You may or may not be familiar with Dr. Cindy Trimm, but she is one the most brilliant, most anointed Prophetesses on the planet.
Cindy is known for her bold, powerful voice, and for teaching women how to create a life of love, joy, happiness and wealth.
Inside the latest issue of “O” Magazine, Trimm speaks on her journey to marriage and how it took her 60-years to learn how to play the cards she was dealt.
“Growing up poor in Bermuda, Dr. Cindy Trimm-Tomlinson always loved the Cinderella story. But it wasn’t Prince Charming or the romantic ending that she admired; instead, it was the character’s determination that inspired Cindy the most. No matter what obstacles got in Cinderella’s way, she held out for her happily ever after. “We don’t weigh in on the cards we are dealt, it’s how we play them,” Cindy tells Oprahmag.com.
While chasing a major entrepreneurial career, Cindy told the magazine that she had problems with men, because she didn’t need them.
“I certainly had my share of dating. I dated a variety of personalities—great men—but most seemed a bit overwhelmed by a woman who knew who she was and did not necessarily need a man to make her feel complete,” remembers Cindy.
Cindy’s friends warned her that her career was getting in the way of love.
As the years passed, Cindy’s friends told her that her ambitions and success might be intimidating to potential romantic partners, but Cindy knew that anyone she was going to marry would need to be confident enough in who he was that he wouldn’t be threatened by her accomplishments. “I am a leader, and I knew I didn’t have to be dumbed down to be embraced by the man of my dreams,” says Cindy.
Because Cindy was satisfied being single and unwilling to compromise, she found herself unmarried well into her late thirties. Yet she thrived as a leader at the top of her field.
Cindy happily created a vision board for her life, and went on to travel the world by herself and achieve great accolades. As she walked into her 50’s the thought suddenly dawned on Cindy that she may be alone for the rest of her life.
“It was then that Cindy started to consider that she might end up being single for the rest of her life. “The thought was haunting,” says Cindy. She wondered if she had been too picky in the past. But even with moments of self-doubt she says, “I couldn’t bring myself to settle, just for the sake of settling down.”
At age 58-the call finally came in. Cindy found herself a HUSBAND and not a project.
Fast forward to 2016, and Cindy, then age 58, got a call from a former colleague of hers, Russell Tomlinson. “I had a feeling that he was going to ask me on a date and the answer was absolutely no,” says Cindy, who made it a policy to never mix romantic and professional relationships. Despite her best intentions, Cindy found herself having deep and meaningful conversations with Russell. She finally agreed to a date. Then another, and then another. “We spent the first six months of dating just talking,” Cindy says, “Talking about values, about dreams, about goals, about finances.” Not only did Cindy love that they shared so many beliefs and career goals, she also felt right away that she could be completely herself with Russell. For Cindy, who had been totally independent person, it was an adjustment learning to share her life with someone else but she says, “He gave me the room to grow in that area—he’s both gentle and a gentleman.”
One of Cindy’s biggest concerns about getting married was that it would interfere with her work goals and busy professional life. “I wanted to marry a person, not a project,” Cindy says. So when Russell proposed to Cindy, he chose a moment where she was completely in her element: on stage in front of hundreds of people at a conference in Bermuda. It was an easy yes. “People marry for different reasons,” says Cindy, but, “I wanted to grow old with this person.”
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This story reveals why women need to get clear on what kind of man they NEED in their life. What can a man do for you RIGHT NOW, that fits into your life? Good men simply are not intimidated by boss chicks. But they need a woman who has room and TIME to receive him.
If your desire is to do everything on your own, because you don’t need a man, then it should be no surprise that you don’t have one.
High performing women must admit to what they want, and allow the right man into their space to help them achieve their goals.
The problem is most times you’re too afraid to ask for or expect the help you NEED in exchange for your energy, love, light and companionship. So you therefore continue to date men, asking them for nothing, while hiring staff and employees to help you with your business and goals, while your love life remains stagnant. It’s the search of perfection and feeling worthy.
There is a question each single woman must ask herself.
What would the man of your dreams do for you NOW? How would he treat you now?
Often times boss chicks are so busy trying to change your own life by yourself. You’re not expecting any man to save you from yourself and your work addiction. Therefore no man does.
The moment you surrender to your true soul’s desires is when your soulmate will pop in.
When he gets there, will you have a place for him?
A lot of us come into this world, naturally being a highly loving person. We want to love people. We don’t want to cause them to experience any trauma or drama.
Yet, no matter how loving you are, and how much you believe in love, someone will and probably has showed up to hurt you and break your heart.
When I first had my spiritual awakening and began to study the arts of the Universe, I came across many spiritual coaches who preached detachment, letting feelings pass and showing no feelings or emotions in any way when it came to the behaviors of your partner.
I’ve heard women say “Rather we stay together or not. I’ll be fine.”
In my head I was like “That couldn’t be real love.”
In spirituality most people will teach you to not respond to the behaviors of others and that other people will often disappoint you.
Everything is about not feeling and not reacting.
That is said to be a healthy way of being in a relationship.
On the other end there is the saying to not judge people or your, mate and to love them unconditionally. Love them unconditionally because everyone is simply a soul having a human experience.
People do the best they can and make decisions based upon what they feel is best for them.
Knowing all of this I realize love more than anything is merely a CHOICE.
It’s a choice to open yourself up, to allow yourself to be vulnerable and susceptible to the emotions of love.
In the spiritual realm, we are constantly told to control your emotions. Men often expect women to control their emotions and have a monotone set of emotions. Which is why the average man will never truly be loved.
And without love you can’t birth God’s purpose for your life. You can become wealthy without love, but not the kind of wealthy your soul seeks.
For your soul desires to experience the most immense forms of love.
We are constantly telling women to raise their standards and raise their values.
What we don’t tell them is that most men simply won’t be able to appease those new standards, so patience definitely becomes a virtue.
What we don’t tell the people who have been traumatized by getting in a relationship with someone they thought would give them love, we tell them that they didn’t love themselves, and that’s why they attracted such a toxic or negative relationship.
I don’t think the majority of society recognizes the purity of love and the individuals who are able to display it.
Some of us were born to love, and it’s our responsibility to heal from the trauma and return to love. It’s our responsibility to imagine the beauty of love we once believed we would experience.
For years rumor had it that Wendy Williams ex-husband Kevin Hunter was cheating on her. One time Evelyn Lozada revealed that Kevin actually walked into her store in Miami and bought another woman a pair of shoes.
Turns out Wendy was not in the dark about her husband cheating ways. She stayed by Kevin’s side because she didn’t want to be alone.
On a promo tour for the release of her biopic, “Wendy Williams: The Movie,”, Wendy recently stopped by EXTRA and went into more details about Kevin’s cheating.
“Kevin cheated on me while I was pregnant with my son… and I found out and I could’ve divorce him then, but I said, ‘No, I have a son and I’m not going to have any more children’… I didn’t want him to leave me by myself.” She went on, “And I knew Billy, it was not till death do us part,” adding, “Kevin was a serial cheater, Kevin had different mistresses… This last one was the one he had the longest term relationship with.”
Interesting how much pain she endured by not jumping ship right away. A woman’s desire to STAY TOGETHER, causes her to build her own pain and constant embarrassment.
What’s most interesting about the interview is the point when Wendy was asked about being raped.
Extra asked, “There’s a moment in the documentary where they’re like say his name… and you go, ‘You want me to say his name?’ and then in the end you decide not to. This day and age, with the movements that are happening, why would you protect this person?”
Wendy told him, “The reason I didn’t say his name in the documentary is because I couldn’t believe I was saying so much about everybody and everything.”
I believe Wendy is saying so much, because she’s on a journey of healing herself. She’s accustomed to speaking on everyone else’s business, but only revealing so much about her own.
Las week Wendy actually revealed that she was date raped by the late R&B singer Sherrick who died in 1999.
Describing meeting Sherrick during an interview, Williams, 56, told People how she was “mesmerised” by the singer at the time.
“He mesmerised me with his twinkling eyes,” she said. “He flipped the interview around to where he was interviewing me – I was just gaga over this man and he asked me to go to an opening party, an album release party, with him that night.”
WATCH A CLIP OF THE EXTRA INTERVIEW BELOW:
William’s biopic is set to be released on Lifetime on Jan. 30 and will reportedly feature the incident.
Women who heal their wounded masculine, are happier and attract better men
Black women need to heal their wounded masculine energy.
Lately, I’ve been on Clubhouse partaking in conversations about LOVE and RELATIONSHIPS.
In the white rooms, they are telling you how to have a HEALTHY, loving relationship, while you scale up your multi-million or billion dollar empire.
In the black rooms, mostly PAIN is discussed. It’s full of complaints, with no solutions. LOVE is my thing. My current purpose in this world is to heal love in the black community, so that we can build wealth and raise kids in healthy, conscious households. This will change the world for generations to come.
I’ve had many clients come to me who weren’t making a million dollars in their business; and in less than 30 days or within a year, their business crosses the million dollar mark. Each time the person has a mate. Each time the person sincerely loves their mate.
LOVE is the most powerful, most healing frequency on the planet. It solves everything. It will even draw money to you.
But in the black community, we chase MONEY, while neglecting a pursuit of healthy, conscious, deeply loving spiritual relationships. That’s what spirituality is truly all about at the core. It’s about love, compassion and understanding.
It’s better to seek to understand a person, than to simply desire to be right. Either you want to be right, or you want to be in love.
The amount of healing that comes from this journey can’t be explained. Other than to say the deepest healing is indeed a miracle.
Seeing as to how I took myself from being in wounded masculine energy, to embodying divine feminine energy, I see both the problem and the reward at a deeper level.
So when I am in a Clubhouse room and I see a black woman saying she’s tired of men playing with her, she’s tired of being lonely, and how she’s smart, and not taking no sh*t from a man cause she’s a boss, I sometimes interject and offer my book to her.
But often when I speak to these women, they yell at me, accuse me of trying to sell them “a book.” They tell me I’m insulting them when I tell them that they are traumatized and operating in masculine energy. And the room usually crowds around to pacify them, and say how wrong I was for telling that woman the ONE truth that would actually help her soul. You see in the black rooms, it’s not about solutions. Or they want to hear from people who want attention, yet really don’t have the deeper solution that these women need. Meanwhile a male will inbox me on Instagram and tell me how I didn’t say anything wrong.
At other times, I’m in rooms with masculine, influential, provider men. These men are literally telling women what they want. They can’t really describe the core of what they are looking for. But I know that what these men seek is a WHOLE woman. As they speak, I watch one black woman after the next, interrupt these men and cut them off. One time I watched a black woman straight up hyperventilate because such a man said it wasn’t cool to be in the infamous “Moan Room” being sexually explicit for $125. He was like “I would’ve given her that little money.” A young black woman interrupted him and told him how he was wrong for judging women and how women should have sexual freedom and be allowed to exploit themselves. If I wasn’t there to witness it myself, I would’ve never believed a woman would be offended by a man telling her she was worth more. All that man was saying is that a woman didn’t have to exploit herself to make money, because their are better ways.
Oftentimes we blame men for having 9,000 women, or for not wanting to settle down. But now that I can feel wounded masculine energy coming from other women, I understand. As a man I would not desire to be in a relationship with such a woman either. It’s painful.
And the woman’s defense and security blanket is ALWAYS her accolades. It’s either she’s believes she’s all that because she makes money or that she has a college degree. It’s very okay for a woman to make her own money. It’s wonderful. But that’s not what a man needs. It’s not what a divine masculine man finds the most beautiful about a woman. He can appreciate her drive, but the core of what he needs from her is a beautiful spirit.
But when you tell the average black boss chick this, she immediately becomes triggered, and fights to stay in her wounded masculine energy. So I’ve learned to not direct my healing at any race in particular. I’ve learned to let my energy speak for me, and the smart women who are ready, grab the book, ask to work with me 1 on 1, and begin to get the healing they need.
I used to feel like it was my job to save the world. But the more I become aware of my own divine, feminine energy, the less I feel burdened to wake everyone up. I’m not about to drag women into saving themselves. Instead I choose gratitude and to relax into my feminine more and more each day. Besides, HEALING is expensive. It’s a luxury.
I now see the pure INSANITY, of trying to do everything on your own as a woman. I see the insanity of fighting to remain dominant.
I spent half of my life chasing money, influence and freedom. Meanwhile the freedom and everything you want is simply in surrender.
Let go of your need to control everything. Allow the Universe to do what it do. Set your intentions. Once you do this, you may begin to live in a state of gratitude. This will allow your heart to expand. It will open like a flower, and you’ll breathe in fresher air. Better men will become attracted to you. Then your dream man will show up. Suddenly you’ll realize what you’ve been missing your whole life. You will feel free to BE LOVE.
For me, my desire to be in the presence of God lead me down this path. They say God is good. But God is actually great.
I sell things sometimes and I post links. If I were you, I would buy everything I sell and click on every offer. You see, my writing is anointed and my energy is the most healing love vortex on the planet earth. Ask my clients about me.
Manifesting your soulmate or the mate of your dreams, will be the most eye opening experience you’ve ever witnessed in your own life.
Here are 5 Lessons I learned by Manifesting Mine:
God is not just good. He is GREAT. He is going to give you BETTER than you expected, desired or wanted, when you stay on the path of righteousness. That means the LOVE you experience will far surpass what you ever imagined.
Surrender to God is necessary to manifest your true soulmate. We have many soulmates in this world, but most times it comes down to unrequited love. For both people to deeply be in love requires a deep connection to God. You must be slayed by God. Getting slayed by God can be quite painful and confusing. At times you may even feel like your life is falling apart. In reality, everything is coming together.
You must lose in order to gain. You will have to get rid of some people and some things. Things like your broken mindset, fears and traumas. You will need loads of divine confidence. Many people will leave you. Even people you left long ago will part this earth in order to make room for the new.
You must feel WORTHY & DESERVING of manifesting your soulmate. Cause like I said, when they get there you may be wondering “What did I do to deserve this person?” You will have to forgive yourself for your past behavior, back when you didn’t get it right. You did the best you could.
FEAR and love can not co-exist. Either you want to risk it all for a chance to experience the greatest love you’ve ever felt. Or you are going to sit there in fear wondering if you’re good enough, wondering if you’re ready, or fearing rather you’re getting played or if this is really real. CHOOSE LOVE. It’s a must that you learn to TRUST yourself enough to CHOOSE LOVE. You may be surprised what you find on the other side.
I swear this sounds like terrible advice. But I promise it’s good advice.
Good women waste WAY too much time being faithful to no good men. Meanwhile tons of other good men come trying to holler at you. By the time you finally get out of the toxic relationship, and you start posting GOD GOT ME QUOTES, n*ggas ain’t sh*t and all of the other break-up memes, the good men who tried to holler at you, are already onto another woman.
Even with myself, when I was in toxic relationships, I had quite a few good men around me who liked me. One time I broke up with my boyfriend, went out with my girl, and as we were leaving the club, I ran into a man outside. We both looked at each other and it was INSTANT chemistry and INSTANT attraction. Like nothing I’d ever felt before. It was definitely spiritual.
I gave him my number. I talked to him and he was an artist. He sang, and had a clothing line. Like me he was an entrepreneur manifesting his way in this world. About a week later I told him that we couldn’t talk anymore, because I’d gotten back with my BOYFRIEND.
He was hurt. He was like “I thought we had a connection.” I responded “We do. But it wouldn’t be fair to to keep talking to you, when clearly I’m already in love with another man.”
Years later, I see that same man has blown up on social media. He has about 200,000 followers, and he’s getting money. Meanwhile my ex is probably somewhere cheating on whatever woman he’s with, working for someone else, and living the same insane circle he always has.
One time I was talking to one of my male friends and he asked me about my loyalty. He asked me exactly what was I being loyal to.
It came out that the loyalty itself was toxic. Why be loyal to a man who isn’t paying your bills? Why be loyal to a man who doesn’t value you? That’s like being loyal to losing.
The other day a man told me that he met some super fine girl, and he thought she was the one for him. But she did what most of us women do and told him to follow her on Instagram. He now has a woman, and he was telling me now the Instagram chick is in her stories posting the typical break-up memes and God got me quotes. 🤷🏼♀️ He said to himself that if her relationship was bad, it only would’ve made sense for her to give him a chance months ago… Now she looks up, comments on his content, noticing that he has a woman.
A lot of heart-centered women fail to realize that life is NOW. You’d better PRESS PLAY all the way!!!
I used to think it was so uncool to say “Don’t let your boyfriend get in the way of finding your husband.” But it’s true. The man who wants to truly be with you is going to marry you and lock it down. He’s not going to take any chances on letting you go. The man for you is SMART when it comes to you. Love yourself enough to ALLOW love in.
I noticed that many men took the opportunity to complain about women in reference to a post.
They stated that women are so bad that an 8 Figure man can’t find a black woman to spend his life with.
Here is what many don’t understand. Not being able to find love is a problem that doesn’t escape the wealthy.
In fact the more wealthy a man is the more he distrusts people, and the more he spends his time working.
Wealth also doesn’t mean that you’ve healed your relationship trauma.
People like Tyler Perry are called to mate with a soulmate. Until he find that person he will continue to seek what’s missing.
I would love to work with Tyler Perry and help him manifest his soulmate. Many of my millionaire clients weren’t finding anyone on their frequency before they met me, and then BOOM, suddenly their soulmate appears.
