A comment from one of my male blog readers inspired this blog.
In the world of dating, many women focus on attracting the right partner. They invest in their appearance, work on their confidence, and learn the tricks of how to catch a man’s eye. And while attraction is an essential part of the dating journey, it’s only half the story. Keeping a meaningful connection alive—one that leads to a deep, committed relationship—is a whole other challenge.
You might wonder why some relationships seem to fizzle out after the initial excitement, or why the man you’re attracted to pulls away just as things seem to be getting serious. If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I keep the men I truly want?” you’re not alone. Many women experience this pattern, and understanding the reasons behind it can be the first step toward building lasting love.
In this blog, we’ll explore some of the common reasons why attraction alone isn’t enough and what it takes to keep a relationship flourishing beyond the initial spark. And if you’re ready for a deeper dive, I’ll tell you where to find VIP insights that go even further.
1. Attraction vs. Compatibility
Attracting a man and building a lasting relationship with him are two different things. While attraction is essential, compatibility is what sustains a relationship over time. Attraction can fade if there isn’t a deeper connection and alignment in values, lifestyle, and goals.
Why This Matters: Compatibility provides a foundation for mutual understanding and shared purpose. When two people are compatible, they navigate challenges more easily and feel a stronger sense of commitment to each other.
2. Avoiding the Chase for Validation
In the early stages of dating, it’s easy to fall into the trap of seeking validation from the man you’re interested in. This can lead to a dynamic where you’re constantly working to “win” his affection, which can actually push him away.
Why This Matters: Relationships are healthiest when both partners feel secure and valued. When you focus on inner validation and self-worth, you radiate a confidence that naturally attracts lasting interest from a man without the need for constant reassurance.
3. The Importance of Emotional Intimacy
While physical attraction is a great starting point, emotional intimacy is what creates a lasting bond. Emotional intimacy requires vulnerability, communication, and trust. It’s about sharing your authentic self and creating a safe space for your partner to do the same.
Why This Matters: Men who feel emotionally connected are more likely to stay committed. Emotional intimacy goes beyond surface-level attraction, allowing both partners to build a strong foundation that withstands challenges.
4. Balancing Feminine and Masculine Energy
Many women, especially high-achievers, have learned to thrive in their masculine energy—focusing on goals, control, and independence. While these qualities are powerful in the workplace, they can sometimes create a mismatch in romantic relationships. Finding a balance and embracing feminine energy can create space for the man to step into his masculine role.
Why This Matters: Men are often drawn to women who embrace their feminine energy, which includes openness, receptivity, and a sense of ease. Balancing masculine and feminine energy can lead to a more harmonious and mutually fulfilling relationship.
5. Understanding Men’s Needs for Respect and Appreciation
While women often prioritize emotional connection and verbal affirmation, men tend to feel valued through respect and appreciation. They want to feel that they’re admired and that their efforts are noticed and appreciated. Learning to express these forms of appreciation can strengthen a man’s emotional connection and commitment.
Why This Matters: Men are more likely to stay committed when they feel respected and valued for who they are. Showing appreciation and admiration can help maintain a strong connection and keep the relationship healthy.
6. Choosing the Right Man for a Lasting Relationship
Sometimes, the struggle to “keep” a man stems from focusing on men who may not be genuinely compatible or ready for a committed relationship. It’s important to be selective about the type of man you invest your time and energy into, rather than getting attached to the idea of “winning him over.”
Why This Matters: Choosing a man who aligns with your values, goals, and emotional needs increases the likelihood of a fulfilling and lasting relationship. Focusing on quality over quantity is a powerful way to set yourself up for long-term success in love.
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Ladies, if you’ve ever felt like you had to impress on a date—mentioning your degrees, accomplishments, or career success—this post is for you. When we bring that energy to a date, it can compete with his masculine drive, rather than drawing in the true provider energy we desire. ✨
Here’s the truth: High-value feminine energy doesn’t need to prove itself. It’s felt, sensed, and appreciated without a word. A man who’s looking for a committed partner is drawn to a woman who knows her worth without trying to “show” it.
Imagine going on your next date with a calm, confident presence that naturally invites him to step up and impress you. When you lean back and embrace your feminine grace, you create a magnetic energy that’s unforgettable.
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The kind of of love or romantic connection that was more common or idealized in the 1990s while listening to R&B groups like Jodeci sing, is a deep kind of soulful love, that required a person be connected to their heart.
Often when dating a single in their 40’s will notice their dating and relationship desires don’t align with the dating culture or relationship dynamics of the current year, 2023, where most people haven’t the faintest idea of what real love is.
The dating landscape and norms have evolved significantly between the 1990s and today.
Here are some notable differences in dating culture and practices:
Technology and Online Dating: One of the most significant changes is the advent of technology and the rise of online dating platforms. In the 1990s, online dating was virtually nonexistent, while today, it’s a common way for people to meet potential partners.
Communication: In the 1990s, communication was primarily through landline phones, answering machines, and handwritten letters. Today, communication is much more immediate and constant due to smartphones, texting, and social media.
Meeting Places: The places where people meet have shifted. In the 1990s, meeting through mutual friends, school, work, or social events was more common. Nowadays, people might meet through dating apps, social media, or online interest groups.
Casual Dating and Hookup Culture: Casual dating and hookup culture have become more prevalent in recent years. This has been facilitated by dating apps and a more open attitude toward non-traditional relationship dynamics.
Gender Roles and Equality: There has been a shift towards more egalitarian dating norms. While traditional gender roles were more prominent in the 1990s, modern dating emphasizes equality and shared responsibilities.
Social Expectations: The expectations surrounding dating milestones might have shifted. In the 1990s, there might have been more emphasis on “traditional” steps like going on formal dates and meeting parents. Nowadays, people may take a more flexible and individualized approach to these milestones.
Authenticity and Self-Presentation: With the rise of social media, individuals may feel more pressure to curate their online personas. In the 1990s, people might have had a clearer sense of who someone was without the constant online presence.
Diversity and Inclusivity: There is a greater awareness and acceptance of diverse sexual orientations, gender identities, and relationship structures today, leading to a more inclusive dating landscape.
Pace of Dating: With technology, communication can happen faster, and relationships might progress more quickly in some cases. In the 1990s, there might have been a slower pace of getting to know someone due to limited communication options.
It’s important to note that these are general trends, and individual experiences may vary. While some people might embrace modern dating practices, others may prefer a more traditional approach. The most important aspect of dating is finding what aligns with your values, needs, and comfort level.
Would you like to know what specifically about you must change in order to get what you want?
Are you a successful woman who has achieved great heights in your career, but find yourself longing for a deep, fulfilling romantic connection? If so, I understand the unique challenges you may face as you navigate the path of being a single and successful woman.
I want you to know that you are not alone in this journey. Many remarkable women like yourself have found themselves in similar situations, wondering how to bridge the gap between their personal and professional accomplishments and their desire for a loving relationship. The good news is that there are actionable steps you can take to manifest the love you deserve while embracing your success.
In my years as an author, relationship blogger, and manifestation coach, I have had the privilege of working with incredible women who have transformed their lives and attracted their dream partners. I believe that with the right guidance and mindset, you too can experience the joy and fulfillment of a loving, committed relationship.
Allow me to share a few key strategies that can help you stop being single and manifest the partner you desire:
Embrace Self-Love and Self-Acceptance: Start by nurturing a deep sense of love and acceptance for yourself. When you radiate self-confidence and embrace your uniqueness, you become a magnet for love and attract partners who value and appreciate you.
Clarify Your Relationship Vision: Take the time to reflect on the qualities and values that are important to you in a partner. Create a clear vision of the kind of relationship you desire, and hold that vision in your mind and heart as you navigate the dating world.
Align Your Energy with Your Desires: Harness the power of manifestation by aligning your energy with your desires. Visualize yourself in a loving partnership, feel the emotions associated with being in that relationship, and trust that the universe will bring forth the right person at the right time.
Expand Your Social Circles: Step out of your comfort zone and explore new social opportunities. Engage in activities and events that align with your interests and passions, and be open to meeting new people. The more you expand your social circles, the greater your chances of connecting with someone who shares your values and vision.
Cultivate Authentic Connections: When dating, prioritize authentic connections over superficial traits. Look beyond external factors and focus on building emotional intimacy and shared values with potential partners. Authentic connections are the foundation of lasting and fulfilling relationships.
I would be honored to support you further on your journey to manifesting the love and partnership you desire. As an experienced manifestation coach, I offer personalized guidance and strategies tailored to your unique situation.
If you’re ready to embrace love and create a fulfilling romantic relationship alongside your successful career, I invite you to reach out to me for a complimentary clarity consultation. Together, we can explore how my coaching services can empower you to manifest your ideal partner and experience the love you deserve.
Remember, being a successful woman doesn’t mean you have to sacrifice your desire for a loving relationship. It’s possible to have both and thrive in all aspects of your life.
Wishing you love, happiness, and fulfillment on your journey,
Written with Love,
Kissy Denise – The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Relationship Guide, Blogger, and Manifestation Coach
Althugh Bernice Burgos is very active on her social networks. She has not postage any footage with Jaylen Brown although before recent photos suggest that she is getting close with NBA baller. NBA star.
ABOUT BERNICE BURGOS
Bernice Burgos is a well-known Instagram model with more than 6 million followers on the platform. She began her career at 27 years old as a waitress and at the height of popularity she was dating rapper T.I. and beefing with his wife Tiny on Instagram.
In a conversation with The Breakfast Club, she admitted that she had obtained breast implants to add to the curves of her body.. She founded the sleepover line called Bold & Beautiful back in 2014. She even featured in multiple music videos. In 2016, she was featured in the video “Do you Mind” by DJ Khaled.
She has also featured in the movie Notorious and MTV’s Wild’ n Out. Bernice Brugo has two daughters, Ashley and Sarai.
Net worth: The estimated net worth of Bernice Burgos in 2022 is approximately $3 million.
Many a man’s biggest problem these days is that they refuse to put away their childish ways, and society actually nurtures them to be a boy forever.
In the bible it says: When a boy becomes a man, he puts away childish things.
Dating multiple women, for extended periods of time, with no intent to find a wife, is childish.
THE VERSE
1 Corithians 13:11 New International Version
When I was a child, I talked like a child, I thought like a child, I reasoned like a child. When I became a man, I put the ways of childhood behind me.
Chances are, you’ve heard that bible verse before. Now I’m going to extend this verse and help you to get more context.
THE EXTENDED VERSE SCRIPTURE
1 Corinthians 13:8-11
Love never fails. But where there are prophecies, they will cease; where there are tongues, they will be restrained; where there is knowledge, it will be dismissed. For we know in part and we prophesy in part, but when the perfect comes, the partial passes away.
In AUTHENTIC marriage is when a man begins to face his real self and learn his true identity in God.
1 Corinthians 13:12
Now we see but a dim reflection as in a mirror; then we shall see face to face. Now I know in part; then I shall know fully, even as I am fully known.
Marriage forces both partners to get naked and come face to face with who they truly are.
Now that I’ve done my preaching, let’s get on to the TEACHING.
Saw this meme on Instagram and immediately received a Kissylation:
This is something that both men and women can learn from.
When you’re the kind of guy who dates multiple women for extended periods of time, a REAL woman is going to let THEM:
✅ Buy you Christmas gifts
✅ Cater to you when you get sick
YOU thought she would go hard to PROVE herself at this point. But baby, she already knows YOU.
She doesn’t want to get in the way of you receiving your blessings from THEM. Just not from HER.
She also knows you really don’t care about any of the women you date. It’s just something to do.
Amazing women cater to men who value themselves enough to not want to keep a harem of women.
Nobody is special to you.
So let the Harlem do their part, and stop wondering why SHE isn’t stepping up.
She knows YOU are COVERED.
Besides, nobody is competing with a bunch of lost chicks for a lost man.
This ain’t the lost and found department sweetie, and we stopped riding the circus train a long time ago. 🎪
So if you want amazing women to love you, respect you, and serve you, try not being a clown. 🤡
Clowns compete against themselves to never be fully loved by an amazing woman…
Women these days – specifically boss chicks want so badly to cater to her man, to buy him nice things, and surprise him with beautiful gifts to show her love.
But 9/10 times it backfires on her
Not about to go into all of that, if you are one of my clients, you can log in to your membership portal and get the expanded reason why.
FOR MEN
If you want a woman to regard you like a King, cater to your needs, and you treat you special, then baby you first have to realize SHE is special. (There is also a part that reflects on you. VIP clients can log into your portal and get the expansion of this.)
Society hasn’t taught a majority of men what a special woman is, and most don’t learn until they are bald, fat, over the age of 50, thinking they still got it, and wanting to seduce a young honey for free99.
Women actually value men ALOT. But men receive value in a different way than most women understand. Unfortunately most men also don’t know what they actually VALUE.
This is why we see hoards of men, believing they need a hareem of recyclable women around. Their heart chakra is blocked. But if you tell a broken man with money he’s broken, he will tell you he’s healed.
And the saddest thing about most of these men, is they don’t cover ANY woman, yet expect a good woman to cover him in compassion, love and prayer.
If you’re not experiencing a lit up sex life, or at least feelings of pure bliss, you may want to check your stress levels. These days with the rules of entrepreneurship being tooted to work till you drop, meaning people are drawn away from their natural state of flow and bliss. This causes problems in their romantic relationships.
Here are a few ways to lower your stress and increase your sex.
Get rid of cheating mates or dishonest associations
Spend time by yourself
Touch yourself. Love on Yourself
Focus on activities that bring you JOY
Have a positive mindset
Take massive action to accomplish your goals and get things done
Love people for who they are, not for what they do
It’s so much easier to feel sexy and tune in with your body, when you can go to sleep at night, without being worried about if someone is cheating on you.
Spending time by yourself, getting to know yourself and focusing on what you want, is a must.
Spending time doing activities you ENJOY will bring you great pleasure and natural sexual bliss.
Once you do these things, you will find yourself tapped in, tuned in and turned on. For any male reading this article, my best suggestion for you is to find a woman you can afford to upkeep. Seduce her away from producing in masculine energy and pull her into her feminine energy. She NEEDS that from you.
My suggestion for women is to shed everything and tune back into your femininity. For boss chicks, this may be an uphill battle. (JOIN GODDESS UNLEASHED to be supported on your femininity journey.)
When it comes to relationships, make sure you are seducing your mate on a daily basis. Never let the fun leave. Date forever.
I swear this sounds like terrible advice. But I promise it’s good advice.
Good women waste WAY too much time being faithful to no good men. Meanwhile tons of other good men come trying to holler at you. By the time you finally get out of the toxic relationship, and you start posting GOD GOT ME QUOTES, n*ggas ain’t sh*t and all of the other break-up memes, the good men who tried to holler at you, are already onto another woman.
Even with myself, when I was in toxic relationships, I had quite a few good men around me who liked me. One time I broke up with my boyfriend, went out with my girl, and as we were leaving the club, I ran into a man outside. We both looked at each other and it was INSTANT chemistry and INSTANT attraction. Like nothing I’d ever felt before. It was definitely spiritual.
I gave him my number. I talked to him and he was an artist. He sang, and had a clothing line. Like me he was an entrepreneur manifesting his way in this world. About a week later I told him that we couldn’t talk anymore, because I’d gotten back with my BOYFRIEND.
He was hurt. He was like “I thought we had a connection.” I responded “We do. But it wouldn’t be fair to to keep talking to you, when clearly I’m already in love with another man.”
Years later, I see that same man has blown up on social media. He has about 200,000 followers, and he’s getting money. Meanwhile my ex is probably somewhere cheating on whatever woman he’s with, working for someone else, and living the same insane circle he always has.
One time I was talking to one of my male friends and he asked me about my loyalty. He asked me exactly what was I being loyal to.
It came out that the loyalty itself was toxic. Why be loyal to a man who isn’t paying your bills? Why be loyal to a man who doesn’t value you? That’s like being loyal to losing.
The other day a man told me that he met some super fine girl, and he thought she was the one for him. But she did what most of us women do and told him to follow her on Instagram. He now has a woman, and he was telling me now the Instagram chick is in her stories posting the typical break-up memes and God got me quotes. 🤷🏼♀️ He said to himself that if her relationship was bad, it only would’ve made sense for her to give him a chance months ago… Now she looks up, comments on his content, noticing that he has a woman.
A lot of heart-centered women fail to realize that life is NOW. You’d better PRESS PLAY all the way!!!
I used to think it was so uncool to say “Don’t let your boyfriend get in the way of finding your husband.” But it’s true. The man who wants to truly be with you is going to marry you and lock it down. He’s not going to take any chances on letting you go. The man for you is SMART when it comes to you. Love yourself enough to ALLOW love in.
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