian on stage now talking about: “B*tches love miracles.” 😂
Time is of the essence in dating and relationships. You must know how long you’re willing to be on the ride. Get on the ride. Enjoy it. Have fun. Try it out. Learn something new about yourself. Get more healing. Learn how to love more. Appreciate the lessons they are teaching you.
But when the last minute hits and he hasn’t made the proper move towards you, you gotta let that go. Do not restart the clock for him. At that point it’s engagement ring or better. You’ve already given him a chance to decide. Opening up space more for an indecisive man, is more time you’re going to go being treated as less than a Queen. (May be a sign of your own indecisiveness in other areas of your life.)
Being treated as less than does not feel good. It irritates a Queen’s soul.
She wants to run. So if you put up with it for too long, it’s often a blaring sign of needing more self love. It’s a sign that you need tighter boundaries on your own patience and empathy…. (Empaths tend to put others first because you understand them and the reasons they may be doing things or acting a certain way. You want to give everyone a fair chance. Your mind will literally keep coming up with legit reasons why someone isn’t treating you the way you desire. Opt out, and go back to Plan A. Calling In Your King. You did not set out to call in a Prince who has you waiting. )
If you are playing the game of WAITING TO BE PICKED, know that you’re doing it for a purpose and note that purpose. Just don’t forget about the clock. When you drop an indecisive man, this frees up time for you to pour more love into yourself. (An indecisive man doesn’t necessarily mean you don’t love yourself, but it does mean you’ve let the clock go too long.) An indecisive man will have you in pick me energy. A high value, healed woman will become disinterested with a man who doesn’t chase properly. Inconsistency also makes a high value woman bored with men. His presence will prove to be less pleasurable than that of other gentlemen. He’s not even entertaining to her, because she’s seen this behavior too many times before.
A man who does not treat you like a Queen, will cause you to feel less then after a while. He’ll confuse you, and eventually bore you. Understand that men don’t have ticking clocks, because they see beautiful women everywhere. In their mind there is always the next one, and the next one, and the next one. It’s how they stay on the dating merry-go-round. A woman has to know when to get off. A man may be 55-years-old before he finally arrives at the point where he DECIDES he’s looking for a wife. So either he wants a wife and you’re it, or you’re not. That breaks it down to the simplest format.
It doesn’t matter what he wants. It’s about what you want. You want a man who fully loves you and adores you. You absolutely do not want the man who can take you or leave you. You want the one who can’t live without you.
When you’re in a relationship with a man who adores you, it’s so much fun. They take you places. They love to show you off. They’re affectionate. They say beautiful things to you that connect deeply to your heart. They love to surprise you. They love to protect you. He loves to treat you like a Queen. You will wonder where has he been all of your life. It feels so good when you’re with a man who pours his heart and soul into you. You can see his love for you in his eyes. They sparkle. He becomes so happy to serve you and do for you. Sometimes he tells himself that he would do anything for you. He literally looks forward to spending the rest of his life with you.
When you see other women in relationships looking tired, drained, and can barely get up in the morning, it’s because they committed to a man who didn’t have the divine King codes to her soul. The man for you knows you, because you are of him. He shows up ready to step to the plate. He knows how to make you happy. (Yes, you are responsible for your own happiness. but if you’re with a man who doesn’t make you happy, you’re in a basic relationship. Good Men make their woman happy. Stop listening to society and being in denial.) It’s his hearts desire. If not you’re simply entertaining another woman’s man, until the real Queen of his heart shows up.
What I’m really telling you is that when a man is the one for you, he doesn’t make you feel insecure. The man for you comes to grow and prosper you. If we really kept things that simple, a lot of men would be eliminated from the jump. Which is why gold diggers win. They only deal with men who provide and put energy into them.
Other women wear their hearts on their sleeves, sit there patient, hoping to get picked. That’s not how this goes. YOU pick the man because he delights you. Not the other way around.
But hey, women are hard headed and silly sometimes. We don’t listen to advice, we don’t listen to our intuition, and we often have an incessant need to just forge ahead and TRY… But love isn’t that hard. It’s “I love you and you love me.” It’s chemistry. It’s predestined before meeting. Then people decide to stay in love. You can’t force a love connection if it simply isn’t there. That’s what this all boils down to. A man is going to love the woman he loves. That woman may or may not be you.
Your time is just as valuable as his. No, you don’t have all day. None of us have forever in our bodies. A ticking clock is you valuing and respecting yourself. It’s you continuing to go in the right direction and not getting off your path.
Keeping a list of the qualities you seek in a man, serve to remind you when you’re on the right track or when you’re headed towards settling for less. The man for you may not check off perfectly with the list, but he will check off on the part of the list that says “Loves me and treats me like a Queen.”
A man does not seek love. He seeks to be understood.
I don’t think the average man is meant to be loved. From all of my testing, and research, the men you put the most EFFORT into, hate you, dislike you, fear you, have doubts about you and call you toxic.
But who did those men ABSOLUTELY LOVE? The women who put in the least effort, and mostly said kind WORDS.
I am coming to the conclusion that the average man’s love language is kind words, cooking, a clean home, believing in him and sex. He does not want you yelling at him, saying bad things about him, wanting to change him, or being disappointed in him. To actually LOVE him isn’t a requirement. Without love your emotional responses to him will be more balanced. Therefore you’re rather detached from anything other than the results you want to receive from him. Therefore he will perceive all of that as unconditional love. You don’t care what he does, as long as he gives you what you want. You don’t need to care about his health or anything else. As long as you continue to say kind words, he will FEEL loved.
Men seem to get a lot done in such relationships, because he’s always trying to prove himself and get better and better.
To back this up, the guy who likes you and you may be in a relationship with him, he doesn’t click like on your photos online. But when the next hot girl who he’s never even met or talks to posts, he immediately clicks like.
WHY? Because she isn’t thinking about him. Therefore she is more valuable to him than you are. To the next man, your hot photo is more valuable to him than his wife’s photo. But that doesn’t make sense, so you’ll try to talk yourself out of believing that truth.
I’m not saying that all men are like this, but I believe a great deal of them to be.
Men don’t pick women based upon how much she loves him. He picks based upon the WORDS she says. Men are really simple. Thoughts?
