Lets Talk About The Lie Called “It Takes 2 Incomes These Days”

I saw a post on Facebook today of a King stating that he took pride in being a provider for his woman.

I intentionally went looking through the comments just so that I could find the typical comment. In fact I knew I would find the typical comment. You know the one that says “That’s unrealistic. We need two incomes these days.”

Of course I found it.

I enjoyed seeing another King step in to shed light on the correct mindset.

Then I went looking for the typical comment from a female. The one that says she just has to be in a 50/50 relationship. Of course I found it.

I went to Ebony’s profile and her introduction was no surprise.

It’s the description of a stereotypical, single, black woman. You don’t actually have to be strong. You don’t have to do it by yourself. You actually get to get help.

I’m not shading her or anyone else. To each it’s own. This post is for people who really want to find their way into the light.

I also don’t want to make this a black thing, because all races have this particular issue. The issue of women not understanding divine feminine energy and men not understand divine masculine energy. And most importantly, people living in a limited mindset instead of practicing the Law of Abundance.

Many relationships are not working out these days because the people in the relationship carry an unbalanced energetic frequency. While 50/50 may have worked for Ebony’s parents that typically does not work for most relationships. Most relationships fall apart.  Here is why.

A woman is created to receive. A man is created to give. He is to protect and provide.  He is supposed to cover his woman.

In return for providing, a woman is supposed to serve her husband as a King.  Most women these days are too busy surviving to be in feminine energy.  She’s busy working just as hard as a man, therefore she really doesn’t have much respect for him.  Men want a woman to feel sexy for him and want to have sex with him all the time. But chances are, she’s too tired from work.  She works so hard that she doesn’t even understand feminine energy.  Therefore there is a decrease in feminine energy. Most men have never even met a super feminine woman. They don’t even know what to do with one.  Even more, men work so hard. He’s expected to be so tough in this world. He literally needs a feminine, nurturing woman to come home to.

Now another thing is that, I don’t write my blog for people who are okay with being average. I write for people who really want to figure this life thing out. When I write most times I’m thinking of Kings & Queens. I’m writing for the Gods & The Goddesses. I’m writing for a different realm.

In this realm we all simply want to live a happy, pleasurable, opulent, successful, healthy life, and be the best mates we can be. We’re all about excelling in every area of life.  The women work on their femininity  and healing just as much as we work on creating soul-businesses. The men work on becoming better men, making more money and balancing their feminine and masculine.  It’s a realm where people put in mass amounts of effort. They are go getters.

Meanwhile we watch the rest of the world living in chaos and dysfunction. And the minute one of us steps up to say “Hey. That’s not the way this goes. ” We get attacked. People get upset. They resent the truth. The lies feel so much better.

This bothers me. I want men to know that if you really want to provide for your woman you are capable of doing so. All you have to do is learn how to tap into abundance.  Once you do that you now have the tools to be the King you were called to be.

But instead men want to  keep listening to their 50/50 friends or listening to these angry, demotivational, basic bishes with no feminine energy. Neither will never get the life they desire. They will continue to go around unhappy, while pretending they have everything they want, and being angry cause they really don’t.   Life doesn’t work the way unspiritual people that that it does.

As a woman I can literally take care of a household of 4 men if I wanted to and keep the whole house living in luxury. I know this because I’ve done it before. If you as a man can’t ball out on your woman, you’re half stepping, half sleep,  and have no understanding of who you are.

Listening to people who agree with your non-evolving mindset will keep you stuck, or going in circles. They do not serve you.  Those beliefs are not for your highest good.

Sometimes people comment that men like me because I’m physically popping. That’s another story of jealous women thinking if they throw on a wig, some make-up and some clothes that they will get my same results. People seem to completely miss the amount of studying and brain work high performers do. They miss the spiritual work that it takes to produce a Goddess.  People miss these things because they are not on their own self-help journey. They aren’t out here waking up souls, nor are they teaching others how to manifest abundance or obtain a wealthy lifestyle.  They do not walk in their purpose like us spiritual entrepreneurs do.

People look up at successful people and rarely ever take into account the path it takes to get there. It’s our mindset and our belief system. It’s the amount of work we put into our self-development.  People make all of the excuses in the world as to why they are not successful, but I can’t hear them, because I fell flat a few times and got back up each time. I had hurdle after hurdle to jump. My whole life is a miracle, because I kept going.  Anyone can change their belief system. Anyone can live in abundance. But most simply aren’t willing to do the extensive amount of mental work it takes.  People even believe that working hard will make them rich. I laugh cause Lord knows I tried that route. I maxed out at $350K.  I make money way easier now with way less work. What I do now doesn’t even feel like work. Life coaching after you get a system going is like a fun gig you get to do every day. You get to not only change people’s lives, but you get to take part in their growth and show them a new way.

I used to be pretty religious. I talked about God a lot. I still do. But now I know more truths about God. Now I understand his promises to us more deeply. He definitely promised us riches.

People don’t realize that money is only energy.  It’s completely spiritual.

As a man, you can not seek to be a King and walk around in fear. Fear is such a waste of time. It’s not even real. It’s just societal programming that stops you from accomplishing your dreams.

I noticed a lot of boss chicks are single these days. They realize that 50/50 doesn’t work. Some even tried to provide for men and still that didn’t go right. So they chill.  Some don’t realize the problem is that they are not operating in divine feminine and some do realize it and work to raise their feminine energy.

Women want a highly successful man who spoils them. Most of the women who say they don’t honestly speak from their own belief system. Deep down they don’t believe that a man would ever provide for them. They also believe that their self-worth is attached to money and how much money they can offer a man… How much she can prove her value by going half.  Most women have no idea what a masculine man truly needs from her.  He needs a soft, sweet and sexy woman.  Even more so many women these days try to bash looking good. People bash anything that takes actual work.  They actually believe that putting in less effort as a woman makes them a better woman.  Then she wonders why she can’t get or keep a man.  Meanwhile a badd chick can get married anytime she pleases.  A boss chick 9/10 is looking for a successful, super smart man. Her brain tends to run circles around average men.

And men want to say that they love a woman but at the same time they don’t want to see her live her best life. That is not love.  When a man truly loves a woman he wants to cover her.  But most men are soooooo stuck on money, and wanting a woman with low expectations.

If you seek to be a divine King, you must stop  listening to the people who pacify you. Stop listening to people who tell you that you can’t do it. Stop listening to the people who tell you it takes two incomes. They are programming you with FEAR and DOUBT. Stop listening to anyone who doesn’t have a wealth, take care of your woman mindset. The people who know the way, also know the way to go is already written in the bible. They walk in FAITH.

The truth is you truly can do anything you set your mind to. You gotta want more for your life and go after it. There are no limits in life, except in your mind.

I see many black men concentrate on a diagram like this and fall into the belief system that dressing like a bum is going to make you rich like Bill Gates.

Meanwhile you miss the picture of the man who is dressed polished in a suit, living his best life and providing for his woman.

Rich Man couple

Success isn’t surface and neither is money. It’s spiritual. You can afford anything you want. All you have to do is figure out how to attract that amount of money to you. Then believe that you can do it.

2020 is right around the corner. Are you going to walk into a new decade with the same old belief system?  Remember the only thing that’s constant is CHANGE. And “THINKING is the hardest work there is, that’s why so few engage in it. ~ Henry Ford

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How being in an abusive relationship taught me self-worth & launched me into a 6 Figure Empire

How being in an abusive relationship taught me self-worth & launched me into a 6 Figure Empire

I never go into great detail about my abusive relationship, cause the truth is I really don’t give af.  I take full accountability for being foolish enough to fall in love with him, to stay with him, and even to believe in him. That relationship was ultimately one of the dumbest decisions of my life. Although at the time my life was falling apart and he just so happened to pop up showing me the appearance of love. 

This dude would hit me and tell me that he didn’t lose any sleep at night afterwards.  Later he would demand sex.. It was weird watching his antics. 

His thing was that he was popular and people would worship the ground he walked up. But he’d walk around with me and people would ask for my autograph. He didn’t much like that. 

But that man taught me some things.  He taught me that time is money and he also taught me that it doesn’t matter how smart you are, if you don’t apply it. 

People say knowledge is power, but it’s only power if you apply it.  Men these days call me a genius. WHY? Because of the way I apply my learned knowledge into helping them improve their life. Because of the way I move and shake on social media.  Because of the way I think and the way I speak. 

But back to Mr. Abusive. He used to call me dumb. I knew nothing was dumb about me, except my decision to be with him.  I no longer wanted to be dumb so I prayed that the love would fade, and as soon as it let up a little I found the strength to pack up, throw my stuff in storage and go about my business.  I dropped his Range Rover off in the valet of a casino and disappeared. I would go homeless after that. But I was pissed at him like hot water cornbread.  One time he called me and told me that the dash of his drop top went up into flames while he was on the freeway. He told me he knew I caused it cause he’d seen me speak things into existence before. 

He was right. At the time I wished he was no longer here. But eventually I got over my pain. They say success is the best revenge and I took that to heart. So I decided that I would become super successful and buy myself another Range Rover. I’d purchased his, but he had the credit at the time. 

Because I knew how to live my best life, I knew I could show others the way. So I put up a blog and proceeded to inspire people. Later it became a crime and gossip blog that I used to uplift, inspire and enlighten people on the low.  Sometimes when my blog wasn’t making money in the beginning, I would think of all the pain I’d been through and I decided there was no turning back and that I would create a 6 Figure business the same way I had upleveled his business and brought it up to the 6 figure mark. 

This man had two college degrees and here I was with a high school diploma, ten times smarter than him. But here is the catch. I used to watch him manifest. I would see him draw something in a notebook and months later we would be going to get that same item. Whether it was expensive jewelry or an expensive car. I also used to watch him read self-help books.  But he would NEVER offer the books to me. At the time as smart as I was I didn’t know such books existed. His favorite was The 48 Laws of Power.

7 figure social media brand 

Before that I used to soak up hood books. The stories fascinated me. My favorite was “The Coldest Winter Ever.” But one day I was in Kinkos with him, and I picked up a book. I don’t know what book it was but I read a line “The only difference between where you are right now and where you’ll be this same time next year are the books you read and the people you meet.”  That line changed my life. I began to massively read self-help books. I even started to change my associations and connect with more valuable people. I created a multi-6-Figure empire. My belief in myself was cemented forever. 

Then one day years later I look up and I AM now a life coach, helping others align their purpose and turn it into a 6 figure brand.  Then I moved away from that to confidence healing and teaching others how to maintain and attract abundant relationships. 

While I broke up with all of my exes, I loved those men dearly and new how to maintain a loving relationship. I just picked the wrong ones to do it with. 

But the way that man abused me and failed to appreciate me gave me great sympathy for women.  I wanted to uplift and empower women. 

The other day I received a review from one of my amazing, empowered millionaire clients and I just felt calm, like I was finally truly living in my purpose and walking in God’s plan for my life. 

kissy denise relationship review

I have to thank the abusive guy for this because he was the start of making me value myself. Because I learned to value myself it’s easy for me to teach other women how to value themselves.  Because I had to pick myself up off the ground after that relationship, you can’t tell me nothing. Sometimes people think they are talking bad about you or trying to pull me down and in my head I’m like “A man used to beat my azz, and still he couldn’t kill my self-esteem or confidence. I still went after my purpose. So what makes you think I’m going to care about what you have to say?” A hater to me is like an ant talking to a giant. I’m full Goddess around this piece. 

Ladies you can never let a man take your pride or joy. Dust yourself off and get up and try again. Except this time you level up. New values, new boundaries, new understanding.  And most of all you get with a man who has plans to prosper you. 

Most importantly, maybe your life isn’t perfect. Maybe you feel like you have nothing left. But guess what? God can still use you. 

Written with Love,

Kissy 

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You’ll never get what you want, by pretending you don’t want it

You’ll never get what you want, by pretending you don’t want it

You’ll never get what you want, by pretending you don’t want it.  ~ Kissy Denise 

Whatever you ignore, essentially is what you repel. It’s what you will keep away from you.

SUCCESS requires that you admit what you want from life. SUCCESS requires that you be honest with yourself. 

Pretending to not want something that you really want makes you feel better. It’s a way to please your ego. It makes you feel better about not getting it. So you stop working towards it. You release it from your subconscious, but not really, instead you grow resentment for it.

What am I talking about?

The two most popular things people pretend they don’t want.

  1. Love
  2. Money

Let’s start with love. Have you ever noticed that everyone who says love isn’t important to them is either single, or running through multiple relationships that they just can’t seem to get right?

Or they are in a loveless relationship, because they don’t believe in real love, because they’ve never felt it.

The crazy thing about love is once you’ve felt it, deeply in your soul, you can never escape it. You want more. Even if you sit idle on the sidelines by yourself, enjoying yourself, your subconscious craves the connection that love can give you. So you venture back out into the world, dust yourself off and try again. You hope this time you’ll get it right. Eventually you will… You will always find what you seek.

Let’s talk about MONEY…

Money… That word is taboo for many. It’s not talked about, because many don’t believe they have access to it. The rich is often kind enough to not want the poor to feel bad about not having it, so old money has a rule to never discuss money. It’s tacky to discuss, yet they don’t lack it…

Other people who wanted lots of it have it, and flaunt it every chance they get. #NewMoney

People who desire to be rich, are rich. Nobody gets rich on accident. (Don’t quote me on that. I’m sure somewhere in history, there is a Deyfus who somehow tripped into a pile of money and blew through it.) Even the individual who holds a poverty mindset, yet wins the lottery through their pings of desire for riches being sent out into the universe, along with taking aligned action, who actually wins,  only to later go broke; still told the Universe what it is they wanted…

Those with a poverty mindset are often heard sayin things like “Money isn’t everything.” or their other favorite line is “My kids don’t want for anything.” As if their kids wouldn’t love to live in a decent neighborhood, and walk home from school without the fear of being shot. Or the luxury to be able to enlighten their children by taking them on trips all around the world. Or maybe even to pay for the future college education those kids may eventually seek…. Short-sighted thinking…

Poverty minds raise poverty kids and pass the mindset down from generation to generation.  The mindset sets in a generational curse, due to inherited limited beliefs.  People with poverty minds often resent the wealthy and those doing well.  They believe the wealthy snatch up all the money and leave none for them.

Some even resent money in the name of religion. They believe money is an evil thing because Jesus said it’s easier for a camel to get through the eye of a needle, than it is for a rich man to pass into Heaven.

But what he was talking about is an evil person who practices ruthless ethics for the sake of acquiring money.  Or someone so focused on money they can see nothing else. In order to get into Heaven, one must have their spirit right. Get your spirit right, and you’ll experience Heaven right here on earth.

Once you enter the gates of Heaven, money is unlimited. It’s unlimited because it’s spiritual. It’s simply a construct. Those in heaven get whatever they ask for. Why not ask for a prosperous business????

I WANT IT ALL!

How many people want both love and money, but you’ve been told that you can’t have it all? Yet you look around and see, many people do seem to have it all. But then you hear the naysayers scream “It’s a hologram. You don’t know what those people’s lives is like. They are unhappy.”

And the naysayers may have a point. But is money making them unhappy.  Is lack of love making them unhappy? What is truly making people unhappy when they seem to have it all? It’s not what you think it is.

Some of you know like you know. You know you came here to get everything you came here for. You have no intentions of just settling for one thing like the others.  You have no intentions of stopping at making $100,000 a year. Even $200,000 isn’t enough. Half a million is like “Okay. That’s cool.” Your plans are way bigger!  You believe in yourself on a grand scale. You’ve already admitted to the Universe what it is that you seek. You have faith that God didn’t implant those desires in your heart to not hand you what you want. You know, you’re going to get it.    The Universe is aligning you with people like me…

Right now, you’re pushing, hitting an income ceiling and can’t get through.  You see the brick wall, you want to kick it down. You see yourself kicking it down. But that’s the wrong method. You gotta walk through it and over it.  I know you’re happy, abundant and quite successful. You’ve experienced great success. Especially if you compare yourself to others.

Yet you know you’re being called to do more. No amount of settling you try to do, will ever please that soul of yours. Before you arrived here on earth you signed a contract for greatness. You’re awakening. Remembering, what you came here for.  It’s why you are living a boss life, yet feel like something is missing….  Purpose. You came here to have it all. That’s the plan! World domination. You may as well stop pretending you don’t want it.  You can’t trick yourself out of this. Trust me I tried. It sent me into darkness. I had to rise and admit my truth. Walk straight into the fire… And don’t think you have all day. You don’t. I was taking my lolly good time, not showing up to write these blogs for you, and God said okay, let me send this woman a message and let her know her undisputed purpose.  I stopped standing in my own way and walked into my mission. The mission to empower you.

It’s time. To reset your mind, to go after your dreams and goals. Dream Life is here now.  It’s within your grasp… If you decide, to reach for it. That you’re going to do the work. That you’re going to show up. That you’re going to make it happen, NO MATTER WHAT!

Past success is cool. But there are new rules.

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You have not because you ask not. ~ James 4:2-3