On Monday, Tahiry Jose sat down with Hollywood Unlockedand discussed the past allegations of being abused by retired rapper and podcast great, Joe Budden. She let the truth take it’s place this time. Tahiry claimed the rapper and popular podcaster beat her during their past relationship to the point where he fractured her rib and broke her nose.
The painful reflection came about as Jose spoke about her most recent relationship with Vado, who Tahiry labeled the “brokest man she’s ever been with,” on Marriage Boot Camp, to which Vado violently went for Tahiry’s throat, right there on tv. (Sometimes you just wish some of this stuff was just tv. But it’s not. It’s people’s real lives playing out for everyone to watch.)
Tahiry & Vado on Marriage Boot Camp
As Madam Noire, plays back the memorable scenes of the episode; at that point, Jason Lee asked her if Budden was her abusive ex. After a number of seconds of thinking before she spoke, Tahiry released a heavy burden and confessed to dealing with abuse at the hands of a man she once loved.
Jose knows that people may not believe her story, because she’s been all buddy, buddy with Joe Budden in the past, and was even caught in something of an entangled love triangle with him and the mother of his son, Cyn Santana.
“I’ve had to endure this bully for the last 10 years. I even befriended the bully,” she said. “I didn’t know what else to do.”
That hit really deep………..
Tahiry says she couldn’t hold it in anymore, after Budden brought up her and Vado’s situation on his podcast, and lied about his abuse towards her, forever.
“During the chat with Lee, she opened up about verbal abuse leading to physical abuse, and how her decision to try and leave him allegedly ended with her being thrown down the stairs. She also speaks on what it’s like to be abused and still want to deal with the person who did you harm.
As for Budden’s account of things, and he has been accused of abuse to the point of miscarriage before by model Esther Baxter, he claimed in 2010 that he did put his hands on Jose at one time after finding out she was allegedly cheating. He claimed he only “mushed” her (which is still a no-no).
“I mushed the sh-t out of her f–king a–. And I think she was asking to get mushed,” he told Angela Yee. “She was dead caught cheating and I was fresh off tour and I was like ‘What’s up? You’re caught, you’re busted.’”
Jose says things went quite differently than what he claimed. Hit the flip to see what she says about what she allegedly endured.”
It’s not that nobody believes her. I definitely believe her. But most other people simply don’t care. They’d rather focus on Budden’s new baby and girlfriend. Plus Tahiry did herself no favors by being on a reality show where her new man seemed to get a bit violent with her.
One thing that stood out about the interview for me is Tahiry saying how she only saw Vado once a month for 2-years and he hadn’t decided he wanted to even be in a relationship with her. Jose says they were trying to figure it out. (Meanwhile like the boss chick that she is, she put Vado on the map. 🤷🏼♀️)
So even though Tahiry says she has high standards for who she dates, she actually doesn’t have a CHARACTER standard for herself, as to the character of man she dates, and how he treats her.
I heard Tahiry say that Vado kept using the shock bracelet to shock her during a particular unaired episode. To which she said she turned around and told him “I wouldn’t hurt you for any reason, why are you hurting me?”
It’s interesting how Tahiry plays back in her mind, how the show was was a puppet master, leading the storyline of her being an abusive woman, and causing scene agitations in order to get her to violently respond to the trauma being inflicted upon her. It’s like she’s watching her life from outside of herself; watching it all play out with awareness.
Jose then goes on to explain how Vado who’d she never seen do drugs a day in his life, was suddenly smoking and getting high, while mixing a dark Hennessy liquor with a white Tito’s liquor; and acting like a whole new character.
Tahiry discusses the wild scenes between she and Vado on marriage bootcamp.
(chilllllllle. We’re getting deeper insight. Where did Vado get the idea to suddenly heavily partake in heavy intoxicants? Did the show encourage him? Did they have a recruit on staff to encourage him? Was it his idea because he was nervous to be on t.v.? This is deep.)
One must understand that although a celebrity, Tahiry is a normal human being who went through some things. Seeing how the random guy also became violent with Jose, you can see she’s still suffering. She may continue to attract abusive men, until she heals her trauma. Healing trauma often takes a woman spending some time by herself, getting to know herself and seeking out spiritual healing.
Yet, make no mistakes about it, Tahiry is a very beautiful, smart woman; who just so happens to love the wrong men. I most certainly hope that she finds some healing.
I’m glad I watched this episode myself and saw her SPIRIT, instead of simply reporting on her as another hot mess celebrity. Jason Lee did an excellent job of showcasing Tahiry in her authentic light.
The episode was really good. Check it out below:
Part of he insight for this blog post came from Madame Noire.
What you can most learn from this blog post, is how a beautiful, talented boss chick has allowed men to waste her time. High standards are not good enough in today’s society. A woman has to raise her standards even higher, because the good men who treat women well and value them, vibe pretty high.
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I know you’re not supposed to tell a man what to do. It’s often a waste. But what I’ve learned is that smart men listen to women.
So I’m not telling you what to do. I am only telling you what you NEED to do in order to live a better life.
While the average woman can’t find a man who will give her money or invest in her, there are actually tons of men who are real life tricks.
Why are they tricks? Because they give money to basic chicks, expecting something impossible in return.
Abundant and affluent men want women to look at them as providers, but that’s not how basic chicks look at provider men. They are basic because their value isn’t that high. Yet many provider men get with such women thinking that she’s going to be impressed with him. He also hopes to change her life and turn her into a boss chick.
Each time it tends to backfire.
First of all, being a boss chick is A LOT of mental work. It takes a certain kind of woman to be willing to deal with the day to day pressures of providing for herself. Other women have men who 100% provide and those women don’t work at all. Their mind and the mind of a boss chick are two different things. One creates and the other is a great receiver of masculine energy.
How many men have you met who can pull up their Cashapp and show you ALL of the women they’ve sent money to?
Did you see the joy of his face for being a foolish man? Did you hear his pride swell as he talked about what bums most of the women were?
Did you wonder why he didn’t have enough sense to give that money to a boss chick?
It’s because he’s in his ego, and wanting to be captain save a basic chick.
Instead he needs to give that money to a boss chick who is doing something.
I went in depth about this on my new podcast. Check it out below.
If you want to have a happy marriage, or a healthy, loving relationship, and to be a happy, then you as a beautiful Goddess must be honest with yourself. What is it that you truly want? How did you imagine your life to be?
Beautiful women belong with rich men who love you & invest in you. Otherwise you’re either alone, giving to YOURSELF, or settling for less, being drained by a man incapable of meeting your greatest desires.
I posted this on Facebook..
What I noticed about many men who have a DESIRE to be rich, but aren’t, is that they value the energy of everything and everyone, except feminine energy.
In order to gain wealth they invest their energy, money and resources into:
– a job
– other men
– a business
– traveling
– a car
– jewelry
– video games
What I noticed about a lot of wealthy men is that they invest a lot of time and resources into women.
For instance, I’ve had at least 3 black men invest a few thousand dollars a piece into me the last year, without expecting anything in return from me.
All of these men are aware of my mission and support it. WHY? Because they are high value men who know the importance of having a Goddess in their lives. They are aware that they benefit from my energy and divine knowledge.
Here is the problem with the first group of men. Until a man DECIDES to commit to a woman, he won’t be able to provide for her. In order for most men to actually walk into wealth, he must have a desire to PROVIDE for his woman. This hidden is programmed into the Universe.
It’s Yin and Yang. Balanced energies. It’s divine masculine and divine feminine when a couple both have their energies balanced. Such an act takes a great deal of commitment to the union.
I’m not with the men who’ve feed into me, but what they do is believe in a woman’s vision and send her finances to feed into her security. The Universe then blesses him with more abundance and riches. They do this as they patiently wait for their Goddess to show up. Some already have a Goddess and simply support the nurturing of other Goddesses.
These men also often provide for their family members. This is all no coincidence.
Meanwhile, other men have a belief that they need to get their money lined up before they commit to a woman.This is true to certain extent, but what’s the definition of lined up? Most of those men don’t have a certain dollar amount in mind. If they did, they could launch a product online and make 6 figures within 30-90 Days.
If they invested into smart women, chances are, one of them would tell him that.
Kind of selfish and self centered to go into a situation expecting and not offering much
Your thoughts of a woman are a reflection of yourself love. If you have nothing to offer a woman, you feel that women have nothing to offer.
I have a lot to offer, therefore I attract both men and women who have a lot to offer.
This post triggers your selfishness and your habit of only focusing on what you can get from a person, instead of what you can give a worthy woman. It would be wise to surrender to LOVE.
I went to his profile:
About him
– uses the word HUSTLE
– says he looking for someone to BUILD with
– posts photos of other people’s fancy luxury automobiles
– wears air force ones
He’s not a dumb man or a bad guy. He’s full of God and gratitude. He truly believes he’s doing his best. But his mindset is seeking what a woman can DO for him, without realizing what a woman actually DOES.
His mindset does not attract high value women. Therefore he doesn’t realize that the only women who would be sexually attracted to him are low value women who have no value of their own sexual energy. I.E. a WORTHLESS woman.
So his judgements are now based upon the women he attracts, which is based upon the ENERGY he puts out, and his belief system.
This cycle will continue for him and he’s in his 40’s, working a 9-5.
I love to love and the goals is to find a love that reciprocates what you have to offer.
I did a podcast about this topic. Listen Below
If you want to have a happy marriage, or a healthy, loving relationship, and to be a happy, then you as a beautiful Goddess must be honest with yourself. What is it that you truly want? How did you imagine your life to be?
Beautiful women belong with rich men who love you & invest in you. Otherwise you’re either alone, giving to YOURSELF, or settling for less, being drained by a man incapable of meeting your greatest desires.
I posted this on Facebook..
What I noticed about many men who have a DESIRE to be rich, but aren’t, is that they value the energy of everything and everyone, except feminine energy.
In order to gain wealth they invest their energy, money and resources into:
– a job
– other men
– a business
– traveling
– a car
– jewelry
– video games
What I noticed about a lot of wealthy men is that they invest a lot of time and resources into women.
For instance, I’ve had at least 3 black men invest a few thousand dollars a piece into me the last year, without expecting anything in return from me.
All of these men are aware of my mission and support it. WHY? Because they are high value men who know the importance of having a Goddess in their lives. They are aware that they benefit from my energy and divine knowledge.
Here is the problem with the first group of men. Until a man DECIDES to commit to a woman, he won’t be able to provide for her. In order for most men to actually walk into wealth, he must have a desire to PROVIDE for his woman. This hidden is programmed into the Universe.
It’s Yin and Yang. Balanced energies. It’s divine masculine and divine feminine when a couple both have their energies balanced. Such an act takes a great deal of commitment to the union.
I’m not with the men who’ve feed into me, but what they do is believe in a woman’s vision and send her finances to feed into her security. The Universe then blesses him with more abundance and riches. They do this as they patiently wait for their Goddess to show up. Some already have a Goddess and simply support the nurturing of other Goddesses.
These men also often provide for their family members. This is all no coincidence.
Meanwhile, other men have a belief that they need to get their money lined up before they commit to a woman.This is true to certain extent, but what’s the definition of lined up? Most of those men don’t have a certain dollar amount in mind. If they did, they could launch a product online and make 6 figures within 30-90 Days.
If they invested into smart women, chances are, one of them would tell him that.
Kind of selfish and self centered to go into a situation expecting and not offering much
Your thoughts of a woman are a reflection of yourself love. If you have nothing to offer a woman, you feel that women have nothing to offer.
I have a lot to offer, therefore I attract both men and women who have a lot to offer.
This post triggers your selfishness and your habit of only focusing on what you can get from a person, instead of what you can give a worthy woman. It would be wise to surrender to LOVE.
I went to his profile:
About him
– uses the word HUSTLE
– says he looking for someone to BUILD with
– posts photos of other people’s fancy luxury automobiles
– wears air force ones
He’s not a dumb man or a bad guy. He’s full of God and gratitude. He truly believes he’s doing his best. But his mindset is seeking what a woman can DO for him, without realizing what a woman actually DOES.
His mindset does not attract high value women. Therefore he doesn’t realize that the only women who would be sexually attracted to him are low value women who have no value of their own sexual energy. I.E. a WORTHLESS woman.
So his judgements are now based upon the women he attracts, which is based upon the ENERGY he puts out, and his belief system.
This cycle will continue for him and he’s in his 40’s, working a 9-5.
I love to love and the goals is to find a love that reciprocates what you have to offer.
I did a podcast about this topic. Listen Below
One of my followers sent me this video, and I must admit, I have never heard a man say a woman made so many mistakes in under 4 minutes in my whole life.
A man who had sex with a woman and never took her serious, later broke up with her, to her detriment. Once he ended the relationship, by leaving a voicemail, the woman left her good paying job in order to chase him down and have a conversation with him. As if that wasn’t enough, she dragged him onto the Dr. Phil show hoping he would give her another chance.
The way this man summed up all of her mistakes in such a short period of time is truly fascinating.
This 4 minute clip is legendary. It’s a must watch for all women. It’s going to change your life and show you a reflection of the way A LOT of men treat women and look at women.
A career woman’s greatest problem is often that she thinks that men don’t waste their time. She is shocked to learn that a man would spend his time getting a woman’s number and getting to know her for the purposes of sex and nothing else.
It took for her to drag this man on tv, just to realize that he didn’t want her. This is highly embarrassing as a woman.
When you see the MINDSET of some of these women, you begin to understand why men call other women who go off on them and tell them about themselves, “crazy.” They are used to sweet women who just beg for another chance, instead of a woman that’s like “WTF are you doing?”
Now we could say it was all so simple and that she should’ve known. But he took the woman to his mama’s house, used her up for her FREE BODY, and then told her that she needed to love and value herself more…
Chilllllleeeee. He played on her emotions for the sake of receiving good S.E.X.
And men, PLEASE stop being a double-minded man. Maybe you think you’re only wasting the woman’s time, but you waste your own time and slow down your own wealth.
You may need to check your vision. A double minded man is unstable in all his ways. #KeepYourHeadUp Full Sermon on Youtube at @lhhoustonchurch
Many heart-centered women are starting to realize that men don’t care about being loved. What men care about is WHO THEY LOVE.
When a woman loves a man too much she is willing to mother him, teach him, coddle him, and tell him what to do. Men want to feel like they know everything and that you believe in them. So, it doesn’t work.
One man that this may not apply to is Grant Cardone. Elena Cardone does not play. When Grant gets low on dough, she tells him to get out there FIX IT, and to go make some sh*t happen. She won’t take no excuses from him. I don’t believe the average man would be able to appreciate such a woman.
What men care about is being respected. In order to get love from a man you must respect him, and not love him too much.
There is something about men that makes them care very little about being loved. Men love women who can pretty much take or leave them.
I’ve never met a man who actually appreciated my love. Not a even my son or my brother.
All men want is RESPECT.
If you love him, show him RESPECT, more than you show him love. 💡 Respecting a man requires that you stay in your FEMININE place.
And for most strong women, you are not going to respect a man who is not paying your bills. So, you may as well just add that as a requirement.
I’ve learned my lesson. I 100% do not have respect for the opinion of a man who isn’t paying my bills, because chances are, I am outworking him.
Men often have this thing about 50/50 and wanting a relationship to be even. Which actually weakens his position and makes a woman have less respect for him. Therefore 50/50 men shoot themselves in the foot.
A man’s lack of understanding, appreciation and value for love is why most men will never be loved. It’s the reason so many end up with gold diggers and women who don’t give two phucks about them. Love even scares some men, because they don’t want to be responsible for your emotions.
If you detach from men a little, you’ll notice more men will suddenly like you.
Either way, it’s best that you BE THE WOMAN HE LOVES. Which means get with a man who loves you. Get the man who likes you. Stop chasing or dealing with the man YOU LOVE or LIKE. Chances are your deep love for him actually turns him off. It makes you weak in his eyes.
Are all men like this? No. But most are.
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💞 There’s nothing you can do to stop a man who wants you from being with you. I promise you that man is going to do what it takes. He’s consistent. All the rest will show up weak, like lost sheep.
Men who know what they want have such strong will that I’ve seen myself intentionally manipulating them in order to push them away. Cause it’s hard to get from underneath a great man’s power once you’re in his web. This is why you have to be a gate keeper and only allow in men who qualify.
HERE’S HOW:
🦋 1. What are the top 3 qualities a man must display to even get on your roster or enter your dating vortex? These qualities of his serve YOU.
🦋 2. Feelings are important, many dating coaches tell you to dismiss feelings, and you end up with someone who is NICE, that you’re not feeling, but he’s good on paper. If Mr. Paper doesn’t turn you on, that’s not what’s up. This describes most basic relationships. God ordained relationships have feelings involved, just like the lusty ones. They are EXCITING. The ENERGY of the relationship is of upmost importance.
🦋 3. If a man doesn’t make you feel like a teen girl again and doesn’t have any power over you, that relationship won’t work out. You are looking for that FEELING, that causes surrender. That’s what you’re searching for. You will only get it by sticking to number one and making sure he checks off on those 3 qualities.
When you jump in a brand new whip you get feelings right? So why the heck would you think relationships are any different. The beginning of relationships are fun and explosive. It’s the driving force.
So men, don’t be the slow, lame azz dude okay. That makes vaginas dry out fast af. Don’t tell her you’re not spending money on her. That ain’t cute. Be the man of her dreams. He tells her that she can have whatever she likes. Don’t force her to pick another man over you.
💐 Women LOVE butterflies okay. She’s phucking obsessed with them. Give her some darn butterflies. Inside of every woman is a little girl. She likes candy, flowers, pretty things, and she likes hanging out with daddy. She loves when daddy talks to her, takes her places and shows her new things. She loves her daddy.
Let your presence be a present by feeding her mind. It’s all pretty simple. Have fun! Life is fun. Love is fun.
A man asked me this question today. “Do we ever find someone who likes us as much as we like them?”
This questions has two dimensions.
1. Someone will always like the other person more. Rarely ever is it even.
2.:Yes, but the problem comes when those two people finally meet, they tend to forget how hard it was, or how long it took to meet a mutual match.
When most people meet there is nothing there. No chemistry, no feeling, no nothing. Then oftentimes when they least expect it, they meet a match. A FEELING hits them. They feel a sort of CONNECTION.
They say “lets be friends” and allow the connection to go into the friend zone.
Other times they meet the most beautiful connection and one or both starts trying to see what’s wrong with the other, while secretly HOPING for perfection. That’s totally counter-productive. As each will eventually start taking the connection for granted.
So then they go back out into the world searching. Then they meet another aligned soul. Once again they forget how it was before and start focusing on the perceived bad of a person. Rarely does anyone ever say “Hey. Let’s see how we can nurture and grow our LOVE.”
The world completely underestimates the FEELING of LOVE and the value of it. They try to making loving relationships with people who they don’t really FEEL love towards. But they don’t know this, because most people have never experienced real love. So it’s not like they know what they are missing or searching for. They are just doing things while hoping for some happily ever after.
High value people have this belief that love is everywhere and easily accessible. It is. But not the deep, soulmate connection you seek.
I love almost everyone. But that’s in limited amounts. The deep love that I can share with anyone, will only be shared with special ones who are able to receive it.
I have a very high value for love, but in a world where most people don’t value love, I am a weirdo. Humans actually believe that the humans who seek love are weak. The whole world almost tells you to focus on yourself and more self-love over seeking out a mate. Yet, most people in the world aren’t rich.
You know who is rapidly acquiring wealth? Couples who are in love. Money is LOVE.
Souls who are truly love attract everyone. But everyone isn’t love and people love at their own capacity. Add consciousness, and you’ve separated yourself even more.
When you meet an aligned connection, appreciate each other and don’t take the connection for granted. That’s how you maintain love.
Even when it comes to the light and love community, most of them are actual void of real love. Love appears to be something that only so few souls experience, due to people’s disconnection from God.
Very few people in this world have truly experienced divine love.
Those who have, love immensely, in ways most humans will never be able to grasp.
There’s levels to everything. Love yourself enough to obtain the love that you deserve.
I found myself watching a Youtube video today and I wondered to myself if men actually know how to love.
Most black female dating coaches at this point have encountered by content and have shifted to speak more highly to women. They stopped telling women that it’s their fault they attract the men they do. You know why? Because it takes a badd azz chick like me to admit truths. I know that honey attracts everything, and amazing women who do amazing things, attract EVERYONE. Rich men attract EVERYONE. Amazing people must keep their borders closed and only open it to high value people who match their frequency. Because just about everyone wants to get into a light, love and wealth party. It’s like partying in the VIP, at a hot Las Vegas night club.
But I don’t think many people in this world know how to love. Mainly men. I see men on YouTube who claim to be HIGH VALUE, and I am sure they are “high value” to non-spiritual women. But to a spiritual black woman, a high value man takes on a totally different definition.
Spiritual black girls seek men who live from the heart. Today I was reminded of just how rare such men are. Yet at times men are men. Even a man who lives from his heart, chances are doesn’t know how to love, nor does he have great value for love.
One of my male friends reminded me today that the kind of love that I seek is one in a billion. I realize that. I truly do, but I simply can’t settle for anything less than divine love.
I know the massive businesses I could build with a man of whom we had a business relationship of romance and marriage. But I can’t. I can’t except anything other than true love. We talk about money a lot on this earth, but not even money compares to true love. And those who have both money and true love, have found the keys to life.
Because that only comes when you have God deep in your heart.
But as a person who hasn’t been sheltered and has a good amount of dating experience, I know that men really don’t value love. And because they don’t value it, most don’t know how to love. Men want respect so badly that quite often they go without experiencing real love.
I’ve met amazing people on their spiritual healing journey, and those people have developed neat little lists to deal with other humans. But on that list there is not one place that says HOW TO LOVE.
People have one list of what they want. Then they have another of what they don’t want and what they won’t accept. And unfortunately they completely live by the don’t want list in order to protect themselves… The fear list.
But at some point, if a person truly seeks to obtain love, then they need to live off a list called LOVE.
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