The reason why so many relationships fall apart, is because people seek to control the life experience of another.
I was talking to someone the other day and I mentioned how God seemed to keep leading them to PEACE, and that each time they rejected it.
This person told me that my idea of peace was not his idea of peace.
This person had seen the ocean for the first time in their lives. Many people grew up seeing the ocean. But for someone who has spent most of their adult life not seeing the ocean, the sight of it is deeply embedded in the memory and completely soul transforming.
There is something about the vastness of the ocean, the sand on the beach, and the sound of the strong powerful waves as you watch them coming ashore.
In the water, you may see birds hovering around. You may even see the sun glistening on the peaks of the wave. But other than the birds and the sound of the waves, you hear nothing else coming from the water. Water is silent. It only makes noise when it moves. Yet deep beneath the waves, life is there. All kinds of life. If you are one of the brave humans who will dive into the bottom of the ocean, you will find all kinds of God’s creations that you’ve never seen in real life.
Like a starfish looks so pretty by the way they pictures are drawn. But seeing a star fish on the beach may actually gross you out. In reality, it’s not a very pretty fish. The IDEA of it is what’s so pretty.
Before we get into relationships we often have these preconceived ideas of what relationships are and what they are supposed to be. Only through life lessons, experiences in relationships and increased consciousness, do we begin to see that relationships are meant to be safe places to allow people to grow.
People can’t grow when they are constantly being judged for everything they do. People need a safe place to grow into their divinity. They need freedom to express themselves. They need understanding and unconditional love.
You can give a person that when you are forcing YOUR IDEALS on them of who they should be, or how they should act and go about life.
This is how clashes happen. It’s why the bible tells you to be with someone you are equally yoked with. What is your idea of peace? What is their idea of peace? Can those two ideals get along peacefully? Maybe.
If your idea of peace is a committed faithful relationship, then you are going to clash in a relationship with someone who believes their idea of peace to be dealing with multiple women at the same time.
This is where honesty comes in at. The person who wants the faithful monogamous relationship usually expresses this. The person who wants a poly relationship usually hides it. They not only hurt the person they enter into a relationship with, but then they hurt their own selves and ruin a connection due to dishonesty.
Oftentimes it’s the man who wants the open relationship and the woman wants the man so badly she agrees. Most women would actually prefer that a man only wanted to be with them.
From my research I noted that most people in poly relationships are not happy. It’s because they are all seeking love outside of themselves. They are trying to feel a void. A void that can only be filled with God’s love.
You will never experience the magnificence of God’s love until you enter into a committed relationship with someone you deeply love, who loves you back just as much.
While we are told by HUMANS to not look for love outside of ourselves, we are not meant to be alone. We need connections with other humans. We need to love and to be loved in return. But just like everything else in life, you’ll never find what it is you truly seek, when you’re too afraid to commit to something or someone.
Before you get with someone, be honest about what your needs are and the things you desire to experience. Then see if you are both willing to peacefully take the journey together. For their can be no peace without love.
This blog that I am about to write. I feel a need to write it, because God tells me that it’s going to help a lot of people.
Lately I’ve turned my light up a little bit, and I admit to finally actually being ready to attract my divine soulmate.
Before I was simply getting ready to be ready. Or at least I was TRYING to talk myself into being ready. But honestly, you can’t make the decision, until you actually are ready. Before, it was all in my mind. But now I perform the ACTIONS necessary to attract my divine soulmate.
A few awesome men have popped up this week, saying that they have interest in me. One guy told me that he was ready to fall in love with me. Others offered me flights to places.
The flight guys, I get them a little bit. But not really. And the rest I don’t get them at all.
Now that I am in a place of wholeness, I honestly already know what it is that I am looking for. But that goes against dating rules.
See dating is where people slowly talk, get to know one another, and MAYBE decide that they like each other. It is what NORMAL people do. I am not normal. I am 5D and of God. I FEEL connections. I connect with people quite swiftly. There really is no need to prove who they are. I just get them, and often they get me.
So this whole thing with men LIKING me. LOTS of men like me. I can open up my inbox at anytime and get any man to take me out of a date. Men would drop everything they are doing just to fly to Vegas to take me out on a date. I can open a dating app and accept the request of numerous men who ask me out on a date.
So, enter the high value woman who has found herself, knows who she is, is fully walking in her purpose in life, doesn’t look for validation outside of herself, knows her power and how much she adds to any man, understands the value of her vibration and the REQUIREMENT to keep her high vibration and I find myself rather in this space ALONE.
I don’t feel alone. But I know I’ve created this beautiful space around me. It’s filled with so much peace, clarity, hope, passion and love. So at this point a regular man doesn’t have a chance with me. He has to be extraordinary and know HOW he is going to add to my life. He has to be spiritually inclined and know not to ask me a million questions that leads down a path of a past that’s irrelevant to the future that we could be creating together.
At this point, a man has to know who he is, and what kind of legacy he plans to build on this earth. All because I know my worth.
One man randomly inboxed me and asked me when did I want to go to lunch. See that’s how a man from the past would talk to me. They think I’m the same Kissy they met. Maybe they even remember when I wasn’t always doing so well. Either way, I am not that girl no more. I do not wish to be treated average, normal, less than or any way that is not of a Goddess. So a man ASSUMING that he gets the right to take me to lunch, will be denied.
I will go to lunch with the man who asks if he can have the HONOR of my presence for lunch.
Another guy invited me out on a trip, and I thought about all of the trips I’d been on with him. He’s not a bad guy at all. But his value of my worth just doesn’t cut it. Not that he hasn’t given me money, but not I LOVE KISSY kind of money. Not that I believe that he REALLY appreciated my divine presence on those trips. In fact he has no idea of my spiritual power. And it’s not that he doesn’t treat me like a Queen when I am in his presence. If I say I want to go to dinner, and dinner costs $500, he is with it. No complaints. He’ll make reservations and take me wherever I want to go. He’s all about EXPERIENCES. And if he can experience something with a beautiful woman, that’s even better. See it’s not really about ME, it’s all about HIM.
I thought about how if I hung out with him on a trip, how much I would once again be going backwards. He’s a good friend, but it’s not like he doesn’t want to date me.
See the things that I learned in my abstinence from dating, taught that even the way I allowed my male friends to treat me were a reflection of me. If I had a male friend who doted on me, and took me to foreign places on private jets, took me shopping when we got there, and pursued me like I was the one he really wanted, the truth is I would have a COMPLETELY different view of life. That view would be more in alignment with my highest self.
I am starting all over. I am going to love again, like I’ve never been broken-hearted. I am going to be sweet, kind and feminine, despite the madness in the world, or the thoughts of men in the past who didn’t appreciate me.
So to make my shift, I will only be aligning with my dream man. If a man isn’t showing up like my dream man, and I’ve already given him access to me, I won’t be going back that way. This decision is going to change my life and help me manifest my desires way faster.
Women have to realize that men who don’t come to worship the ground you walk on, are a waste of time. I know the kind of effort that a man who really wants it is willing to put in.
So a man saying he likes me or he’s interested, actually doesn’t mean anything to me. It’s just words. A man telling me he wants to fall in love with me are just words. I have completed orbed out of HEARING the things men say. I only see ACTIONS these days.
So for men who seek relationships with healed, high performing women, I would suggest that you do your work and actually be ready to put in work. High value women want charming men. While some women are willing to forego their desires and give up on their dreams, some of us have learned the hard way to never, ever do such a thing. We learned by trying to settle for less than what our hearts desired.
As a man, it is your responsibility to know how to be a charming man, and get a woman to open her heart to you. I know you want things to be easy, but God is not going to give his greatest creation to you easy. A divine woman has to be earned by a King. As a King is looking for a woman who arouses something deeper in him, than he’s ever felt before. He too wants divine love.
So if you’ve never felt divine love, you don’t know how to embody it, and THAT is exactly what you need in order to marry a spiritual boss chick.
Beta men who are alpha tell men to let women chase them. And that’s all cool, but the minute she is introduced to a real man who puts that charm on her, she will notice that her first pick was a fraud. She’ll notice that he really wasn’t her knight in shining armor. She’ll notice that he really isn’t all that and don’t actually know what it takes to win in life.
Beta men give you dating strategies that are not of LOVE. In order for those strategies to work, it often requires that a woman not love or know herself.
A King wants a woman that knows what she wants and where she is going. He’s not looking for a confused little girl.
The KNOWING is what separates the real from the fake. Just like I know what I want, a man should know what kind of woman he wants, and what kind of woman is going to best suit his needs. Which means he needs to know what his needs are. Most men don’t. But when he does the work to get really clear on what he wants, he becomes a beautiful brilliant man full of light, love and purpose, he can then spot what he wants, and go after it, because its a must have.
See 3D people get involved in take it or leave it relationships. It doesn’t matter to them either way. Which is why the relationships fall apart. Just like manifestation of anything else, you must desire it deeply within your heart and be living there already.
Men need to find a woman that you not only want to date and get to know, but you want to bask in the beauty of her essence, cause you can feel just how much it uplifts you and brightens your soul.
Unless you can feel energy, you can not keep a spiritual boss chick. She will swiftly outgrow you.
Men who can’t feel are on a never-ending search. A search for something they are never going to find. Because it first has to be found within you. You can find nothing outside of yourself that’s not already in your spirit.
I noticed that most of the men who say they like m or ant to date me, haven’t entered the spiritual realm, which is why they can be round me and not FEEL anything. Their heart chakra is blocked.
No man can receive a woman as powerful and divine as me, if he has not first received the God within. A woman like me can only be found by first seeking God.
I noticed that men who are not connected to MY LEVEL OF GOD, want me to be less. They’ll start picking at my hair, my hair color, my clothes, my high confidence, and things that are a waste of time.
Men who are connected to my level of God, actually see me higher than I see myself. They help me stay focused on out performing my best self. They feed life and love into me. These men are of my tribe.
Both men and women must find a mate within their tribe. When you find a million and one things wrong about a person they are not your tribe or maybe you have a negative mindset. Because real love require that you think a person is absolutely AMAZING as a person, even if you don’t necessarily like some of their traits when it comes to dating them. Cause that’s the REAL LIFE way it’s going to be in a relationship.
Trying to visually make someone meet your IDEA of perfection isn’t soulmate love. Soulmate love is a connection so deep, that you want to get along with them and figure out how to maintain that connection for the rest of your life.
What I talk about is so deep, and most people don’t understand it. Most people still engage in the act of sex, just to get a nut.
Not to mention that women date for husbands, and men date or fun and sex. While I completely understand the way men think, my soul tells me that my King thinks above and beyond such simple thinking. I refuse to believe that all men are the same. Some man has to stand out. And they always do. That’s how I’ve found myself in relationships. Now maybe those people didn’t appreciate the soulmate connection we had, or maybe I was the only one KNOWING. Who knows. I just know that there is a man out there who values love the same way i do, and he’s been looking for me his whole life, the way I’ve been looking for him.
Now imagine not showing up as that man and how uninterested I would be. See dream man already knows how to get me. God will tell him.
Fellas, if you want that divine woman that you know you deserve, seek God.
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All people really want in this world is someone to play the game with.
They want someone to make the game of love FUN. But the truth is, most women don’t show up as that woman.
Yes we could blame men. But let’s just focus on the 5 good men who play their role.
He needs you to show up as his dream woman.
And unfortunately there are rules and regulations.
Nope, you don’t HAVE to play games. Yup. You COULD settle for whoever, or make it easy.
You could just meet a person and go all in, and CLICK.
But the truth is, in this world, in this day and age, good men need women who will play the game.
He wants to be inspired by you. He needs to be inspired by you.
Give HIM what he wants and he’ll give you what you want.
Play the game from day one sis. Please that man. Tantalize his senses. Make him chase.
The problem with women, is that you don’t really want to be chased. You want to just give in and have a good time.
I am the opposite. A few men have accused me lately of RUNNING when they chase me.
Why do I run? Because they aren’t chasing me properly. Just like I men have their rules. I have my own set of rules. And when men don’t play the game of charm and seduction I become afraid of them.
I fear that they may be the wrong one.
Now quite naturally I will be the first to tell you that it’s not smart to live in fear or date with fear.
But I gotta be honest with myself about my own track record. And I am glad that I was.
I was running because I feared that I may fall for the wrong man.
I didn’t allow men to BE or BECOME that man for me. I ACCEPTED that men are who they are well before they meet me.
For a while, I forgot that I was a totally inspiring being to men, who has motivated many men to make 6-7 Figures.
That includes, boyfriends, and clients. I gave them motivation like they were my husband.
Now self-help work lead me to realize that obviously I’d done some things wrong.
I’d motivated the wrong men.
And now that men who will do something with my gifting and walk deeply into their purpose are chasing me, I automate tell myself that THEY are not good enough.
I found my worth and know that men must put in EFFORT for me.
So if they don’t like chasing, they are not the man for me.
But as women, you must realize that every man is not strong. Every man is not the lion of the jungle in every category. Men get tired too. They get tired of chasing and being rejected.
But here is the thing. If they hired me as a dating coach, they would no longer get rejected.
Men rarely ever realize they are the reason that women run from them. They are the reason that women reject them.
They often think it’s internal or that they are not good enough. Rarely ever do they realize it was due to their own lack of effort.
See women have vaginas, that men like to call p*ssy. They focus on f*cking the hole, sucking the clit, fingering it and doing sexual, delightful things with it.
But rarely ever are they told just how WET a woman can get, without a man touching her.
If a man truly wants a high value woman who is going to do the work to ascend with him, transform with him, and build wealth with him, then he needs to know how to make the p*ssy wet without touching it.
That’s where I come in at.
I will motivate a man to get even the baddest, finest, most brilliant, most sexiest, spiritual woman, to bow down to the King in him, WHILE maintaining her own crown.
That’s what a man wants, more than anything, And as women, the gender often falls short.
If you are a woman who is TRULY ready to meet your sacred soulmate, then it’s a must that you submit to God and come work with me. Allow me to heal you and help you step into your divinity. Allow me to help you BECOME the woman he wants to chase for the rest of his life.
Allow me to help you become the woman whose body he wants to make cum over and over again for the rest of his life.
Many women think that cooking and cleaning is what will make a man want to make you his wife.
Others think phucking him like a porno star will do it.
But it’s many things that makes a man say “This is the one. I must have her. I want to spend the rest of my life with you.”
All of those things make up this beautiful game of dating, that most women gip men out of.
Learn how to play the game Sis. Make LOVE fun for a man.
Women think that it’s making money, catering to him, giving him the wettest, most sloppiest blowjoy ever, and blah, blah, blah is what he needs from you or what will impress him.
But Sis, that’s not what’s going to impress a man in his right mind, that has stroke with the divine.
That man wants to experience a whole new other kind of sex. He wants it mystic and deep.
Sometimes people wonder why I’m single, or what’s the hold up. The truth is I know how the game MUST be played, and I didn’t feel like playing it. I didn’t have the energy to give to it.
So instead I went from 1 business and 1 source of income, to 7 businesses and 7 sources of income. I focused my love on building things to water the seeds that God has placed within me.
The seeds I often ignored due to focusing on the wrong men, embarrassing myself and being distracted.
I knew I needed some time to TRULY put God first. I did that. Now when a man meets me, he has to measure up by putting me first.
But let me tell you something. I NOW have to decide to play the game, IF I want a man to be my husband.
Just like men weren’t showing up in ways that would continuously make me want them as my husband, because I wasn’t play the game, men weren’t inspired to do the things to BECOME my husband.
We blame so much on men. But ladies it’s US.
And even though, YES, men often to women wrong, I would love for women to take accountability. It would make the world a much better place.
Cause here is the truth. Every woman who played the position of a high value woman, has the EXACT man she wanted to marry.
The younger you are to play your role, the faster you’ll get your husband.
But most women don’t know HOW to play the role.
The funny thing about me is that I’ve always known how to play the role. But my purpose in life was to try different techniques with men, just so that I could see that NONE OF IT WORKS, except the high value role.
God wanted me to know these things so that I may speak with conviction to you.
I am not rehearsing things out of a book, or reciting what I’ve heard other people say. I speak from experience and LOVE.
No man has ever dumped me. They all wanted to be with me. They all progressed. But I got bored with their slowness and stopped being femininity motivational. Mostly because I didn’t feel appreciated. So I decided to stop the game before the wedding.
I could’ve gotten married at anytime. But had I got married, without first deeply understanding my soul’s purpose, I wouldn’t be able to teach and preach the way I do.
So now that I’ve deeply served my purpose, and wrote the book that God says is going to change the lives of not only black america, but WOMEN & MEN all over the world, I am ready to play the game and get my husband.
I can’t say ATTRACT, cause nearly every man wants to marry me. I am divine feminine and a spiritual boss chick. Not to mention that I am one brilliant, smart, sexy, saavy, fiesta nerd.
See men find me to be A LOT of fun, but quite often they’ve upset me, and made me not want to be that FUN girl with them anymore. So I made a DECISION not to be.
This is the thing about men ladies. Rarely ever do they realize that it is THEY who is not showing up properly to inspire you to want to KEEP him. His mind the whole time is on what YOU are doing to keep him. 🤣
See, men don’t know the value of a Goddess. Well at least most men don’t. And the ones who do have proposed to me quick, fast in a hurry, and I respect them for that.
But what I don’t respect them for is not showing up as a King in every way. My kind of man shows up as a King in LOVE.
And yours does too. That’s what you’ve been waiting for.
So Sis today, I want you to stop waiting and take charge of your life.
I want you to make a move to INVEST in your love life and the spirit of your soul.
I want you to find on me on Facebook or Instagram and say “KISSY. LETS DO THIS.” I want to help you get ready to call in your Queen.
See, the thing that’s stopping you is a BLOCK. You’re having difficulties DECIDING to get married to your soulmate.
I am here to help you move past that block, so that you can deeply and intrinsically FEEL this thing called LOVE.
Before I forget, let me remind you to get the hottest book on love in your library. You probably own at least 100 books. I assure you this will be THE most important book in your collection. You’re going to read it, and each time you are going to remember some things about yourself.
Baby you are a genius. I wrote this book vibrationally just for you. Because like always, you already know that it’s levels to this sh*t. It’s chess not checkers. High value men like winning big things. You feel me. They aren’t thinking about that checkerboard. They are aiming, for the top.
Where you at Sis? It’s time to pull up to a whole new level, of being a HIGH VALUE WIFE.
Most men are basic AF, and want a badd chick with a simple chicks self-esteem.
Most men are soooooo basic, yet wonder why they’ve never experienced real love.
Then what do they do? They see a woman like me on the internet, giving them all the game. What do they do?
They say “Oh. She’s too loud. She talks too much. She’s always siding with women, and BLAH, BLAH, BLAH.”
But they are all addicted to me anyway. WHY?
Same reason that I’ve never been dumped by a man. I AM DIVINE LOVE. I am the greatest love most men and people have ever felt.
Why am I really single? Because I was busy building stuff, that is called an EMPIRE. I didn’t need a man around unless he had money to go with that offer of D*CK. D*ck is all most men bring into a woman’s life.
D*ck, headaches, responsibility and asking her to be less of herself in order to please his simple azz.
Most men are so worried about what a woman is going to DO FOR HIM, that he fails to notice that he is basic AF, and his woman could easily get a better man who valued her.
Let me let you in on a little secret. If you’re a good man, a high value woman is not going to let you friend zone her. If you were such an awesome man, you wouldn’t be able to get rid of a good woman. She wouldn’t let you go. Women so easily these days or even after weeks of tears, let me go, because the truth is she realized he wasn’t all of that in the first place.
Most men think they are smarter than women, and because we get s*ck and tired of arguing with their dumb azzes, we agree with them, and allow them to believe so. It’s not even a competition. Most smart women are happy when a man is highly intelligent. Meanwhile men try to compete against her intelligence.
Weak men stay threatening to do something to women or inflicting violence on women, without seeing that women are stronger because she will simply stop talking to you. REAL POWER is not in harming people. It’s in having a presence so valuable that a person would be a fool to let you go.
And most of the women who RAH, RAH, RAH for men, the truth is she is barely in love. Everyone is settling for BASIC. Basic relationships are boring AF, that’s why people need so many other mates to keep their attention. They don’t know how to BOND.
Men chase women these days by hopping in her inbox to say HI and when she doesn’t make it easy on him he goes about his business. THAT IS WEAK AF!
What badd azz woman is actually excited by a dude hopping in her inbox to talk her ear off? Are you a celebrity or something? You stacking IRAQ MONEY? Are you a Saudi Prince?
You don’t want anyone talking about you like that, yet that’s exactly how men look at women. It’s all about what she has and what SHE is going to do for him. Men are so darn basic that they repel the desire in a woman to even treat him like a King.
Men these days want chicks based upon them being cute, having a degree and a good job.
Well, just like ya’ll tell women that their degree and cuteness doesn’t matter. That only matters 50% to women. You need to show up as a KING. Queens are looking for KINGS. weak chasing is not King behavior. That’s pauper behavior.
And what most successful men do once they get a couple of dollars and some recognition is start thinking they are the best thing smoking to a woman.
Would you be the best thing smoking to Beyonce? Probably not. So step your game up.
I know some of you, who I won’t call victims or low-intelligence beings, already want to fight me over the blog title.
Let me help you out with that. Stop being a simple minded b*tch who gets triggered all the time, even by perfect strangers. YOUR REACTION is just that. YOUR reaction. You are responsible for your own reactions.
Next for those who think I’m insensitive. I’m not, I’m just being honest. Honest as a person who has been in 2 abusive relationships.
Here is something about black women, that’s about to offend some more sensitive people who don’t care if the race stays in broken, toxic or abusive relationships for the rest of their lives: Black women often act masculine AF.
WHAT INSPIRED THIS RANT KISSY?
TAHIRY DID.
The same Tahiry that was getting her azz whooped by Joe Budden 7-years-ago,
What she said may be true. But that is no way to talk to a man. Especially on national television. Talking about a man’s lack of finances is one of the most emasculating things a woman can do to a man. Not to mention the way she said it is completely masculine behavior.
But we’re not here to bash Tahiry, who already said that NONE of this is for show. It’s all her real life.
Now let’s talk about the real problems.
1. Vado is a 35-year-old man still trying to make it as a rapper.
2. Tahiry is not only used to men with money, but she wants a man with money. She SETTLED for Vado and in her mind loves him DESPITE him not having major dough.
3. Tahiry’s ex Joe Budden was a rapper and now she’s moved on to another rapper. I am not saying rappers are abusive or that they don’t value black women. I’m not even saying that a good portion of black men quite naturally display violence towards black women in general. What I am saying is that Tahiry still has the same frequency she had when she was with Joe.
4. If you want to inspire a man to do something, talking sh*t to him may work, but it’s also going to make him hate you. When you get with a man who is less than what you desire, you’re going to be HIGHLY disappointed in him off top, because chances are he also won’t treat you like the Queen you see yourself as.
5. Black women tend to settle for less and feel that there is a scarcity when it comes to men. So they want a man to BE MORE, AND DO MORE, and put pressure on him to do so. If you want a rich man, go get one. Stop listening to society telling you what you can’t do. It’s unfair to a man for a woman to be with him, knowing she wants a wealthy man. SURE, she may even tell him that in the beginning and he will still pursue and she will give in. Yet she doesn’t actually want to lower her standards or lifestyle, there she EXPECTS him to rise to meet hers. But if you get with most men when they are not already winning in life, they will resent you for being with them.
6. Strong women must know themselves and get a man who is emotionally even stronger who won’t always be triggered by her mouthpiece.
7. Oftentimes black men do manhandle black women, don’t open doors for her, don’t bring her flowers and don’t know how to sweet talk her, and take her kindness for weakness, so she often displays masculine behaviors in order to defend herself.
At some point a black woman has to DECIDE that she is only going to deal with men who nurture her femininity and already are the man she dreams of. Instead of trying to build a bear and talking crazy to him, because the suit doesn’t fit.
Now, YES, VADO was wrong for putting his hands on her. But black women once again, have to take responsibility for displaying such forms of masculine behavior. If you give a man masculine behavior he will treat you like a man and be ready to fight.
Now, drop your complaints about this truth that I just spilled down in the comments somewhere. But just know that complaining people like you DO NOT move the race forward. Sugarcoating things and women not take self-accountability hasn’t helped in the past century. But women knowing their truths has been moving black women forward in the past few years.
Women are not victims. You choose your life and your reality. You always have the power. Tahiry, Megan Thee Stallion, Jennifer Williams, and many other black women are living the storylines of victimhood because no one has shown them how to see their way out.
This isn’t a regular book. It’s a miracle inside of a book.
P.S. If me and my man were on a reality show, we would both be millionaires. People go on reality shows and have no idea how to truly leverage the position in order to create generational wealth. Meanwhile the nerds on the internet do it all the time.
Day in and day out, client after client comes to me. Each woman wants the same thing. She wants a man to romance her.
The pretty girls tend to get men who will take them out to dinner. Some fancy and others not so much.
But every woman wants her heart to beat. She wants to be romanced by a gentleman. She wants to feel safe, nurtured and provided for. She wants a man to choose her as the most special girl in his world.
And it never happens for misaligned women, for more than a few reasons.
Here are just a few:
Being a pick me is a good man repellent. A man doesn’t want a woman who is desperate for waiting around to be chosen by him. He wants the chick who is a prize.
Dream Man doesn’t show up until you show up as your own Dream Woman. In reverse many men find their dream girl, but she doesn’t show up like it, and therefore he doesn’t show up like her dream man.
You display too much masculine energy in your relationships. Men want softness, playfulness and ease. Not to feel like they are talking to another man.
There are too many people doing the whole “Lets get to know each other” thing. Not noticing that the whole time the person is showing you who they are. You’re thinking you’re starting out smooth and cool, and that all of the good stuff will come later. 🤣
Only people who live in fear hold back on all of their goodness. Showing up in a relationship in fear is a trauma response, and carrying baggage from previous experiences. What happens is so many people give their all, and fail to feel appreciated by others in the process, that they learn to show up as a less than version of themselves, while expecting someone else to fall in love with that lesser version of them. Obviously this would attract the wrong mate. You can’t attract the right mate when you’re not showing up as your authentic self. You end up attracting someone else who isn’t what they pretended to be….
Everyone should fully show up while dating… Trust that this will net you the best results.
You ever think about what being authentically you would net you?
Good men seek women who show up as a woman that is worthy of his chase, pursuit, romance and investment. That’s exciting to him and proves that woman different from the rest. Unfortunately for most women, they’ve completely lowered their value in order to be “picked,” chosen or loved by a man
💎 Therefore, It’s 25 average women to 1 high-value, feminine, emotionally intelligent woman.
While being a high value woman is a turn off to low value men because it makes them feel limited like they can’t afford her in monetary value nor character, high value men are complete turned on by a high value, feminine woman.
So the best thing for you to do is show up as your true, authentic, high value self.
MOVIN ON
Most women fail to understand this simple truth — Men who aren’t interested don’t chase. . If a man isn’t chasing you, he should be ineligible to be your future husband. Period. You can’t chase a man and then expect him to romance you. For what? When you’re chasing a man, he’s the prize, not you.
But that’s exactly what successful women do. Chase men, go hard and try to solve his problems.
Successful, smart, independent, and amazing woman, it’s time to change the way you do things…
What if I told you the very thing that makes you successful in your career is the very thing that’s driving love away?
The masculine energy that makes you so dope in life and business repels good men.
Men who don’t understand divine feminine energy have conditioned you to compete with men. Even more a lot of men love a business woman. But on top of that they want you to be sweet, fierce and feminine, which is a lot for the average woman to become. If you’re going to be all of that, you may as well upgrade to a better caliber man.
Without divine feminine energy and communication, you end up emasculating and castrating men.
Here are a few tips to help you slide deeper into your femininity.
1.When you leave the office or close your laptop, make a mental note: “I am always working, but I must release my work hat during off hours”.
2.Allow men to make date plans. Stop asking a man what’s up. If he is not making plans to see you AND planning where you’ll go, then he is not that into you or not ready to take on his masculine role. Move on!
3. Keep a journal for the next 30 days. Do 3 things everyday to unearth your femininity.
Take a bubble bath. Put on some soft music and relax.
Put on some sexy undies and dance around to some sexy soulful music…
Make eye contact with men, talk in a slower, passionate voice, thank them whole-heartedly for compliments, holding the door, buying dinner, etc.
Always let a man pay for the first couple dates and give a sincere smile and “Thank you”. Many women want to be equals and split the check or feel like they will “owe him.” If he pays but ALLOW him to be in his masculine.
Let your walls down. Good men can sense a traumatized woman from a mile away. Women in fear frustrate them. He wants a woman who is willing to relax and let go. When a woman operates in fear, you give off a vibration of “not trusting.“ They can smell this and will run from you pretty fast. You may be saying, “But Kissy, I’ve been cheated on, I’ve been lied to, why should I trust men?” Use caution and follow your gut when going on dates but when you have amindset of not trusting, you will inadvertently attract men who are untrustworthy. That is something to definitely address with a Quantum Healing Love Guru.
Don’t ever rush to a date. If you’re going to date after work, go home first. Get showered and feel feminine and fresh. You should be feeling good about yourself when out on a date.
Shut Up! Allow him to do most of the talking. Be attentive and engaging but not in charge. Be feminine, seductive and playful.
Make time for feminine self-care activities every day. Put a reminder in your phone first thing in the morning or at the end of the day.
Be patient! Allow things to naturally unfold. When you feel the need to take charge of or try to control something, remind yourself to step back… ALLOW it to unfold!
SAY LESS – Don’t divulge your whole damn life story on the first date. Be mysterious and intriguing. Share yourself slowly!
When it comes to masculine and feminine, imagine a lion out in the wilds of Africa, gracefully chasing a gazelle. When the lion is picking up speed, suddenly the gazelle lies down and says, “Here I am, just eat me!”
What do you think that lion would do? The lion would be like, “This gazelle must be a cheap knockoff or something, I better not eat that!”
Be authentic, loving, feminine… and remember, you are a beautiful flower that needs to be savored slowly.
If you are a high performing 6-7 figure professional, ready to stop thinking so much and do the healing work to call in a divine, intellectual, romantic, attractive, wealth-conscious soulmate, contact me on social media, to work with me 1 on 1.
The funny thing about speaking the truth is that people will ASSUME you don’t like black men. Black women love black men. But that doesn’t mean that black men love them back.
Are we supposed to continue hiding it and allowing women to suffer in silence, pretending like we don’t know?
👆 Should we continue to let the 5 good black men speak and act like all men are just like them?
👆 Should we continue to pretend that black women aren’t in DEEP PAIN, from simply loving black men?
👆 Should we keep pretending that black men actually VALUE black women?
Cause here are some facts that I know that happen in THE REAL WORLD.
1. Most black men take A LOT of pride in shuffling through multiple women, saying women aren’t a big deal, and wasting the first half of their life away chasing SEX. They chase sex so much, that some will say things like “Men don’t take badd chicks serious.”
2. Beautiful Black women stay dating unattractive black men who ain’t models, and don’t take great care or pride in their own appearance, then you wonder why he doesn’t value you.
3. You feel sorry for him due to the oppression that society places on him. Yet you don’t take note of what he does to himself by decided to CHASE WOMEN, and not value the sanctity of marriage.
4. These dudes can’t even afford to provide, because they are too busy chasing multiple women, trying to figure out how to get over. N*ggas be thinking they are so phucking smart, not noticing society and the powers that be been playing them like a puppet since day one with the rap videos with scantily clad EXOTIC women. And when a black woman is present, her greasest seven in the video is usually TWERKING. These men have been pimped for their phucking brains and souls and think the black women are the dumb ones. They’ve been taken for a ride to delay their own wealth, and they were the captain the whole time.
❤️ Black women sometimes aren’t badd women. Most people can’t even imagine the odds of 9/10 men literally being a terrible person, but swearing they are a good man because the are honest about not wanting anything real with you, and maybe they took you to Popeyes for a chicken sandwich.
Black women are in pain, and it’s the ones who try to silence their voices who are responsible.
Instead of telling women they are not good enough to get a rich, 6’2″ black man who is charming and knows how to treat a woman, start telling black men that they ain’t sh*t unless they pay bills.
You want to change the world? Well honey only THE TRUTH shall set the world free.
No black man should be in a woman’s face, f*cking her, taxing her energy FOR FREE, and having the nerve to talk sh*t about her. But that’s what they do.
Black women get devalued because they refuse to value themselves enough to get the best of the best men.
In her mind, she just HAS TO settle for LESS than the best, because black men told her she’s not good enough.
That’s why these negroes be so confused with my confidence. They are literally BOTHERED by a woman fully loving herself and feeling WORTHY.
How insane is that. But nobody wants to hear these truths. So go ahead, keep the lies going, keep women suffering and help keep most of the race in poverty with lies and b.s that don’t lead to legacy, love, nor wealth.
And lets keep letting the black men who are also SINGLE, and telling women that because she has a few kids she’s unworthy of a good man, lets keep letting them lead. Lets keep letting women pay these men to lead them away from God’s word.
Let’s just keep all of the b.s. going so that the race goes no where.
In many ways, the best thing a good black woman can do for herself is opt out the whole race.
Cause don’t forget how much women outside of my tribe and a few others hate each other. Most women in general are HIGHLY triggered by a good looking woman who loves herself.
Society has set the bar so low for women, that a Goddess is foreign.
Black women need to realize that you are going up against bullets with these dudes. The only way you’re going to win, is if you value yourself HIGH AF, the way you always wanted to anyway, until you let some 50/50 or abusive man talk you out of your worth, so that he could keep you DOWN on his level of worth.
You have to stop feeling sorry for black men. They know the way to go. They just choose not to.
1. They chose to have women providing for them.
2. They chose to not want to pay bills but access a woman’s energy.
3. They know they need positive energy, but have no value for a feminine woman’s energy.
Many believe that someone owes them something. That someone has to do something for them. They are usually looking for a woman to do things for them, that their mother didn’t do for them. They carry loads of trauma, while believing themselves to be good men.
I’ve heard many black men online say that men don’t value beautiful women; while chasing after beautiful women of whom they can’t truly afford.
All these wounded men have this thing going on in their heads, they have a WOE is me storyline or something.
Any man who comes around you, and constantly accesses your positive energy without paying you, is robbing you of your energy and your youth. A healed masculine man wouldn’t even do such a thing. He knows he’s playing with his own abundance.
Money is ENERGY.
You must judge a man on how much he’s feeding into you, on top of his character and his WISDOM.
Wise men seek to get married. They often just don’t know how to find their soulmate and try to do it on their own.
Britain’s Prince Harry poses with Meghan Markle in the Sunken Garden of Kensington Palace, London, Britain, November 27, 2017. REUTERS/Toby Melville
It’s not YOU that you have to change. You have to change your mindset on your opinions of the men and the people you let into your life.
A man will literally buy a $1600 pair of shoes, and go have sex with a woman for free. She thinks she’s high value because she’s free.
He thinks she’s of very little value because it took much of nothing to get her.
When you give black men money, help them get on their feet, or to allow them to live with you without paying all of the bills, his mind begins to seek out ways that he can TAKE more from you. He may even give a little, so that he has more room to TAKE from you. They will take advantage of your trust.
Quite often we want to sugarcoat this and pretend like it’s not happening. Because we want black men to be good. But it’s ludicrous to label every black man as “good.”
We want to because we often know what they are up against. They are up against a lot. They are up against oppression and even need to fear harm from other black men. And they ultimately take all of that stress out on whatever black woman will allow them around while operating in a low capacity.
The men and their 3D mindset is the reason many don’t have wealth nor do they know how to get wealth. Their eyes are focused on someone else’s wealth and believing themselves to be limited.
Which also means there is a disconnect from God and the heart.
Men connected to God want:
1. A woman he loves.
2. A woman whom he can provide for.
But most aren’t going to find love, because most don’t even show up as a provider. Right away they throw off the masculine and feminine balance. And women who don’t only allow in provider men, throw off the energetic balance also. This is why women are mostly blamed when the relationship goes sour.
If he’s driving your car while you’re at work, picking up other women, you are at fault for dealing with a man who didn’t have his sh*t together. Sis, sympathy, compassion and kindness gets you NO WHERE when you’re dealing with men who aren’t handing you money and feeding life and love into you.
You don’t get bonus points for feeding the snakes. A man is a slithering snake ready to bite, until he becomes a man of class, stature and value. See a snake slithers around, often being sneaky. A human MAN, stands up and gets what he wants by verbal command and consistent action backed with good intent. And we’re not talk about the so called good intent men who stay doing a woman wrong. His brain is all off, thinking harming you is of benefit to you because he supposedly had good intent. Such men have an immature mindset.
See some men are okay with taking from women, because he sees himself as lowly. In his own eyes, he believes he sees himself as high and mighty. But he doesn’t. Because if he did, he would get up and be a King who provides.
Therefore a man who is inadequate in his ability to provide for you is a danger to you. Remember that many single women take care of kids and multiple men at the same time. THE STRENGTH. It comes from dealing with one too many men who didn’t feel it was their God given ability to provide.
So many black men are looking for the maid. They want live in maids. Their entire value system of a woman is based upon domestic duties, without notice of his own ability or inability to provide STAFF for domesticated duties, and be able to simply enjoy his woman’s femininity.
Such a man’s mind is ran by a LACK mindset. And because of it, his mind thinks of ways to TAKE from a woman to make up for what he feel he doesn’t have.
There is a lot of dysfunction that goes on with many men. Single parent households and self-worth issues play out loudly on the screen.
You must change your movie script by only being turned on or interested in men who are capable of PROVIDING for you right now.
Another truth is you have a better chance of getting a provider man when you are already bossed up and providing for yourself. But what most women do when they are bossed up is go get a man who can’t provide, instead of being patient and doing the work to manifest dream man.
WHY? Because of the scarcity, that society and all the people disconnected from God have put out into the atmosphere. You fear you’re running out of time. You fear you won’t be accepted for your perceived flaws. They whisper the words “You Can’t” in your ear. It’s all lies. RISE and Unleash Your Inner Goddess who feels she deserves to be valued.
Judge men based upon how much money he’s investing in you, and his character when it comes to the way he treats women and his value system.
I was listening to a client the other day tell me how a coach was telling women who were average that they didn’t deserve an above average man.
He obviously only knows a small portion of life. Because what most successful, good-hearted men, who follow God and actually pay bills do, is get an average woman, because her requirements are low.
Only later does he realize that her low requirements aren’t a match for his high ambition.
Meanwhile there is a man telling women that they can’t have, exactly what many women are having.
Some will tell you that you can’t get a good man to provide for you when you have a couple of kids. Not true either.
But back to this one guy. He also said that women needed to stop looking for men who were over 6 Feet, because most men are shorter.
It’s the same old tired storyline. But it’s not these men’s faults. It’s the women’s fault for listening.
See women judge women if they don’t have a man. But a man can hop online and give out relationship advice without having a wife, without obviously having any value for actual high value women, nor without knowing the abundance of God.
Now as to what you can’t have. Every day a client is calling me telling me how she just attracted her dream man.
Anything is possible when people operate with their heart.
And women can freely operate with their heart when you set boundaries and BE the high value woman that GOOD MEN actually like.
If not, you set yourself up to be drained by men who don’t know the value of women.
Don’t view it as money. It’s not about the money. It’s the meaning behind the money. The meaning is, “I am consistently investing in you because I appreciate your energy and want to keep you in my life.”
One of my male friends said that to me the other day. He sent me $2,500. Not because I asked him to. Not because I needed money. He was the last man that I was expecting money to come from.
But here is the thing, he has great character. He values women. He didn’t even send me that money hoping to have sex with me. I haven’t seen in years.
You can have so many men loving on you and investing in you, or you can feel low value and deal with men who don’t invest in you, and will drain you.
It’s best to stop dealing with low vibe men and pretending you have a good man, knowing damn well he’s breaking your heart with his behavior. You know in your heart that you want to be treated like a Queen. Yet, you don’t want to cause black men any man, so instead you stand there taking the pain he dishes out to you. Instead you have opted to be a martyr. Stop it! It’s not about race at all. It’s about your HEART, your JOY, and what YOU deserve. Put yourself first. It’s the only way you’ll find a man who will put you first.
Besides that, feeling sorry for a black man or taking it easy on him, denies him of his own capabilities. Which means he will then look at you as a person who LACKS. You lower your own value by dealing with a man who isn’t providing for you. Not to mention he is going to resent the phuck out of you for looking at him as a charity/sympathy case.
When you meet a man who you like and would love to be with, although he isn’t providing for you, check yourself, before you wreck yourself. Tell him “Hey King. I think you are amazing. But I see you are at a place right now where you don’t feel that I am the woman of your dreams that you want to provide for right now. So I won’t be the woman who will handicap you. I believe in you.”
Send him on his way. He’ll use up another woman’s energy, and then come back to you money in hand ready to marry you and provide a great life for you.
Look at black men as capable Kings. He is more than capable of being wealthy and providing for you. If he doesn’t, you’re simply not the woman of his dreams. The woman of his dreams would inspire him just that much.
Accepting any man who doesn’t look at you as the woman he’s going out into the world and provides for, is essentially holding him back. You handicap a man when you don’t believe in his ability to provide for you RIGHT NOW. You think you’re doing a good thing, but chances are, it will backfire. It has with way too many women. The odds of such a man appreciating you are low.
Don’t feel sorry for anyone. Not even yourself.
Men who provide, feed LIFE into you. They make you have more faith in God’s ability to provide for you. Because a man is a vessel of God’s loving support.
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UPDATE: I received a phenomenal response to this blog post by one of my male followers.
Monty M Powell wrote: “Of course these black women are natural “mothers”! The slave mother would even suckle a white baby with her own milk before her own! Genetically modified for mothering up until this day!
Thank the nature of the universal way that my mother and grandmother showed me early that they didn’t owe me sh*t!
I’ve watched black single mothers soft as hell on their rotten disrespectful piece of sh*t sons! Raising a new generation of brothers who can’t even change a flat tire! When the warriors of any nation stop being warriors they tend to suckle their birth mother well beyond puberty! In the past 30 years this has been the common practice of the black woman with her male child and grandchild! They’re not teaching them sh*t and don’t care who knows it!
Dude gets locked up? I’ve seen a chick sell her food stamps to put money on his books! N***ah get outta jail cursing her out and being totally disrespectful!
The black males are learning how to bite the hands that feed them and the fathers of these miscreants have since lost control and respect! How can most of these “women” NOT feel sorry for some wayward bastard who doesn’t have the common sense enough to treat his own mother and grandmother with respect?
Then there’s the “GO-ON GIRL!” I don’t need no broke A$$ N***ah squad who secretly will nurse a street rat back to non-needy status only to have him burn the sh*t outta her and get a white chick after all has been said and done! Black chick of 2019 and 2020 are still playing the pick up woman and the aunt Jermima mammie type chick!
I’ve met a few of these coming through! Not every black man needs a hand out but a hand up in the form of living trust and loyal belief in a brother! Some of us know how to handle a real woman but we get confused while dealing with an immature slave mentality mammie! The same way black men forget their lane is the same way black women forget theirs! What makes us different from whites is the whites remind their men and women and many times they listen to each other while we don’t! Head strong becomes stuck on stupid from both sexes and in all ages in the black communities!
The title of Mother Earth belongs to the black woman! Whether she wants to own it or not! It’s clear many choose NOT to own it at all! Thanks to the times and social media. Many are choosing to not own sh*t while wanting the crown of Queen! Heavy is the head that bares the crown!!
Takes a hell of a lot more than jive hoe quotes and misguided bullsh*t bible verses to raise a nation of thinkers doers and educators!”
