by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Apr 2, 2020 |
Saw a post on Facebook saying “BLACK GODS, if a black woman tells you she doesn’t feel protected by black men, leave her to the wolves.”
I responded.
I am coming to the conclusion that it is a waste of time to talk to most black men, unless you’re promoting 50/50 relationships.
It’s RIDICULOUS of any man, black or white to expect a woman to RESPECT him or feel PROTECTED by him, when he is not providing for her.
When you’re not doing those things, you are only good for d*ck. That’s the same thing every other man is offering. Why would she feel safe with that kind of man? How could she? She still has to go out and learn how to fish, and she’d better capture enough fish to make up for the other 50% you believe you can’t get on your own. What is there to respect?
When you don’t protect and provide, you’re no different from any other man, no matter how much money you make. A woman wants a KING. Even wealthy women want a KING. A KING DOES THINGS that other men don’t. That is what separates him. A man who doesn’t provide is not a GOD KING.
Black men are so LOUD in their disappointment of women, because they are disappointed in their own lack of LEADERSHIP. So black women then follow suit and complain too.
I get tired of seeing it. As a black woman, I find it difficult to ignore, because I want people to love each other and experience healthy relationships.
However, I am starting to think most single black men online are retarded. Because clearly they hear the Tony Gaskins guy telling them which way to go. Tony whose wife is VERY happy with him. But they call him “soft, and “lame.” Black men tend to call good black men soft or lame. What a coincidence! (rolls eyes)
There are tons of single women online daily, telling men why the are single.
At what point does a man get smart and acquire the knowledge and see the way he’s been taught by his parents and by the underbelly of society doesn’t work?
It’s funny how people say, don’t listen to single women, because they know nothing. Yet the married women, broken men often listen to are in a 50/50 relationships and operate in masculine energy. He doesn’t even listen to the married women who are taken care of, happy and provided for. Why not? Because he feels that men who make their woman happy, are weak.
They don’t listen to the married woman who is online constantly bragging about her husband, because he is so amazing and pleases her.
He doesn’t listen to the black men who speak on PROVIDING and speak highly of women.
Who do they instead listen to? They listen to the basic b*tch, the masculine operating chick, with the good job, who doesn’t have men buying her anything, or flying her anywhere.
He literally listens to the woman who is not adored by men. She’s not adored by men because she has low standards. Yet he somehow thinks her low standers are awesome. Meanwhile he doesn’t notice he STILL only want to be FRIENDS with her. She doesn’t turn him on, because she doesn’t value herself. And because he doesn’t have the makings of a high value man, he can’t even tell her “Sis. you’re cool and all, but you really need to raise your standards and get you a man who breaks bread on you.”
Nope. Instead they go back and forth about how much the opposite sex sucks. She has standards so low that she can’t even tell him, “Look Bro. Women like men who go hard. So if you’re not going hard for her, that’s the reason she disrespects you or doesn’t like you the way you want her to.” She literally can’t give him that SIMPLE advice.
Then, he takes the advice she gives, hops in the inbox of some super badd azz chick, and applies the advice from the basic chick, only to get the buzzer pressed on him. He thinks he knows women, but he doesn’t know a damn thing about a woman who actually values herself enough to get what she wants out of life.
In fact that same man probably complains to miss basic chick, about the high azz standards the badd azz chick has, and how he is tired of her being unexcited by him. Then miss basic tells him it’s all that girl’s fault. Lawd, high value people, PLEASE stay away from team basic, they drive the world mad with their mediocrity and lack of effort in wanting to get things right, and taking self-accountability.
These men also don’t seem to notice the women they attract to them. While they go after the baddest chicks, the women who actually float to them are low standard, low value and basic AF.
I know these things, because I’ve watched it all unfold. I notice what kind of men I attract. My energy attracts BRILLIANT MEN who read and are great men.
WHY? Because that’s my frequency and my tribe of HIGH VALUE MEN understand me without explanation. Some of them are single too. WHY? Because they are working on figuring out their patterns. Which is really they need to stop mating with basic b*tches. Basic b*tches are doing these men in, and having them calling themselves Gods, while not have one God-like quality. Gods get what they want from life and have a Goddess next to them. If you can’t keep a Goddess happy, you haven’t activated the God within you. Titles are cool, but doing the work is everything.
Everyone goes all over the place doing research, instead of simply hiring a dating EXPERT who understands their patterns. Same thing with business. Research, research, research, which is great. But speaking to an expert is so much faster, because they can tell you about yourself on an individual basis.
In order for someone to heal you, they must first understand your deep subconscious and how your patterns connect.
Black women are also not getting the help they need. Everyone is running around carrying the same beliefs, trying to figure it out on their own, and the truth is this sh*t is not surface. It’s generational, it’s childhood wounding, it’s ignorance, lack of awareness, and a lack of alignment with the soul. Just because you were raised a certain way, doesn’t mean that’s the way your soul is supposed to go.
The same group of people who don’t listen, think something is wrong with those who like me who speak so highly of love. These would also be the same people who ignore posts about love. They ignore my posts about love. But those same people would read celebrity drama or celebrity gossip.
If you’re not attracted to LOVE, why are you so surprised that you have such a difficult time acquiring it?
It’s truly a tiring job, trying to help unconscious black people with relationships, because they don’t listen to anything beyond BASIC. There is always an excuse to tear down the person giving out good valid information, or they will find a reason to invalidate them.
Yet they will applaud anyone who tells them go do 50/50, because that person caters to a man’s lack of belief that he is capable of doing whatever puts his mind too. He is attracted to people who don’t speak of the GOD within him.
When I wrote my book, the subtitle targeted people who want something more than basic. I knew who REALLY, truly, wanted to experience deep love. The only people who really want deep love, are those who are of high value. Those are the only people who feel deserving of it, because they constantly do the work on themselves.
If you have my book, STUDY IT, and get your sh*t together. I write from a place of light and love, while understanding where some people are at on the journey. So it was my hope to pull them into the light. But people who end up buying my book are mostly those in the light.
I am retiring from creating content for people who don’t help themselves. They don’t read anyway, unless MAYBE a celebrity says it. I literally have to teach myself to ignore half of the internet and only focus on the light and love crew. We literally have to allow people to be happy in their dysfunction, and not speak on it.
No one gets more angry at a light worker than an unconscious person in the darkness, who thinks they are conscious. They have no understanding that there are levels to this sh*t. It’s the weirdest thing being in one world, and being suddenly yanked into the light, seeing what’s still happening back there, and wanting so badly to show them how good life is in the light.
That was my fight, that I now release and give up.
Oh, I also forgot. MEN DON’T READ. I just wrote too much for them. 🤦♀️
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Apr 1, 2020 |
There is nothing like an international pandemic to show women how a man truly feels about her.
The average woman right now is faced with fear, anxiety and tiredness, because she simply doesn’t know what to do.
Therefore she feels unsafe.
Kings are aware of this and will intentionally show up in your life RIGHT NOW with EXTRA effort to motivate you to push through. The ones who really care about you will ask how you are doing, ask if you need anything and PROVIDE you with those things.
Now, this all comes to down femininity and walking in your purpose. Men help women who walk in their purpose. Men who vibe high that is. If you don’t have men checking on you right now it’s because you need to work on your femininity and you don’t have my book “You Can’t Force A Man To Value You.” or you haven’t raised your vibration, which also means you don’t have my book that teaches you how to manifest the money, the man and the business that you want.
Now, some men have truly stepped up in my life. They are the ones who made me take note of how they were nurturing me. 1 man has been kind of iffy, and the other hasn’t checked on me, but he’s definitely checking for another woman. Always be aware that HE is checking for another woman, if it’s not you. I am going to remember that when this is over and I am shining like the star that I AM. These dudes will fall asleep on you sometimes when you hide….. So when you hide, be aware that the little boys fall asleep. You awaken them at will.
But back to these Kings who are showing up and didn’t sleep on the Queen Goddess. I came to remind you that YES YOU DO NEED A MAN.
Boss chicks most certainly don’t need a man for money. You know how to make your own money. But boy oh boy, do I appreciate a brilliant man showing up for me, spoiling me, treating me like a Queen in every way and giving me money too.
However what we really need from a man is love, motivation, support and nurturing. When we are loved our businesses prosper a lot faster. Once again, true KINGS understand this.
So if you have some KINGS in your life who are not showing up for you, also take note that you are not his type. It doesn’t matter why. Just move along.
Make a decision to get yourself a real man with plans to prosper you. For a shortcut, work with me. If not, you’ll be listening to information online, thinking you know it all, and Sis, let me tell you a truth. Us knowledge droppers are filled with divine knowledge. Some of it we only release to our clients.
Later Loves.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Mar 31, 2020 |
This thing going around the planet, has really made me look at the men who pursue me and their true intentions. I realized that I have time for some good love. I have lots of time available for sacred love.
I also noticed that you beautiful, brilliant, sophisticated, empowered, divine, magical, spiritual women full of love, laughs and purpose, will be surrounded by an army of men in pursuit of you, if you let them in.
If you’re not letting more than 1-1 at a time in to get to know you, you’re limiting your dating choices to whatever comes at you, instead of holding space until you get what you want.
Rule #2 is that men tend to bore of women whom they don’t have to compete for. He finds not much value in a chill woman.
Relax, he can take it.
A beta man may be outright devastated if he knows you went out on a date with another man, and he’ll hold that in his heart. But have no doubts, that man is full of mediocrity, and fear of honoring his greatnesss. (Yes girl, a whole extra “S”) Because a true King, has belief in himself to beat out all others.
A King be like “Girl, you know you’re going to be my wife.” But so many clowns have said it that it probably doesn’t mean much to you. But that’s not the way you act. That’s why you need to have boundaries, and not strictly operate from your heart.
Attracted people with boundaries will teach you some valuable lessons.
One guy told a woman that he was done with her since she wouldn’t marry him. He moved on to a basic chick, and seems to be at least finding some temporary form of happiness. She always knew he would be happy with less than, and never actually saw her deepest value. Love was simply not apart of him. For him a relationship is LOGIC and in his eyes, if he gives a woman $30,000, that means he should be able to buy her heart. He wanted a boss chick without understanding our mind or heart. On top of that he had no value for my beauty. My oh my, how in the past, you thought that was quite alright since you know they say “Beauty fades.” You would never discount yourself like that again. It’s all about the facts of NOW.
Another guy said that he wasn’t accepting A. B. and C. from her. and that if she wanted to be with him, she would have to do things another way.
This freed the woman of her people pleasing syndrome and truly reiterated the understanding and depth of how men don’t value being loved by a woman. Instead they care about who they love, and the way to a man’s heart is completely opposite of the way most women think it is.
Loving him is not the key to his heart. Ask most men about his last relationship and he will say that she did A.B.C. & D, which to any woman you will see instantly how she wasn’t in love with him. But his belief system will say that she did indeed love him, because she never said a negative word to him. She just showed up with the ACTION of cheating on him, and came back with kind words about that too. Therefore he still felt SAFE with her. That safety allowed him to make excuses for him and be blinded to the fact that the problem was that she didn’t love him. Which is also a reflection of his own lack of self-love.
You can always see how much someone loves themself, off of their appearance alone. Vanity usually isn’t apart of their routine. They view vanity as a negative thing, and let themselves go. Or they are in pain, so they let themselves go. They no longer feel good enough or worthy of looking good. Their subconscious negative beliefs and their pain slowly takes over them. But because the are so busy focused on making money, they never notice.
Other men, a woman can go clean off on him, use him up, and still, that vision of her being the perfect woman remains in his mind. He’ll chase that image although he is clearly not being loved.
For these experiences to happen and for a woman to learn the deeper lessons, she has to put away the ego that has kept her experiencing the same patterns.
Your ego can often tell you to drop something and let it go. But instead you decided “Hey. I am not really interested in dating right now. So let’s just watch them and see how they operate.” (The decisions you make.)
People pleasers have a hard time telling someone conditions and sticking by them. People pleasers have empathy for anyone who truly loves them, and will look over their faults. People pleasers make excuses for others, and find themselves in unhealthy, toxic, relationships. Because you think with your heart too much, instead of facing and addressing what’s in front of you.
Later you’ll be thankful that you didn’t commit or surrender to either of those men, because at times, dealing with them, made you feel less than love.
Now you see how those experiments were more of you self-sacrificing yourself. Sometimes its only through painful or mirrored experiences that we can see the true roots of your own self-sacrifice. Only then can you clearly see how you were always in control of it all.
You must live in your own truths. I enjoy hanging out with people who vibrate on the frequency of divine love. That is my truth that I accept and am okay with. Low energy is draining. High energy feels so right, so luscious and so good. High energy be like “WoW. Is it really this good?”
I totally appreciate a man who has a taste for passion and love. It’s a pleasure to be around a man who isn’t into being mediocre in any department.
You would love a man who won’t accept less than a loving experience with a divine, sacred, spiritual woman.
You ever notice your spirit feels so free when you stop talking to men who aren’t crazy about you? You ever notice how heavy you feel when you’re dealing with a man who obviously isn’t feeling you. Which is why he ignores you? But you thought it was something he did just in the beginning, and he’s running with it.
If you let go of trying to control, you’ll feel whole again.
My normal, warm, kind-hearted, loving, magnetic, soul filled self, loves to be free to be divine love. How does your soul feel?
My natural high came back. I felt joy, fresh air and life again. I began to play to the beat of life again.
Operating in a space of pure love is everything in this world. For the purposed are called to stay vibe high.
High vibe coaches get grounded in before client calls.
I definitely receive divine downloads for my clients, because I’ve done the work.
It was selfish you to allow myself to be part-time loved by anyone. It is selfish of you to deal with men who don’t show up properly. It is selfish of you and sacrificial of you to sit there and watch their behaviors, instead of admitting the FACTS.
You can always choose to learn from the WISDOM of others. But so many people love to say “What works for one person, isn’t good for the next.” So instead of taking wisdom and applying it, some of us chose to learn the hard way. The way of pain. Wisdom would’ve been so much easier.
Like the wisdom to not have sex on the first night or the first week, or the first date. So many women would choose to say that doesn’t apply to them, and learn the hard way. It may just work for 1/50. But why take that chance?
You must know your type and who is for you. Love is not a game to divine souls. You’re not like other people. Marriage isn’t just a business deal to you. You want your love to last. You want both people in the relationship to be happy. You’re not interested in controlling anyone, playing games or having ulterior motives. Yet you try so hard to not be separate from them. Which is why in the past, you’ve wasted time in the wrong relationships.. It came from failing to accept yourself and your deepest desires. It came from failing to understand that what you seek is seeking you.
Average people don’t deserve to mate with those who are called for divine love. Nor are they meant to. It’s meant for you to find your sacred soulmate.
So now you know you don’t have time for part time love, toxic love, half-way love or any love that’s not following up with actions in congruence with it.
Many have told you that they love you. But you’ve never felt an ounce of love coming from either of them. Their actions didn’t match up. But in the back of your mind you heard society and your exes telling you that you didn’t know what love is, because they believed that you should’ve been accepting of their mediocre, toxic forms of love.
Meanwhile, your version of love is innocent and pure. Pure, yet you took with you defense mechanisms from dealing with toxic men.
Like how many women go off on a man, instead of just closing the door on him and leaving him alone. The most loving thing you can do for a man is to close the door on him when he’s not showing up. Going off on him, and walking with him through it, because you love him and believe in him, won’t be seen as love by him.
Like I said, the ex who cheated on your ex, and hopped in the next man’s bed, but said sweet words to him, is LOVE, to him.
Why do you keep letting meant how are not your type creep into your space and be so unromantic. How many romantic dates did he take you on? How many holiday gifts did you get? Did he attempt to charm you at all? Nope… Men only do that for dream women.
It’s the little things. Though they can and do, do other MAJOR things… this is about your accepting your DEEPER desires.)
It sucks to be with such an unromantic man. Any woman with them needs a man on the side, which is what most unromantic men experience. Women who cheated on them and ran into the arms of other men. They only covered one area of a woman.
Those men usually blame the women with no understanding that it was all HIM.
A man must take care of his woman in 5 different categories, not just one. A woman is a HUGE investment. Without nurturing her in those 5 categories, he won’t reap the full abundance of his investment.
In fact, men greatly benefit from tapping into a Goddess. Especially when they see the depth of her light and fully invest in her, WITH LOVE. Such men will reap even greater benefits of abundance.
And when I say that, both men reaped in HUGE benefits. It just could’ve been better.
When you part-time a woman, you cut yourself off from the rest of her. You don’t have time to be half-way loved or part-time loved, so make sure that you are giving your all too.
The love you seek from others, is the love you need to give yourself.
Loving yourself for some means not allowing anyone to take you off the frequency of divine love.
When you allow people to play you short, that’s how you part time yourself. People are simply reflecting that back to you.
The man for you, knows he wants to be with you by the 6 month mark and takes action to solidify the relationship. They each took action, and would’ve solidified had a played my part.
The ones who move slow, simply use women up, and will tell you that they are just chilling. They believe themselves to be good men because they are honest. But everyone knows even if a woman agrees to give her body up in exchange for nothing, that she will still crave that man and want to be with him. If a man isn’t financially covering a woman, he’s using her body up. That’s hard for many to take. However, it is the truth. I covered this in “You Can’t Force A Man To Value You.”
Men who don’t know what they want, damage women. Women who won’t admit what they want, and keep boundaries that only allow in men who are with it, damage themselves.
There’s a whole world of madness going on because people are focused on money and everything other than love.
Refuse to be apart of that world. In your world you get money, love, success, joy, freedom and everything good that life has to offer.
Why CHOOSE to settle for less?
In addition, are you the type to cut people off. Here is a meme for you.
Communication is everything!
READY FOR DIVINE LOVE?
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Mar 31, 2020 |
People who say marriage isn’t for everyone, are the people who don’t have God’s LOVE in their heart.
They believe that they are going against societal norms.
But what they are doing is falling for the negativity of society and the beliefs of those who haven’t healed their hearts enough to experience an abundance of love.
Saying you don’t want to get married is really saying “I’ll never fall in love,” or “I’m tired of being hurt and disappointed.” It’s allowing a negative experience to control your paradigm. It’s carrying baggage and negative beliefs that don’t belong to your soul.
When a woman says marriage isn’t for everyone it’s a big sign that she also hasn’t been fully loved, protected, provided for, and covered by a man. It’s a clear sign that she works hard in life and does it all on her own. It’s a clear sign that she’s never found a true King.
Chances are she will look up to some other unmarried, powerful women who has also never felt the raw power of a rare God King.
But a woman who has been fully covered by a man, chances are will think differently. Like the women who cashed out millions after a divorce, from a husband who didn’t abuse her, and maybe it simply didn’t work out. She has no reason to think negatively of marriage. To her marriage is a good thing, because she comes out a winner.
The woman who entered a 50/50 marriage and bent over backwards, and became the nanny and the maid for a cheating man, will have a very negative disposition on marriage; when she doesn’t take self-accountability. So will a man who entered such a relationship. Not that those relationships don’t minutely work. But by God’s law they are bound to fail, because it’s backwards. The divine feminine and divine masculine must be properly balanced in relationships.
Anything is bound to fail when divine love isn’t involved. Anything is bound to fail when you move too far away from God.
Real love draws you in close and deep. You want the connection to last forever. It makes a woman feel like she’s found a place called home. It’s where her inner beacon and light has been guiding her the whole time. A woman is encoded to yearn for a masculine, alpha provider who values her and protects her heart.
When one refuses to accept that the most important thing in this world is love, they will spend a majority of their lives chasing money, and never fully living.
They’ll rush to the finish line, and later look back and see that it was all about the journey, and that they should’ve made time for love along the way.
Not to mention, working hard in the garden is for men. Women are supposed to be available to LOVE.
It’s what she was created for….To be loved by a man. But negative experiences cause her to take the position of “I don’t need a man.”
Woman wasn’t created to work her life away.
A woman wasn’t created to be respected for her business knowledge.
Women with business knowledge are the Goddesses of the world. But even she is called for divine love.
The only reason she embodies business knowledge is because she is called to be with the greatest of men; a God King.
Her mindset is a flourishing vessel that helps him manifest. She has to understand his business and multiply his business, through love.
She pours love into his business by the way she speaks to him, the way she looks at him, the way she caresses him, the way she sexes him, and the way she motivates him by being a divine muse of intellectual appeal, charisma, sexual allure, inner and outer beauty, a pleasing aroma, a touch that delights, words the stroke and invoke, a warm heart, and her submission to his leadership.
Notice nothing about working hard is mentioned, or putting hands on his business. It’s unnecessary for a woman.
Tis why every Goddess must learn to operate her business from feminine flow.
Just like you can’t chase money, you can’t chase a man either. You must allow them both to come to you. You call them in.
This is when you are in your power to multiply. This is when a God King is highly attracted to you, and wants his seed in you.
Your love and your heart, is how you birth a nation, an empire, and a legacy.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Mar 29, 2020 |
The term “real woman” is used quite often, and women are often blamed for their relationships.
But my oh my how people miss the men who tell lies. A real woman needs a real man.
Many a woman has found herself in a relationship with a man who is married, in a whole other relationship and just outright living a damn lie.
By the time she finds out, she’s deeply in love.
But look here Sis. There were signs. You cut him too much damn slack. You were okay with him being “busy.” You make it okay for him to not take your calls. You made it easy, by ignoring the signs. You didn’t want to come off as difficult, needy or untrusting…
He told you that you were tripping.
You wanted to trust him, even though he gave your clear signs that he’s not super crazy about you.
You wanted him to feel that you’re easy going and easy to get along with.
Would you like to know the signs of a good man and how to keep a man from cheating on you? Would you like to stop attracting low vibe men, and attract a brilliant high value man, who is committed to you?
GO GET THIS BOOK!
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Mar 29, 2020 |
Raising my consciousness has taught me a lot about men. The higher in consciousness I go, the more I understand my own self, the more I understand men.
For instance, most men don’t know what it truly means to be loved by a woman. They say they want it, but they have no value for it.
Men who end up with women who cheat on them are a very bad judge of character.
Most women are faithful.
You have to be a certain kind of woman to have a good man and just outright cheat on him, and let another man laugh at him behind his back.
You have to be a certain kind of woman to cheat on your man, in the name of Scooby snacks, cause it’s not like she cheated with a man who bought her a Bentley. She cheated with a man who paid her d*ck and attention. That’s all.
A good woman would never allow her man to be disrespected like that. She wouldn’t want anyone to look at him as LESS THAN.
But this is also that man’s fault, because a lot of men who get cheated on don’t really understand what it means to be loved by a woman.
They think love is basically a woman who controls her emotions. Therefore they end up in relationships with women who are not very passionate about them. They call in emotionally unavailable women, who simply don’t care.
You know why? Because what men care about is who THEY love. It’s not about who loves them.
Ohhhh, Catch22.
And when a woman does love him, he more than likely finds her to be weird or crazy, so he ultimately teaches her to care less, because he wants her to be less emotional… He would consider that BALANCE.
Most men don’t know what love is, because a woman has never truly loved them.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Mar 28, 2020 |
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Mar 26, 2020 |
I am one of those women who doesn’t like dating multiple men. I am perfectly fine with meeting one guy and sticking with him. After all it took me years to finally meet ONE man that I actually like a whole lot. So I know what I want when I find it.
However, I am a clear case of why that behavior tends to backfire on a woman.
Here are 3 Reasons Why Women Need To Date Multiple Men
Men do not take women serious when he is her only romantic interest. He does not find value in a woman who doesn’t value herself enough to have multiple men pursuing her.
1. A woman who sits at home on her laptop working, focused on building her empire, not needing attention from more than one man, is not very attractive to 97% of men. They want the woman who is actively dating and living her best life, without focusing on him or paying him much attention.
2. Secondly, when a woman only dates one man, she is dooming herself to HIS opinions of her and her life will reflect that experience.
If he’s a 50/50 man chances are unless a woman is cooking, cleaning, being submissive, bending over backwards, and telling him he’s the greatest thing since self-baked sacrifice, he will have complaints about her.
I am one of those hard-headed women so I tested out lots of the principles in the book YOU CAN’T FORCE A MAN TO VALUE YOU or I watched other amazing women’s experiences.
HERE ARE TWO SCENARIOS FROM THE PAST AND HOW THEY TURNED OUT.
Man #1 who is on team 50/50 / take what you can get from a woman.
– This man complained about me from day one. He said he didn’t trust people and that people had to earn their way in. He never gave me $1, and all he did was complain about me. Meanwhile I healed him from heartbreak and got him feeling REALLY GOOD about himself.
He said that I was a woman who had every quality a man could want. Yet, he never provided for me and continued to complain about me. He told me that I needed to be a better woman and DO more for him. I cried and told him about my needs, to which he ignored me.
Man #2 – Who is a PROVIDER
- This man told me that I am a Goddess and that I needed to embrace that. This man provided for my needs right away. When I cried telling him about my needs, he provided even more and told me that he wanted to be the King for me.
- He thought me to be an amazing woman and asked to marry me. At the same time Man #1 who wasn’t providing continued to complain about me, telling me that I wasn’t marriage material…
Let’s repeat this so that you get this. The man who PROVIDED for me, wanted to marry me. The man who didn’t provide for me said I wasn’t good enough to even be in a relationship with him and wanted me to DO MORE. Man #1 also couldn’t feel my ENERGETIC presence. But Man #2 could see the God in me and simply wanted my presence for life.
That experience is what healed me and made me start choosing provider men.
Here is another example:
This stat came up today on Facebook and it triggered a hilarious memory.
😂😂😂 Funny story. That man never took me serious. One day he walked up to the gate to get in the building. A man was standing at the gate. The man was on speakerphone with a woman asking for the gate code. He recognized the woman’s voice and instantly got pissed off.
He then rudely pushes past the man to enter the gate code.
5 minutes later I get a text saying “I guess I am not good enough for you. I see you like ballers. I live downstairs from you, and you’ve never even invited me up to your condo.”
As if it was my fault all he ever wanted to talk about was sex, that he never got from me.
As if it was my fault that another man had enough sense to take me serious.
That man was my new boyfriend at the time. We had a good laugh at how the dumb man downstairs, never got to know me. Didn’t know that I was a badd azz boss chick. Didn’t know that I was a geek. He only knew me to be a sweet, pleasant, attractive, feminine woman, who he wanted to phuck.
He didn’t even qualify to phuck me. But because I talked to him from time to time, he thought he was good enough for me.
Now had I only been entertaining him, I would’ve probably spent years not being taken serious.
That same man stays inboxing me on my fanpage, asking if he can see me. But look how he treated me when he had my attention, YEARS ago.
3. Dating multiple men gives a woman the opportunity to meet a man who actually values her.
You Can’t Force A Man To Value You is a book you need. You need this book more than you need a pair of $1400 Louboutin heels. Heck this book will help you attract a man who will buy those shoes for you anyway. And if you can’t afford to buy them yourself, it will also teach you how to become a woman who can afford whatever she wants, so you don’t have to settle for less.
