by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Aug 16, 2020 |
Can men be friends with women?
This year I discovered something that I wish I’d knew a long time ago.
Your male friends are not your friends. I mean they can be, but most of them are not.
I HAD this bad habit of meeting men and ushering them ALL into the “friendship” category, unless they state otherwise right away.
If a man thinks he’s going to date me and be “friends” first he has another thing coming.
Here is why. My mistake was I required LESS of my male friends and gave them more time, more love, and more of my authentic self, MUCH FASTER, than I would give to a man of whom I wished to marry. So because of that, my male friends although GREAT men who definitely treat me better than most women will be treated in their entire lives, were not good ENOUGH to be considered as my man.
MY FAULT
But because they were given close access to me, they were playing a game, not knowing that I wasn’t playing the game with them. (You are always playing the game as long as men are around you.)
I once had a male friend tell me that he was dating 5 women and that I was his top pick. 🤣 While he told me this we were on a fancy smancy dinner date in Vegas. I was like “I didn’t know that we were dating. I am not in the running sweetie.”
Let me tell you something. I CALCULATE ALL MONIES SPENT ON ME. Only spending money taking me out to dinner, does not count as boyfriend/husband material. My husband would ball out on me in every way.
So if a man isn’t balling out on me, I know that I’m not his dream girl, and I’m okay with that. That means he’s not my type. Men get from me what they put into me.
When you meet men, realize they want to date you, and treat them as such.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Aug 15, 2020 |
In my life, I don’t use the word FLAKE. I think men who use that word are LAME. Cause the truth is women don’t flake on men who seem to have great value in her life.
The thing about most dating coaches is that they are married. So they’re not really out in the world experiencing dating. Which really doesn’t matter, cause the bottom line is people deciding what they want and going for it.
I cancel on people cause honestly, self-care is just more important these days. But more than flaking, I noticed that a lot of high value women aren’t accepting date offers.
ABOUT ME:
I am a published author, a celebrity blogger, a spiritual transformation guru, a motivational speaker, an entrepreneur, and a business woman. I run a billion dollar empire with clients who need me in tip top spiritual condition. My empire is in the ground stages of becoming. I am also an introverted nerd who values my time. On the other end I’m a geeky black barbie. On the other hand I am a Prophetess deeply into ascension and doing my soul’s work. I am also a healer known by the name of The Goddess of Love & Motivation. I am the Queen of The Masterpiece Tribe, that’s over 500,000 strong right now.
Despite being all of those beautiful things, I am also a part-time comedian, blunt af, and can be a hot mess at times. I am a lot to deal with due to my upbringing of coming from a rough environment and now being bourgeoise AF.
These are all of the things I truly am in real life. Now if you go outside of me and don’t take any of this personal, such a woman described obviously desires a very powerful man who matches her.
What I didn’t mention in my description is that I am drop dead gorgeous on the days I comb my hair and do my make-up. I am also pretty sexy with a curvaceous sexy body that will make a man’s eyes do a double take. Many people ask me if I am a model.
By now you see that not only am I confident, but I embody DIVINE CONFIDENCE. Not a lot of people can deal with that.
I think it’s important to know why I flake or turn down date offers.
- Although I desire a relationship, my work is quite often more important than going out on a date with a man.
- If I am honest, I am looking for a man who is one in a billion. He’s amazing, and knows exactly how to enchant me. Most men don’t know how to enchant me, so obviously they are not my dream man.
- I go out on dates as a way to mingle, be in male energy and get out of the house. Sometimes I find it more convenient to simply feed myself.
- I love men, but most men simply don’t excite me, and some days I simply don’t feel like sitting in front of a man pretending that’s he’s exciting. Me going out on most dates is simply me allowing a man to treat me like a lady.
- I become disinterested in men who may have a problem with my high level of confidence.
- I am enlightened. Most of the world is SLEEP. A Sleeping man has no idea what to do with me.
- The guy didn’t seem to truly value me.
- If I am to truly respect my goals, desires and wishes, there is no point of me going out on a date with a guy who is a 50/50 man, or isn’t rich. If I talk to him and sense that he’s not into providing for his woman, I stop talking to him.
- If am to truly stick to my desires only 9% of the population makes 6 Figures or more. So obviously I would say NO to most dates, because they are not in alignment with my dreams.
- There is no physical or spiritual connection present.
- The guy’s first date offer was whack, low budget, or he’s not interested in catering to my desires. I turn down all coffee dates. YET, we should discuss the fact that the average dating coach would suggest that I shouldn’t turn down low budget coffee dates, because stuff like that shouldn’t be iMPORTANT. See most coaches teach women how to get an AVERAGE man. They teach women how to settle for less and BECOME what a man wants, instead of becoming the woman a man NEEDS.
- He’s too needy on my time. I need space like the final frontier right now.
- He has a negative mindset and has complained about me not DOING for him too much
- He calls me and asks me to come see him right away that day, then gets upset or complains when I don’t say yes. Men who want me to drop everything for them, aren’t interested in ME. Those guys are seeking sex.
- He dates multiple women. I’m not into men who don’t know what they want. If you are my kind of man, you are looking for something in particular and you’ll breathe a sigh relief when you find ME.
- He said something that made me not want to have sex with him EVER.
- I have better things to do
- He’s not that attractive or bores me
- He moves too slow for me
- He’s not looking for love
- I’ve been out with him before and know that he doesn’t value me at my level, continues to not step his dating game up, is wasting my time and his presence makes me aware that dealing with him was part of settle for less syndrome.
- I don’t see most men as a potential mate. I was categorizing every man I meet as a “friend.” But men don’t approach women to be friends with them. Therefore that too is a waste, because if a woman is entertaining or talking to a man, she’s playing the game rather she knows it or not. Often-times I am just not in the mood to play the game.
Now that’s 22 walls/boundaries/rules that I have up. A man would literally HAVE to be brilliant, and of my tribe, to find his way through all of that.
Energetically I get along with just about everyone. Men who talk to me feel like they are having a great experience and that we are deeply connecting. Usually we’re not, I am just being polite. Beautiful women are very good at being polite and fainting interest. It’s out contribution to the world. Our presence makes people happy.
I noticed that even with the few men that I say yes to, rarely does it ever turn into a second date, especially if that date came from a dating app. The majority of men on dating apps don’t know how to connect to women, and don’t follow up. They wait for women to do all of the work.
And the people who ENERGETICALLY connect all seem too busy working and doing everything other than being with each other.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Aug 15, 2020 |
I believe that perhaps we do women a disservice when we go on and on negatively about men. Some of us will crack jokes on men, keep it real, then go about our business of healing and attracting better men.
But the thing is I noticed that a lot of women are not strong. They are not warriors who take self-accoutability at deep levels and go within. So they get STUCK in that negative belief space of men. They can’t get a man to treat them right on a long term basis for nothing.
And no matter how many times it happens, they continue to blame men….
Meanwhile the high value men steer clear away from such a woman.
The truth is, we’ve all met great men before. Even if he wasn’t perfect, quite possibly maybe we didn’t know how to handle him. Maybe we weren’t interested in him AT ALL.
Women want to be all that, so badly. But you can’t be high value to a man, until you are first high value to yourself. You’re never going to actually BE high value until you are acting in ALIGNMENT with your highest self, and no longer dealing with men who are not in alignment with the desires of your highest self.
Example: You want to go to Paris. You meet a man, who asks you what do you like and what do you want to do. Instead of telling her you want to go to Paris, you say that you want something SIMPLER because you don’t want to ask for too much. Then he starts granting your simple requests and later he becomes confused as to why you’re not happy with him.
Example 2: You tell a man you want to go to Paris, and he says I’m going to take you to Chicago instead. That man has CLEARLY just shown he has no interest in giving you what you desire, nor does he listen well. It’s all about him. He will continue to play you short and keep you settling for less, wasting your time. HE’S NOT COMMITTED.
For some men, manifesting you into his bed is his dream come true, and then he’s on to the next woman.
Before a woman meets MR. RIGHT, she has to know what she wants, and he shows he is right by GIVING her what she wants. All too often, women expect men to read their mind. All too often, good men actually WANT to give you what you want. But did you ASK?
How many of the men you complain about from the past, gave you want you wanted in the first place? Probably none of them. Either you didn’t ask, or they said NO, and you continued to let him partake in your life and body at a highly discounted rate. Which only lowers your self-esteem. Then you wondered why he valued other women over you. Heck, YOU DIDN’T VALUE YOU over him.
When you want a man so badly that you disvalue your own vision, you lack self-respect. Standards mean sticking to your value and vision no matter what.
You need boundaries that show you WHEN to cut people off. If a man says NO, then that’s a boundary.
If you’re the kind of woman who wants a man to take you out to dinner, but instead he calls you at 11 P.M. and says come thru, and you show up, then you’re not valuing yourself. YES, he will phuck your brains out, but he won’t have any respect for you. Men don’t respect women who settle for less. Yet, he will try to get you to settle for less, and to be EASY.
Women lack confidence when they fail to align with their soul desires.
It’s because you are willing to trade in your goals and dreams for a relationship.
IT’S NOT WORTH IT
Here’s another thing, great men actually want a woman to be all of that, but most times men actually aren’t all that themselves, because they have no desire to give a woman what SHE wants.
A woman must be what a man wants. He shows you are what he wants, by giving you what YOU want. It’s so simple. But not that simple, because quite honest a lot of women don’t know what they want, outside of the feeling of love and a man treating them well.
A great man’s vision expands beyond that. That’s just the basics.
The average man focuses on himself and HIS desires, without calculating what he must do FOR the woman, in order to get what HE wants from her.
Most men play a million and one mind games, and literally do everything OTHER than giving a woman what she wants. Which doesn’t help at all. It causes confusion and doubt, because some women are unable to settle. Their soul won’t let them. So there she will be WANTING to be with said man, but knowing SHE CAN’T because…. BECAUSE he isn’t showing up like her dream man.
As soon as you meet a person, if you have no desire to give them what they want, you are not aligned to mate.
If you’re in a relationship that you don’t like, you messed up somewhere. You settled. And men often know that you are willing to settle and treat you as such. Respect yourself and your goals, if you want a man to respect you.
One time I had a conversation with a high value man, and we had this moment where we were present with one another discussing our visions.. He had one vision, and my vision was his, but on a wider scale. And he said to me “I like that. I can do that.” He was with the expansion.
Now, I wish I could tell you that I’ve met a million men like him, but I haven’t. He’s a rarity. I have a platonic male friend and when his vision is expansive. He’s already walking in it and manifesting pretty fast. He dates and is looking for the one, and each time he find her, no matter how the woman seems to have it all together in looks, business and finances, he realizes that she actually hasn’t done her soul work. He realizes she’s not healed enough yet. He doesn’t look down on the women at all. He just simply notes that she’s not ready and he goes back to work.
Women value random men too much. These men don’t give a phuck about you, until they do. Women often think men and people in general are like us. They’re not heart-centered like us. They don’t come for love. People live in their own lil 3D worlds full of chaos and no love.
But the problem with only complaining about the bad men, is that women focus there and fail to realize that they must step their game up and get back into alignment to capture the heart of a their desired high value man.
Don’t give up on getting a man who actually excites you.
The men who date a million women should bore you. Those guys are always all over the place with no focus. Focus on a man who is focused on you.
When a man isn’t giving a woman what she wants, it’s ALWAYS the woman’s fault. Because women should only entertain men who are in alignment with her CURRENT and FUTURE desires.
In my experience with men, I notice that men don’t listen to women. However what I noticed about Kings is they listen, and maybe don’t hear, but they turn around and seek help to understand. Kings magically manifest me into their lives in order to help them understand Goddesses better.
The men who work with me are seeking extraordinary women. I have yet to coach one man who simply wanted a normal, average or basic woman. They literally want a Goddess who is fully Unleashed.
But most women are doing everything other than truly doing the work to Unleash their inner Goddess. So it’s not all a man’s fault.
Men also aren’t perfect. Both sexes these days in the conscious community are VERY quick to throw away people if they seem imperfect. That’s deep wounding due to fear. Cause what I have learned is that just like LIFE, if you want some amazing and really beautiful, YES, you have to fight for it.
You don’t fight them. You fight against yourself to balance your equilibrium and vibrate on the right frequency of connection.
As to how I was often seen speaking negatively about men, is what with great purpose, to heal the women who needed healing.
The women who purchased You CAN’T FORCE A MAN TO VALUE YOU – BECOMING A HIGH VALUE WOMAN & ATTRACTING YOUR DREAM MAN are now in the process of becoming.
Many shifted so fast that their soulmate showed up or a King or a God who activated them pulled up. Life is what you make it. If you’re going to get a man, make sure it’s man who is with the plan.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Aug 13, 2020 |
Sometimes men meet women on the first date, and they fall in love. That woman is everything he ever wanted. But she ain’t taking sh*t from nobody.
That’s one heck of a woman. She’s A LOT to deal with. He’s scared to jump. Because who is ready for that level of commitment, to say that they aren’t going to make anymore mistakes, that would cost them your love???
Men be having QUESTIONS. …. But women be soooooo busy thinking with their heart.
A woman is very capable of breaking a man; and men know this. She can break him down to the bottom, she can keep him stuck going in circles, or she can break him through to the top.
Or she can just let him do the work on his own….and that’s a pretty magical method, that men find delightful.
He already has that Superman S on his chest
He doesn’t really need you to DO anything.
The method requires that she’s not stalking his every move, to see what he’s doing wrong; cause she has belief in the man, and already knows, it’s nothing to a boss.
Men need room to grow as humans, not just as your life partner.
God said be equally yoked and on the same path, so that you’ll have less friction.
But how often do people meet and even know what path they’re on?
Some people are just moving along without a real destination. Others know exactly where they are going.
When you really know where you are going, then you can truly get on the journey.
Sometimes women don’t know what they wan. In that case, any man such a woman could possibly meet can’t give her, whatever it is that she doesn’t even know that she’s looking for. You’ll always settle for less if you’re not tuned in with your star player and MVP.
This holds true for men too.
And until you suddenly decide to figure out why you keep thinking, you need to go get something you’re missing, before that person shows up. But people don’t randomly meet their soulmate. They pray to God, and THEN that person shows up.
And then the moment of decisions…….
Anyway, I just wanted to remind you of how good God is.
He gives us what we want, and yeah, sometimes we be messing up, and he keeps giving us chance after chance again. God gives life. And you get another chance to do it right. Then you just breathe, and decide to love again.
Give yourself permission to stop waiting, to stop thinking so much, and to simply RECEIVE. THE. LOVE.
You don’t have to be afraid to love. God is holding your hand. You’re going to get it right this time. There’s nothing to fear.
On your healing journey, you may need a little direction to home, a way back to love. The best way to do this is to understand human psychology when it comes to relationships. A lot goes on in the heads of men and women. They see things differently. But it’s a must that men start seeing things a little differently. And Sis, you are the only one that can help him see it. You must see yourself.
Men generally give you what they can. They usually tell you what they have to offer for their healing journey. You have to know what that healing journey with you is worth. Cause regardless we’re all on this healing journey, at different levels, and require a match. Matches start the fire.
It’s the story of the twin flame journey. The souls who are called for sacred ascension and divine reunion. See, here is the thing. You can only meet on a certain frequency. The secret to getting on that frequency is reading this book.
The thing is about people and communication, is that all perspectives are legit. It’s all about the perspective that you would like to see.
Would you like to see more joy, peace, love, empowerment, or something else? Was is the feeling that comes out when you smile. What is that feeling?
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Aug 12, 2020 |
We’re talking specifically a particular kind of good man. The high value kind, that all of the smart women want. 🤣
What’s funny is that all society talks about these days is what the woman wants, and that’s like SUPER important. But how do you expect a man to be superman, if HIS needs aren’t important?
They say forget about the other person’s needs and just put yours first always. And that’s a good thing, but sometimes there could still be a better way. When everyone is focused on SELFish, there is no need to get along.
There’s a unique balance between love and self-love. LOVE is easy. Self-Love is harder. You have to want everything that you want for others, for you too.
Take some time to breathe in your own transformation, and breathe in peace.
They say God is a woman. But here’s the thing, God is a man, IF you are a woman. God is a woman, IF you are a man.
This is why humans need each other. The Gods & The Goddesses need each other at their specific divine level. These are the roles you are called to play. Therefore the journey can’t be accomplished alone. It won’t. It’s a divine sacred partnership. The kind worth healing for.
HEALING is a very important part of the journey. You shaint try to hop around and skip it darling.
Incase no one has told you in a while, you are amazing, talented and beautiful. The whole world should take a peak at you. I see you divine ones.
Love,
Kissy
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Aug 11, 2020 |
Building a man up is something that’s done on great amounts of love by heart-centered women who seek to put their man in position of being a King.
The only problem? Once he’s built up, he resents the pressure she put on him to become more. He resents the help she gave him, while looking at him like he wasn’t capable of doing it on his own.
When he’s finally in that energetic place of self-love and abundance, when he finally feels the God within himself, quite often he usually goes to get another woman whom he deems as better than you. He even provides for her and does the things you felt like he wouldn’t or was incapable of doing for you. Like paying all of the bills.
WHY? Because she only sees the new him. She doesn’t know about the man you felt you “had” to build up. She speaks to him like the King he is today. You’ve created HER King for her.
And he sees this new woman as EVERYTHING that you weren’t. He talks bad about you…… You don’t get that credit that you were seeking.
Men often call women gold diggers. But the truth is the average man is a energetic gold digger. They will suck all of a woman’s energy up, until she’s depleted and then move on to the next woman.
Build a man up at your own risk.
If you’re the type of woman that knows you love pouring your love into a man and motivating him, then it’s best to get a man who really doesn’t need you for anything.
Motivating him will stretch you and grow you. He will cause you to focus on YOURSELF.
That thing you were supposed to be doing in the first place.
Men leave women who neglect to put themselves first.
Have you experienced men leaving you, after you’ve built them up? Are you feeling confused and don’t know what went wrong?
God is trying to heal you.
Is your marriage on the rocks? Go get this new book and learn the secrets to attracting and KEEPING a high value man.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Aug 11, 2020 |
As I was doing some research on a story for my crime blog, I came across a woman who murdered her husband, mostly cause she didn’t want to be with him anymore.
In that moment, it truly and deeply struck me of just how deeply unconscious most of the world is.
Is so simple to DECIDE to leave your wife or to leave your husband.
It’s also pretty simple to DECIDE that you are going to fix, improve, or work on your marriage.
Life is all about decisions, but somehow people often think that the only way they can have what they want, is by getting rid of their mate permanently.
It’s like people are unaware that you really do get to have whatever you want, and both people in the relationship can truly be happy and get what they want.
Being in a deeply, loving marriage, takes great communication and a deep desire to want to continue the journey of life with your partner.
I find that many couples don’t do the work to continue appreciating one another, growing together, getting to know one another on a deeper level and healing each other.
When you are one with the soul of your soulmate, you’ll find that life becomes ever so more rewarding.
Here are 5 Tips on How To Make Your Marriage Work
- Decide that you not only want to, but will stay together and commit to resolve problems together.
- Most arguments are due to the individuals in the relationship feeling like their point is not being understood. It often takes a moment of pause, inner listening, acknowledgement of the others feelings and simply letting go of your opinions. Understand sometimes you just have to let go and let your mate see things their way. Your LOVE as a couple, is more important than you being right.
- I find that men often need to put their egos to the side and honor their wives a bit more if she is a boss chick. Her growth is highly dependent upon the amount of love you pour into her. If you trust yourself as a man, know what watering your Queen, will have her watering you in return.
- Seek counsel outside of your relationship, only with someone’s whose main desire is to improve the love in the relationship. This would best be an enlightened person who is not into choosing side, but instead allowing each to see the others point of view and grow from there.
- Realize that most of the things you complain about in your partner are a reflection of inner issues that you have with yourself. Which is also why it’s very important to not focus on negative traits on your partner and to instead focus on what you love about them.
These tips are what couples do when they are ready to grow deeper into love. It’s very immature to always think the grass is always greener on the other side, because no matter how green the grass may be, you are still there. You are in charge of watering the grass. Tend to your grass at home.
Would you like to improve your current relationship and double your income in the process? Are you tired, feeling a bit unmotivated, and looking to get your second wind?
Contact Kissy for a free strategy session to get your relationship to the next level.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Aug 11, 2020 |
Trying to fit into society is such a waste of time. You gotta have boundaries, a DO NOT DISTURB list and so many other things to deal with these men. You have to cater to their emotions. You’re too strong so they want you to be even more vulnerable, so that they can talk sh*t about you and call you weak.
What if I don’t want to have boundaries? What if I desire a man who will simply respect me that way I respect him, and if either of us are not doing such, then we sit down and talk about it.
What about truly being in love with your best friend, who you are also super sexually attracted to?
Why does it have to be the other way? Why must there be so many rules?
Can we dance and melt together, into eternity? Can we fully love one another into total bliss?
Why would I have to do it the other way of mistrust? Why do people tell you to trust, then turn around and break your trust? What is it all for? Where do the heart-centered people belong?
I quit with all of the rules. I refuse. I’ve discovered that strong men actually exist. Every man isn’t a weak lil b*sh who needs his mama. Some men just let you open up to them, depend on them, and be strong when you want to, and when you don’t feel like being strong, and you need his manly support, he’s there for you to hug you, hold you, calm you down, soothe you and help you balance your emotions. Some men say “Here baby, let me help you. Let me show you a new way. Let me introduce you to some new things.”
And when you have sex with him, his love flows into you like the ocean, caressing you, releasing you, pulling you away from all suffering, into total bliss.
And I see that man, and suddenly I’m like “Yo. Can I explore the world with you, and get to know you on a global level? I’m asking, but I’m not really asking. I’m letting you know that you are the one.”
Now, are you going to squander this opportunity? Are you going to waste it by thinking I am your maid? Or are you going to hop all in, forget what other people say, and REALLY, TRULY experience this thing called divine, sacred love?
It feels like the perfect breeze going through your nose, down into your bloodstream. Have you ever experienced that kind of love? The kind where you can just let go of all of your fears and inhibitions?
Have you ever met your match in LOVE? Someone who wasn’t afraid to love you fiercely?
Some men really are DADDY. 😍
Are you ready to set yourself free and meet your soulmate? Would you like to learn the secrets to understanding the way people think and how to effectively communicate with them, in order to get what you want from your relationships?
Grab this book.
They say love isn’t a movie. Except that’s exactly what it is. It’s just that quite often, some people don’t realize the movie has started.
Love is always and forever present with each moment. It’s just a matter of letting it in.
Sidenote: You HAVE to BE YOU. No one can give you permission to do that.
