I be ranting and raving sometimes…. Today is one of those days. But honey read every piece, cause it’s going to give you a glorious, hallelujah, breakthrough.
The reason why Candice Owens is running sh*t, is because she has a white man behind her who tells her that she’s ENOUGH. She hates black men because they told her she wasn’t good enough. She’s not being laughed at in the media because her husband Offset got caught up with yet another chick…. Black men be making powerful boss chicks look like clowns.
When Jay cheated on Beyonce, b*tches couldn’t wait to try to subtract points from her….
Black men tend to tell black women that they aren’t enough and that they need to work harder. They be like “How much money are you making? You rich yet? “ Black women fall right into it and work harder to prove themselves.
Meanwhile, the Kardashians have full on FEMININE empires and they are having FUN and creating DRAMA storylines, with black men, cause they know black men will bring the messy relationship drama and cheating storylines, that SELL.
Nobody pimps black men like the Kardashians.
White men be like “Babygirl. Fall back. Stop working so hard. Raise your prices. HERE IS HOW TO GET WHAT YOU WANT.”
A black woman can be glorious AF, and black men won’t see it. Often times they slow their woman down.
Black men chase flesh. They chase the MULTITUDES of fish in the sea. 🐠
Now let me add another dose of honesty. How many damn mermaids are in the phucking sea? Like 3.
I’m a whole damn mermaid.
It seems like everytime I see black women supremely winning these days, they either have a rich black man behind them or a white man who believes in them. These women are backed by HIGHLY INVESTED men. Men who are invested in their ADVANCEMENT on the earth realm.
Now, all y’all n*ggas get in line to tell me how wrong I AM.
I say N*GGAS, cause I’m definitely NOT talking to black men. There is a difference. I refuse to let these n*ggas, talk to me like I’m some azz twerking chick. I can’t twerk my azz, (i try.. i might get a pole to learn) but I for sure twerk these books like a beast, and won’t be disrespected.
So, get in line to tell me that I’m not good enough, even though I’m the coldest b*tch you ever seen play the game of KNOWLEDGE!
✅ Ya girl wanna be like me.
✅ Ya favorite influencer wants to be like me.
❌ But these n*ggas is sleep yo. 🎤
(How it be when you REALLY speak YOUR HIGHEST TRUTH)
It takes money to make money, and the one thing I’ve learned about money, is that it’s IN YOU, not on you. 💯
Money is energy. It’s deeply caught up in your belief system. You need to believe in your ABILITY to manifest money without actually working hard…. (Yeah, I know. WTF)
I absolutely love black men. That’s how I got broken-hearted. Dealing with black men who subtracted from me instead of adding to me. Most black men even when a black woman has broken their heart, he really can’t say that she TOOK from him. Cause the truth is, she simply didn’t give AF about him and he didn’t give that much. Plus, basic b*tches rarely ever care about brilliant men. 💡
Anyway, I went out with a white man a few weeks ago. That man told me that my genes are so dope and that I’m so brilliant I need to have another baby and run for President. 🤣 he said YOU MUST SHARE YOUR GENES with someone.
Bro thought I was Beyoncé and said he wondered if Jay Z was going to come busting through the door. 🤣 Real Talk.
Truth be told, I didn’t feel like my appearance was on 100 that day. But heck, he did! 💯
He said he wasn’t into life coaches, but after I asked him a few questions about his life, and he started crying at the table; he said that he could totally see why I’m such a good life coach. He said I was going to change the world. Yo, this man was so amped about me, that he was kind of LOUD, and the restaurant patrons in the steakhouse who sat near us could hear everything he said. When he went to the men’s room, they started inquiring about who I WAS, and basically how loud and rude he was. 🤣 (He was loud and rude, because he whined that I wasn’t paying him enough attention on the date. (Yes, I could make an excuse for him. But I didn’t.)
Needless to say, I had 2 full glasses of wine on that date. I forgot what kind, but it was amazing. I added that wine to my list that I have somewhere.
Anyway, as to his rudeness, I decided to check him like a feminine woman…. Hence the eventual build up of the self-reflection of tears. (Men are no match for divine feminine women. 😉 ) After that he was good, and took me to the pastry shop to buy me a store full of desserts, because I didn’t like the dessert I ordered at the restaurant. He throughly decided to be a good boy and do what pleases me.
That man was riding on cloud 99 after being around me. He asked me out on another date, but I was uninterested. I see signs fast, and knew that his temperament wasn’t stable enough not be my King. A King has to know to not try the Queen.
What I noticed though is that I tend to attract non-black men who think I’m the most amazing woman on the planet.
What I also noticed about myself is that in the HISTORY of my life, I’d never chosen to become interested in those men. Somehow I would fall in love with a black man, knowing that he wouldn’t think that I’m super fabulous. I literally signed up for hard work. 😭
Last week, I went out with a black man. 7 people in the restaurant told me that I looked good. But he never complimented me on my 3-Hours of preparing to look good for him. WHY? Cause “He’s used to being around pretty women.“ Pretty women are no big thing. He likes being about PRETTY BOSS CHICKS WHO MAKE BOSS MOVES.” But I guess, at least he paid for dinner though. 🤷🏼♀️
No appreciation for my package. Yet wants to BASK in my DIVINE ENERGY and BEAUTIFUL PRESENCE. (Now I know where to file him at. ✅ Once again. It’s not in the King’s spot.) Not to mention he complained that women weren’t that smart. Now, smart dope woman sits in front of him.
What does he do with that opportunity?
That ninja fumbled the ball.
But back to the white guy. He talked about me so dope, that I didn’t even tell anyone. Heck, I barely believed that a man thought I was that damn amazing….. Afterall, I’ve gotten accustomed to being told I’m not enough, and then looking at such man as not too bright. 👁
I love black men. I’m just telling the truth. What keeps me going is that I DO have amazing black men as friends. But through them I also know that black women have to heal WAY more than they realize. Those men are so healed that honestly, most women actually don’t measure up. 🤷🏼♀️
Common probably isn’t a good example, cause lawd knows that fine azz, divine azz man will date anybody, as long as she’s at the top of her field and getting money. That’s his type….. Common is so damn dope, that Tiffany done took her wig off child.
Bald definitely doesn’t look good on Tiff, but that’s neither here or there. Because I personally heard a man who chases pussy prints so that Tiffany is absolutely GORGEOUS bald. But I also know THAT man has no value for PHYSICAL BEAUTY, while always chasing it. Yet, somehow Tiff cutting off all of her hair, caused him to see her LIGHT.
If you don’t have my books in 2020, you’re getting left behind. Because life isn’t about taking what you can get. It’s about GETTING WHAT YOU WANT. 🔮
For that, you must see things AS THEY ARE so that you may navigate your belief system as get things to manifest as you would like them to be.
Brilliant black men vibrate at a SUPER HIGH frequency.
THIS ONE THUG I MET
So, Labor Day weekend was cracking in Vegas. I had a good time, and decided to take my show on the road a little. My best friend in the whole wide world came to town, and SHE shut it down. I would say WE shut it down, but I honestly worked half of the weekend, getting ready to launch my new make-up line “Kissed By Kissy – A collection for boss chicks.” And you know I gots to bring the heat to anything I do.
She asks me to meet her at the New York, New York, casino on the strip so she can play craps. I like craps, but for some reason I rarely ever pay attention to HOW to actually play the game and win. I just bet on Snakes Eyes, Yo, crazy bets and somehow manage to win. Anyway, she gets there and pulls out $2,500 to get chips. Then she runs off to the bathroom. I’m there when this black guy who’d been eyeing me, walks up to the table, pulls out a few stacks and gets chips. He starts betting like $1,000 a roll. Then he asked me if I wanted to come over on his side of the table and play with him. I said NO. He keeps rolling. My friend comes back and she starts rolling. She tells me what number she wants, I agree and she hits it 3 times in a row. (We’re both earth angels.)
Anyway, the black guy won’t give up. He asks me to come on his side again. Phuck It. I’m not doing anything. I go. He’s about 6″3″, really cute, has dreadlocks, but you can’t see his whole face, because he has a black mask on. He goes “Do you not like black men? Why are you looking at me like I’m a broke azz n*gga!” 🤣 I told him that I liked black men. I didn’t tell him that I LOVE black men. After all, that’s like a badge of getting brutalized these days….. Not very honorable.
He’s asking me if me and my friend will hang out with him. I say “I’ll think about it.” He then gives me $1,000 “for my time.”
BIIIIIIIIIIISH!
This thuglife LOOKING man was such a gentleman. It was so peculiar. He really wanted me to hang out with him. But I told him I was busy. I told him my friend may want to hang out. I thought they actually may click. So, at first he’s not wanting to talk to her. Then he finally goes. She was off the chain, in total boss chick mode, throwing numbers. Her chips were going down. He pulls up money and re-ups on chips. He handed her $500. They played and that was that.
That man wouldn’t give his name. Said he did “construction,” and then later came back and gave me more money, just because.
Now, I’ll be honest. I’m quite accustomed to white men handing me money and chips when I’m on the table. But my friend is used to BLACK MEN hanging her money and chips when she’s at the table. NEITHER of us were accustomed to a young, tall, fine azz, charming azz black men breaking bread on the table, without wanting anything or being disrespectful. That man had VALUE for us off top.
Our earth identities are total b.s. Anytime I feel like I’ve found a “proper way to judge,” lo and behold, someone pops up to show me otherwise.
Lately black men been serving me some SWEET lessons. Some black men really do come to rob, steal and kill your soul. A lot of us know this. We have become afraid of black men. It’s black men who’ve hit me. It’s black men who spy on me. It’s black men online who try to tear me down. It’s black men who’ve broken my heart.
But it’s also black men who’ve stepped up to help me heal. 😭
I know so many amazing black men, that I can’t even imagine what my life would’ve been like had I met them earlier. But I am going to find out.
Yet this comes as no surprise. I myself am a walking, talking, contradiction. They say you can’t have both beauty and brains…. Enters Kissy.
My entire point of this blog is to get you to see that JUDGING people is the most pointless thing you could ever do to yourself. Everyone is all just reflections of your own God level of consciousness. They are showing you things about yourself.
Instead of judging me based upon them being white, black or purple, instead judge men on their CHARACTER.
Here are the top 3 Character traits that a black boss chick needs to look for in a man:
But, first before I do, let me put it to you straight to you with no chaser. B*tch! You are a boss Chick! You came to get the BAG. You can NOT do it by yourself. Stop expecting yourself to, while entertaining men who don’t add to the bag.
Is he FINANCIALLY INVESTING IN YOU?
2. Is he investing in you cause he’s a trick who thinks he’s getting over on you, or does he actually believe in you?
You need to ask these ninjas, what do they have on your dreams and goals? $5 ain’t enough.
What is his character like? Is he a pussy print chaser, or is he a legacy chaser? Some men are a combination of both. Those men don’t know true VALUE, and don’t know when to go all in. They get caught up in the CHASE….. A chase like a cat chasing its tail…
Silly men don’t commit.>
How does he talk to you? How does he see you? Does he see you bigger than you see yourself? You actually need him to do so. Otherwise he’ll be too busy focus on your perceived limitations, instead of noticing how to jump in, invest, and move you forward.
In this game of life, there are levels. Those who follow me are either Gods or Goddesses. What I’ve learned about Gods is that they grant the wishes of Goddesses. Because if they do, she will EMOTIONALLY INVEST IN THE VISIONS OF HIS DREAMS, and it shall manifest into fruition.
Men won’t invest in you, when you’re giving them attention for FREE. You think they’d be smart. But they’re not. SNS.
You need to build a fortress around yourself. Build a castle with a moat. All the men who don’t pay bills fall into the moat. The men who pay bills can cross the bridge. The men who pay bills and have good character can come through the door. But only the King who invests his all, and gives you everything, can be seated next to you.
Move color out of the way. Stop looking at black men as black. Because it makes you cut him too much slack for his b.s. and slows you down from getting what you want.
If he’s a God, and he wants to be with you, he will say YES to you.
Gods say yes or later. They never say no, unless they simply don’t want you.
So ask and YOU SHALL RECEIVE or he can move TF ON!
Stop playing Bingo Sis. Ain’t no mo free mthkn spaces in your life. This ain’t fake azz monopoly and there is money under free parking. Stop letting these men park in your life for free. Look at all men who don’t hand you money, like they ain’t sh*t. Cause they’re not. PERIODT.
The game of life is a BUSINESS VIDEO GAME. You’ll never be the winning woman, if you’re surrounded by low level men who don’t INVEST in you.
(And to any man who knows me and reads my blog. Yo, get the phuck out of my way – If you didn’t come to play to win, don’t think you’re going to stop my glory. Don’t step to me on some clown sh*t, and think I won’t see it. I’m not sugar coating my writing for you. Either step and be talked about like a KING or get talked about like a CLOWN. It’s your choice. Just don’t act like you weren’t warned. Kissy doesn’t respect clowns. She respects KINGS. My MISSION is more important that ANY B.S. azz man who sits in my face, and can’t see my glory.)
God is so good. I don’t know what other people be talking about. But God is all I know. And that GOD IS GOOD. Do you hear me? Like do you really want me to testify at how he gives you everything you need? And you THINK you know, but honey you have no idea to the levels that God will deliver unto you.
So anyway, on to the download you came here for. I deliver these downloads AFAP (As fast as possible. Kissy’s new boss chick saying, cause you know we like sh*t fast… So why did we ever respect anything slow?) to my VIP groups. But today, I felt like blogging this one.
THE STORY
Men are right when they say women need to take self-accountability.
Good women do need to take self-accountability. People with beautiful hearts and souls do need to take accountability for our relationships with people who showed signs of not being willing to measure up.
I thought about my past relationships and felt it was time for me to admit a deep truth.
I was WRONG for dating the men I dated in the past. In a way, I knew those men would never be able to please me. Heck, I knew that after the 5th date, when they didn’t buy me a house with a Bentley, with a red or pink bow parked in the driveway. I mean lets keep it real. That was the minimum due for their b.s. behavior, and slowing me down from focusing on better things. 😂
How dare I/You/We expect a distraction to measure up? 🤣 A mthfkr can’t distract you, if they are going in the same direction as you. 🤷🏼♀️ (it’s quite humbling to take a really good look at YOURSELF.)
I knew from date 5 that all of those men would let me down. They didn’t have enough LION in their system for me. Because real men chase money. They really don’t chase chicks. They don’t have to. They know how to get the ones they want. That’s why they already have their money up. Real men want to be able to treat their woman like a Queen.
When you don’t want Queenly things, you won’t attract Kings. Equally yoked requires level ups in mind, body, and spirit. Money is only a reflection of spiritual level.
Any man who didn’t come equipped for full on, high level love, wouldn’t be able to give me want I wanted in this world. Some of us need to be honest with ourselves and accept that we didn’t come to take no shorts….. anywhere. NOT TODAY. NOT TOMORROW.
God forgive YOU, for ever even trying……. 🙏
You are a champion. You have the heart of a champion. You fight. You make it happen. You keep getting better and better.
So that got me thinking of another revelation, of why it’s always so important to relate things back to self.
Perhaps back then, I didn’t love myself enough to admit what I wanted RIGHT NOW. Perhaps I thought that maybe if I wanted or required just a little bit less, then I would be more worthy of a candy bar, instead of the Snickers bar.
Perhaps I believed the world, when they told me that I needed to be patient. That I needed to EARN my way there, or WORK my way there. Perhaps it’s not my fault I fell under the spell of society’s b.s.
Perhaps it’s not my fault when I believed them when they told me that I wasn’t special. (I=YOU 👁👀)
Perhaps I remember as a little girl, my granny telling me that I wasn’t special and how the world didn’t revolve around me.
(a lot of your childhood programming is corrupt. It’s messing up the computer system.)
I told her otherwise, but I was 6-years-old, so maybe I subconsciously believed. (No shade. Parents honestly do their best with what they know and what they were exposed to…. They then pass the beliefs down. It’s all good and all love, as these are the things we came here to experience. LOL, Crazy how some people BELIEVE we came to live perfect lives. Tee Hee. Can you imagine living a PERFECT life, and ALL OF THE FUN, you would NOT have had… Yes love, keep enjoying the journey.)
I was traumatized from an early age and talked out of my glory. So were you. Darn there everyone was. Boo Hoo.
But God put a little fire inside of you and I. Just as I, that fire and deep passion inside, was going to find it’s way to the surface one way or another.
That fire is MY TRUTH.
Like the burning bush in the bible. It’s always talking to you.
It’s my heart.
Where is your fire at? It’s always leading you…. Guiding you….. LISTEN to it. SURRENDER to it.
As I wrote this, my shiny object syndrome did it’s usual tap in, and somehow I came across THIS, and thought you should share in that tiny piece of procrastination with me.
(I don’t know. Don’t ask. 😂)
But this purse right here is for sale in the Love & Motivation shop. It’s beautiful pink, white, and jet-black sparkles across a golden sun kissed finish, with a $10,000 note finish, just for reminder of your daily goal, is sure to to catch other royal eyes that like to shine.
So now that we’re off commercial break, let me tell you some affirmations that I had to start telling myself.
✅ I’m better than some average b.s.
✅ I’m better than some average dude who comes to serve me mediocrity on a stick.
Life is better now that I said phuck all of that b.s. It’s better now that I won’t tolerate being abused, misused, disrepesected, or taken for granted, in the name of showing people what true love is.
Phuck That! Only TRUE love, can recognize TRUE LOVE. The rest will take that sh*t for granted. Let’s just keep it real.
And those who truly love, love the phuck out of each other. It’s not an either or. It’s not a half in or half out. Gods & Goddesses give everything we have, because we are almightily and know there is more where that came from.
But let me just spit a truth, for all of you SINGLE, anointed ones. You spent a great deal of your time in this lifetime, pouring love into PEASANTS. TRYING TO BREATHE LIFE FORCE INTO THEM. While they smiled and TOOK from you. Thinking they were getting over on you.
You were right the whole time. A God or a Goddess would’ve appreciated that love, reciprocated, amplified and multipled that love. Only fools subtract from love.
They can’t count. Their only count was what they could TAKE from you, and not GIVE to you, in return for that love.
If you’re a Goddess and you date a GOD, then honey you never have to worry about over-giving or not-receiving. Casue a God is going to give to you, till your heart’s content. He steps to you like that from DAY ONE. He’s going to be your A-1 from Day 1, and understand you like no other.
But somehow you managed to wait on these other dudes to be a real one, TO YOU.
Honey, you weren’t being real with yourself. You were too busy, trying to be less, so that you could BE WITH LESS MEN. Or shall we say lesser men……
Don’t you see what you’ve done? Honey you deserve better.
Don’t you know, that you are the poet of your own heart?
Written with Love, 😘
Kissy Denise – The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation.
Niecy Nash discusses how LOVE can break you and stop you from receiving more of it, during interview about WHY she married a woman.
While many assumed that actress Niecy Nash had freshly broken out of the closet, Nash set the record straight, in a recent interview with People magazine. The “Claws” actress and spoke about the soulmate love that she’s now experiencing with her new WIFE.
It came as a shock to many last week when Neicy announced her new love to the world, just months after divorcing her husband. Not only did she have a new love, but the world learned that the curvaceous Nash, married a woman.
In this week’s issue of PEOPLE, the Claws actress and newlywed, 50, shares intimate details of her love story — and recent surprise wedding! — with wife Jessica Betts.
When it comes to Betts, Niecy speaks of her from a deep soul perspective:
“[My marriage] has absolutely nothing to do with gender and it has everything to do with her soul,” Nash, who divorced her second husband Jay Tucker in March, says of Betts. “She is the most beautiful soul I have ever met in my life.”
“I was not suppressing my sexuality my whole life,” she adds of the her decision to marry Betts, which came as a shock to fans. “I love who I love. At one point in my life, I married twice and I love those people. And today I love this person. I’ve done everything I wanted to do on my own terms and my own way. So my choice now in a partner has nothing to do with who I’ve always been. It’s a matter of who I am in this moment.”
“I don’t feel like my marriage is my coming out of anywhere, but rather a going into myself and being honest about who I love,” she shares. “And I’m not limiting myself on what that love is supposed to look like.”
Niecy put her new lifestyle all up in the faces. They clown at that joyous wedding.
When Nash and Betts, a 41-year-old singer-songwriter, first connected on social media in 2015, Nash says she was “happily married” to her ex-husband Tucker.
“[Jessica] and I were friends, but I never saw her as someone I would date,” says Nash.
After Nash and Tucker announced their split in October 2019 — a mutual decision made by the couple — the actress says something shifted.
“I loved her before I was in love with her because she is such a special human being,” says Nash. “But we began to see each other in a way we never had before. Sometimes you get so broken by love, you run from it. But I’ve learned that you should always hold space for magic because it can happen at any time.”
Ohhhh. PEOPLE Mag, did their thing with that interview.
I totally get what Niecy is saying. I loved someone, before I was in love with them. And found myself fighting against the love I had for them, when I realized that I was falling in love.
Love can be an interesting thing. Heartbreak often makes us feel like we need time to heal, be alone, figure out what went wrong, and tend to our wounds. But like they always say “God starts laughing in Heaven when those who are called, tell HIM, what they are about to do.”
Love may come when you least expect it, when you feel you’re not ready. And you know what? You gotta trust God and go with it. Eliminate the fear and allow love to make you a better person.
But one thing for certain. I will find my love with a man. God would not do me like that. I love my female friends. They are all gorgeous, super sexy, brilliant, with the most beautiful souls. I totally see why men fall madly in love with them. After all, they are Goddesses. 😂 But I don’t want to marry them. I actually LOVE seeing them married and in love with amazing men. The way they always dreamed of.
Marrying a woman simply isn’t in my soulmate picture. At no time are we to play God short. All you ever had to do was DECIDE and God is like “I got you.”
So I guess, maybe you should be a little more specific. 😘
For women who have a tendency to go with the flow, love deeply, see everything with rosy red lenses, you can change your life and save YEARS of wasted time energy and effort, by avoiding dealing with a man who is or would rob you of your beauty, energy, self-esteem, confidence and everything else.
He’s actually not robbing you. You’re robbing yourself by being co-dependent and unconsciously taking a detour to try to change a man. Chances are you even attempt to change the people around you and take on their burdens.
What if you stepped back and allowed everyone around you to simply be themselves with no pressure from you?
And Deepak Chopra’s Law of Detachment includes this commitment: “I will allow myself and those around me the freedom to be as they are. I will not rigidly impose my idea of how things should be. I will not force solutions on problems, thereby creating new problems.”
Law of detachment love
Detaching with love helps codependents and enablers. When we detach with love, we stop worrying and interfering and let others take responsibility for themselves.
Now, as to YOUR PROBLEM of hanging with men who don’t break bread. Ask yourself why do you do it in the first place?
Chances are, you are attracted to HIM, but are you attracted to his CHARACTER and the way he treats you?
Does being around him feel suppressive to your soul?
Submitting to a man is submitting to his frequency. Imagine the imbalance that comes from you attempting to submit to a man whose frequency calls you to be less than you.
God doesn’t want you with him. That’s why he’s not giving you money or investing in you. Does that make him stupid? No. It simply makes you not the one for him.
THat’s okay. Nobody told you that you had to stick around.
Would you break bread on YOU? Are you a keeper?
This isn’t about gold digging. It’s about matters of the heart and WHO God called you to be. He called you to be prosperous and abundant. He called you to make profit from all of your trades, including your trade of time.
But why would someone invest in spending time with you and unleveling you if you’re willing to spend your time being less for free, complaining about everything they do?
Are you sitting around waiting for someone else to tell you that you are worthy of your own desires, before you honor them?
The right man for you is willing to expand, go all in and commit to you. Handsome tall men will hand you money. What else? Once that’s given to you, what do you REALLY want? WHY do you want it?
Boys like playing with girls as toys. Grown men value their woman.
A boy becomes a man when is willing to help those who need his help. Be the channel of His mercy to others; the harbinger of hope for the hopeless.” Withhold not good from them to whom it is due, when it is in the power of thine hand to do it” (Proverbs 3:27).
Proverbs 3:27, NLT: Do not withhold good from those who deserve it when it’s in your power to help them.
“When I was a child, I spoke as a child, I understood as a child, I thought as a child: but when I became a man, I put away childish things.” (KJV). ~ 1 CORITHIANS 13:11
You not feeling worthy and deserving of a man who protects and provides for you has attracts such a man who agrees with you.
But when you embody Goddess consciousness you simply attract who you are. Remember everyone likes honey. So of course you’ll attract few dusty flies. But that doesn’t mean you have to open your door, stop what you’re doing and give the dusty your attention when there 100 Men waiting to serve you.
What you focus on persists, expands and gets amplified. Self-Love and truly being a beacon of light, amplifies your vibration and allows you to manifest the abundant love that you desire FAST with ease and grace.
That’s why they have their appearance together. THAT is the kind of man you need to be around. His frequency is high. He makes you happy. He WANTS to make you happy.
Unattractive men rob women of their life force. Not being attracted to a man is a sign as plain as day. Admit it, you’re disgusted by the lil short, inadequate dude who has no value for love, chases beautiful women, acts like a groupie when he’s around you, trying to sneak pictures and sh*t. He ain’t sh*t. Stop feeling guilty about feeling that way about him. Ask him for some dough, let him tell you NO, and get rid of his dusty azz.
Look at his appearance for what it is. Don’t cut him any slack. Either he breaks bread or he remains unattractive. Cause he surely judges you 100% by your appearance. Even dusty dudes do it. They chase beautiful women while swearing beauty isn’t what they are chasing. Opt out of their b.s. storylines.
Listen ya’ll. I have been in the house working on building my business for 2 years. During that time I was FOCUSED. I wasn’t thinking about no man. But now I have TIME. Let me tell you something…. Men are running up on me to HAND me money. Not just white men, but cute, YOUNG, black men too. It’s all frequency.
You WILL NOT get what you want out of life by dealing with 50/50 men under any circumstances. I am writing this post from the bottom of my heart, to save you.
You will not get what you want out of life, without a KING and a TEAM. Kings take care of their Queens darling. If he runs up on you and he’s not trying to cut the check, he ain’t your King. All he comes with is raggedy ding-a-ling. Which is why you don’t like phucking him in the first place. See, you feel all these kinds of ways, but you try to DENY YOUR OWN FEELINGS, for the sake of SOCIETY.
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Also do yourself another favor and stop listening to masculine b*shes who keep telling you about getting your own money. You need your own money plus HIS too. That’s the way this sh*t goes. Men who don’t break bread on you are embarrassments. Your vagina is not a free ATM for him to stick his d*ck in and you receive nothing in return.
Listen to me when I tell you that YOU ARE NOT a portable mattress that allows a man to dumb his semen in you and run off. GROSS is a woman who doesn’t value her body. Gross is a woman who hangs out with men who don’t break bread. These men need to break bread simply for hanging with them.
If you don’t have my book YOU CAN’T FORCE A MAN TO VALUE YOU, BECOMING A HIGH VALUE WOMAN & ATTRACTING YOUR DREAM MAN, Then darling it’s time to INVEST in yourself. Cause smart men do not invest in women who don’t invest in themselves.
First of all, you’re not a b*tch. When men call you that, they take you for a joke. But don’t mind them. I just want you to know that a man who can see your light, calls you QUEEN or in your divinity as a GODDESS.
I use the word “Bish, as a way of being loud. It’s more like an expression to listen up. Or like the other day when my girl did my hair, and turned me around to the mirror I was like “Biiiiiiish!” We laughed so hard. But I wasn’t calling her a biiiish. She slayed my hair so hard, I just had to be extra.
I just wanted you to know that some men can truly see you at different levels.
But on to that blog post that you came here for. Separation isn’t what’s up.
B**tch, they lied to you when they told you that you could do it all on your own. You need a TEAM and a #KING. 💯#KissySaid💋👑
The most insane thing you can do to YOURSELF in this world is think that you can make it without a team.
The past few weeks I’ve been spending more time talking to my two best female friends. One of them, the other day she was gambling on the craps table and she would tell me what number she wanted to hit, then my mind would align with hers and she would hit it, back to back, to back. This only served to remind me of the power of our union.
I have another friend who we always somehow manage to be aligned.
Between these two women I often am in shock at how I’ve managed to find such beautiful, amazing, talented friends who truly love me and pour into me.
I’ve also looked around at the army of men who pour into me. Not to mention, I stay praying and asking God for things.
But when I show up on social media I look like a one man team. I indeed did do 90% of the work all by myself, but it’s that extra 10% that pushes you over the edge.
Now, I don’t have a man at the moment. But what I do have are divine men who stand in that space for me.
So Sis, whoever told you that you could do this on your own, lied to you.
It takes A LOT to raise a Goddess. I attract thousands of people who love me and believe in my mission to heal the world. And they actually help me.
Please HEAL, and get yourself a King and some good female friends. Don’t feed into the cattiness clause. There are women who generally want to see you win.
Don’t sit around feeling like you don’t need a man. You do need a man. Except you need a special kind of man, and chances are, he needs you to heal and return to self.
This special kind of man has heart. He’s the one that won’t call you out of your name. He’s the one who doesn’t refer to you as a b*tch. Men call women b*tches when they are not doing a good job of capturing her heart.
I see all of my white relationship coach friends talking about trust issues relating back to you not trusting yourself. Most of them understand the deeper causes for one’s life issues.
But, what I’ve learned is that those rules often don’t apply to dating black men. In one way, I believe that black women have gotten used to a man not being a good man, and subconsciously deep down don’t trust men. And at other times a black woman has innocence in her eyes, does trust, and gets severely hurt by the black man she loves.
You can trust tf out of a man, and he may still break your heart. Heck I know white women who trusted their husband and found out he was cheating.
The spiritual definition of things sound good and make perfect sense. But people must remember that Jesus died on the cross. It doesn’t matter how good of a person you are. That won’t protect you from experiencing darkness. Life is what it is and people are who they are.
People give you signs sometimes that you shouldn’t trust them. Often-times your intuition is right, and your DESIRE to trust is WRONG.
I see things from so many perspectives, and really get a reminder that facts change every day.
I know regardless that most women have never experienced the amount of trauma that black women experience at the hands of black men. Therefore I find that black women have to heal at much deeper levels…. But most times they don’t seek out healing. Instead they seek out MONEY….. Like Tahiry.
For a black woman MONEY is control. Even that aspect I’ve learned to see the deeper root of the desire to control, and have learned to surrender. Only then does the heaviness truly go away.
Most coaches have never felt that trauma, so they can’t heal it. So I wrote a book to heal black women of it all.
I’m not saying I’m right or wrong. I’m just saying what I see.
Ladies, men who don’t love you and give their all to you, are the men who’ve stolen your hopes and dreams.
He knew you wanted to be a wife and get married.
But instead, what did he do to you? He made it his business to take from your body, sample your fruits, get knowledge, love and healing from you. He told you that you weren’t good enough while he juggled other women, every day, still waking up chasing an illusion.
He treated you like he treated himself. But somehow you hoped for better.
Now you’re single, tired, drained, not wanting to date.
And you took self accountability but forgot to tell yourself that some men ain’t sh*t.
And those men are the ones you SETTLED for. He wasn’t rich. He wasn’t even that cute. He couldn’t have been that smart, because he didn’t value you.
But somehow HE thought he was better than you.
Success and leveling up with a better man is THE best revenge. But to get a better man, you’re going to have to wake up TODAY, and change your VALUE.
VALUE means every man can’t afford you. Even the ones that THINK they can. Only a real man can keep you. These dudes be having it twisted.
So why don’t you do YOURSELF a favor and get a real one.
Why not summon a King? 👑
And not just any King, but YOUR King. Cause how many men have you called King, but he acted no such way?
Darling a King is a King, long before he meets you. The Queen In you summons him to the surface. But did you give him space to rise or did you simply assign him a title that he didn’t earn?
What I’ve noticed about my male clients is that my presence summons the King in them. They CHOOSE to RISE.
People talk so much about being a pick me, but the truth is a Queen will only pick a King. If he fails to measure up, he gets dropped.
A man has to be a real King, to be kept by a Queen.
Even in my kindness of apologizing to men for going off on them, they should’ve noted that they weren’t practicing King bahevior. Otherwise I never would’ve sent them away.
You see some men don’t understand legacy. They play and get dropped.
Don’t ever let social media fool you into thinking you’re going to play with a Boss Goddess. It’s either bow down or move around 365 Days of the Year.
But the illusion is that she is easily kept.
LADIES, most men do not care their you are a soul having a human experience. They don’t care that you have hopes and dreams and that your family depends on you. Most people only care of about themselves and will take, take, take, from you, as long as you let them. Love yourself enough to RECEIVE from a man.
I just saw one of my clients mend her friendship with a past friend. I thought that to be so sweet.
Don’t try that sh*t with me though. I am high value real estate. If you cross me at this point in my life, I DON’T PHUCK WITH YOU.
I’ll forgive you. I won’t hold any grudges against you. But, you will NEVER get back into my life. I simply don’t play. Treat me the same way you would treat Oprah or Beyonce…. And I mean that sh*t from the bottom of my heart.
When I’ve made mistakes with how I’ve talked to people in the past, they didn’t even have to wait 30 Days before I was on their line apologizing for my behavior. I have gratitude for people and truly attempt to see how I can improve myself and have more appreciation for them and their uniqueness in this university. I’ve learned to appreciate and understand our differences.
What most annoys me about people is that they ALL coming running back to me when they see me leveling up. This has happened at each level up.
But I’ve always known who I was. Even when I wasn’t making the best decisions. One thing I’ve always done is be kind to people and show them immense amounts of LOVE.
I show people a love they will probably never feel again in their lifetime. If you take that love for granted, thinking you can duplicate it, then that’s your loss of a magnificent boss.
I couldn’t tell you how many men and women once saw me down in the past and thought it was over for me.
I thought them to be stupid AF. Like, don’t you see my brain…. game? Don’t you see my magnetism? Don’t you see the gloriousness of light that I AM? Don’t you see my AMBITION?
How could anyone dare to doubt me? But that’s exactly what humans do.
But screw the humans who don’t believe. Notice they always believe once you RECEIVE the full manifestation.
People are groupies. Pick your friends wisely. Ride with those who love you regardless. Because when you’re on top and winning, everyone wants to be your friend.
The truth is your real friends are the ones who already see you winning 5 years ahead of your time. Those people are DIVINE.
The rest think they can compete, outdo you, laugh at you, or doubt you. Because they don’t hold the eyes of greatness.
👁 Come hang out with me and my crew. We believe in you.
#masterpiecetribe #ComingSoon
P.S. Ladies, DUMP all of the men who tell you NO. He’s not your husband. Hubby says YES to you, because he sees the best in you. Those others guy are robbing you of your youth and time. And that one dude who says YES, as long as you are willing to settle for less. He ain’t it either see. Drop him. Drop ALL of these ninjas and get a baller in your life who has his mind, spirit and heart right.
It’s all about LEGACY. People who don’t move in legacy are fools chasing the wind. And last time I checked, nobody has ever caught the win.
