Good sex is like water. It’s a quench of life! Your sex life is important
I wrote a post on Facebook about intimacy in relationships and received quite a few comments. Most people agreed with me, some people didn’t.
I felt a need to clear some things up. (Not really. I’m really just doing my job and letting the message be heard.)
EXPANSION
Here is the thing about intimacy and sex in relationships. Our outer reproductive organs actually weren’t made solely for reproduction sake.
There is more to it than that.
The first thing you need to know is that, a man is called to GIVE to a woman and a woman is created to RECEIVE from a man.
This is why a woman has a vaginal opening and a man has a penile INSTRUMENT that he INSERTS in her.
In order to truly please a woman, a man must give his all to her. That is why he imparts his seed into her and if everything goes according to the creators plans, a baby is born. Good men understand this balance at a deeper level, which is why they buy woman gifts, love on her, tell her she’s beautiful, and gives her a house to make a home. And good women do the feminine work in order to continue RECEIVING from him.
He bonds with her and creates a family with her. It’s LOVE. As a good man, he APPRECIATES and VALUES what GOD has blessed him with, and he goes out to protect and PROVIDE for his new family that he has created.
Good women are NEEDY. They need to RECEIVE from a man, and the right man honors this, because he has a NEED to GIVE.
As he goes out and deals with the daily stresses of life, he needs to relax when he comes home. That woman’s vagina helps him relax. It’s warm. It feels good. It feels like home. He releases stress, and gets up the next day to conquer the world again.
That’s the basics. You can live a pretty good life, by simply sticking to the basics.
But in order to evolve spiritually, and create a huge manifesting portal, a man and a woman must deepen their sexual connection by having conversations and getting to know each other’s souls. They need to be emotionally naked and raw with each other. They need to learn the art of unconditional love. This deepens the bond and improves sexual pleasure.
SOULMATE SEX
If two people also have a spiritual practice and are connected to God, they will then also connect to the divine through sexual pleasure with one another. They will begin to cleanse themselves of trauma from the past and old woundings. They will become open to light and walking into their highest state of being. They will experience a natural high like no other. There awareness and consciousness will increase as they intentionally pleasure each other. That is why many couples practice tantra.
I’m not an expert on sexual malfunctions and stuff. But I do know many sexual problems are often created by a lack of CONNECTION. You also won’t experience soulful sex, when you’re willing to settle for LUST or good enough. Many people have AMAZING sex lives. Good sex is actually felt BEFORE you even have sex with a soul connection. You just know.
People get into relationships with people they were never deeply sexually connected to or attracted to. Just like every other mediocre saying in society, people tell themselves that having a good sex life isn’t important. They tell themselves money isn’t important, being treated like a King or a Queen isn’t important. Having excess left over isn’t important. Wealth and living a luxury lifestyle isn’t important.
See, the average human being has this belief that nothing is important other than simply SURVIVING and trying to pretend to be happy with GOOD ENOUGH.
But we as humans were not created just to survive. We were created to THRIVE, in every area of life.
However this doesn’t happen naturally. A person must make a choice to improve each and every area of their life, until they get to a state where they feel like they are living a dream.
That’s because life is a dream. It’s a dream of our choosing. But the majority of society talks the majority of society out of their dreams because each doesn’t believe that they can, should, have or be deserving of having everything their heart desires. Meanwhile the wealthy and celebrities know the rules, and often go after their desires. While the rest of society deems themselves not good enough, or not special enough.
Mastering your life, takes massive amounts of physical, emotional, mental and spiritual work in order to evolve into a human being who is living the life of their dreams.
People start holding onto their limitations, their limited beliefs, their mistakes, their failures, and begin to think that life as they know it has a sort of permanence to it. These are the beliefs when you either don’t do the work to get closer to God, don’t believe in God, or don’t believe in yourself.
The best relationships are those who experience great amounts of happiness. They work on their health, wealth, fun, pleasure, habits, goals, desires, and SPIRIT. They also work on their PURPOSE.
GOD places so many desires in us that it will keep us busy for a lifetime, IF we submit to his will for our lives by going after our desires. But what most people do is submit to the mediocre thoughts of society.
I know a little about healing, and if your sexual organs are misfunctioning in any kind of way, it’s time to go on a health journey. It’s time to discover your WHY’S. Do you have emotional blocks. Are you eating the right things. Are you, meditating, praying daily, and ASKING for what you want?
Are you submitting to your mate’s desires and doing things that please them? Are you with the mate you really want, outside of sex, or did you settle?
So many things throW the sexual balance off.
What many people don’t know is that sex is GOOD, BEFORE you even have sex with a person. That’s because God is GOOD, and you are a divine being of LOVE.
Before you have sex with anyone, you should literally feel deep feelings of LOVE for them. This goes beyond lust. But so many people are running around attempting to fill their insatiable lustful desires, that they do not fallback and wait to meet divine connections.
That’s also why it’s so easy for people to throw people away. They were never spiritually connected in the first place. In order to grow your soul, spiritual connections are a must. Especially if you are called to be a leader. Spiritual connects make you a better person, and you just so happy to also be rewarded with amazing sex by submitting to the experience.
For instance, if you are of my tribe, this post has HIGHLY resonated with you, and you FEEL something, that’s not lust. Your being feels different right now. That’s God’s blessing to you. He has ALLOWED you to tap into the LOVE of a DIVINE BEING.
Now, just as in life, you may meet someone else who gives you these feelings. Are you going to go with it, follow up, and see what more God has for you? Or are you going to ignore it, dismiss it, like it’s no big deal, then spend years of your life CHASING, a feeling that you never get to experience, only later to realize that you once FELT something, somewhere, and you dropped the ball?
WHY do I have this power of love, and healing energetic frequencies with my mere words? It’s because I AM submitted to God’s purpose for my life.
This is by no means an easy route. You will go through some things. Some people won’t understand you. But a lot of people will. The JOURNEY is worth it.
Life is a journey to discovering HOW to get what you want. You are the only thing standing in the way of experiencing the joy, connection, happiness, wealth, health, pleasure, purpose, fulfillment and LOVE that you deeply desire.
If you truly want to change your life, you must be willing to DO THE WORK to CHANGE YOURSELF. Changing yourself results in your mate changing. You are what attracts your desires.
All too often I hear relationship coaches saying that women are broken and don’t know how to communicate their needs to a man.
But what about when you are communicating your needs and he says no? What about when you’ve communicated your needs over and over again, and he refuses to deliver, but still says he wants you.
This is when it’s time to make a decision of self-love.
You’re not wrong for asking to have your needs met. You deserve to have it all. The right man will desire to give the world to you on a silver platter. The wrong one will have some kind of reason for telling you that you’re not good enough.
And if you value yourself at all, chances are you push him away. You know you can’t continue to live in the dark with him. A man has to be able to see your light.
You know what a man who sees your light thinks when he looks into your eyes? He thinks you’re the most beautiful woman in the world. His heart says he can’t live without you. He wants to keep you and will do what it takes to maintain your love.
But the wrong man looks at you as just another pretty face in the crowd with a nice body. In his eyes that’s all you have to offer.
However, when you look at him and maybe even his big belly, you see right past his imperfections, into his inner being. His body is not super important to you. So why my dear, do you think you don’t deserve the same love in return.
Maybe you want him to be the one for you. But he can’t. He can’t love what he can’t see. Therefore he’ll pull at you and tell you that you’re not good enough. He’ll tell you that those men in the light who see you, honor you, and give to you, are fake. He’ll tell you that his love, that comes with nothing but feelings of not enough ness is the real love.
How many times in life have you chose that kind of “love?”
You know why you chose that kind of love?
It’s because you wanted to BE HUMBLE and fit into the world. You fail to honor your uniqueness and Goddess aura. You allowed men to make you believe that you weren’t good enough right now. You allowed them to tell you that you had to earn their love, and to work harder in order to be good enough.
Subconsciously this created chaos in your mind, heart and world. You started to feel low. You loss gratitude for life. You became a bit disconnected. It’s what happens to women who spend time with men who don’t truly love them.
Mostly this happens to boss chicks. Because you believe you can give yourself the material possessions and in the meantime, maybe getting your credit score higher, buying a new home, or getting a luxury wardrobe will make him suddenly value you. You feel he just needs a little encouragement.
Sis, no he doesn’t. That man knows what he wants. He’s just using you to bid time until the woman of his dreams comes along. You’re entertainment for now. But if you say something, he’ll assure you that you’re not. He’ll say you just need to work a little harder and get better. He’ll say you need to DO more for HIM. And after he breaks your heart, maybe he’ll even ask you to pay the tip for dinner or valet. If he’s really trifling, maybe he’ll even ask you for a few dollars.
That man you’re chasing, will never appreciate you. He wasn’t meant to. Love isn’t that hard. Men literally see a woman they want and fall in love. It just hits them out of the blue.
You knew from the very beginning that he wasn’t crazy into you. You could tell by his behavior. But you wanted to play it cool and have patience.
Meanwhile you look around at other women being wined, dined, married, manifesting major empires, while the guy you chase continues to date woman after woman seeking his dream girl. Yes, he’ll come back to you to fill an empty space. He has no problem using your body and telling you that you have nothing to offer him. In so many ways, he’s told you how little he values you.
But once again, you love him and all of his imperfections. Don’t you know that your Dream Man will love you just the way you are? The same way you believe that the man you are chasing will get better with time, the right man will look at you the same way.
You’re not holding hands with a man who thinks you’re irreplaceable. You could be walking down the aisle of the whole world with him, while they look at him in awe, because he captured a beautiful, light filled woman like you. But to him, you’re just a temporary toy, that he’s slowly breaking.
Dream man feels romantic love and ecstasy flooding into his heart when he’s with you, filling it like a balloon. He can feel the spirit of deep connection. He can feel blissful companionship weaving it’s way into your life. He no longer doubts himself and knows he’s chosen the right one.
You can be yourself with him. You can feel safe and secure in his love. He accepts you, just as much as you accept him.
It’s up to you, to receive this love now.
Do you really think he’s be able to ignore you, if he loved you? There are always signs of a man not loving you. Ignoring you is the biggest sign. A sign that he’s not planning on spending the rest of his life with you.
Truth be told, you could leave the house tomorrow and find a new man who would do more for you off top, than the man you’re chasing would.
Your hopes that he will come around and suddenly see you is nothing more than a sea of illusions. Even if you were to temporarily capture some of his heart, he’d still leave you when dream girl showed up.
Has he ever done something for you without you asking him to? No? That’s exactly what I thought. He will never do it either. Or maybe he did ONE small thing to keep you on the hook of lowering your self-worth.
People who have only temporary interest in someone will put minimal effort into that relationship, just like he’s not moving a finger to make you happy. And chances are, he still wants you to be happy with his behavior.
You want to be happy? Get rid of men who don’t serve you.
Truth be told, even he knows he’s the wrong one. He’s probably told you that he’s not the one for you and to move on to another man. But you didn’t move on. So he continued to feed you crumbs.
Do you think a man would tell his dream girl to move on to another man? Of course not.
The man for you will risk everything to be there for you, the best way he knows how. He does this because your love feels like home to him. When you hug him and caress him he feels at peace with you.
But how are you going to meet the right guy when you’re busy spending your time with the man who tells you that you’re not good enough.
How much more time are you going to let go buy, constantly realizing you’ve wasted your time with him.
You can’t shine brightly if there is something pulling you into darkness. Don’t allow yourself to be pulled; be brave and shine like the Goddess you are. You don’t belong in the dark.
A woman can’t thrive when she’s dealing with a man who doesn’t want her to win.
Break the pattern. Decide you’ll never do this again. Run away from pain and into the arms of a man who makes you feel safe and secure in his love.
Otherwise, you’ll spend the rest of your life, wondering what’s wrong with you.
It’s not you baby. It’s him. He doesn’t want you the way you want him.
Don’t be afraid to let go. I promise a better man will come along.
The past few weeks I’ve taken note of the people in my life and the way they treat me. I am so much love that often I seek to give people my love regardless. Because I’m spiritual I blame myself for every reflection that people are showing me and go within.
This causes me to focus way too much on LACK, instead of focusing on my mission, gifting, and the people who SEE.
They say it’s lonely at the top, and the higher I go, I see how true it is. But what I’ve also learned is that you will attract a handful of people who are with you for the journey.
The journey can sometimes feel quite dark and scary. If it’s scary to you, imagine how scary it is for others to even think about going your way.
In other cases, people act funny because God is letting you know their true character in advance. LISTEN to the things people say to you. Don’t be offended by their blindness. Simply take heed.
It’s really difficult to be a light in this world of darkness and pain. If you’re too kind, the humans may think you’re stupid or weak. If you do them how they do you, then you’re a bad person.
It can get really overwhelming to attempt to operate as love in this world. But for me, it’s the only way.
Therefore, there will be no more changing of myself. My mission on this earth is real love. I know how to achieve that goal. Clients, employees, friends, lovers, associates, followers and everyone else has to be in alignment with my mission, or they have to go.
Deep down I fear detachment because I see how little the world values other souls. I never want to be like that. But detachment is the best way to self-love and to stop over-giving of your love, light, affection, gifts and kindness.
It’s the only way you’ll attract the people who love the way you do.
So here is a little something to help you.
LET PEOPLE GO WHO ARE NOT READY
(Clients, friends, lovers, bosses, mentors, family)
“It is not an attitude of pride, but of congruence. You will continue to love them but with another perspective, from another level of understanding, comprehension and awareness.
It is the most difficult thing you will have to do in your life, and it will also be the most important: stop being linked to those who are not ready to love you.
Stop having difficult conversations with people who don’t want to change. Stop appearing for people who are indifferent to your presence. Stop giving your love and energy to people who are not ready to love you.
I know that your instinct is to do everything you can to earn the good graces of everyone you can, but it is also the impulse that will steal your time, your energy and your sanity.
When you begin to be in your life completely, with joy, interest and commitment, not everyone will be ready to meet you there.
That does not mean you have to change who you are. It means you have to get away from people who are not prepared to be with you.
If you are excluded, subtly insulted, forgotten or easily ignored by the people you spend most of your time with, you are not doing yourself a favor by continuing to offer them your energy and your life.
The truth is that you are not for everyone, and they are not all for you. That is what makes it so special when you find the few people with whom you have a genuine friendship, love or relationship: you will know how precious it is because you have experienced what is not.
But the more time you spend trying to force someone to be with you when they are not able, the more time you will be depriving yourself of that same connection. It’s waiting for you. There are billions of people on this planet, and many of them will meet you at their level, with the vibration of where they are, connect with where they are going.
…But the longer you stay involved in the familiarity of people who use you as a cushion, a background option, a therapist and a strategist for their emotional work, the longer you stay out of the community you crave.
Maybe if you stop showing up, you’ll be less loved.
Maybe they forget you completely.
Maybe if you stop trying, the relationship will end.
Maybe if you stop sending text messages, your phone will remain dark for days and weeks.
Maybe if you stop loving someone, the love between you will dissolve.
That doesn’t mean you ruined a relationship. It means that the only thing that sustained a relationship was the energy that you and only you put into it. That’s not love. That is attachment.
The most precious and important thing you have in your life is your energy. It is not your time that is limited, it is your energy. What you give to each day is what will create more and more in your life. What you give your time is what will define your existence.
When you realize this, you will begin to understand why you are so anxious when you spend your time with people who do not contribute to you, and in jobs or places or cities that do not suit you.
You will begin to realize that the most important thing you can do for your life, for yourself and for everyone you know is to protect your energy more fiercely than anything else.
Make your life a safe haven where only people who can care, listen and connect are allowed.
You are not responsible for saving people.
You are not responsible for convincing them that they want to be saved.
It is not your job to appear for people and give them your life, little by little, moment by moment, because you feel sorry for them, because you feel bad, because you “should”, because you are obligated, because, at the root of all this, you are afraid that they will not return the favor and that is not to love as love is to release those you love and are not ready to be with you so they live what they have to live while you move on to find someone with whom you’ll be able to share the reciprocity of healthy love. It is another level of consciousness.
It is your job to realize that you are the master and lover of your destiny, and that you are accepting the love that you think you deserve.
Decide that you deserve a real friendship, a true commitment and a complete love with people who are healthy and prosperous.
Then wait in the dark, just for a moment … And look how quickly everything starts to change.”
“Men do not realize that WOMEN DO NOT LET GO OF GOOD MEN. Men will let a good woman SLIP AWAY.
They don’t even realize how we intentionally start sending them off, letting them get distracted. 🤣
You men are CRAZY if you haven’t worked with me to KEEP a Goddess. 👁
Men be so LOST and don’t even know it. Y’all think it’s just the women though.”
Ever been DUMPED? Did her life IMPROVE after you? Did you turn around and years later, she’s sitting on top of the world?
She dumped you because you weren’t good enough. She knew she couldn’t get there WITH YOU.
Some men try to entertain full on GODDESSES with clown behavior. 👀
Often times men THINK they are a good man. There are LEVELS to this sh*t.
Haven’t you ever watched the movies? Did you notice that the KING always PLEASES the Queen?
Every KING needs a QUEEN to LOVE. As humans we all needed something to love. Michael Jackson loved kids, because through them, he was able to get his childhood back. He was able to love his life, outside of the castle he’d built, that he really didn’t want to live in anymore.
SIDENOTE: Every God & Goddess who is called to sacred union has already met in another lifetime before. They know one another. They SEE.
I think we need to address this belief system that a lot of women have. The belief that if a man HAD IT, that he would GIVE.
There are a few stories of people who struggle loved with a man who refused to get 3 jobs in order to provide, or a woman who invested her monies into a man, who later turned around to provide for her.
But deep down, all of those men want a KISSY in their lives. After men work really hard in life to get somewhere, they tend to want a beautiful Goddess. That’s just the way it is. When he’s in his power, he becomes highly attracted to a woman with power.
I don’t touch other women’s man. Don’t want nothing to do with another woman’s man. But believe me, I could do some snatching if I wanted to….
But this ain’t that. That’s just me doing my usual rambling. I want to tell you something I’ve learned through my experiences of dealing with Kings who are protectors and providers, and men who simply came along to help me heal and feed into me.
Today, what I want you ladies to know is that if he had it, most times he still wouldn’t give it to YOU.
WHY? Because you were too willing to accept less from him. You’re not valued. You have no value. Your value is FREE. So that’s what he gives you.
Men are good men, when you inspire them to BE one. And for the most part, I’ve learned that most men actually do WANT to BE ONE.
But you don’t have to take my word for it. LISTEN when a King speaks.
My awakening has come through the hands of my two beautiful female friends and quite a few brilliant men.
I spent a great deal of my life dealing with men who aren’t smarter than me. But OF COURSE they all wanted to be. That causes a HUGE problem that many women don’t even know about.
These men believed themselves to be in competition with me. So they would try to “sh*t on me,” as one recently said. They come up with diabolical plans to get you back for NOTHING. They get upset because they want to outsmart you. But they can’t.
Being in the presence of a Kissy Denise, and not being able to capture her hand in marriage is a loss to a boss.
Of course you’re not smarter than me if you haven’t bowed down and given me everything my heart desires. 🤦🏼♀️
Even when I wasn’t making the best decisions in men, my subconscious told me that the men I dated were dumb. The thing about VALUE is that you can’t ignore it. It’s internal. It’s always whispering, telling you who you are.
And smart boss chicks truly have ZERO understanding of why a man would date them and not value them. They don’t believe that a man could do that. But that’s exactly what men do. The internet causes them to keep SEARCHING FOR THE BEST OPTION, when they themselves are not the best option. But yes, they will use up boss chicks along the way, get her knowledge, pretend to care for her, pretend to be her friend, all in the name of leveling himself up enough to get the woman he truly wants.
(Only later do they realize I WAS THAT WOMAN…. It will always be a settle after me. My soul is just that unique, divine and one of a kind. I’m a life experience. Baby, I am heaven on earth.)
I am smart. Just yesterday a BILLIONAIRE told me how much he loves my brilliance. (Dumb people hate when I say that. They don’t like when you say nice things about yourself. They don’t understand why you have a need to REPEAT THESE THINGS OUT LOUD.)
Like recognizes like in this world, and dumb men can’t see my brilliance. Dumb men also don’t have millions of dollars to invest in me. They chase AZZ and invest in chicks who will NEVER become the likes of a Kissy Denise.
If i am to talk about my spirit very honestly, I am called to do big sh*t in this world. It’s already in motion. I BEEN doing IT.
But I WAS doing it while being tugged at by a bunch of sh*tty azz, silly azz, dumb azz, slow azz, crotch chasing, soul draining dudes. whose presence and moronic beliefs slowed me down. Dudes don’t even notice that you never post them on social media. That should be the FIRST sign that they are quite possibly a sh*tty man. Brilliant women, even when dealing with a b.s. man will NEVER post a photo with him on social media. Even if she does, she later deletes him, because he becomes an embarrassment to her. Crazy how men don’t even mind being an embarrassment in a woman’s life.
Men who don’t spend money on you are embarrassments. Men who don’t want to marry you are embarrassments. Men who cheat on you are embarrassments. Average men suck so much, that most women simply accept THAT world, and the embarrassments that come with it.
Then the rest of the women who believe they can do better than that are often considered crazy. Meanwhile Blac Chyna got big sh*t popping in this world.
Any man sticking his d*ck in you, and doesn’t want to marry you, should be at the least cashing you out, for WASTING YOUR TIME. Cause that’s exactly what he’s doing. You don’t have all day to play with him. Bish, the clock is TICKING!
How dare a man approach a me and not want to marry me…. BIG DUMMY. Of course I’m going to talk all kinds of crazy to him. Of course I’m not going to have an ounce of respect for him. Of course a man is dumb for not balling out on me. Of course I think men who don’t break break are dumb af.
Why was I fighting these beliefs? Why would a man expect a Goddess to respect him, when he doesn’t respect himself and his own life enough to contribute to her ascension? What kind of FOOLISH man would miss an opportunity to bless a Goddess, and get a maximum return on his abundance?
I used to feel bad about having these beliefs. I suppressed them and got my azz beat. 🤷🏼♀️
But the more brilliant men that I attract, the more I see how right I was. They know a woman’s value. They contribute to women for their own benefit. Often-times it’s not even about the woman. Real Talk…. Sometimes women even think they be getting over on the dudes who spend it. But they are not, when that man is wise, he knows he can’t lose.
Here is the thing about dumb men. Dumb men like to keep women dumb. So they’ll go find a smart woman, use her up for everything she has and try to keep her dumb as possible, while they chase p*ssy prints.
So, it’s so easy for a SMART man to come along and start dropping knowledge on her, spending money on her, showing her new things, and raising her state of awareness. Most men only do ONE of these things, so they never get chosen….
Brilliant men can’t stand a dumb azz woman. Which is why most of them date women who are 5’s in the face and 10’s in the bank account. They LOVE smart women. So they won’t keep you dumb. They will smarten you up.
Meanwhile, the ole penile man whose been in your face for YEARS, thinking he’s dragging you along, holding you in a space, while he chases, suddenly realizes you no longer like him AT ALL. The real has exposed the fake.
So while he thought he was playing chess against you. He was really playing checkers and the brilliant men outmaneuvered his azz on the chess board. Cause real Kings play chess baby. They don’t phuck with that remedial checkerboard. It doesn’t even get their d*ck hard. They want a woman who is a challenge.
Brilliant men are Gods. They are kind. They are giving. They are loving. The average woman has no chance against these men. The average man can’t hold a phucking candle to a brilliant man.
Average men are so dumb, and think so penile, that a brilliant man only has to say a few sentences to a smart woman to level her up, away from team average and mediocre.
Thank You God. Something told me not to marry any of those dumb azz men! I’m too much of a Queen to be married to a coward of a man. I just knew that I was too good to marry a man who could easily be persuaded by a p*ssy print. Even though that seemed quite normal, and it seemed that ALL men were that weak, for some reason, I just couldn’t deal with it.
I dumped a man because I saw that ratchets and basic bishes who still lived with their mama, were able to play with his head. That was just too weak for me. That’s why he was slow getting his bread up. He couldn’t even stay focused on ME, the one who was leveling him up. 🤦🏼♀️ Lawd, how do you get distracted by ratchets, when you’re in the presence of a Goddess.
The blind I tell ya…………. (Blind cause you wouldn’t be with him in the first place, if only YOU could see yourself.)
The game is going to be played. A smart man is going to play it with a brilliant woman who actually gives AF about him too, and not just herself. He’s going to choose to play it with a woman that’s playing WITH him and not against him.
There is so much darkness in this world, that average man end up playing themselves, by intentionally playing the game AGAINST love, then wondering why they’ve never RECEIVED real love, can’t KEEP real love, and end up with squash.
Meanwhile the BRILLIANT man has the life, business and woman he wants.
I see why many men go after younger women. A grown azz woman, would know that he is dumb. They need to start over with younger women, and relive their life all over again.
Meanwhile, once again, a brilliant man wants a woman with some WISDOM.
The wisdom that I learned about 2-years ago and honored ever since, is that I desire to have DEEP, surrendered RESPECT for a man. I am called for sacred union. Therefore I can only submit to a God.
I won’t respect a man who hits me. I won’t respect a man who cheats on me. I won’t respect a man who calls me out of my name. I won’t respect a man who doesn’t respect me. I won’t respect a man who doesn’t serve the Queen in me. Heck, honestly, I don’t even respect a man whose in my face, but thinks he can do better than me.
Everything in me is created for a true KING.
Yet, I didn’t respect myself enough to not deal with men who didn’t bring it. Self-reflection is everything. TODAY is a new day.
I’d highly suggest you KNOW THYSELF.
2025 REWRITE
The Truth About Smart Men and How a High-Value Woman Chooses Who Gets Access to Her
There comes a moment in every high-value woman’s life where she realizes something powerful — men aren’t as complicated as they pretend to be.
A man either wants to love you, protect you, and provide for you — or he doesn’t. Period.
We live in a world where men will have a whole Ph.D. in business, know how to build empires, make strategic investments, but when it comes to love, relationships, and commitment to a powerful woman — suddenly they “don’t know what to do.”
Let’s be clear: A real man, a man aligned with his divine masculine, doesn’t play dumb when it comes to love. He sees you. He knows what he wants. He moves accordingly.
The “confusion” some men show? That’s not confusion. That’s avoidance, immaturity, and ego — and we don’t entertain boys pretending to be kings over here.
See, when a woman knows who she is, knows her worth, and lives in her Goddess energy, she doesn’t have time to explain to a man how to be a man. She’s not coaching, begging, or performing for love. She receives love, effortlessly.
Because here’s the thing: When the right man sees you, there is no game. He wants to love you, he wants to take care of you, and he wants to make sure you never have to question his place in your life.
He’s not trying to figure it out. He’s focused. Intentional. Ready.
But let me say this with love — as women, we must stop trying to raise men into their masculinity. That is not your job. Your job is to be the woman who naturally attracts a man that already knows how to lead, love, and protect.
Men are not dumb. They know exactly what they’re doing. If he’s not showing up? He doesn’t want to. If he’s showing up halfway? That’s all he’s willing to give — and that’s your cue to rise higher and close that door.
Because let me tell you, high-value women are not waiting for men to act right. We are too busy being adored, loved, and cherished by men who recognize the queen when they see her.
So to my Goddesses out there: ✨ Stop explaining. ✨ Stop negotiating your worth. ✨ Stop waiting for a man to figure it out.
You are a rare, divine, exquisite woman — and the man for you will know that from day one.
And when he sees you, when he feels your energy? He will move like a man who knows he’s in the presence of greatness.
Sometimes as an amazing woman dating, it’s really important to tune in with yourself and become perfectly honest with yourself, your desires and what you want.
There is so much pressure to not be single and to date, that even in dating I suddenly realize the boringness of it all.
We spend hours getting dressed, driving to dates in luxury cars, to be met by men who really aren’t that interesting to us, who really aren’t doing enough for us, and we sit there and PRETEND to be having such a great time.
Meanwhile in the back of your mind, you’re like “Why am I doing this?” “Why am I here?”
In the past 2 years of my life, I’ve met 1 single guy who excited me AT ALL. Just one.
All my fault I suppose. I mean this has been the history of my life. Men bore me. Frankly my work is WAY more entertaining. At least I get to see lives change.
Today, I thought about how long I’ve played this game of allowing men to be total disappointments to me. I thought about how I allowed myself to be bored, with my time wasted on clueless men.
Men are so accustomed to women hoping to be PICKED by them, that I believe most simply don’t realize that for other women, they aren’t doing enough to be PICKED by her.
What does it look like to want to keep a man around, and never ever let him go?
I couldn’t tell you what that’s like, because I’ve never met that man. I’ve never met a man that impressive. I can’t say that those men don’t exist. Cause clearly LOTS of women have such a man. Those women are all over social media, living their best life with great men.
Great men………. It’s pretty obvious you’re never going to marry a great man, if you keep dating mediocre ones.
