by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Dec 9, 2019 |
Some men aren’t the best men. They are not perfect, whole and complete inside the vibration of being a King, where God created him to be.
Because they aren’t good men, they tend to blame everything on the women they date. They say she didn’t do this, and she didn’t do that. But he will tell you that he paid her bills. So you will be like “Aaaawe. You poor baby. Screw that trifling b*tch. She didn’t appreciate you.”
What he’s not telling you is that he’s an azzhole, he’s not a gentleman, he’s uncharming AF, he doesn’t know how to make love to a woman, he’s a liar, he doesn’t know how to make a woman feel like a Queen, and being around him feels cold AF. I mean cold. Like a woman is unable to emotionally connect to him. In a way the relationship feels abusive to her. So she seeks out the companionship of another man. He has no idea why. In his mind he’s doing everything right. Sometimes these men even have dating coaches who tell them how to act like a wanna be alpha male that alpha females don’t like.
In essence, he wants to be a good man, and believes he is. He simply doesn’t know how to be one. You know why? Here is another problem he has. He doesn’t listen. The woman complained and he didn’t listen. Or he told her she was negative if she complained, so she learned not to complained to him and simply complained to another man who stuck some good d*ck in her and made her feel like a Queen.
So now he’s out in the world asking what women bring to the table. And all he has to offer is d*ck that doesn’t last, with a tired stroke, and paying a few bills that are mostly his, because she lives with him and he would’ve had to pay those bills anyway.
In a way he is also selfish and tends to say “This is my stuff. You’re in my house, using up my cable, my electricity,” and blah, blah, blah. Obviously this would make a woman feel terrible and unsafe with him. She will take it for a while, until once again, another man comes along.
Meanwhile other men are healed and have a full understanding that a woman is the table. She is the reward for his success. Her presence multiplies his joy, pleasure and abundance. She is his peace.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Dec 8, 2019 |
Inside of every man is a clown, a prince and a King. Some men present themselves as Kings, and you should talk to him as such. Other men don’t present themselves as such, and a good woman will call herself speaking to the King in him. This doesn’t always go so well.
Never tell a man that he is a King if he doesn’t do these 3 things:
1. Pays your bills.
2. Treats You Like a Queen.
3. Hates to see you cry, and wants to make things better for you.
When you call yourself speaking life into a man, hoping it will cause him to treat you like a Queen and value you, it will only backfire and make him feel like he’s something he’s actually not. So his effort will wane. This does not change if he’s sort of conscious and not truly spiritually developed.
Some men also don’t value you and all you do for him from your divine feminine presence, so he will tell you that you speaking life into him does nothing for him. He’s basically saying he doesn’t need you, nor does he FEEL you. Meanwhile you will literally watch how your presence and words alone causes a shift in his self-esteem and confidence, which brings abundance and blessings into his life.
The man for you will feel he can’t live without you. He wants to keep you close. He wants to marry you and have you all to himself. He will literally look at you and say that you are a breath of fresh air. Your divine presence changes the way he breathes.
But when you as a woman practices PICK ME behavior, you don’t get the man who wants you. You get the man you want, and chances are it doesn’t work out. It’s hard to keep a man who doesn’t value you.
You can’t force a man to value you, nor can you force a man to change for you. He has to desire to these things all on his own. You are simply the muse for the change.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Dec 5, 2019 |
There are some good men out here and they simply try to get in where they fit in. That’s not the way to go.
Women are looking for a HUSBAND, BOYFRIEND or something with some sort of permanence to it. They are also looking to take their business to the next level. Doesn’t matter whether she’s making 6 figures or 7 Figures. She’s ambitious and wants the next level. But she also wants to balance out her life and call in her King.
So therefore, as a man, when you walk into her life, you need to state your case. Friend, Foe, Phuck, Business or Romance.
When you come at a woman for BUSINESS, state that and handle that. Maybe you’ll get a bonus. Maybe you won’t. That depends on how good you are in business. Don’t sell her a lie that you can’t live up to.
When you come at her because you want to date her, STATE THAT. Stop switching it up, if you want to win. If you want to be with her and build a partnership with her, because you like her body, spirit, heart and business mind, then it’s a must that you step 2 times harder than the rest. Alpha King report to duty. It’s a must that you be the best of the best, and get to work in ALL areas at the same damn time. 👑 (Watch how magically her energy softens and changes for you.)
When you’re looking at a woman for the sake of money, you’re being feminine, and throwing out confusing signals. A feminine woman doesn’t know how to respond to you. Cause you keep switching directions, trying to be on some Bonnie & Clyde ish. If that’s the case, state your long term intentions with her, and get to work on her BUSINESS. Free up her mind a little, get her to some point of progress. Then take her out on a date. Now you have successfully mixed business and pleasure and impressed her by being a man she’s never rarely seen before. A man of his word is everything. If business is apart of the relationship, then show her how you handle it.
There is no point of telling her you want friendship, when you really want to sleep with her. It’s better to state your wants and act accordingly. Or state your offer. This is all really simple. She wants you to BE A MAN. Men direct and LEAD, women follow. Smart women love to have a man whose lead she can trust. Therefore, if you desire to be in a relationship with a woman, if you tell her, at least she knows.
If you state your intentions, then she knows which version of you to give her. Only then will you know if it’s compatible for business or relationships. Otherwise your confusion will cause her confusion. That’s how a lot of men end up in the friend, and even if she sleeps with you, she’s still not phucking with you like that, zone. Whole women do as they please. Not as society pleases them to do. A woman’s mind is already programmed as to what a King is going to do. You either show up as him, or that part of her will be denied to you. Meanwhile the alpha men who came at her proper, will get that version of her, for them. But you’ll blame her, when it was YOU the whole time.
P.S. When you meet a woman who runs a profitable business and you want to date her, it’s best that you make HER business YOUR business. 🤣 Otherwise her mind might not have much freetime for you. Other times she’s so business obsessed you may have to teach her HOW to have time for you. In other cases, she’s ready ready. You just have to know who you’re talking to. Just know that money turns her on more than anything. She LOVES money, and will probably love you just as much if you help her make some money.
P.P.S. Those GORGEOUS boss chicks, are not as easy to slide in and get as you thought it would be. Remember she likes bosses who do big things. AKA an ALPHA KING. How are you showing up? How are you living? Is it in alignment with your soul’s truth? WHAT are you doing for her? Are her male friends going to easily be able to outdo you, because you’re only showing up as a Prince; when she’s looking for a King who does big things.
If you’re showing up half cocked, there’s a very high chance that you think you’re in control, but she looks at you like a clown, and you often cause her to frown at you. If she frowns at you, then she has to frown at herself for dealing with you. So then, she has to get rid of you. Bye Bye.
Don’t play with brainiac boss chicks. Sis is not for play play. Even if by some miracle, you just so happen to be smarter than her, it’s still a wise idea to be what she wants and give her what she wants. Which means as always show up with your wallet open and your heart open too. Serve the Queen. That’s the way this goes. Boss chicks mean serious business, just like you mean serious business. You simply approach it with different energy and have different needs. Together you excel and become elite.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Dec 2, 2019 |
A masculine man does not need a woman to help him protect and provide. The most confident, most successful, most masculine men failed a few times, and got up, because no woman was there to help him up. Helping himself makes him more confident. Helping him robs him of that confidence.
If you rush in to save him, that’s emasculating him. Which is part of the reason he’s so angry at you and left you for a new woman whom he adores and provides for. Men are motivated when they know they have a woman he must provide for.
Many a woman has allowed the voices of the weaker men to trick you into listening at how men need women who help them. Especially black women. We are the first to help him, because we come from poverty backgrounds and we understand his plight. We feel like no one helped us or maybe 1-2 people helped us, so we feel like we should give back and help a man out. We empaths also can’t stand to watch anyone struggle. Or we come from abundant and healthy backgrounds, so we feel empathy for men who are “trying” to make it. We often think that all they need is a little helping hand. So you jumped into masculine, mother-mode, in order to save him. Yet you don’t look at these celebrity men and see who their wives are. Those men don’t need their wife to go half on any bill. They love their wives for her, not for what she does for him.
He loves her essence and her spirit. The way you help a man is by learning how to invest, building your own home based business, so that he knows you’re learning something from him and that the family’s empire and legacy is expanding. You help a man by fixing him nice home cooked meals and keeping a clean house. You help him with ideas. You help him by pleasing him sexually, so that he remains focused. You help him by not becoming a masculine man who grabs him by the hand and helps him up.
While helping has worked for SOME women, most times it fails. So if you feed into the “help him” storyline, there is a very high chance it will end in wasted time, heartbreak, you starting all over, wondering what’s wrong with you, and him hating you.
You need to feel deserving of a man who pays bills. It’s not about the money. It’s about your femininity, you getting a relationship that works, and being balanced.
As far as boss chicks, you need a bill paying man more than anything because he matches your drive and energy. Such a man appreciates how you get up and go get it. Watching you inspires him. Just know that you getting money, is not how to get or keep a man. A man needs an emotional connection with his woman. You must cause irresistible FEELINGS, deep down inside of him. Without this connection, he’ll go out on a date and be entertained by the next woman, because he’s looking for a CONNECTION.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Dec 2, 2019 |
Although men pick women who up level them it’s best to be with a man whose upleveling comes simply from being with you. Your energetic frequency, depending on what kind of woman you are, serves as a muse.
You must emotionally, and energetically connect with a man above all else. A man who says you do nothing for him, isn’t inspired by having acesss to you. Which means your presence isn’t a present to him. He won’t appreciate your magic. You can DO a lot for a man. But it means nothing really. DOING makes things worse for you. But when your presence alone does it for him, that’s when you’re winning and he wants to come home and make love to you.
Your mind is a present. Your energy is a present. Your ability to be connected to the divine and bring peace and clarity to him is a gift. When you’re a badd azz chick, your good looks will go to waste on a man who doesn’t appreciate them. Such a man won’t know how to maximize your presence or envelop excitement from being with you.
You can’t wittle yourself down to basic chick status and pretend to be less for him. You don’t want a man who only wants you for your looks, but when you look good, YES, he needs to appreciate and be attracted to you. Otherwise he won’t understand your inherent value. Therefore you are never to bow down to a man’s level. Instead he must be motivated by the Queen in you to rise into his divine King throne, and join you in a place where you can honor and serve him.
You being Queen is the only invitation he needs. You can’t honor or serve a man who doesn’t want, understand and delight in the honor of being with you.
Love,
Kissy 💋
by Site Admin | Dec 1, 2019 |
Jada Pinkett Smith and Will Smith have to be one of the most gossiped about couples in the celebrity realm. They are also one of the most loved couples. While rumors once swirled of the couple getting a divorce and being swingers, the more beautiful truth about the Hollywood couple’s relationship was revealed on Jada’s Facebook Watch series, Red Table Talk.
On a previous episode, the couple discussed a time when their family’s careers were prospering, but their love life was so bad Jada “woke up and cried for 45 days straight.”
In Monday’s episode, Will opened up about what he and Jada did to work on their relationship. They revealed that their marriage hit its lowest point when Will planned Jada’s 40th birthday party—but deep down, he really planned it for himself, not for her.
“The day after her 37th birthday, I hired a team to orchestrate her 40th birthday,” Will said. He hired R&B star Mary J. Blige to perform, and hired a documentary crew showcase footage of her late grandmother. “It was going to be the thing that lifted her out of this midlife crisis, and it was going to be my deepest, most beautiful proclamation of love,” Will said.
But things went life. During Jada’s epic 40th bash, Jada got emotional hearing tapes of her late grandmother, and still had to sit through the rest of the party. She wanted to cancel it, but Will didn’t agree. “She told me that the party was the most ridiculous display of my ego,” he recalled. “Crushed, right? To this day I know I was crushed because it was true. It wasn’t a party for her.”
Jada is Will’s heart. So the two decided to heal their relationship. Will revealed that he took two years away from Hollywood to work on himself and his marriage.
The couple “broke up” and “got back together” within their marriage, with new rules. Now, the couple doesn’t define themselves as married—instead, their bond is something different. “It’s a life partnership in the sense that we’ve created a foundation together that we know is for this lifetime,” Jada said.
“We have devoted ourselves to each other in a spiritual, emotional sense,” Will said. “Whatever she needs, she can count on me for the rest of her life.”
Watch the full segment below:
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 29, 2019 |
#MEN: What’s the best advice you have been given about women?
If it didn’t include: ” Provide for her. Love her as God would. Don’t let her run over you. Open doors for her. Pull out chairs for her, encourage her, memorize her likes, spend quality time with her, give her your attention, Appreciate her, Take her nice places, feed her, make love to her mind and not just her body, don’t embarrass her and make her feel stupid for loving you, and speak to the Queen in her,” then you weren’t given good advice.
Chances are when you saw this question, and you’re a single man, you thought of something negative. Because you were told negative things about women, handed down from single mothers and men who didn’t treat women well. You were taught how to diminish a woman and lower her self-esteem.
Some of you men will literally ask for $5 to pay for something, and a woman gives you a $20, and you put the change in your pocket.
Now, right now all of the good men are like “WTF is she talking about?” That’s a shocker to their system. Cause they can’t believe such bad men exist.
Negative advice does nothing to nurture healthy relationships. At some point you should desire to fill your mind with information on how to keep your mate happy. THAT is more beneficial to you, because it will cause YOU to grow.
Everyone wants love. Some just don’t know how to go about getting it because they don’t know how to first BE an embodiment of divine love. Remember a woman in an INVESTMENT. You have to put things into her in order to get things out of her. Your penis should not be the only thing going into her. Chances are, you don’t have a good woman, because you don’t know how to treat a good woman.
LADIES: It’s not up to you to feel bad for men who don’t know how to treat you. He is not going to show you gratitude for putting up with being treated less than. Instead he will continue to mistreat you, while complaining about you. Love yourself enough to deal with a man who adores you and SHOWS it every day.
The model in the photo is Ayisha Diaz. It would’ve taken me 3 hours to produce my own photo.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 21, 2019 |
There are people in this world who have lived and loved, and there are people who have never loved because they are detached and claim happiness in their relationship.
For those who have truly loved, that gift of giving of yourself has grown you like no other. But the pain you had to undergo to get that growth, lets talk about that.
Have you ever had a hell of a breakup that feels like your whole life is draining out from you? Where you feel you’ve lost your entire soul and your best friend too. Where you can’t eat, you can’t sleep and going out to hang with people simply makes it worse? Where you feel pain coursing through the veins of your arms? All the while wondering, how could he destroy such a beautiful relationship? You thought you would be together forever. At least you wanted to….
Even worse, you have no desire to feel this pain of heartbreak. You throw yourself into work and “wait” for the pain to go away, to no avail. 6 months later you’re still in phucking pain, and uninterested in dating. Meanwhile the ex who just couldn’t seem to do right by you, is happily in a relationship with someone new. You look at the calendar like “Yo son, it wasn’t even 60 days since our breakup, before you hopped into bed with someone new!” Then suddenly you realize you were never fully loved. You don’t even want anyone to touch you. 12 months later you’re still in a kind of pain. But you don’t want your ex back. You can’t go back. Truth be told, although you were madly in love with them, you know you had to let go of them, and chose yourself.
Being smart enough to understand self-love and choosing to pick yourself first, means that you had the strength to break your own heart. Sometimes you even tried to get out of the relationship and let go before your heart got broken too bad. But of course it was too late.
Darkness comes because you’ve loved. The more you love, the more you suffer.
Now you’re walking through a sort of hell, trying to find your way out to the other side. Life starts coming at you fast. You start rapidly changing in ways you never even imagine. Heartbreak starts to show you how strong and amazing you are, and how beautiful the depths of your soul. As you heal you start to attract more beautiful souls who are a reflection of you. You even start attracting better men who are more aligned with you and appreciate the divine gifts you bring. And you break down crying all over again, wondering where have all of these people been all of your life? Like why couldn’t they have shown up years ago? WTF is wrong with the Universe? Why does it suddenly magically decide to bring you these beautiful souls only AFTER you’ve invested in yet another heartbreak?
At this point, you can’t seem to shake it, so you get used to pain, willingly or unwillingly because once your heart is broken, it will never be the same.
With this closing chapter, your ex moves on to cause more chaos in his unhealed, cheating life. Meanwhile you’ve changed so much, that now your standards have gone up. You start to have some gratitude for yourself and the magnificence of you as a brilliant, beautiful, loving, kind, human being. You keep changing and allow grace and peace into your life.
At this point you’ll never take your ex back. You can’t. You went through too much pain for them. They forced you to choose yourself over them, when they could’ve easily chosen your relationship and to do right by you.
Now you have doubts about people. Even though you’re open to love you notice red flags immediately. You are uninterested in anyone who shows up to show you dry love and dry effort. Even though you are heartbroken, you can never settle for less than love. You can’t. For you know that even the little bit of love you experienced was better than the lack of love that most romantic relationships seem to dwell in.
Instead you become grateful for your wonderful like. You pick up the pieces and know everything is working out for you. You are blessed. You are a powerful creator and you know that the next time you will get it right. You know now that you will find yet another ‘The One’ from God knows where. But you know he’s out there, somewhere. But you’re not the same person you’re better. You’ve grown closer to source. Your new mature view of love, knows that you matter more than Mr. so called Perfect. You will never again allow another man in your life who fakes it till he makes it, cause you know he’ll never make it, if he didn’t mold himself into a King well before he met you.
Even if you are in a relationship, you know when it’s time to leave him. You know it’s not going to work because he doesn’t respect you, and you can only pretend to be less than Queen for another 5-minutes before you explode. You know you deserve better. You love him, but to stay would be a crime against your soul. You’re not into settling for less than divine love. Now it’s time to open your heart and allow more energy to flow to you. You have a greater hope for a healthier relationship. Your ex could never get you back at this point. You don’t check their social media, you don’t even care. You already know they went back to doing the same things they’ve always done anyway. He’s out there living a basic life with a basic chick, and you are to go on and live your best life. Suddenly you wake up one day and you feel so free. You see life in a whole new way. You see how that relationship had your spirit condensed. It rocked you to sleep. It slowed you down and stopped you from birthing God’s purpose for your life.
Although you hate that you had to let go, your gut told you that he couldn’t make you happy. He was with the sh*ts and too many antics. You realized there was no point of trying to change him because that’s just the way he is. Silly you tried to turn a Prince into a King.
Now it’s as if you never even knew them, who caused you so much pain. But the once broken down and healed version of you now knows she can accomplish anything. This is the miraculous process of self-love and putting yourself first that comes from the bravery of loving someone who never loved you back.
All of this because you handled business and let go. You knew no one was coming to save you. You saved yourself.
