by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Feb 12, 2025 |
Just because you’re a high-value man doesn’t mean women are lining up to LOVE you.
Most men can do nothing for a woman beyond spending money on her. You might have wealth, status, and success, but you don’t have the ism to truly stimulate her heart, mind, body and soul.
And just because you have money doesn’t mean she’s going to fall in love with you.
Money alone doesn’t make a man lovable, just like money alone doesn’t make a woman lovable.
You still have to bring more to the table.
You might have a line of women who want to date you, but how many of them want to LOVE you?
🎲 How many are emotionally, spiritually, and energetically aligned with you?
Know the difference.
The real problem is EGO.
If you’re a man making 6 or 7 figures consistently and can’t find ONE woman you connect with – who loves you as deeply as you love her – it’s not the women. It’s you.
This world is backwards.
Everyone knows the value of money, assets, and status…
But almost no one understands the value of LOVE, which is the most precious currency of them all.
💔 What’s even more interesting is that:
✔️ The more money men make, the more disconnected they become from love. Instead of using their position to find a woman who a woman whose essence elevates him, and inspires him to be better, they use it to separate themselves from love entirely.
✔️ The more successful women become, the more masculine they get, which makes them unattractive to the best men. So they end up choosing from who is available and those be some of the worst men…
And yet… both men and women swear they don’t need help.
That’s the ego talking.
Everyone needs help moving out of their own way.
When you’re ready to stop letting your success keep you from love, and start using it to create the life you really desire, message me.
💜 It’s time to let go of what’s holding you back and step into something real, that you can feel.
THIS IS HOW IT GOES:
A man elevates a woman by creating the foundation, security, and leadership that allows her to thrive in her feminine energy.
In return:
A woman inspires a man by being his muse, through her softness, her love, and her ability to make him feel like a King.
The disconnect happens when men with wealth and success separate themselves from love, often due to ego or fear. They use their position to avoid vulnerability and genuine connection. Instead of seeking a woman whose essence inspires them to be better, they chase superficial connections that keep them emotionally unfulfilled.
When a man chooses a woman who is emotionally, spiritually, and energetically aligned with him, she doesn’t elevate him in a masculine sense, she elevates his soul.
He’s still leading, providing, and holding space for her. But her presence inspires him to reach his highest potential.
A man elevates a woman by creating a life where she can rest in her feminine essence, and she inspires him by being the kind of woman who awakens his heart, his desire, and his higher purpose.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Feb 11, 2025 |
Most men simply want to have sex, because that’s an easy way to do something pleasurable.
But they refuse to do the work to find the woman who makes his heart beat, one who takes his breath away. The one who mentally stimulates his mind. The one who can please him in so many ways, that the relationship would last a lifetime.
She requires that he put in more effort than he’s used to… And I’m not talking about simply taking her out to eat, giving her money and buying her nice gifts. I’m talking about being so tuned in with GOD that you are told how to capture her spirit and bond with her very soul. That kind of connection is on a whole other level. It’s the soulmate level that most people have never experienced.
It’s the land where I perform best. It’s a realm that I can take you to.
People generally don’t mind doing hard work in order to gain monetary results and success in business, but when it comes to relationships, most are quite willing to settle for:
– relationships with no love
– situationships
– sex with no emotions
– having no sex life
Those who are happily married, in love, and succeeding in both your business and relationship should definitely be feeling yourself.
Especially if the man is providing…… But of course you should feel extra good about yourself.
And for those who want your dream life of love and success, I can help you remove whatever is blocking you so you can quickly manifest what you want. I can help you open your heart, and expand it so that you are able to experience new levels of love.
Your next level of happiness is a few shifts away. I would take you it’s one shift away, but that would be a lie. lol
The truth is, love and success require the same thing: intentionality.
You don’t stumble into a thriving business or a dream relationship. You create it. Yet, most people are willing to grind for years in their careers but refuse to put the same energy into creating the love they truly want.
❤️ Here’s what no one tells you:
When a man finds the woman who inspires his soul, she elevates everything in his life: his purpose, his wealth, his happiness. She’s not just his partner; she’s his legacy.
But here’s the catch:
She’s not sitting in his comfort zone.
She’s not settling for breadcrumbs, half-hearted efforts, or surface-level connections.
The woman who can transform his life is the one who requires him to rise to her level – emotionally, spiritually, and energetically. That’s why so many men settle… because growth requires effort, and effort requires a decision.
💙 The same is true for YOU.
You can keep hoping for the love and success you want, or you can decide that you’re done with settling in ANY area of your life.
The moment you decide to raise your standards, everything shifts. You stop entertaining mediocrity. You start attracting abundance in love, in business, and in life.
Right now you THINK, you’ve made the decision to raise your standards, but you actually haven’t. 😘
When you work with me I help you make that decision to be intentional a lot faster and equip you with a strategy to attract your match fast. 💋
Think of it this way: while a flower will naturally bloom when the conditions are right, a gardener can help ensure the soil is fertile, the weeds are removed, and the flower is nourished with sunlight and water. I am the gardener who can show you Eden while you’re still on this earth. Working with me creates the conditions for your divine timing to manifest faster, with more ease and joy.
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About Paul
Paul is absolutely one of my favorite clients. When Paul came to me, he’d just turned 42, and told me a story of going to a seminar, listening to a woman speak, and suddenly realizing that he doesn’t know everything. He realized that women often see things from a different perspective and maybe it was time to listen to a woman.
Paul sought out a woman who could give him some understanding about his relationship patterns. Most women were easy to him. He’d buy them gifts, show them his nice car, his nice house, flash his million dollar smile, pay a couple of her bills and the panties came off.
Women were easy for Paul. He felt him charmed mostly attracted women who thought they were in love, but they were merely in love with what he was doing for them.
Randomly one day he came across my post on social media and knew I was the answer. He immediately messaged me and asked for the invoice to help him find “this elusive Goddess wife that you talk about.” where his exact words.
I laughed, sent the invoice and Paul paid in full that same day.
On the first call I asked Paul what was the difference between a woman who loves him vs a woman who loves what he does for her., He said he could tell by the questions they asked him. It wasn’t by their doing, because most of the women tried to show him that they were the best pick for him. While other women were gorgeous, quiet, non combative, but didn’t offer anything that would enhance Paul’s life.
hmmmmm.
Interesting. So i sat down with Paul and eventually we touched on his childhood. His mom taught him to be good to women. But what she didn’t teach him was how to choose a woman that would be good to him…
I asked Paul, what kind of woman would be good for him? He initially said he didn’t know…
He gave it some thought, responded and I stayed quiet, allowing Paul to have his own revelation. He realized his response was so surface based…. A fallacy.
I then asked Paul, “When was the last time you felt deeply seen and appreciated in a relationship? What made that connection stand out?”
So then we got real. Exactly 36 days later, Paul met a woman named Nimasha. He called her “Mashaa.”
Maasha was beautiful, a woman of GOD. Intelligent, fun, feminine, had a nice body and owned a spirit led bookstore.
He talked about how long they stayed on the phone talking about various things. He delighted in the questions Mashaa would ask him. Paul said her energy felt so soft, open and inviting. Mashaa was a breathe of fresh air that he hadn’t experienced before.
By the time that had sex he’d aiready felt deeply connected to her and knew she was the one.
He’s been slowly releasing his hot girl collection despite Massha never asking him to.
Paul is even talking about an engagement soon.
He’s out ring shopping and Facetiming me asking me ‘Kissy, do you think she’ll like this princess cut?”
Had to tell him how to be slick in finding out what she likes..
Then he’s like “Great! Now it’s time to plan the perfect proposal, cause I can’t be proposing to my dream woman at the house, like these lames do.” lol.. Paul is hilarious. It’s really nice to see him become a match for the love he desires.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Feb 9, 2025 |
I know everyone else has been trying to rock you to sleep and tell you that you’re not worthy. But I came to wake you up. I came to change the game.
Listen, You’re THAT woman. Gorgeous. Successful. The one everyone looks up to. But no one really sees the moments when you’re doubting yourself…”
Like that time you were head over heels for that guy. He was charming, fine as wine, smelled like Heaven, and was everything you thought you wanted. But then he started pulling back, making you second-guess every move you made.
✔️ You gave him your best energy.
✔️ You showed him you’re a catch.
✔️ You bent over backward to show him what an amazing partner you’d be…
But instead of stepping up, he left you feeling like you weren’t enough.
And here’s the part you don’t want to admit:
You STILL think about him. You’re STILL attracted to him.
💔 But why? Because you’re drawn to the potential he represents. Not the reality of what he’s offering. Which is less than what you subconsciously know you’re worth.
And then there’s your business…
You’ve poured your heart into it. You’ve done the work, taken the courses, and shown up consistently… You hit 6 figures, but that wasn’t the goal.
Why aren’t you a millionaire yet?
You’re spinning in circles, juggling 20 things at once, and wondering what piece of the puzzle you’re missing.
You know you’re destined for MORE. But you’re stuck in your own head, overthinking, doubting, and staying in patterns that keep you just out of reach.
You go to bed every night, feeling frustrated, wondering when you will ever get there to the life you’ve always dreamed of living.
Here’s What’s Happening:
💎 It’s not you. It’s your clarity and alignment.
You’re playing at 50% of your power, stuck in loops of proving yourself to men who don’t deserve you and hustling for money instead of receiving it with ease. You don’t mind working hard. You’ve been doing it for years. But look where it’s gotten you.
Yes, it has got you far. Very far. You’ve accomplished miracles. But you know GOD has more for you. Your next level of greatness won’t come from sheer hustle. The beautiful, loving relationship with your soulmate King won’t appear by you dimming your light and settling for less.
💎 High-value men and high-value money both require the same thing: Alignment to your deepest truth.
👉 A man who is generous, wealthy, and ready to claim you isn’t interested in potential or a woman whose still trying to figure out WHO she is. He wants a woman who embodies her worth.
👉 A multi-million-dollar business doesn’t come from grinding harder. It comes from clarity, strategy, and feminine flow.
✨ Now here is the beauty of it all. The same energy that attracts the RIGHT man will also unlock your next level of wealth and success.
It all comes down to who you are being in this world.
Time to Embody The Divine Feminine Goddess
Love, it’s time to shift everything.
Imagine:
✔️ A man who adores you, makes your heart beat, provides for, and protects you without you having to lift a finger to prove yourself.
✔️ A business that finally feels aligned, where the clients and money flow to you without overworking.
✔️ Waking up every day living the life of your dreams… Feeling powerful, magnetic, and clear about your next move. Noticing how things now seem to be so effortless for you.
💋 This is what I do for my clients. It’s time for you to stop playing small and start stepping into the life you deserve.
Know your worth. Show your worth. You are God. You are Power. You are Unbreakable.
Who cares what another woman thinks or says? Everything about you is >>>> than her.
What does a man want? A trophy. I am —– The Ultimate Trophy.
I’ve always known that. You’ve always known that about yourself too.
Now it’s time to show THEM.
- Not by doing what everyone else does.
- Not by being clingy or overly emotional.
- Not by worrying about what he’s doing outside of you.
Your unbothered confidence will drive men crazy.
When a man can’t read you, decipher you, or mindplay you into needing his attention, he starts to chase you even harder.
When you show up to dates, you don’t have to say who you are. You prove it by the way you move, and the way you speak. Your energy speaks for you.
You’re built different. Your embodiment is how you show your worth.
💎 Once you achieve that Goddess Mindset, there is no one off-limits.
No fumbled relationship you can’t repair.
No new dream relationship you can’t create.
As sure as the sun rises, you will get everything you came here for.
Your aura is undeniable. Your victory is inevitable.
💋 You are HER.
This week, I’m offering you the opportunity to join The Divine Feminine Collective. If you’re ready to shift into your next level.
💎 I help successful, brilliant women remove the invisible blocks that keep them stuck in business and love, so they can attract high-value men, effortless abundance, and the freedom to live life on their terms.
Through my coaching, you’ll embody a magnetic, feminine energy that makes the RIGHT man pursue you, makes money flow to you with ease, and unlocks the clarity to step into your next level.”
It’s not just about ‘doing more’ or ‘trying harder.’
It’s about shifting your ENERGY, ALIGNING your mindset, and becoming the woman who gets everything she desires…with ease.
CLICK HERE TO Book A call
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Jan 22, 2025 |
Saw this woman about 7 months ago announce that she’d hit 7 figures in her business, and she wrote a post telling her “future husband” that she’s going to be a great business partner for him.
At the time I said nothing… But in my head I was like “Awwwwe. poor baby.. She’s actually thinks that post will attract a King in her life.”
I wanted so badly to comment and tell her the post probably wouldn’t attract the kind of man she wants.
But spirit was like “Goddess. Stay out of non-client business.” I’d already offered her my services and she declined… Honestly it seemed like she was anxious to show me that she didn’t need me…
She found a guy and started posting “couples” photos. It was “bae,” this and “bae” that. All of her followers were like “Yes, Boss Lady! You finding love is so inspiring.”
Later she posted about helping her “boyfriend” build his business to 6 figures, and ended up catching him cheating in the car with another woman…. Chick was on his lap riding and everything, right there in the parking lot…
On Facebook I see many women makes these posts begging men to come “wife” her because she’s going to be a good business partner… (Advertising to get used) Or the women who advertise who they don’t need luxury or anything else from a man, claiming they simply want “love, attention and time.” I smh at these pick me videos that men are so quick to share. Because most men of course want a woman who is sleep, is honest about her desires and is willing to settle for less, only to later be disappointed in him, cause she magically thought he was going to level up and give her her secret desires.
Anyway, back to the story. High Value Men are looking for a feminine partner… Not a business partner. He can get a male business partner.
He wants his woman to have feminine qualities to offer him…
Honestly, ya’ll would be better off advertising blowjobs.
I learned my lesson about thinking my brilliance and success in business plus my good looks was my bragging point for relationships.
Now all I offer a man is my beauty and feminine essence. Everything else he receives will come as a surprise, after getting to know me. There is no need to advertise anything else… Because if he can’t feel her feminine essence and energy simply in her being, he’s unable to emotionally connect to her. Which means everything else that you offer now doesn’t count.
Which is why most women can not get a high value man who provides. Men provide for women with feminine energy. Women who can receive from him.
A high value man’s dick does not get hard at the thought of marrying you cause you say you would make a good business partner.
Any man who responds to that request is going to d*ck you down real good, have you going 50/50 and running his business while he spends money on the side chick. And the side chick won’t have a quarter of your brain or power. It will leave you confused.
You want a man who values your brilliance and business skillsl. But first you must have something to offer him that he feels his valuable….
My question is why do such women choose to ignore feminine advice, level up advice and literally any advice that will help her soften her feminine essence and attract a King into her life?
I’ll get to that answer… But first I look back at myself and I ignored feminine advice in the past, before I shifted into divine feminine Goddess embodiment, because I would see the most unattractive women teaching femininity. They would always say why pretty women couldn’t get or keep a man. And that didn’t resonate with me because I never had a problem getting or keeping a man.
In fact, I’ve never been dumped. Despite that, I ended up breaking up with one of my soulmates and broke my own heart. I asked myself “Why do I keep dumping men?” Men want to marry me and everything. They are willing to give me exactly what I want. They even spoil me, cook for me, take me out nice places and buy me nice things.
In my exploration I began to understand purpose, alignment, clarity and most of all femininity. I realized that I was a perfectionist and put a lot of pressure on those around me to be perfect… I also talked recklessly at times and emasculated men.
Anyway I received divine feminine coaching and magically I started to attract men who would tell me that I have “wife energy.” But that’s a different conversation and a level of embodiment that most women simply will never have, because it requires a ton of inner and outer work.
WHY BRILLIANT WOMEN IGNORE FEMININE WISDOM
When a successful, intelligent woman ignores wisdom that’s all over social media telling her to tune into her femininity, this points to a larger issue about conditioning, misalignment, and misunderstanding feminine power.
Here’s why some women struggle to embrace the advice that would truly help them level up:
1. Societal Conditioning & Overemphasis on Achievement
- Many women are raised to believe their value is tied to their achievements…. Education, career success, and accolades. They’re taught that being “independent” and showing they can “hold their own” will earn them love and respect.
- Not only does this make most successful women believe they are better than drop dead gorgeous women who have “nothing to offer, but nice IG pics.. But this mindset also pushes them into their masculine energy, where they lead with doing, proving, and building, instead of resting in their essence.
- DOING and pushing seems natural and norm.. She believes working harder means she’s worthy…
- Many successful women genuinely believe that advertising their business skills or financial contributions will attract a high-value man, not realizing this often repels Kings who seek softness, love, and peace.
Listen, even me on social media, I’m like “Hey.. I keep running my platform trying to level women up, as a sacrifice to myself.. Even this post, me helping women again, when i could totally be spending my time doing something that will attract high value men to me.
2. Fear of Vulnerability
- Embracing feminine energy requires trusting, receiving, and surrendering. This starts with trusting GOD and trusting yourself. Concepts that can feel foreign or even unsafe to women who’ve been burned in relationships or told to “never depend on a man, and know that the bible says “faith without works is dead” Relaxing, trusting, learning back. letting go and letting GOD just doesn’t seem like a real path to her.
- Many women feel that leading with their feminine energy leaves them vulnerable to being hurt, used, or undervalued, so they overcompensate by trying to control the dynamic with their masculine traits. And this is totally understandable because the truth is men do like women who have their own money and women who don’t need them.. (To a degree… what I said isn’t surface. Surface cause most women don’t know how to receive from a man, which makes her not a choice for a viable mate.)
3. Misunderstanding “Value”
- These women equate their worth with what they can do for a man, not who they are as a woman.
- They believe offering their business savvy or financial contributions is what will make a man commit, when in reality, a man of means already values those qualities in himself and doesn’t need them in a partner. His woman has to bring something else that he values.
4. Insecurity & Lack of Self-Worth
- Deep down, many women who lead with “I’m a great business partner” or “I’ll build him up” don’t feel their feminine essence alone is enough. And it’s not… Cause again, it requires vulnerability and the willingness to be seen, Naked…
- They’ve never been taught to trust that their softness, radiance, beauty, and presence are the most valuable things they can offer the right man. Again, most women don’t have softness, radiance, beauty, nor presence… Yet darn there every woman thinks she does, due to filters.. But in person, she doesn’t look soft and radiant at all. The difference is the women who are drop dead gorgeous in real life, have that going for them… But that doesn’t mean she still isn’t secure and lacks self-worth. Anybody can get the work!
5. Lack of Representation
- Many women don’t see examples of what it looks like to embody Divine Feminine energy while maintaining independence and success.
- They assume it’s an either/or choice: either I’m a powerhouse businesswoman, or I’m a soft feminine Goddess.
Without role models or mentors who live in harmony between the two, they stick to what they know — masculine energy… because it feels safer.
But i find this weird because those who follow me know that I am the embodiment of both. But I guess many don’t see that being a reality for them, because unlike them, I really did that inner work… I had the outer work on lock over a decade ago, and the success tooo. But thankfully I knew to not stop there.
Most successful women literally stopped at the success part. They skipped health, beauty, femininity, relationship mastery and everything else.
WHY? Because our society puts so much pressure on us to succeed. So of course one would believe that success and money is all they need to be worthy of having a great mate. Yet what’s interesting is that to those very same women, some of them have met met with money and deemed his not good enough, because his character and social skills sucked.
But because she deems herself to be a “nice” giving woman, along with success, she believes she is the ultimate mate. Never once thinking that maybe she is missing the attributes that good men look for.
Even down to cooking…. Like most successful women know they run from the kitchen. A man can’t even get a hot home cooked meal out of her.
Successful women are simply behind in relationships…
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- Women who struggle with this don’t always realize they’re in their masculine energy or sabotaging their relationships.
- There is a difference between leading with your essence vs. leading with your résumé. Understanding this shift can change everything. the Solution
Sis, he doesn’t care how many degrees you have, how many zeros are in your bank account, or what you can build with him. High-value men are drawn to your softness, your joy, your essence. Because those are things he can’t buy or build on his own.
Those are the things most of the women he meets doesn’t have. Feminine energy is the key to unlocking the relationship you desire. Once you have that, add your success and baby you are unstoppable!
- What’s Possible: Imagine a man who worships the ground you walk on. Not because you built something for him, but because your presence alone inspires him to be more, do more, and give more. That’s what happens when you master your feminine energy.This allows a man to actually be a leader and a King for you, vs you trying to coddle him and take care of him like you’re the alpha in the
relationship.. You finally get to relax and be a woman who is covered… Seriously, imagine that.
- Many women don’t listen to advice about softening their essence because they feel judged or attacked. Being told you’re imperfect definitely doesn’t feel good. But let’s face the truth.. Pain is often your awakening.. Cause when things are soft, easy and breezy you often ignore it, cause you have a belief that things must be hard in order for it to be worth anything, including yourself and your love life.
Just think.. When has love ever been easy for you?
TRUTH BOMB:
I get it. You’ve worked hard to become the powerhouse you are, and you want a man who values your brilliance. The truth is, a high-value man will admire all of that, but what makes him commit is how you make him feel. Feminine energy is your superpower, and when you embody it, you’ll never feel like you have to prove your worth again.
Not even in business… I went from trying to prove myself in business to finally releasing, leaning back and saying “Hey. If they miss out that’s on them.” Those same people who miss out end up paying another coach thousands and still don’t get results.
Maybe that’s their path to waste $50K, before they realize they should’ve came to you… But you could’ve saved them time and money, by simply owning your worth and charging $50K for your services in the first place…. Cause honey offering your services and magic for $3,000 seems way to good to be true… Which is why she didn’t buy from you… But notice she bought from others… Many others… Peep game.
- ABUNDANCE
- I am the embodiment of the balance between success and feminine energy. Leading with my essence has allowed me to attract abundance, opportunities, connections, and soul aligned relationships.
The Root of Your Resistance
Women ignore feminine advice because they’ve been conditioned to value masculine traits over feminine ones. They see their feminine side as weak, unimportant, or unworthy of love.
When realize your brilliance and your beauty can coexist in harmony, you’ll start to see the path to attracting the King you desire.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Jan 21, 2025 |
Attracting a high-value man isn’t about chasing or pleading for his attention. It’s about becoming the woman who is magnetic, so aligned with her own vision and power that he can’t help but be drawn to her.
I’ve experienced relationships where men gave, loved, and provided abundantly. But here’s the truth I’ve learned: even the best love can’t fill the space where alignment with your highest self should be. A high-value man will honor you, support your dreams, and match your energy. But you have to first be fully aligned with who you are and what you want in life.
One time I was dating a high value man who was amazing in every sense of the word. If he flew me somewhere he would pull clothes and shoes for me out of nowhere or have them in the closet or in the room when I walked in. There would be purses, coats, earrings, literally whatever i needed to match the fit, plus many other things.
ALIGNING WITH YOUR HV MAN
Attracting a high-value man is about aligning with your highest self. When you step into your true power and embrace your divine feminine energy, love and success flow to you effortlessly. High-value relationships are based on mutual respect, shared vision, and energetic alignment. If you’re ready to align with a soul-aligned partner, it starts with embracing your magnetic energy.
He once said to me, “The difference between you and this other women Kissy, is that you pulled me right into what you were doing, without you asking. I see what you’re doing and believe in you. I want to make your dreams come true.”
He then proceeded to do so… I swear that man did more for me in two months, than some men had done with that time in two years of being with a woman.
He also told me that women before me weren’t ready to receive from him at the level that he gives. For a high value man who understands women, this is his norm.
When you’re fully aligned with your highest self, your energy becomes magnetic. You don’t have to chase love or success, it comes to you effortlessly.
Find a man who worships you and it’s and easy win.
Are you ready to step into your highest self and align with the man who matches your energy? Let’s talk about how we can make that happen.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Jan 15, 2025 |
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 10, 2024 |
In the journey of personal development, the relationships we choose play pivotal roles. Particularly in intimate relationships, the choice of partner can significantly amplify or impede our growth. What most people will tell you is to stop trying to change people. But ultimately what I realize is that many people are ending up in relationships with people who don’t want to grow.
It’s not that you shouldn’t try to change people. The real problem is those who really want to grow and develop themselves are mating with those who don’t seek to grow and those who don’t like hearing the truth about themselves, even if it’s said in kindness.
Cause any sensible person who wants to reach the top, would be grateful to have a mate next to them who can reflect their greatness back to them and tell them what their blindspots are.
In other ways YES you should accept people as they are, noting that some things people do not want to change.” ~ Kissy Denise
When you find yourself with people who refuse to grow, it’s a sign of misalignment.
This isn’t just about finding someone who shares your interests or life goals, but about connecting with someone who is as committed to personal growth as you are.
The Challenge of Mismatched Growth Ambitions
It’s a common scenario: one partner is deeply invested in personal development, constantly learning, evolving, and striving to be better, while the other remains content with the status quo. This mismatch can lead to frustration, as one person feels held back, and the other feels unnecessarily pressured. The truth is, not everyone has the same appetite for personal development, and that’s okay. But for those who do value growth, having a partner who mirrors that value can be transformative.
The Value of a Growth-Minded Partner
Imagine having someone who not only supports your dreams but also pushes you towards your greatest potential. A partner who can lovingly point out your blind spots, not to criticize, but to help you evolve. This kind of relationship can be a powerhouse for personal transformation. Here’s why choosing a growth-minded partner is so crucial:
- Feedback and Insight: A growth-oriented partner offers more than just comfort; they provide valuable insights into yourself and how you can improve. This feedback is crucial for anyone looking to ascend to their highest self.
- Motivation and Support: On days when your motivation wanes, a partner who values growth can inspire you to keep moving forward. Their drive can reignite your own, making it easier to overcome obstacles and stay on track.
- Shared Journey of Improvement: When both partners are committed to growth, the journey becomes a shared one. This can deepen the bond, as you evolve not just side by side but together.
- Enhanced Communication: Growth-oriented relationships often involve higher levels of communication. Discussing each other’s paths and progress involves vulnerability and trust, which are the bedrocks of a strong relationship.
Accepting Each Other As You Are
While it’s beneficial to be with someone who embraces growth, it’s equally important to accept that some aspects of a person may never change—and that’s okay. True acceptance means loving someone as they are, even if they decide not to engage in the journey of personal development as deeply as you do. What many married women find is that when they start on their own personal development journey, without pressuring their husband, he suddenly hops on board after seeing her growth.
Conclusion: The Ideal Partnership
For those of us dedicated to personal and spiritual growth, finding a partner who not only understands but shares our commitment can be a game-changer. Such a partnership doesn’t just add to our lives; it multiplies our potential. It’s about more than just being in love. It’s about being in a relationship that continually inspires and transforms, helping each person become not only what they want to be but more than they thought they could be. This is why I teach SOULMATE relationships… They are both deeply loving and growth vortexes. Its the best of both worlds.
If you find yourself constantly trying to inspire change in a partner who isn’t interested, it may be time to ask whether you’re truly accepting them as they are or if you’re holding onto a wish for them to be different. Remember, everyone’s growth journey is personal, and while we can support and encourage our partners, choosing someone who already aligns with our values and vision can lead to a much more fulfilling and empowering relationship.
At the end of the day, it all comes down to BALANCE. Everything is about balance. This means that you would be wise to learn how to vet better.
See, ending up in the wrong relationship, or not knowing how to maintain a healthy relationship has so many different nuances. You never know exactly what’s going on in your particular case until you speak with an enlightened professional. one on one.
For women who read this, just know there is another level to this. Many women MOTHER men which is the main problem when ti comes to trying to change him. This comes off as masculine energy… The key is to inspire him to grow.
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by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 3, 2024 |
A comment from one of my male blog readers inspired this blog.
In the world of dating, many women focus on attracting the right partner. They invest in their appearance, work on their confidence, and learn the tricks of how to catch a man’s eye. And while attraction is an essential part of the dating journey, it’s only half the story. Keeping a meaningful connection alive—one that leads to a deep, committed relationship—is a whole other challenge.
You might wonder why some relationships seem to fizzle out after the initial excitement, or why the man you’re attracted to pulls away just as things seem to be getting serious. If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I keep the men I truly want?” you’re not alone. Many women experience this pattern, and understanding the reasons behind it can be the first step toward building lasting love.
In this blog, we’ll explore some of the common reasons why attraction alone isn’t enough and what it takes to keep a relationship flourishing beyond the initial spark. And if you’re ready for a deeper dive, I’ll tell you where to find VIP insights that go even further.
1. Attraction vs. Compatibility
Attracting a man and building a lasting relationship with him are two different things. While attraction is essential, compatibility is what sustains a relationship over time. Attraction can fade if there isn’t a deeper connection and alignment in values, lifestyle, and goals.
Why This Matters: Compatibility provides a foundation for mutual understanding and shared purpose. When two people are compatible, they navigate challenges more easily and feel a stronger sense of commitment to each other.
2. Avoiding the Chase for Validation
In the early stages of dating, it’s easy to fall into the trap of seeking validation from the man you’re interested in. This can lead to a dynamic where you’re constantly working to “win” his affection, which can actually push him away.
Why This Matters: Relationships are healthiest when both partners feel secure and valued. When you focus on inner validation and self-worth, you radiate a confidence that naturally attracts lasting interest from a man without the need for constant reassurance.
3. The Importance of Emotional Intimacy
While physical attraction is a great starting point, emotional intimacy is what creates a lasting bond. Emotional intimacy requires vulnerability, communication, and trust. It’s about sharing your authentic self and creating a safe space for your partner to do the same.
Why This Matters: Men who feel emotionally connected are more likely to stay committed. Emotional intimacy goes beyond surface-level attraction, allowing both partners to build a strong foundation that withstands challenges.
4. Balancing Feminine and Masculine Energy
Many women, especially high-achievers, have learned to thrive in their masculine energy—focusing on goals, control, and independence. While these qualities are powerful in the workplace, they can sometimes create a mismatch in romantic relationships. Finding a balance and embracing feminine energy can create space for the man to step into his masculine role.
Why This Matters: Men are often drawn to women who embrace their feminine energy, which includes openness, receptivity, and a sense of ease. Balancing masculine and feminine energy can lead to a more harmonious and mutually fulfilling relationship.
5. Understanding Men’s Needs for Respect and Appreciation
While women often prioritize emotional connection and verbal affirmation, men tend to feel valued through respect and appreciation. They want to feel that they’re admired and that their efforts are noticed and appreciated. Learning to express these forms of appreciation can strengthen a man’s emotional connection and commitment.
Why This Matters: Men are more likely to stay committed when they feel respected and valued for who they are. Showing appreciation and admiration can help maintain a strong connection and keep the relationship healthy.
6. Choosing the Right Man for a Lasting Relationship
Sometimes, the struggle to “keep” a man stems from focusing on men who may not be genuinely compatible or ready for a committed relationship. It’s important to be selective about the type of man you invest your time and energy into, rather than getting attached to the idea of “winning him over.”
Why This Matters: Choosing a man who aligns with your values, goals, and emotional needs increases the likelihood of a fulfilling and lasting relationship. Focusing on quality over quantity is a powerful way to set yourself up for long-term success in love.
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If these insights resonated with you, and you’re ready to dive into a more detailed, in-depth look at why women struggle to keep the men they truly desire, I have a VIP blog that goes much deeper. In this exclusive post, we’ll explore the advanced relationship dynamics, attachment patterns, and mindset shifts that can empower you to attract, keep, and build a thriving relationship with the man who aligns with your highest self.
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