by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 10, 2024 |
In the journey of personal development, the relationships we choose play pivotal roles. Particularly in intimate relationships, the choice of partner can significantly amplify or impede our growth. What most people will tell you is to stop trying to change people. But ultimately what I realize is that many people are ending up in relationships with people who don’t want to grow.
It’s not that you shouldn’t try to change people. The real problem is those who really want to grow and develop themselves are mating with those who don’t seek to grow and those who don’t like hearing the truth about themselves, even if it’s said in kindness.
Cause any sensible person who wants to reach the top, would be grateful to have a mate next to them who can reflect their greatness back to them and tell them what their blindspots are.
In other ways YES you should accept people as they are, noting that some things people do not want to change.” ~ Kissy Denise
When you find yourself with people who refuse to grow, it’s a sign of misalignment.
This isn’t just about finding someone who shares your interests or life goals, but about connecting with someone who is as committed to personal growth as you are.
The Challenge of Mismatched Growth Ambitions
It’s a common scenario: one partner is deeply invested in personal development, constantly learning, evolving, and striving to be better, while the other remains content with the status quo. This mismatch can lead to frustration, as one person feels held back, and the other feels unnecessarily pressured. The truth is, not everyone has the same appetite for personal development, and that’s okay. But for those who do value growth, having a partner who mirrors that value can be transformative.
The Value of a Growth-Minded Partner
Imagine having someone who not only supports your dreams but also pushes you towards your greatest potential. A partner who can lovingly point out your blind spots, not to criticize, but to help you evolve. This kind of relationship can be a powerhouse for personal transformation. Here’s why choosing a growth-minded partner is so crucial:
- Feedback and Insight: A growth-oriented partner offers more than just comfort; they provide valuable insights into yourself and how you can improve. This feedback is crucial for anyone looking to ascend to their highest self.
- Motivation and Support: On days when your motivation wanes, a partner who values growth can inspire you to keep moving forward. Their drive can reignite your own, making it easier to overcome obstacles and stay on track.
- Shared Journey of Improvement: When both partners are committed to growth, the journey becomes a shared one. This can deepen the bond, as you evolve not just side by side but together.
- Enhanced Communication: Growth-oriented relationships often involve higher levels of communication. Discussing each other’s paths and progress involves vulnerability and trust, which are the bedrocks of a strong relationship.
Accepting Each Other As You Are
While it’s beneficial to be with someone who embraces growth, it’s equally important to accept that some aspects of a person may never change—and that’s okay. True acceptance means loving someone as they are, even if they decide not to engage in the journey of personal development as deeply as you do. What many married women find is that when they start on their own personal development journey, without pressuring their husband, he suddenly hops on board after seeing her growth.
Conclusion: The Ideal Partnership
For those of us dedicated to personal and spiritual growth, finding a partner who not only understands but shares our commitment can be a game-changer. Such a partnership doesn’t just add to our lives; it multiplies our potential. It’s about more than just being in love. It’s about being in a relationship that continually inspires and transforms, helping each person become not only what they want to be but more than they thought they could be. This is why I teach SOULMATE relationships… They are both deeply loving and growth vortexes. Its the best of both worlds.
If you find yourself constantly trying to inspire change in a partner who isn’t interested, it may be time to ask whether you’re truly accepting them as they are or if you’re holding onto a wish for them to be different. Remember, everyone’s growth journey is personal, and while we can support and encourage our partners, choosing someone who already aligns with our values and vision can lead to a much more fulfilling and empowering relationship.
At the end of the day, it all comes down to BALANCE. Everything is about balance. This means that you would be wise to learn how to vet better.
See, ending up in the wrong relationship, or not knowing how to maintain a healthy relationship has so many different nuances. You never know exactly what’s going on in your particular case until you speak with an enlightened professional. one on one.
For women who read this, just know there is another level to this. Many women MOTHER men which is the main problem when ti comes to trying to change him. This comes off as masculine energy… The key is to inspire him to grow.
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by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 3, 2024 |
A comment from one of my male blog readers inspired this blog.
In the world of dating, many women focus on attracting the right partner. They invest in their appearance, work on their confidence, and learn the tricks of how to catch a man’s eye. And while attraction is an essential part of the dating journey, it’s only half the story. Keeping a meaningful connection alive—one that leads to a deep, committed relationship—is a whole other challenge.
You might wonder why some relationships seem to fizzle out after the initial excitement, or why the man you’re attracted to pulls away just as things seem to be getting serious. If you’ve ever thought, “Why can’t I keep the men I truly want?” you’re not alone. Many women experience this pattern, and understanding the reasons behind it can be the first step toward building lasting love.
In this blog, we’ll explore some of the common reasons why attraction alone isn’t enough and what it takes to keep a relationship flourishing beyond the initial spark. And if you’re ready for a deeper dive, I’ll tell you where to find VIP insights that go even further.
1. Attraction vs. Compatibility
Attracting a man and building a lasting relationship with him are two different things. While attraction is essential, compatibility is what sustains a relationship over time. Attraction can fade if there isn’t a deeper connection and alignment in values, lifestyle, and goals.
Why This Matters: Compatibility provides a foundation for mutual understanding and shared purpose. When two people are compatible, they navigate challenges more easily and feel a stronger sense of commitment to each other.
2. Avoiding the Chase for Validation
In the early stages of dating, it’s easy to fall into the trap of seeking validation from the man you’re interested in. This can lead to a dynamic where you’re constantly working to “win” his affection, which can actually push him away.
Why This Matters: Relationships are healthiest when both partners feel secure and valued. When you focus on inner validation and self-worth, you radiate a confidence that naturally attracts lasting interest from a man without the need for constant reassurance.
3. The Importance of Emotional Intimacy
While physical attraction is a great starting point, emotional intimacy is what creates a lasting bond. Emotional intimacy requires vulnerability, communication, and trust. It’s about sharing your authentic self and creating a safe space for your partner to do the same.
Why This Matters: Men who feel emotionally connected are more likely to stay committed. Emotional intimacy goes beyond surface-level attraction, allowing both partners to build a strong foundation that withstands challenges.
4. Balancing Feminine and Masculine Energy
Many women, especially high-achievers, have learned to thrive in their masculine energy—focusing on goals, control, and independence. While these qualities are powerful in the workplace, they can sometimes create a mismatch in romantic relationships. Finding a balance and embracing feminine energy can create space for the man to step into his masculine role.
Why This Matters: Men are often drawn to women who embrace their feminine energy, which includes openness, receptivity, and a sense of ease. Balancing masculine and feminine energy can lead to a more harmonious and mutually fulfilling relationship.
5. Understanding Men’s Needs for Respect and Appreciation
While women often prioritize emotional connection and verbal affirmation, men tend to feel valued through respect and appreciation. They want to feel that they’re admired and that their efforts are noticed and appreciated. Learning to express these forms of appreciation can strengthen a man’s emotional connection and commitment.
Why This Matters: Men are more likely to stay committed when they feel respected and valued for who they are. Showing appreciation and admiration can help maintain a strong connection and keep the relationship healthy.
6. Choosing the Right Man for a Lasting Relationship
Sometimes, the struggle to “keep” a man stems from focusing on men who may not be genuinely compatible or ready for a committed relationship. It’s important to be selective about the type of man you invest your time and energy into, rather than getting attached to the idea of “winning him over.”
Why This Matters: Choosing a man who aligns with your values, goals, and emotional needs increases the likelihood of a fulfilling and lasting relationship. Focusing on quality over quantity is a powerful way to set yourself up for long-term success in love.
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by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Nov 3, 2024 |
Ladies, if you’ve ever felt like you had to impress on a date—mentioning your degrees, accomplishments, or career success—this post is for you. When we bring that energy to a date, it can compete with his masculine drive, rather than drawing in the true provider energy we desire. ✨
Here’s the truth: High-value feminine energy doesn’t need to prove itself. It’s felt, sensed, and appreciated without a word. A man who’s looking for a committed partner is drawn to a woman who knows her worth without trying to “show” it.
Imagine going on your next date with a calm, confident presence that naturally invites him to step up and impress you. When you lean back and embrace your feminine grace, you create a magnetic energy that’s unforgettable.
Curious about how to embody this energy? In the VIP version of this blog, I’m sharing three powerful steps to show up in your high-value feminine essence on a date. These are the shifts that go beyond surface advice and transform the way men respond to you.
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by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Oct 20, 2024 |
What Do Women Really Want in a Man These Days?
Why Dating Feels Impossible Lately and How to Navigate It Like a King
Let’s be real: dating can feel like a full-time job these days. One minute you’re vibing with someone, thinking you’ve found “the one,” and the next, everything goes ghost. It’s no secret that dating feels harder than ever, especially with all the apps, social media, and unspoken rules. So, what do women really want in a man these days? Is there a secret formula to standing out? Let’s break it down.
1. Confidence, Not Cockiness
Women are drawn to men who walk with purpose, but that doesn’t mean being arrogant. Confidence is about being comfortable in your own skin, knowing who you are, and owning it. It’s the quiet assurance in your actions, your words, and how you carry yourself. Cockiness, on the other hand, repels women because it feels like you’re compensating for something. True confidence means you’re not trying too hard—you’re just being you.
Pro Tip: Own your strengths and work on your weaknesses. Women can sense authenticity a mile away.
2. Emotional Intelligence Is Key
Gone are the days when being emotionally unavailable was attractive. Women today are looking for men who can tap into their emotions and communicate effectively. Emotional intelligence means being able to read the room, understand her needs, and have real, vulnerable conversations. Women appreciate men who are willing to grow emotionally and handle conflict maturely, rather than brushing things under the rug.
Pro Tip: Practice active listening. Ask her how she’s feeling, and don’t try to “fix” everything. Sometimes, she just wants to be heard.
3. Ambition with Balance
Women love a man with drive, but they also value balance. It’s not just about hustling 24/7 or making six figures. Women are looking for men who are passionate about their goals but can also prioritize their relationships and personal life. The grind is important, but so is having time for love, relaxation, and adventure.
Pro Tip: Show that you have goals, but also make it clear that you’re present and can make time for what matters.
4. Honesty and Transparency
If there’s one thing that will always be attractive, it’s honesty. Women want a man who is upfront about his intentions, emotions, and where he stands. Playing games, leading someone on, or not being clear about your feelings? That’s a fast track to failure. In a world full of uncertainty, being genuine is a rare and highly valued quality.
Pro Tip: Communicate early and often. Even if it’s uncomfortable, honesty builds trust and keeps you out of drama.
5. Chivalry Isn’t Dead—It’s Evolved
While modern women are independent and capable, they still appreciate a man who treats them with respect and care. Chivalry isn’t about outdated gender roles; it’s about showing thoughtfulness and consideration. Opening doors, planning thoughtful dates, and paying attention to the little things that make her feel valued can go a long way.
Pro Tip: It’s not about grand gestures—small, consistent acts of kindness show you’re paying attention and that you care.
6. Sense of Humor and Fun
Life is serious enough, and women want someone who can make them laugh and lighten the mood. A man with a sense of humor brings joy to her day and creates a bond that goes beyond just surface-level attraction. Whether it’s witty banter, playful teasing, or just being goofy together, humor is a powerful tool for connection.
Pro Tip: Be playful and light-hearted, but don’t force it. Let the natural chemistry create the laughs.
7. Respect for Her Independence
A modern woman values her independence, and she’s not looking for a man to control or change her. Women want partners, not caretakers. This means supporting her dreams, respecting her time, and encouraging her to shine without feeling threatened by her success or independence.
Pro Tip: Celebrate her wins, encourage her goals, and make sure she knows you’re there to elevate her, not hold her back.
8. Security and Stability
Security isn’t just about financial stability, though that can be a factor—it’s about emotional and relational security. Women want to know that they can rely on you, that you’ll be there when things get tough, and that you’re building something real together. It’s about consistency, reliability, and creating a foundation that feels safe for both of you.
Pro Tip: Be consistent in your actions, follow through on your word, and show her that she can trust you in the long run.
So, Why Does Dating Feel So Impossible?
The truth is, it’s not just you. Modern dating has evolved, and it comes with its challenges—like ghosting, miscommunication, and endless options. But the real secret to standing out in the dating world is understanding that women today aren’t just looking for someone to check off boxes. They’re seeking depth, emotional connection, and authenticity.
Yes, dating may feel like a battlefield right now, but if you focus on becoming the best version of yourself—emotionally intelligent, confident, honest, and supportive—you’ll find that the right woman will notice. And when she does, you’ll realize that the effort you’ve put in was all worth it.
Dating isn’t impossible. It’s just about leveling up your approach and being real with yourself and the women you meet. Be patient, stay true to who you are, and remember: The right woman wants the real you—not some perfect version you’re trying to portray.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Oct 19, 2024 |
1. Emotional Support and Connection
High-value men want a woman who is emotionally present, someone they can trust with their vulnerabilities and share their innermost thoughts with. They want someone who listens, understands, and can be their soft place to land after a long day. An emotional connection is what fosters deep intimacy and strengthens bonds over time.
In my Effortless Abundance Workbook, I teach the power of creating an emotional space where you and your partner feel safe, supported, and deeply connected. If you want to learn how to open up emotionally and create a nurturing relationship, it’s the perfect guide for you.
2. Feminine Energy & Nurturing Spirit
Femininity is often misunderstood. It’s not just about how you dress or act; it’s about the energy you radiate. High-value men are naturally drawn to women who embrace their feminine energy. This means being soft, open, nurturing, and inviting. Men crave the feeling of being cared for and valued, not just physically, but emotionally.
You can dive into how to align your feminine energy with my Goddess Alignment Quiz to see what areas of your energy need a boost. Unlocking your divine feminine power is a game-changer when attracting a man who truly values you.
3. Confidence without Arrogance
True confidence is magnetic. High-value men love a woman who knows her worth and stands in her power, without being boastful or arrogant. Confidence is about being self-assured, secure in your value, and not feeling the need to compare yourself to others. It also means being secure enough to allow your man to step into his masculine energy without feeling threatened.
The right balance of confidence allows you to shine in your own lane, creating a powerful, harmonious dynamic between you and your partner.
4. Kindness and Compassion
Kindness is the quiet strength that can transform any relationship. Men deeply value a woman who is compassionate not only toward them but toward others. Your ability to approach life with kindness, even when times are tough, shows your true character and earns the respect of a high-value man.
Simple acts of kindness and compassion make you stand out in a world that often values surface-level traits.
5. Shared Values and Goals
A relationship can only thrive when two people are aligned in their values and long-term goals. High-value men are drawn to women who share their vision for the future, whether that includes family, faith, career, or lifestyle. It’s about knowing where you both are headed and supporting each other’s journey.
When you understand what drives you and what you desire in a partnership, you will naturally align with someone who shares those same core beliefs.
6. Fun and Playfulness
Life can be stressful, but a woman who knows how to infuse joy and fun into everyday moments is priceless. High-value men appreciate a partner who can be playful, spontaneous, and not take life too seriously. Whether it’s surprising him with a fun date idea or simply enjoying a quiet night together, your light-hearted spirit will keep the relationship vibrant.
7. Respect and Appreciation
Respect is the foundation of any healthy relationship. Men want to feel valued and respected for the effort, time, and energy they bring into the relationship. It’s the small acts of appreciation—like recognizing his hard work or simply saying thank you, that build trust and deepen your connection.
When a man feels respected, he is more likely to reciprocate by giving you the love, care, and attention you deserve.
8. Physical Attraction with Emotional Depth
While physical attraction is a part of any romantic relationship, high-value men are looking for more than just beauty. They want a woman who also stimulates their mind and emotions. A woman who can have deep conversations, who has passion for her life’s purpose, and who connects with them on multiple levels is incredibly attractive.
If you’re ready to manifest a high-value man who sees you for your beauty, depth, and energy, it starts with aligning yourself with these traits.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Oct 19, 2024 |
Have you ever wondered why a man who once claimed to love you moved on so quickly after the relationship ended? The truth is, if he fell out of love fast, he was never really in love with you. He was in love with the benefits.
It’s a tough pill to swallow, but recognizing this truth could save you from years of heartbreak and confusion. Many women look back and say their ex loved them simply because they were together for a long time. But what if I told you that time isn’t the best measure of love? Especially when you’re the one bringing all the value to the table.
The reality is, you were together that long because you were a boss chick. Your ex didn’t have to pay for anything, and those luxury trips and fancy dinners? You footed the bill. It wasn’t love that kept him around…it was the vacation of being with a high-value woman who handled all the responsibilities.
And now? He’s suddenly providing for his new woman. He’s being the King he never was with you. Why? Because while he was with you, he saw what it looked like to be successful. He was in a relationship with his mentor – you. Now, post-breakup, he’s stepping into the role of provider, but just not with you.
You’re not alone. Your father may not have taught you what real love from a man looks like. And while you’re smart, maybe even brilliant, you’ve been unequipped to attract the kind of relationship you truly desire. That’s not your fault. But you are responsible for getting yourself out of this cycle.
Don’t fall into the trap of thinking, “He loved me because we were together for years.” Time doesn’t equal love, especially if during that time he wasn’t financially providing for you.
And here’s the kicker: many of you are repeating this pattern. You’re still providing for a man, hoping this time will be different. Your ego wants to be right, but deep down, you know the truth.
The Clarity You’ve Been Searching For
This is the moment of clarity you’ve been waiting for. The reason why many men haven’t worked out in your life is that they weren’t ready for what you brought to the table. They needed to mature and grow – many of them only bossed up after seeing how you handled your life and success.
But it’s time to take a step back and look ahead. Avoid the traps you’ve fallen into before. Stop providing for men who aren’t willing to step up and do the same for you. You deserve a relationship where you’re valued, respected, and provided for.
Remember: Men don’t fall out of love quickly if they were ever truly in love. They fall out when they were never in it to begin with.
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by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Sep 29, 2024 |
Let’s talk about something I hear all the time: “Most men cheat” or “Good men don’t exist anymore.” This is a belief I see reflected in the conversations of many Black men and women, and while it feels rooted in personal experiences, it’s also part of a much larger cultural narrative that keeps us disconnected from the love we truly deserve.
Yes, we’ve all witnessed or experienced hurt, betrayal, and disappointment. But if you hold onto the belief that love isn’t real or that most men aren’t faithful, you’re unconsciously shaping your reality to reflect that belief. The truth is, there areconscious, high-value men out there who are capable of deep love and loyalty—but they’ll never be attracted into your life while you’re living in a story that says otherwise.
Why Shifting Into the Divine Feminine is the Key to Attracting Better Men
The problem with these beliefs isn’t just that they’re limiting—it’s that they keep women stuck in a constant state of distrust, hyper-independence, and emotional walls. When you’re operating primarily from masculine energy—overworking, pushing, and trying to “protect yourself” from hurt—you attract men who mirror that energy. These men often aren’t ready for deep commitment, intimacy, or loyalty, which only reinforces the belief that love isn’t possible.
To attract the conscious, loving men you desire, it’s essential to shift into your divine feminine energy. This doesn’t mean being passive or weak. It means tapping into your true power—your ability to be soft, magnetic, receptive, and deeply aligned with your soul’s purpose. When you lead with your feminine energy, you naturally attract men who are grounded in their divine masculine, men who cherish, protect, and honor you.
Here’s Why You Need To Work With Me
If you’re tired of the same toxic relationships or being let down by men who can’t commit, it’s time for a change. You don’t have to stay stuck in the belief that love isn’t real or that good men are gone. You deserve a man who sees your worth, and the way to attract him is by stepping fully into your feminine energy.
That’s what I teach. I help successful, high-value women remove the blocks that are keeping them from the love they deserve. We’ll work together to uncover the limiting beliefs and masculine energy that have kept you disconnected from the divine love you desire. Through our sessions, you’ll align with the energy of abundance, love, and ease—drawing in the kind of relationship you know deep down you deserve.
It’s time to stop settling for less. Let me help you manifest the love that’s waiting for you.
by Kissy Denise - The Masterpiece | The Goddess of Love & Motivation | Sep 28, 2024 |
Why Your Relationships Keep Failing (And What You Can Do About It)
Unless you’re in a SOULMATE RELATIONSHIP where both partners appreciate the value of love, connection, chemistry, and the abundance that the relationship provides, it likely won’t last.
Now, you’ve spent 3 years in a 50/50 relationship and have to start all over again. Then, you go out and do it AGAIN and AGAIN, and each guy leaves you for another woman.
Think about it: you give your all for years in a relationship, only to find yourself back at square one, wondering why the cycle keeps repeating.
Women Want Love, But We Were Given the Wrong Instructions
From a young age, women are conditioned to believe that love is simple—get a boyfriend, give him everything, and live happily ever after. But that couldn’t be further from the truth.
The reality is, many women give their bodies, time, and hearts to men who aren’t ready for love. Especially young men, who are often more focused on discovering themselves and “sowing their wild oats” than building a committed, lasting relationship.
These men aren’t investing in you the way you invest in them. They’re still figuring themselves out, and you end up financially and emotionally drained while they move on to the next.
What You Really Want (And Deserve)
You want love that lasts—the kind where a man makes your life easier, provides for you, and shows up without hesitation. You don’t want to be stuck in relationships where you’re paying half the bills, giving daily sex, and calling it “monogamy.” That’s not love.
Women keep repeating the same mistake, giving everything to men who aren’t committed. They think being in a relationship means they’re winning, but true winning comes from being loved, respected, and provided for.
What High-Value Men Really Want
Quality men aren’t impressed by women who give everything for free. They want a high-value woman—someone who makes him earn access to her heart, mind, and body. A woman who knows her worth and makes him prove he’s worthy of her.
What Can You Do?
Stop settling for 50/50 relationships. Recognize your worth and demand more. The women winning in love are the ones who understand their feminine power and know how to vet men properly. They don’t give everything away to men who aren’t invested in them.
Change your mindset. Know that you deserve more—and demand it.
