by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 21, 2019 |
Relationships can be really easy, but they are hard work due to lots of things. The #1 thing that makes relationships difficult between compatible people is lack of intimate communication. For people whose main communication is done through texting, all hell is bound to break loose. Texting will simply confuse you and drive you crazy in the midst of trying to figure out exactly what’s going on between you.
When it comes to texting, people are pretty distant, lots of miscommunication happens and relationships often get ruined before they even start. So let’s explore the 5 reasons why text messages ruin relationships.
Relationship Killer #1: The need for attention
Social media has everyone quite used to getting attention. People these days demand a like or two, and if you’re not an iPhone owner you can’t click like on text messages. 🤣 Okay let’s continue. This is not a hate on Android post. So with this constant need for validation and attention a smart phone is now a gadget to get more attention. With the fact that important people only give other people who they presume are important their phone number, we assume that we now can have people’s attention at any given time. And while this may indeed be true, for a few people. Most busy people ain’t going. Some people will respond to your message right away, others not so much. Which makes the person who would usually respond fast, learn to also not respond fast. So texting becomes more about not responding too fast, instead of having authentic communication. The person most committed to making the relationship work is usually the one that responds the fastest. Meanwhile the other if often just testing the water. It’s also humanly impossible to sustain all your interpersonal relationships in a healthy manner at this speed of everyone hitting you up expecting instant attention. So this becomes the basis upon which the miscommunication is built and disconnection prevails.
Stage 2: Feeling left out
When most of your relationship or friendships are built around text messaging conversations, you tend to feel left out or isolated when you don’t spend as much in person time as you would subconsciously like with that said person. Some people would label this desire as clinginess and others would label it a desire to develop a deeper soul connection. People who would view it as clinginess tend to be the people who don’t realize they are not quite connecting to others in the way they desire. They don’t notice the feeling of distance that’s mounting. At other times people actually are a bit clingy. This is when the second level of feeling incompatible starts to seep in. This is not to say that everyone has suddenly become stalker level obsessive, but we do expect more from texting than we often get from it.
Stage 3: You are glued to your phone
These days everyone’s cellphone stays in their hands or near them. People will ignore your texts, while constantly making social media updates. So when a person says they are ‘busy.’ It’s usually a bold face lie, which causes distrust, makes a person feel like the other person is disinterested, and creates more disconnection. People totally have a right to ignore you, and continue to make status updates. The person being ignored also has the right to move on to the next person who pays them adequate attention. So now more competition is created when the ignored because was initially more than excited to only communicate with that one person. Being ignored often signals to a person that they are not being liked or appreciate and that it’s time to move on. At least that’s what sane people do. By the time the person doing the ignoring decides to even show emotion or start responding back in a timely manner, the connection is already so ruined that the formerly ignored person doubts if the connection was even real to begin with.
Most times people think they are playing “hard to get.” But what they were really doing is playing “hard to like.” At other times people feel the need to be in constant communication with their boyfriend or girlfriend. This can put a strain on some relationships, as texting robs of the quality time that could be spent face-to-face. By the time you get in person, there is not much to say. At other times one mate feels not cared enough for, so they start outside conversations with someone of the opposite sex who has ample time for them. The conversations are usually done in secrecy, so when the ignorer finds out they feel betrayed or feel their mate is “needy.” This can make one person feel like they can’t meet the others needs, and the other person feel like they are not good enough. Those expectations lead to misunderstandings and disappointment at the end.
Stage 4: Not intimate enough
Our phones get the best of us because we are fooling ourselves into believing that they make us closer. That is not true in the slightest. It’s actually quite the opposite. Texting more often than not takes away from the natural way we typically tend to converse with each other. All of a sudden it has come down to pondering about why the certain person is not responding right away, why is he/she using THAT emoji and why did he/she put communication to a full stop, and wonder why they aren’t responding fast enough. Then it’s, are they mad at me? Then panic sets in, causing more distance, and more space for them to start communication with someone new who may be more interested and more attentive. Because of this, we get the sense that we do not get along with that person well, we start wondering why we have issues. Namely, because it does not feel intimate enough. Especially if the ignorer fails to use caring words in the conversation the evoke emotions of love, like or gratitude.
Stage 5: Heated arguments over text
With all the predispositions mentioned above, one could tell that an argument over text would be a total catastrophe. It obviously depends on the people involved, however, miscommunication does occur without a doubt. The funny thing is that people could start an argument from the most trivial or unimportant things. Something that might not even be considered a problem or inconvenience now becomes the reason for World War III to explode in your face. The most common triggers are the use of specific wording or phrases that are taken out of context and people ‘picturing’ in their head how something is said (the tone of voice!). Due to those factors, people tend to get more aggressive and unnecessarily offensive and defensive.
If no one picks up the phone to squash the beef, the argument via text could last for hours or days on end. An argument that in real life most probably would not have existed. One can safely say that nothing can substitute real-life, face-to-face communication. Not even phone calls are as sufficient as interaction in the physical world.
However, phone calls are a better way of communication vs texting.
It leaves less room for confusion, misunderstanding, and disappointment.
Now when a person who loves to respond fast, meets another person who responds fast, that’s a good match. The truth is people who respond fast, only don’t respond fast, when they don’t care. So if you don’t respond fast, they will assume you don’t care.
A better suggestion would be for people to date people they don’t want to ignore. When you care about the other’s emotional well-being you’re simply more attentive.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 20, 2019 |
I came across one of the most beautiful things I’ve ever read, that is a deep reflection of my own heart. You’re going to love it too.
“I am not afraid to tell you, “I love you.” Your mind may say, “How can you love me when you don’t even know me?” I don’t need to know you. I don’t need to justify my love. I love you because this is my pleasure.
Love coming out of me makes me happy, and it’s not important if you reject me because I don’t reject myself.
In my story, I live in an ongoing romance, and everything is beautiful for me. To live in love is to be alive again. When you recover your integrity, you always follow love. You live your life as an eternal romance because when you love yourself, it is easy to love everyone else.
You love so much that you don’t need anyone else’s love to make you happy.
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don Miguel Ruiz
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 17, 2019 |
How many times have you found yourself talking to a man who gets frustrated with you when you’re attempting to relay your emotional needs to him?
Chances are, he felt like you were complaining about him.
Men are very sensitive creatures, and oftentimes more sensitive than women because they have so many bottled up, repressed emotions living inside of him. He also wants to be perfect for his woman, but chances are he has also never met a true Queen so therefore he doesn’t know how to speak to her.
Personally when men meet me, some think that the term Goddess and Queen are just some kind of words that I go by. So it shocks them that I actually embody it and will kick them to the curb when they don’t speak to me as such.
Some men are accustomed to emotionally unavailable women. Therefore he doesn’t completely know how to speak to a Queen. Which results in his attempts to emotionally connect to her, failing.
This severely frustrates him and makes him feel not good enough. He doesn’t understand that an emotionally healthy woman literally FEELS words.
Just telling a woman you “like” her and that she’s “cool” means absolutely NOTHING to her. Those words don’t truly register in her heart.
You see a woman was created to be loved, so she feels from her heart. If you don’t say the right words to her, you force her to move into her head and overthink, in an attempt to logically figure out what’s going on.
Men often wonder why the bad guys get all of the good women. It’s because those men know how to speak to a woman. He will tell her that she’s a Queen and treat her like one in a heartbeat. Because he knows how to speak to a woman, he often takes advantage of women once he thinks he has truly captured her heart. Then when he gets to a woman who won’t fall for the okey doke he’s shocked and pins her as the worst woman in the world, because she won’t put up with his crap.
As a man, you expect women to serve you and speak to the King in you. That’s her job. Your job is to speak to the Queen in her so that she may heal, ascend and evolve.
Good men nourish their woman with acts of kindness, gifts, words full of emotions, time, affection and attention. A good man circumferences his woman, because she is apart of him and from his rib cage. In order to bond with her and reconnect her back to your soul, you must speak LIFE into her.
Some men already know this. Those are the men who truly know how to connect to a woman’s soul.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 17, 2019 |
Women are told to speak to the King in a man. But when was the last time a man spoke to the QUEEN in you?
Most women can say that a man’s life improved after being in a relationship with her. But how many women can say that their last boyfriend or husband improved your life?
Most women don’t even know what it feels like to be treated like a Queen. They’ll see a highly confident woman, and it triggers them.
When you know you have plans to serve your man and treat him like a King, make sure that he speaks to the Queen in you.
Empires are created by royalty. Power couples are couples with equal power, due to two people speaking life into one another. No light dimming.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 16, 2019 |
Sometimes I look at the complaining posts some men on Facebook, make about women, and I say nothing. But we’re on my page now and I’m going to tell you a truth that no one else will tell you.
Dude, you suck as a boyfriend, straight up. When you’re actually a GOOD MAN, and a GOOD CATCH, women will like you even if you’re broke. Your sex game is also WHACK. Chicks will go to the moon and back for some good d*ck.
So the fact you’re smart and somewhat successful and still don’t have a positive mindset towards women says alot about YOU.
Women these days are not desperate for a man and don’t mind being alone. No smart woman is about to sign up for sex on demand, cooking, cleaning, pretending you’re the greatest, having to be submissive, paying half the bills, and pretending you’re smarter than her, while catering to a sucky man.
As a man, people don’t tell ya’ll the truth cause you’re sensitive and will claim emasculation. Therefore you don’t learn the things you need to. . A lot of you men honestly suck. And you’re okay with that. You have no desire to improve because you don’t understand how love works. You’re like the worst boyfriend ever. I can tell that from your Facebook posts. Any woman who commits to you is going to be one miserable azz b*tch. She’ll be online being jealous of single, cute, happy women.
Learn HOW to be a good man and how to keep a GOOD, VALUABLE woman happy. Many of you men learned your dating habits by dating basic chicks with low expectations. Did you ever notice other men are married and HAPPY? At least learn how to follow a good man.
Women want a man that she can brag about. No woman wants to be the girl who doesn’t get flowers, doesn’t get taken shopping, doesn’t have a man who fawns over her. She wants to be treated like a princess or a Queen. But you don’t understand, cause your heart isn’t in the right place and you’re okay with being basic AF. Women desire to submit to a King.
Half the time a woman’s male friends treat her better and do more for her than you do.
A woman is an investment. Until you learn how to sit down, figure out what you want, VALUE it when you find her and learn how to SERVE her like the Queen that she is, you will continue to attract bad women, and women who simply don’t want you, but remain polite.. LIKE attracts like.
It’s so easy for a man to get a good mate. Learn how to put a glow in a woman’s eyes. And stop being YOUNG and DUMB. Women date older men for a reason.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 16, 2019 |
There is this saying in the world that playing hard to get, distant and uninterested will make a person more interested and more obsessed with you. But the truth is such behavior will make a woman bored with you eventually.
Many men falsely believe that acting like you don’t care about her will get you the results you want. That by ignoring her, you would get her to chase you instead. Some men think they if he treats a woman badly she will offer more love and affection.
Even when a woman doesn’t understand that men chase, after a while she will begin to feel icky when dealing with a man who doesn’t pursue, but says he likes her.
Her mind will continue to tell her that you really don’t like her, so it will program itself to not accept you and live without you. She will slowly become comfortable at the thought of not being with you.
Many men don’t intentionally do this. They simply believe that money is more important than love or a woman.
Other men don’t realize that such tactics don’t actually work on high value women. Any man who doesn’t treat a high value woman well starts to become low value to her. She starts to notice every single flaw he has. Her mind starts to talk her out of it. It reminds her that you are not good enough, due to your own chosen behavior of violating the law of love.
A high value woman knows what she wants. She’s fulfilled, and has no choice but to walk away from such a man, because he brings pain, darkness and sadness. It’s too difficult for a woman to rationalize a man who ignores her. She doesn’t want a man who isn’t serious about her.
Yet alpha male coaches teaches men to perform such behavior, only later for the man to realize the woman wakes up one day and she’s no longer into him. He allows other men to easily exceed him with love and kindness towards her.
High value women aren’t like normal women. When a woman knows she can make her own money, she actually becomes okay with being alone. Because her need isn’t money, her heart must be fulfilled.
Every high value woman knows that when you really love someone you can’t just ignore them. To do so is heartless. When you love someone you can’t withhold your love and affection because it’s counter-productive. It’s a waste of all of the work you’ve already put in.
A high value woman loves to showered with love and affection all the time. She wants to be cherished. God created her to be loved. She wants to know she can count on you, and that you’ll always have her back. Ignoring her makes her afraid of being with you. She doesn’t want to choose the wrong man. Even though she allowed you in, deep down, she’s working on removing you from her space. She can’t continue with a man who doesn’t love her. If you’re not giving a woman what she needs she has to leave you or push you away.
At this point, the man will start to say the woman is bi-polar, crazy, unsteady, confused, unhappy, unfulfilled and other things. When the truth is she simply realizes she’s not being fully loved and hates that once again, she has to send yet another man to the left, for playing silly games, or not knowing how to be a real man. It’s important for a man to understand that the majority of the way a woman acts towards him, is only a reflection of the way he makes her FEEL, due to his actions or inactions towards her.
Men also believe that it’s best to not reveal his feelings too early to a woman. But that kills the connection. When a woman doesn’t believe you love her, she has a difficult time emotionally connecting to you. Which then she has to let go of you. Otherwise she’ll go into masculine energy trying to figure out what’s going wrong. Her mind goes to focusing on what’s wrong. The small, occasional things you may do right, get overlooked.
It is the greatest waste of time for any man to present himself to a woman whom he has no intentions of fully loving.
If a man wants a real woman who will love and support him the way he needs, he needs to be caring and attentive. Make her important.
Only by treating her right will she fall deeply in love with you and stay in love with you. Then the relationship is off to a beautiful start. Then you have something more than other people have. Be steady and consistent in your loving actions towards her.
It’s all so simple. It’s almost ludicrous for a man to do it any other way. To some men’s defense, he really thinks he’s doing his best to forge a love connection by utilizing “ignore her” tactics. He has no idea he’s gypping himself out of real love. He has no idea that love actually isn’t hard after all. His only problem in the past perhaps was getting into relationships with women who never fully loved him or chose him, because that woman didn’t fully love herself. Women who loves themselves don’t get into relationships that aren’t full of love. Even when relationships sour and go bad, the man swarmed her with love in the beginning. It never has to be hard with your dream girl, when you treat her right. Even bad men know this.
So fellas, if you finally want a good woman, pour love into her.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 14, 2019 |
I rarely ever feel sorry for men who get dogged out.
HERE’S WHY: Good women are in abundance. Women outnumber men. Women dream of meeting Prince Charming and getting married.
That woman dogged you out because you went for the EASIEST woman you could find and your behavior was mediocre AF. You barely put in any work to get her. You didn’t have to. Which is why she didn’t value you. If you want a good woman, go after the one you gotta work to get. Simple as that. VALUE is not easily accessible. Everyone knows this.
Secondly as a man, you men need to learn how to tap into your feminine energy in a positive way. Ya’ll cry too much without doing MASCULINE things to back it up.
When a woman is trying to talk to you about problems she’s having with you, you don’t want to talk until 2 weeks later, and by then she’s over it and Thomas at the job is pressing her telling her how fine she is.
You didn’t study karma sutra or how to please a woman, so therefore her vagina is actually open entry for another man. A woman should NEVER violate a man like that.
Good women will NEVER let another man stick his penis in her vagina when she has a man at home who is putting it down. I know this cause even when my exe’s pissed me off, ain’t no way another man’s dick was getting anywhere near me. They put it down in the sex department. They were undefeated. Another man would’ve had to put in HUSBAND effort by spoiling me just like my man did. Only a low value woman would let some side dude slide in who didn’t put in major work to get her. Nor would a good woman allow another man to laugh at her man, if she can help it. I would never want a man being able to laugh at my man, knowing I cheated with him. Every good woman knows it doesn’t pay to make a man feel inadequate. My ex’s were completely spoiled by me. A good woman is going to pour life and love into anything she loves.
Next Up: Buy your woman some flowers. Even my son buys me flowers and men buy me flowers without me asking. It’s a nice gesture, even if we don’t care about flowers.
Next up, learn to be affectionate. Women like affectionate men. They bond with them fast and deep.
Gifts: Women like gifts. Give her money and buy her things. It makes her happy.
Be proud of your woman. Tell her she’s beautiful. You can’t possibly think it’s wise to not tell her so, knowing that regardless when she leaves the house other men will tell her that she’s beautiful. But if you were doing your job, she wouldn’t care what other men have to say.
Surprise Her: Don’t always ask her where she wants to go and what she wants to do. Especially when it comes to food . Women are confused AF when it comes to food, because we’re greedy and want everything. Be the man and pick a place.
UPKEEP: Take your woman to the spa. Make sure you keep her hair and nails done. Other men don’t do kind things like that. You don’t want to be like those other basic dudes.
CONVERSATION: Conversation rules the nation. Not only does it get you paid, but it’s how you connect with other humans and talking parrots too. Be the kind of man she can talk to about anything. That way Thomas at her job can’t get the up on you.
Now with all of that being said, you now see why that woman left you. You didn’t do enough to get her to truly fall deeply in love with you. You played checkers, instead of chess. Only one of those boards has both a King and a Queen. You’re never going to get the maximum from a woman of whom you’re not in service of.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 14, 2019 |
If you want to meet your true Soulmate you can not have one foot in a relationship and one foot out. That sends confusing signals out to the Universe. So the person you attract may or may not be your true soulmate. They will have some of the things you need, but not all.
Either leave and attract your true soulmate, or go all in and see if it works. Soulmates can also be spiritual life coaches. Because my energy centers are open, clients tend to feel brighter and smarter after talking to me. I transfer my energy to them through the eternalness of love in my heart. It’s why not many can do what I do. I do INTERNAL WORK.
You will not meet your romantic soulmate until you’re willing to GO ALL IN. For men it’s the reason you have yet to meet your MUSE. Your muse will make you feel spiritually more awakened. She opens and activates circuits inside of you that complete your energy center and flow to the sexual center. The muse allows you to connect to your creativity. This makes you fall in love. When you open up and allow someone to activate the circuits of your heart. it connects the 7 energy centers. When a man finds someone who activates his heart to the point where he falls in love and wants to share his life with her, has met his soulmate. She activates the circuits in his heart and the eternalness of the heart. She makes him want to love her forever. The perfect relationship is someone who stimulates a better feeling and experience within you. In their presence you become a better person.
For most people there is a block stopping you from going all in. That’s what I remove.
If you want to make contact with your actual soulmate before you actually meet them, you have to place those desires into a certain feeling space. Do the soul work. However do not put preconceived ideas into that space of what they are and what they look like. A soulmate is a soul bond, it has nothing to do with outside conditions or appearance. You will meet and connect by divine order. You will be able to finish one another’s sentences.
But to meet your soulmate you must increase your soul energy to meet in a unique field where your soulmate already exists. Rather you are aware of your soul desires and feelings is irrelevant. You’re already bonded with your soulmate on that level. The goal is to become aware of yourself on that level, so that you can broadcast your soul into the consciousness field where your soulmate is located, and that will speed up the process of finding your soulmate on the physical plane so that you can have a relationship on day to day basis.
As you can see, soulmate relationships are for those in the light, who are willing to do the work to heal and increase their consciousness.
